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Your baby’s brain grows rapidly in the first 7 years of life

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Your baby’s brain grows rapidly in the first 7 years of life

During these years you have the power to make your child’s brain TERRIFIC 

Start today with my –

5T formula for building a TERRIFIC BRAIN for your BABY

The first T is TOUCH
Hold your baby close and give your baby lots of skin-to-skin contact
This is called Kangaroo care and helps to grow your baby’s brain and body

The 2nd T is TASTE
Eat a variety of foods while you are breastfeeding
The taste of everything you eat is passed down through breastmilk to your baby
Eat healthy and your baby will acquire healthy eating habits

The 3rd T is TUMMY TIME
Put your baby down on their tummy at certain times of the day.
This builds your baby’s neck muscles and helps in learning as your baby starts turning their head to look around.
Make sure you follow safety precautions

The 4th T is TOTE (CARRY)
Tote or carry your baby around in your arms or in a baby carrier as much as possible
Avoid prams and strollers
Movement stimulates brain growth

The 5th T is TRACK
Move objects slowly in your baby’s line of vision and teach them how to track objects with their eyes.
As your baby grows older, show them how to track people and other faster moving objects.

0 TO 7 YEARS IS THE TIME FOR RAPID BRAIN GROWTH 
And there is so much you can do to help your baby’s brain grow and become terrific.

Do you want to learn all that you can do?

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Financial Influencers are telling everyone that it is better to rent a house than to buy it

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Financial Influencers are telling everyone that it is better to rent a house than to buy it.
But if you are a PARENT – there are 5 REASONS WHY YOU MUST BUY A HOUSE
Reason 1 – 
You may not be able to rent a house NEAR YOUR CHILD’S SCHOOL
Living near your child’s school saves your child’s time and energy when they don’t have to travel long distances.
This means they are able to PLAY, RELAX and STUDY better.
Reason 2 – 
You can comfortably have PETS
If your child wants a pet - and you are not getting a pet because you may not find a house where the owner allows to have pets – then you must buy a house.
A pet adds to your child’s life as it REDUCES STRESS, TEACHES EMPATHY and RESPONSIBILITY
Reason 3 – 
Every rented house may not have the amenities you need to follow the lifestyle you want to.
Do you believe your child needs PLAY, EXERCISE AND SOCIALIZING?
It may be challenging to find a house where there is a safe space to play, green areas to exercise and enough events to socialize. 
Reason 4 – 
You may not be able to modify rented houses to suit your child’s needs.
Your child may want a climbing wall to develop their physical skills or a space in the balcony to paint – not being able to modify the space can limit the development of their TALENTS and INTERESTS.
Reason 5 – 
Owning your house is an investment
Also - no matter what financial influencers say shifting homes every 11 months (which is what most tenants have to do) is a massive waste of money.
The deposit is wasted, the maintenance amount is wasted, the amount paid in brokerage is wasted, the amount spent packing and shifting is wasted, school bus fees if you don’t find a house near the school are a waste, in case you need to shift your child’s school that is a waste and so on and so forth.
TIME FLIES
Children grow up much faster than you can imagine.
There is no point buying a fabulous house when your children don’t have the above needs any more.
It makes sense to buy a house early if you are a parent.
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Let us stop shaming the people who are buying houses. Let us think hard and make decisions that are best for us.

Do your child’s tantrums go on and on

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Do your child’s tantrums go on and on.

Then you could be making these 3 mistakes – 

Mistake 1 – You get angry

When you get angry your child gets sacred and the tantrum increases.

Stay calm
Stay near your child
Bend down 
Speak softly and lovingly

This will reduce your child’s fear and the tantrum will stop

Mistake 2 – You get embarrassed

When you get embarrassed, your child feels that you care about other people more than them.
This makes them sad and the tantrum increases

Stay quiet for a while and just listen
When your child makes eye contact – say “I understand”
When your child feels understood the tantrum will stop 

Mistake 3 – You ignore your child

When you ignore your child – your child feels disconnected with you
Your child’s connection with you is like their oxygen supply.
When your child loses connection with you, they panic and the tantrum increases.

Stay close
Listen 
Offer a hug
Hold them and comfort them
When your child feels connected with you the tantrum will stop.

Tantrums that go on for a long time can have a negative impact on your child’s development. 

