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PQ 19.4 — How do I feel about having unbarriered sex with someone who is having unbarriered sex with someone else?

PQ 19.4 — How do I feel about having unbarriered sex with someone who is having unbarriered sex with someone else?

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Wow, Chapter 19 is a very nosy chapter. But that’s okay. I’m the one who decided to answer all of these questions in public with essays. One hundred percent me.  » Read more

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PQ 19.3 — Does unbarriered sex carry emotional significance to me?

PQ 19.3 — Does unbarriered sex carry emotional significance to me?

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One afternoon as I was poring over posts in one of the many polyamorous groups that I lurk in, I discovered that there was a new in-group war over the term “fluid bonding.”

For those who haven’t heard it before,  » Read more

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Polymathy Confuses People Just As Much As, If Not More Than, Polyamory

I’ve Been Poly My Whole Life — Polymathic

I’m different than a lot of other polyamorous educators because I haven’t been polyamorous my whole life. In fact, polyamory wasn’t even something I seriously considered until I was in my late 20s. Before then, I hadn’t even heard of the word. And I couldn’t fathom how non-monogamous relationships could be conducted in a way that was respectful and mutually beneficial for everyone involved.  » Read more

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I Will Destroy You in the Most Beautiful Way Possible

I will destroy you in the most beautiful way possible. And when I leave, you will finally understand why storms are named after people.

–Caitlyn Siehl

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“I keep warning you I’m a heartbreaker,” I warn him, toying with the plastic straw in my cup.  » Read more

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I Realize I’m Loved at the Strangest Times, from the Smallest Things

It’s Saturday. We’re both working in the living room on our laptops.

Delighted as always to be workaholics.

His Spotify mix is playing in the background, a kind of active white noise to smooth out the normal ambient noises. The peaks and silences of the house. Our neighbors. The street.

I’m not even registering the music,  » Read more

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The Delicate Art of Dating Someone New While Still Grieving From a Breakup

Hi Page! Your writing has been such a source of community and inspiration for me, especially as someone fairly new to polyamory. I’m wondering: what is your experience with healing from a breakup while still in other romantic relationships? My long-term partner and I recently broke up. I started seeing someone else pretty shortly afterwards.  » Read more

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Lap-Sitting Polyamory & The Love Borg: “We Are Metamours. Resistance Is Futile.”

Hi Page, 

I recently went through a breakup and a confusing one at that. I’m usually pretty good at sensing when there’s trouble in paradise, but this threw me for a loop. The breakup came out of nowhere. It seemed like everything was going so well! 

I had originally met this ex through a mutual friend who set us up,  » Read more

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PQ 19.2 — Is sex a mandatory part of an intimate relationship for me? Would I consider a relationship with someone uninterested in sex or stay in a relationship with someone who loses interest in sex with me?

PQ 19.2 — Is sex a mandatory part of an intimate relationship for me? Would I consider a relationship with someone uninterested in sex or stay in a relationship with someone who loses interest in sex with me?

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No, sex isn’t a mandatory part of an intimate relationship with me.  » Read more

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PQ 19.1 — How do I define “sex”? What activities are sex? What aren’t?

PQ 19.1 — How do I define “sex”? What activities are sex? What aren’t?

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Yes, this question! Everyone, take a look at this question. You would think it’s straightforward, no? And that people would agree on the answer.

But no, they do not.

Famously,  » Read more

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Sometimes, the Secret Really Is Just Showing Up

I’m Old Friends with Doubt

Like a lot of things in my life, this post almost didn’t happen.

I had a million reasons why I couldn’t write it. A lot of them are quite familiar by now: I’m a hack. No one cares what I have to say. And I can’t really write anyway.  » Read more

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