Page Turner's Blog, page 128

My Biggest Struggle Has Been Always Feeling Like a Third Wheel

Just about every time I’m about to leave to go somewhere, I stop and think, or say aloud if there’s someone there next to me, “I should pee one more time just in case.”

It doesn’t matter if I just went 20 minutes ago. I’ll go again. Sometimes I’ll do it multiple times,  » Read more

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Ask Page: My Partner Only Dominates Me When It Suits Him. What Should I Do?

Hi Page,

So I’m extremely new to BDSM, been around for just under a year. My question for you is what advice do you have for a naturally submissive person that wants to be dominated but has a partner (that I’ve been with for 6 years) that only dominates when it suits him?  » Read more

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The Happiest People Are Good Guessers

The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.

-F. Scott Fitzgerald

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One of the hardest things about life is that we’re always guessing. They say the only certain things in life are death and taxes.  » Read more

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Parallel Polyamory: Circumstantial & Intentional Types

Hi Page,

I enjoyed your recent article on kitchen table and parallel styles of polyamory. It was refreshing to see someone talking about parallel polyamory in a non-judgmental way. Thank you. 

Sometimes I get grief from other poly people because my relationships with my two partners are completely separate.  » Read more

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PQ 21.4 — In what ways do I care for myself? How do I care for the people around me?

PQ 21.4 — In what ways do I care for myself? How do I care for the people around me?

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The way that I care for myself and the way that I care for others is similar. I’ve come to realize something very important: A big part of love for me is giving someone the benefit of the doubt.  » Read more

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PQ 21.3 — Are there things I absolutely require in a relationship, and do I communicate those things?

PQ 21.3 — Are there things I absolutely require in a relationship, and do I communicate those things?

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I wrote the very first post in this series (PQ 1.1 – Have I ever felt romantic love for more than one person at the same time?) nearly two years ago,  » Read more

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There’s Never a Good Time to Write About Passive-Aggression

“Fine! He is being passive aggressive with me, and it’s gonna backfire; I’m gonna be active friendly.”

–Natalya Vorobyova

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There’s never a good time to write about passive-aggression. Because no matter what is (or isn’t) going on in your life, someone will read into whatever you write about it.  » Read more

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Ask Page: We’re Happy Being Secondaries. Is That Weird?

Hi Page,

I’ve been polyamorous for a decent amount of time now. I love your blog and your books. Thank you for all the time you put into them. I wanted to write to you because I feel like you won’t judge me (something I can’t say for every poly expert out there).   » Read more

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“How Many People Would You Say You’ve Dated?”

We weren’t really dating, but I had gotten used to her. Gotten used to the sound of her voice. The feel of her body.

Got used to her naked form stretched out in the early morning sunlight, wrapped in bed sheets.

I got to know all of her bed sheets so well.  » Read more

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9 Reasons I Move Slowly In Relationships (And It’s Not Because I Don’t Care)

As I’ve written a few times now, I take my time when it comes to dating new people. I’m nearly always friends first. Sometimes I like to joke that my dating style is ent, like those giant trees in Lord of the Rings. An ent has all the time in the world.  » Read more

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