Page Turner's Blog, page 30

What You Get at the End of the Journey to Realness

The best people -- the most real people, if you will -- are often the ones who believe other people when they point out their flaws.

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Find Self-Affirmations Cheesy? Try Self-Affirming Acts

Maybe one day words of self-affirmation won't feel so weird to me. But until then, I have self-affirming acts as something I can do, a way that I can show myself self-compassion using something other than words.

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You Fixed Me By Helping Me Learn to Fix Things

It blows me away sometimes -- how much you fixed me by helping me learn to fix things myself. By teaching me I'm much more capable than I thought.

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I Hate How People Assume “If Adding More People, Relationship Is Broken”

There's a saying in polyamorous circles that has been around for a very long time -- longer than I've been in them, that's for sure. It's "relationship broken, add more people." It's a recipe for disaster, something that's said with a laugh about a certain kind of couple that might find themselves either exploring polyamory or opening up some other way.

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Vulnerability — or Too Much, Too Much! On My Terms

I've been there so many times. Excited to be in a situation. Figuratively swept off my feet by a new person or opportunity -- beset by New Relationship Energy. And then there's a moment of terror when I realize that I've left the ground.

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I Can’t Believe You Made Me Trust Again

I should have been jaded. Should have lost all hope. And I think I would have... if you hadn't shown up when you did, giving me more reason to trust than I ever had before.

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On Having to Repeat Yourself When Your Partner Feels Loved Via Words of Affirmation

It can be more jarring sometimes to have to repeatedly say kind things. I get that. Especially if you're someone who hates to repeat yourself. But Words of Affirmation isn't unique in this respect. It's just like the other Love Languages in that it isn't one and done.

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You Say You’re Broken… Like an Overpowered Game Mechanic, Maybe.

If you're broken, it's the other kind. You're like an overpowered game mechanic -- the kind that the player discovers and it instantly renders them incredibly powerful and the game ridiculously easy. "That's so broken," gamers say when they discover something like that.

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Cool Things Happen When You Stop Running From Who You Are

It's a terrifying notion when you're scared of yourself (a feeling I understand very well), but magical things can happen when you stop running from who you are and just let it catch you. 

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Sometimes People Just Need to Hurt

One day it became crystal clear: You can't make anyone feel anything. Feeling is this complex process that also involves the person having the emotions to varying degrees. 

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