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Polyamory Toolbox: 3 Strategies for When Your Nesting Partner Has a Date & You Don’t

It can be a tricky rite of passage in polyamory: Being alone for the evening for the first time while your nesting partner has a date with someone else.

I’ll be the first to admit that it was brutally difficult for me at first when I experienced this rite of passage many years ago,  » Read more

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In Polyamory, Comfort Is a Huge Time-Saver

One of the questions I’m most often asked by monogamous or polycurious people is “How do you have time for it all?”

Typically, my reflex is to dive into some time management principles. Talk about different frameworks that can help you to prioritize (for example, Eisenhower/Covey’s time management matrix). Perhaps I’ll discuss the 80/20 Pareto principle,  » Read more

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Polyamory Toolbox: “What Am I Not Seeing?”

“If you look at someone who does not handle life well, it is often because he always thinks, feels, or acts in only one way and would never consider the opposite.”

-Al Siebert, The Survivor Personality

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In previous installments of Polyamory Toolbox, we covered:

Good Roommate Standard.

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What Do Polyamorous Women Find Attractive?

Hi Page,

I have been reading your blog for a while now. As a polycurious man, I love it. While I’m still yet to have a polyamorous relationship, I love getting a peek behind the scenes for when I (hopefully) one day will.

I’ve read many times that it can be more difficult for polyamorous men than women to find partners when a relationship opens up.  » Read more

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PQ 18.8 — Can I build a relationship that respects the agency not only of each of us, but of others who are involved as well?

PQ 18.8 — Can I build a relationship that respects the agency not only of each of us, but of others who are involved as well?

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“You know, it’s funny,” I say to Justin as we’re out taking a walk together. “Sometimes I’ll get asked questions about you when I do interviews.  » Read more

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PQ 18.7 — Do I fully understand my partner’s choice to be monogamous or polyamorous, and am I able to accept my partner for who she is?

PQ 18.7 — Do I fully understand my partner’s choice to be monogamous or polyamorous, and am I able to accept my partner for who she is?

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Ah! Very interesting. I of course didn’t write this question — these are all questions taken from the seminal polyamory text More than Two,  » Read more

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Yes, I’m a Wholesome Slut. And I’m Not the Only One.

“Page, how are you doing?” she asks, and before I can answer, she adds. “You know, it’s really been too long.”

“Oh you’re probably right,” I say. “Fair warning: My sense of time has been all messed up lately. I think that things that happened 6 months ago just happened and that last week was last year.”  » Read more

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If Only There Were More Popular Examples of Healthy Relationships

“Both suffering for love and being addicted to a relationship are romanticized by our culture… Very few models exist of people relating as peers in healthy, mature, honest, nonmanipulative, and nonexploitative ways, probably for two reasons: First, in all honesty, such relationships in real life are fairly rare. Second, since the quality of emotional interplay in healthy relationships is often much subtler than the blatant drama of unhealthy relationships,  » Read more

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Why I’ll Still Love You When You’re Ninety

I’m sitting in the waiting area while he gets his hair cut. I’d offered to come with him that morning since they didn’t do appointments there, so there was no way of knowing how long he’d have to wait. “That way, if you have to wait for a little bit, you’ll have a buddy with you,”  » Read more

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It’s Okay for People to Stick with Things That Are Occasionally Difficult for Them

“You know, I love my diet,” she says. “I’m down 30 pounds. Never felt healthier. But you know, sometimes I have the hardest time getting myself to the gym. And I’ll be walking around town and hit a block where there’s a bunch of restaurants and I’ll get a whiff of that fry oil and ohhhhhh.”  » Read more

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