Page Turner's Blog, page 134

Ask Page: How Do I Help My New Dominant Feel Special?

My husband and I are polyamorous. With my husband, Brett† , I co-parent, co-habitate, share finances, own businesses together. With one of my boyfriends, Dale† , I have a newish D/s dynamic that mimics some aspects of a Daddy Dom/little girl relationship.

Because the power exchange dynamic with Dale and I evolved from just bedroom play to something more serious,  » Read more

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PQ 18.6 — Are there limits on the concessions I will make, either in terms of what I will agree to or the time span of the agreement?

PQ 18.6 — Are there limits on the concessions I will make, either in terms of what I will agree to or the time span of the agreement?

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It’s not at all uncommon when someone is new to polyamory for them to want additional considerations in place, measures that, in effect,  » Read more

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PQ 18.5 — Am I prepared to make concessions in my relationship to help the monogamous person work through his feelings?

PQ 18.5 — Am I prepared to make concessions in my relationship to help the monogamous person work through his feelings?

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Chapter 18 of More Than Two focuses on mono/poly relationship, ones that are between a monogamous person and a polyamorous one. As I mentioned in an earlier essay in this series,  » Read more

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Psychology Isn’t Just for Understanding Illness

It’s curious. Many times when I disclose to someone that my background is in psychology, they immediately get defensive.

I can visibly see the difference in someone’s posture. They become guarded, worried that I’m going to analyze them.

That, in essence, I’m scanning them for defects. A bit like one of those space-age devices designed to examine the newly introduced alien artifact for signs of potential disease.  » Read more

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I’m Suddenly Bothered By New Things After Quality Time with My Partner Got Cut Back. Any Thoughts?

Hi Page, 

I am currently in a 2-year relationship with a polyamorous, married man. His family (my metamour and their daughter) know me pretty well at this point. For a very long time in the beginning, jealousy wasn’t much of an issue at all, in fact I found some natural (and surprising) good feelings that I didn’t expect about feeling very positively about their success as a family and as a couple.  » Read more

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4 Things I’ve Found to Be True While Dating Polyamorously Regardless of Current Role

Whenever possible, I try to offer advice that applies to all sorts of relationships, whether that’s polyamorous, monogamous, or somewhere in between. And when I’m advising polyamorous folks in particular, I do my best to offer advice that will apply to people in a range of different relationship configurations.  Not just help for secondaries,  » Read more

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Why I Publish a New Post Every Day

When I was brand new to polyamory, I read everything I could possibly get my hands on. I gobbled up every guidebook I could find on the subject. And when I was done reading those, I hit the Internet.

There wasn’t nearly as much out there in those days as there is now,  » Read more

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It’s More Important to Follow Through on Your Commitments When You Don’t Have Exclusivity to Fall Back On

“My head’s a little messed up,” she says.

“What’s going on?” I ask.

She tells me a pretty woeful tale. Without getting into too many details, her partner has violated their relationship agreement. And badly.

“I imagine that had to be a tough conversation,” I say.

“It was,”  » Read more

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PQ 18.4 — Am I prepared to give my monogamous partner time and space to process his feelings about my polyamory?

PQ 18.4 — Am I prepared to give my monogamous partner time and space to process his feelings about my polyamory?

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It’s been a long time since I tried to date anyone who identified as monogamous. Really not since I was first polyamorous. And the reason for that back then was that I didn’t know that many other polyamorous people.  » Read more

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PQ 18.3 — Am I prepared to face uncomfortable feelings such as jealousy, insecurity and fear about my partner’s loyalty and to put in the work required to overcome them?

PQ 18.3 — Am I prepared to face uncomfortable feelings such as jealousy, insecurity and fear about my partner’s loyalty and to put in the work required to overcome them?

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“And what do you think makes someone a bad fit for polyamory?” she asks me.

The question catches me off guard.  » Read more

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