Page Turner's Blog, page 35

Cupiosexual: When You’re Asexual, But You Still Want a Sexual Relationship

Hello Page,

I’ve been really enjoying your series of posts on underrepresented identities (asexual, aromantic, demisexual, semi-demi, etc.). It’s been really interesting and eye opening for me. 

There was one line that really threw me for a loop though in your piece about aromantic polyamorous people: “Finally,  » Read more

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“How Does One Become Part of the Polyamorous Community?”

Hi Page,

I love your blog. You have a really fascinating way of framing topics that never would have occurred to me to even think about. I’m not polyamorous myself. I would say I’m more curious at the moment. This is a relatively new development. Even just a few years ago I would have sworn that I would never be interested in non-monogamy.   » Read more

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When Someone Blows Your Entire “Conflict Budget”

In today’s essay I’m going to talk about something that will make a lot of sense to recovering people pleasers. It will likely make very little sense to people who don’t have those issues. But perhaps it will still be of utility to those who don’t struggle with people pleasing — but have loved people who do and will get some insight into what goes on in the minds of people they love.  » Read more

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Breakup Sex Seems to Be a Better Experience for Men Than Women

You know… I’ve done it. I’ve had breakup sex.

It was just the one time, actually. I was lonely — went to hang out with this ex. I didn’t even go there hoping to hook up. It was a rough period of my life where I just really didn’t have much of a support system.  » Read more

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Research Finds That Fear of Being Alone Seems to Be a Dating Turnoff But Not Necessarily a Dealbreaker

He’s complaining about his love life. I mean, I don’t blame him. It’s been a long dry spell, so I see what he means.

But I can see he does have a few folks interested in him — and I’m starting to feel like he might just be stuck in one of those vicious cycles.  » Read more

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What Is Rubber Ducking & Why Is It Helpful?

Rubber duckie, you’re the one

You make bath time lots of fun

Rubber duckie, I’m awfully fond of you

-“Rubber Duckie” by Jeff Moss (performed by Ernie on Sesame Street)

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Ah, rubber ducking, you wonder of wonders. It’s such a great tool —  » Read more

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Why I’m Glad We Didn’t Have the Same Love Languages

I have always cared a lot about other people. I wasn’t a person who was afraid to pay compliments to other people or tell my friends (and later crushes) how I felt about them. Instead, I was brave. I put myself out there. Openly admired others.

For a long time, this wasn’t reciprocated —  » Read more

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When They Tell You to Be the Change You Want to See, They Leave Out All the Awkward Parts

“Be the change you want to see in the world,” they tell you — and attribute the quote to Gandhi. Did Gandhi actually say that? The quick answer is no, other people did later, but he said some similar things. (Incidentally, Quote Investigator is such a great resource for researching those inspirational meme quote attributions.  » Read more

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If You Give a Gift to Get a Certain Reaction, the Gift Is Actually for YOU

“Hey Page,” he says, “can you take a look at something for me?”

“Sure,” I reply.

And then 8 screenshots shoot into our chat lightning quick.

“What do you think?” he says.

“Reading, sec,” I reply.

“Okay,” he says. “Take your time.”

It takes me a second to orient to the chat bubbles because it’s not a program I use.  » Read more

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Most of the Polyamorous People I Know Are Some Degree of Demisexual

I recently reposted an article I wrote a while back about asexual polyamorous people. This led to a good reader question about whether it was possible to be aromantic and polyamorous (the short answer is yes).

I heard from a number of demisexual readers after that piece came out who said,  » Read more

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