Page Turner's Blog, page 34

I Want to Change, But It’s So Hard to Let Go of Bad Habits That Are Keeping Things Patched

These last several months have been a time of deep reflection. Some of it I suspect is due to lacking the normal distractions, since I’ve spent nearly the past year inside, riding out the COVID-19 pandemic.

It’s harder to hide from truths. Even really painful ones.

I’ve managed to identify a number of personal habits I want to work on.  » Read more

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Sometimes You Rip Up the Leaves of the Weed & the Root Is Still Under the Surface

Look, I owe you an apology. I do. Infinite ones probably. But I am finite. And so are you. So you’ll never get infinite apologies.

What I want to say is this: I know it’s been hard listening to me beat up on myself all of these years. And I don’t think until recently that I validated you properly this way.  » Read more

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It’s Not Good Enough to Stop Self-Sabotaging. You Need to Start to Self-Aiding.

As I’m writing this, I haven’t seen another person, aside from the one I live with, in person socially for almost a year. Staying at home to ride out coronavirus has been like some kind of weird experiment on many levels. I’ve discovered a lot of things about myself. As I mentioned in a post 2 months ago,  » Read more

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How I Got My Start as an Advice Columnist

I’ll have readers write in quite often asking me how I got my start as a writer. The boring truth is that I’ve been writing with a fury since I was eight years old. The story as to why that happened is actually quite short: Mrs. Bagley, my teacher at the time, thought the fantasy stories I was writing were marvelous and took a special interest in me.  » Read more

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I Think About A Lot When We’ve Fought — But Haven’t Made Up Yet.

I think about a lot when we’ve fought — but haven’t made up yet.

And we’re both doing other things, busy, not really talking about it yet. Because you need your time, and the last thing I want to do is overwhelm you or make it even worse.

And you seem fine,  » Read more

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What Is Proto-Abuse?

Hi Page,

Just read one of your Twitter posts where you reference proto-abuse. It’s ringing some kind of flag or bell or what have you with respect to one of my current relationships, where I’m experiencing a lot of conflict right now. Could you expound on that concept?  » Read more

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Do What You Love for a Living & You’ll Like It Less. Unless…

“Do what you love for a living, and you’ll never work a day in your life,” they say.

It’s snappy. Inspirational. And that’s a big reason I imagine that the saying is so popular.

But when it comes to the actual science behind motivation, it turns out it’s not true at all.  » Read more

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Science Says It’s Extremely Stressful Being Permanently Online

Even before the pandemic drove so many inside, I can tell you that an awful lot of people are pretty much always online.

And it’s not just people who want to be online. These days I do most of my work online (as someone who writes for a living), which means spending a lot of time online,  » Read more

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It’s Important to Know When To Change Your Walk & When to Change the Path

“I wonder sometimes if seeing behind the curtain makes you respect me or my writing less,” I say to a friend. “You get to see what it actually looks like in practice. You get to see how I apply — or don’t — what I put out there into the wider world. How it sometimes matches exactly and other times might have to look a little different.  » Read more

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Trying to Do Maintenance in a Culture that Encourages Treating Everything as Disposable

“When you get a chance, could you add another bottle of this to your next order?” you ask me.

It’s a bottle of white vinegar. You have the humidifier apart. It’s hanging out in the kitchen sink.

“What are you doing?” I ask.

“I’m cleaning the humidifier,” you reply.  » Read more

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