Do not keep parenting the OLD WAY if you want to build a FUTURE READY BRAIN for your child.

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Note – if you are doing everything right and your child is still having frequent tantrums that go on for 15 minutes or more, especially if your child is older than 4 years – please consult with a developmental pediatrician.

How can you teach your child good values like RESPECT, GRATITUDE, PATIENCE and so on?

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How can you teach your child good values like RESPECT, GRATITUDE, PATIENCE and so on?

Do 3 things

1. Eat together 
Eat at least one meal together every day
Keep mobiles switched off during the meal
Do not watch TV while eating
Do not scold your child while you eat
Smile laugh and talk about your day
Be polite and caring

2. Pray together
At least once a week pray together.
It is best if you can visit a place of worship
Talk about all the things that you will thank God for.
Help your child to make their own list of everything they should thank God for

3. Do household chores together
At least once a week let your child join you to do the house work
Teach them a new skill
Show them how to work in cooperation
Make it fun

Simple things make a massive impact on your child’s brain.

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How to help your INTROVERTED child become IMPRESSIVE

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How to help your INTROVERTED child become IMPRESSIVE

A: Stop criticising them
Accept them and increase their CONFIDENCE

B: Don’t try to change them into extroverts
Support them increase their HAPPPINESS

C: Don’t label them and call them shy
Celebrate their quiet nature and increase their SELF-ESTEEM

Don't feel sad that your child is not outgoing 

Introverts have 3 amazing GIFTS

Nurture these 3 GIFTS in your child to help them become impress

1. Listening skills

In a world where everyone wants to talk – being able to listen is an asset
Many introverts are super successful because of their ability to listen patiently
Teach your child how to look interested while listening

Good LISTENERS are good PROBLEM SOLVERS

Your introverted child can become a great problem solver

2. Independence

In the hyperconnected world of obsessive social connection through devices your child’s ability to be alone without anxiety is an asset
Show them how this makes them powerful

Teach your child how to enjoy alone time for CREATIVITY and ORGANIZATION

Your introverted child can work on their Talent and shine

3. Communication
Introverts have great thoughts – but because they talk to fewer people – they don’t get enough practice communicating their thoughts.

Listen carefully when your child speaks.
Have deep conversations with them so that they learn how to express their ideas and thoughts clearly.
Also listen to them when they object to something. This will show them that their opinion is valuable and will teach them to speak up for themselves.

Some of the most successful people in the world are introverts – 
Mahatma Gandhi
Bill Gates
Mark Zuckerberg
Warren Buffet
JK Rowling and so many others

All of them are known to say very little
But the world stops to listen when they speak.

Nurture these qualities in your introvert and they will impress and make an impact.

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Do you love your children equally?

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Do you love your children equally?

Of course YES

But do your children keep saying - 

“YOU DON’T LOVE ME. 

YOU LOVE MY BROTHER / SISTER MORE THAN ME.”

If yes – you need to fix 3 MISTAKES that are creating this RIVALRY – 

1.MISTAKE 1

Trying to give them everything EQUALLY 

When you try to make everything equal – you have to compare what you give one child with what you give the other one so that you can give them the same things.
This makes your children focus on comparing and measuring 
They start measuring your love with the things they get.
This makes them feel you love them less when they see even a slight difference in what they get

What to do – 
Give fewer things. 
Teach your children how to share by playing with them 

2. MISTAKE 2

COMPARING to motivate your children

Comparison is not motivating
When you compare – it makes your child believe that they are not good enough.
And they start thinking that you love the better child more.

What to do – 
Treat each child like an individual. 
Motivate them by highlighting their strengths.

3. MISTAKE 3

SOLVING their fights instead of teaching them PROBLEM SOLVING

When you step into your children’s fights and give them your solution to end the fight – your children will always feel that your solution is unfair.
The child who has to adjust will think you love the other child more.

What to do -
Help your children to brainstorm and come up with many solutions.
Then teach them how to select a win-win solution.

Type END and End sibling rivalry today by fixing these mistakes 

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Do you criticize your child’s teacher?

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Do you criticize your child’s teacher?

If you do – STOP NOW

If you criticize your child’s teacher – your child will never be able to learn from their teacher 

There are 2 things that speed up your child’s learning in school – 

1. Whether your child TRUSTS their teacher 
2. Whether your child ADMIRES and adores their teacher

And this depends on you how much you respect your child’s teacher.

