Page Turner's Blog, page 42

I Always Knew You Were Worth It, That WE Were Worth It

It’s hard to explain to people who aren’t in our relationship why it was worth working through the hard times. Why I never, not once, seriously entertained ending our relationship. Even though it wasn’t always easy.

Because it wasn’t. We had a rough spot. One that lasted a lot longer than I was used to rough spots lasting.  » Read more

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I Comfort Myself by Rereading Old Books; You Declutter and Organize.

I am lying in bed trying to ignore the heaviness in my stomach. From stress. So much stress.

I’m rereading a book from The Baby-Sitters Club series. I had no idea growing up that there were 131 of them. I had a semi-random assortment of them, picked up at yard sales.  » Read more

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How to Set Boundaries Without Hurting People

Have you written anything about how to set boundaries without hurting people? I struggle with worrying that I’m going to hurt people when I set boundaries, so I keep it to myself until it starts to hurt *me.*

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I want to start off this article by being very clear about one thing: No matter what you do,  » Read more

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Higher Emoji Use Linked to More First Dates and More Romantic and Sexual Activity

I don’t do much online dating. This is because I don’t enjoy the process. I tend to like to get to know people in person, establish friendships, and possibly date down the road once I’ve had time and opportunity to see how they treat people in general, not just when they’re dating others. (I’m glad I haven’t had the desire to date during COVID-19 because my normal way of doing things is impossibly dangerous at the moment.)

But I have done a little online dating,  » Read more

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How to Get Trick-or-Treaters to Cheat the System

Hello folks! Welcome to a very spooooooky Halloween edition of Psyched for the Weekend.

Well, kinda. Today I’m covering a classic Halloween-themed psychological research study. Yes, really. It’s called “Effects of deindividuation variables on stealing among Halloween trick-or-treaters.”

Mwahahahaha…

You’re not scared? Well, whatever. I’m covering it.  » Read more

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Don’t Apologize for Not Being Perfect. I’m Not Interested in Perfect.

You don’t need to apologize for being imperfect. I’m not interested in perfect.

It doesn’t exist anyway. Not really. There are no perfect people; only perfect edits.

The best you can ever do is perfect for you. And I really believe you are.

When we first got together, you told me,  » Read more

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I Thought “Be Friends First” Was Silly Relationship Advice… Until It Accidentally Happened to Me

I used to be a person who scoffed at the advice that it was better to be friends first with those you’d date. It seemed rather untenable. Why wouldn’t you start dating someone right away if you felt a strong spark? Why wait?

And wouldn’t it be kind of weird to date your friends after knowing them for a while?  » Read more

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The Hardest Part About the Last Four Years

I live in the United States. Four years ago, I lived in Cleveland, Ohio. Now I live in Dallas, Texas. These are both big cities in the overall scheme of things (and especially compared to where I grew up in the Maine woods), although Dallas-Fort Worth is quite a bit larger than Cleveland.

Moving to Texas was a trip.  » Read more

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“What Happened With Ro?”

It may be that you aren’t ready to write about this yet, but I’m waiting for you to tell us what happened with Ro. I hope you’re ready one day. In the meantime, hugs for the hard days, and thank you for writing x

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You know… it’s funny sometimes.  » Read more

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In Tough Times It’s Important to Seek Out Whatever Sources of Comfort You Can

I wake up from a nightmare, as I normally do, freezing and with a full bladder. It’s dark outside. There’s a storm underway. Thunder booms. Lightning crashes while I use the bathroom.

I wrap myself in more blankets as I go back to bed, trying to get warm. As dark as it is,  » Read more

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