Page Turner's Blog, page 38

The Risk of Rejection Doesn’t Stop Once You Start Dating Someone

One of my big motivations for settling down once upon a time was that I really didn’t do well with rejection.

A lot of people don’t. But I was very sensitive to it. No matter how many other things went well for me, I really had a hard time with the times I was rejected.  » Read more

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Friends with Benefits Who Hope for Friendship Are Most Likely To Get Their Desired Outcome

As I covered in an earlier installment of Psyched, a lot of friends with benefits (FWB) are hoping for the arrangement to become romantic. Frankly, more than I would have expected before I found that study. (Its findings were truly surprising to me.)

But that earlier study was a survey,  » Read more

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Huh. Apparently Virtual Reality Can Help Folks Get Over Their Fear of Public Speaking.

Long ago and far away, I managed the training department of a psychological consulting firm. This pretty much meant I was always doing something related to training. Sometimes this meant looking over educators’ training programs and helping them optimize the material for the crowd they were trying to reach. Other times it meant designing custom courses for client companies for workplace wellness and/or conflict resolution.  » Read more

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We All Have Different Ways of Surviving the Nightmares the Pandemic Brings

We’ve both been having weird dreams while staying at home, riding out the pandemic.

In yours, you’re usually somewhere, and no one is wearing masks. Everyone’s packed in. You’re so frustrated with them and worried.

Sometimes your dreams get a little more metaphorical but no less stressful. I think you said something about one with a vampire gangster syndicate.  » Read more

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I’m Glad I Didn’t Know This Pain Was Coming

You know, I never would have asked for you to hurt me this way. And if I’d had any choice in the matter, it would have been no choice at all.

If I knew how much you were going to hurt me one day, I would have spent more time creating distance between us.  » Read more

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Is It Really the Thought That Counts? Or Is It the Follow-Through?

I dated this guy once who had the weirdest habit: He’d spontaneously talk about presents he was going to get me. Aloud. In front of me.

And then time would pass, and he never would give anything to me. Not what he said, not something else.

It would happen over and over again.  » Read more

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“Can People Have Good Friendships With Exes? Am I Just Tormenting Myself By Trying?”

Hi Page,

My wife and I have been together for many years. We opened our relationship years ago, but until recently it had been primarily physical (friends with benefits, etc.). About a year ago, I began to see my girlfriend, the first connection in our open relationship that was not only a good physical one but turned emotional and serious in a way that neither of our prior open relationship experiences had.  » Read more

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If You’re Going to Take a Risk, Be as Safe As You Can & Learn from Other People’s Mistakes

The other evening, we decided to use our fireplace for the first time. We’ve lived in this place for 16 months now, but between the weather being a lot warmer down here than we’re used to (we moved from Ohio to Texas) and having a lot of other things to do, we never really got around to it.  » Read more

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If You Want to Be Happy, Treat Your Weekends Like a Vacation

Sigh. I’ve said this many times during the course of the Psyched series, but the important thing about science is that it doesn’t always tell you what you want to hear. Sometimes, yes, it confirms the obvious — or the things you want to be true. But other times, it smacks you in the face with something you really don’t want to hear.  » Read more

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Dogmatic People Are Less Likely to Seek Out New Info When Things Are Unclear

dogmatism (noun) – the tendency to lay down principles are incontrovertibly true, without consideration of evidence or the opinions of others

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I know some very strong-willed people that I adore. Folks that others might call stubborn because they perceive them to not back down easily when in conflict with someone else.  » Read more

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