If your child is not learning fast enough in school – you may need to change the way you talk about their teacher.

That is the simplest things you can do to help your child learn.

Are you going to speed up your child’s LEARNING ?

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5 things to keep in mind when you choose a school for your child

5 things to keep in mind when you choose a school for your child

1. The fees should be well within your budget
You will need to pay for many things besides the fees – like trips, stationery etc.
Non school related expenses like birthday parties, gifts clothes etc. will be proportionate to the school fees

2. The school should not be too far from your house
Travelling long distances is expensive
Long travel times are tiring and leave children with no time to relax or play

3. The school timing should match your schedule
If you are working – you may want school timings to coincide with your work timings
If you are at home – you may want shorter school days so that you can spend time with your child

4. The school should meet your education goals
Is your focus academics only?
Or do you want all round development?
Select the board with long term plans in mind
Every school has a different culture. Make sure you are comfortable with it.
Emotional wellness should be a priority always

5. The teaching should be scientifically designed and developmentally appropriate
The brain learns differently at different ages.
Make sure teaching is developmentally appropriate
Also make sure that the teaching is in tune with the neuroscience of learning.

The right school can bring out the best in your child.

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Do you hit your child to stop them from hitting?

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Do you hit your child to stop them from hitting?
Do you shout at your child to stop them from shouting?

Do you know what is happening here?

Your mirror neurons are making you do what your child is doing.

You are imitating your child – you are REACTING

What happens when you hit and shout?

Your child’s mirror neurons get activated

And they hit and shout more.

Is that what you wanted?
NO

End this MIRROR NEURON problem by Parenting with Neuroscience

Here is my 3D formula for DISCIPLINE – 

The 1st D is DESIRE – 
Always find out why your child had the DESIRE to do what they did.
Did they shout and hit because no one was listening to them?
Did they hit because they were scared?
As soon as you start THINKING your mirror neurons get deactivated
You don’t shout and your child does not learn to shout

The 2nd D is DECISION
Discipline is not punishment
Discipline is teaching your child how to make good DECISIONS
When you teach your child how to make good decisions they need to start THINKING
When your child starts thinking it deactivates their mirror neurons and helps them to RESPOND instead of REACTING

The 3rd D is DEMONSTRATE
Your child does not do what you tell them
They do what they see you doing
This is because of mirror neurons
In your life – when you get angry for some reason – don’t hit or shout.
This will program your child’s mirror neurons to do the right thing.
Your child’s THINKING BRAIN may not work all the time so they may to be able to RESPOND
But when the mirror neurons are trained they will REACT the way they have seen you react.

Start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE
It makes parenting EASY ENJOYABLE and EFECTIVE

Do you want to start parenting with neuroscience?
Send me a DM saying PB and I will send you the details of my neuroscience-based course for the parents of 0- to 7-year-olds.

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Do you want to get A+++++ on your PARENTING REPORTCARD?

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Do you want to get A+++++ on your PARENTING REPORTCARD?

Just follow my 5A formula

The 1st A is ACCEPT
Accept your child the way they are. 
Every child is amazing. 
Every child has qualities that will make them successful in life
Stop CRITICISING them COMPARING them with others
That destroys their confidence and then they can’t do anything

The 2nd A is AVAILABLE
Be available for your child to connect with you.
Connection with you is your child’s oxygen
It is not enough to be physically available.
Be emotionally available. Don’t be distracted or preoccupied or on your phone
Listen to your child and play with them to build their brain

The 3rd A is AUTONOMY
Give your child the freedom to make some decisions.
Don’t keep ordering them around.
Let them do some things independently
Freedom and independence teach children to make good decisions.
And good decisions make your child successful

The 4th A is AFFIRMATION 
Remind your child about their STRENGTHS through affirmations.
Don’t keep pointing out their mistakes
Tell them how amazing they are and what they did right.
When they feel good, they will behave well
When they know what you like they will do more of the right things
Affirmations are the easy way to discipline your child

The 5th A is APOLOGISE
When you make a mistake – say sorry
And after saying sorry – don’t make the mistake again.
Your child will imitate you and learn from their mistakes.
That will make them successful.

So – are you ready for A+++++ on your parenting report card?

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