Page Turner's Blog, page 136

5 Reasons Why I Used to Hate My Partner’s Exes & Why I (Mostly) Don’t Anymore

It doesn’t feel great to admit, but I used to bitterly dislike anyone my current partner had dated in the past. This boiled down to five reasons. The first four of these were fairly conscious reasons, ones I was aware of. The fifth one, not so much. Here they are:  » Read more

1. They hurt my partner.

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How My Power Exchange (D/s) Relationship Gave Me Courage

I’ll never forget my first public scene with Justin. It was on a busy night at the dungeon. A play party.

“What would you like to do?” he asked me.

I clammed up. “I don’t know,” I said.

“Page,” he said in that voice. His Dom voice,  » Read more

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PQ 17.6 — Where does my sense of security come from in my relationships? What am I willing to do to help my partners feel secure, and will those things come at a cost to any new relationships I may start?

PQ 17.6 — Where does my sense of security come from in my relationships? What am I willing to do to help my partners feel secure, and will those things come at a cost to any new relationships I may start?

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“Remind me again: How many plans do you have in case I kick you out?”  » Read more

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PQ 17.5 — As I seek new relationships, what guarantees can I offer my new partners that I will make space for them, listen to their needs, and be able to change to accommodate these new relationships?

PQ 17.5 — As I seek new relationships, what guarantees can I offer my new partners that I will make space for them, listen to their needs, and be able to change to accommodate these new relationships?

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Once upon a time, I was terrified of change. I’d been through enough of it in my life,  » Read more

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No Big Lesson Today. Instead, Here, Have a Little Slice of Polyamorous Life

Hi Page, 

I’ve been curious about polyamory for some time. I do have some poly friends who seem happy, and I love the idea of it. I asked them if there were places online where I could read more. They referred me to your site  as well as to some forums.   » Read more

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When It Comes to the Olympics of Love, I May Have Switched Sports

Ro and I are having dinner. Talking about on-again, off-again relationships. Ones where the general shape of them look like a heartbeat on an EKG. A quick spasm of highs and lows, highs and lows.

“That’s not how mine look at all,” Ro says. She explains that hers are more of a line that goes up gradually but pretty much consistently.  » Read more

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Polyamory Isn’t a Fear of Commitment. It’s a Love of Commitment.

“You’re polyamorous?” she says.

“Yes,” I say. “Does that surprise you?”

“Sorta,” she says. “It’s just… I never thought of you as someone with a fear of commitment.”

I laugh.

“What?” she asks me.

“I mean this with all the love in the world,” I say,  » Read more

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Parallel Polyamory, Kitchen Table Polyamory, and Knowing the Details or Not

Hi Page, 

Is it common to not want to know anything at all about your partner’s partners? My sweetie often wants to know the details of my other relationships. This is fine, and I don’t mind, but I really don’t want to know about theirs. 

Kitchen Table Versus Parallel Polyamory

How much contact you want with your metamours (a word that polyamorous people often use to describe their partner’s other partners) is something that polyamorous people do vary on.  » Read more

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How I Approach Polyamory While in a Power Exchange (D/s) Relationship

I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now, I find it super helpful. I have a question…you and Justin have a power exchange relationship, right? How does the fact that he owns you affect your other relationships? I’m in a similar situation and am curious how others handle it.

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This is a great question!  » Read more

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PQ 17.4 — How much space do I have to devote to new relationships right now?

PQ 17.4 — How much space do I have to devote to new relationships right now?

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Reasonably? Hmm… As of this writing, I’m fresh off a breakup. With that relationship in the picture, I was polysaturated but not feeling overloaded or strained. So now that it’s over,  » Read more

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