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Are you a busy parent?

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Are you a busy parent? 

Just understand your child’s growing brain with neuroscience and you will be able to do everything you need to do in very little time.

Do you want to learn Parenting with Neuroscience? 

Send me a DM saying PB and I will send you the details of my Parenting Blueprint course for the parents of 0 to 7 year olds.

Share this with those who tell you 

"Don't love your child so much - they are getting spoiled"

So that they understand 

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Do you SHOUT when your child MAKES A MESS?

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Do you SHOUT when your child MAKES A MESS?

STOP NOW!!

It is DAMAGING YOUR CHILD’S BRAIN

Messy play is the time when your child is LEARNING a lot

When you don’t allow your child the chance to make a mess – They don’t learn many things

And when you shout – your child learns to hate the skills they are learning through messy play.

This can be TERRIBLE for your child – because the skills that your child learning while making a mess are very important for 

 READING 
 WRITING
 MATH
 SCIENCE
 MAKING FRIENDS

What can you do to encourage messy play?

Arrange for 
 Paints 
 Play dough 
 Mud 
 Water
 Sand and get started.

Type MESSY – and share this now – so that no one criticizes you when your child or your house is messy

Remember you will get criticized even if you don’t allow messy play when your child can’t read and write and do math

Watch my You Tube video to know what exactly you need to do during messy play to help your child build the skills they need for READING WRITING MATH SCIENCE and SOCIAL SKILLS 

Find the video link in my stories

Are you exhausted with parenting?

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Are you exhausted with parenting?

Then you are probably HELICOPTER PARENTING

Helicopter parenting is where you are constantly instructing, controlling and monitoring your child’s life so that he/she succeeds.

At the end of the day – you are tired and your child is irritated

Just switch to PANDA PARENTING

It makes your child successful without stress

Step 1 – Trust that your child wants to do the right things.

If you are getting irritated with all the things your child is doing – you need to start parenting with neuroscience

Step 2 – Respect your child

Don’t force them to eat. Don’t force them to do the things you want them to do.

If you are struggling with that – start parenting with neuroscience

Step 3 – Give your child Independence

Give them the freedom to decide what they want to play and how

If you are worried that freedom will cause indiscipline – start parenting with neuroscience

Step 4 – Collaboration 

Get on your child’s team and help them reach their goals

If you doubt your child’s goals – start parenting with neuroscience

Step 5 – Be kind

When your child makes a mistake or fails – don’t blame and shame. Be kind and forgive.

If you find you are shouting and hitting – start parenting with neuroscience

Parenting is easy – when you start parenting with neuroscience

If your child is between 0 to 7 years – and you want to start parenting with neuroscience – type PB and send me a DM.

I will share the details of my PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE course

Make a new beginning today

If you want your child to get good marks in the exam

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​If you want your child to get good marks in the exam

Just answer these 5 questions for your child

Why should I study this?

What should I study in this?

How should I study this?

When should I study this?

Where should I study this from?

The answers are in the reel

Your child is STUCK With poor marks because you have not answered these questions 

Get the answers NOW

Type UNSTUCK And share this

Change your child’s marks 

YOU CAN DO IT.

#exam #examseason #exampreparation #motivation

There are 5 main advantages of going to an INCLUSIVE SCHOOL

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​There are 5 main advantages of going to an INCLUSIVE SCHOOL 

When your child has the opportunity to grow up with the specially abled.

1. They develop excellent COMMUNICATION SKILLS
Because they need to communicate with children who experience the world very differently

2. They learn EMPATHY
Being able to put themselves in another person’s shoes and look at the world from another person’s perspective is a huge advantage no matter what profession they choose

3. It teaches them good DECISION MAKING
The best decisions are made by those who can look at situations from various angles. This is something they will do all the time in an inclusive environment

4. They develop high SELF-ESTEEM
Because they have so many opportunities to be helpful

5. They learn DETERMINATION
Watching their friends achieve despite their challenges helps them develop grit

Being INCLUSIVE does not slow us down

It gives us the wings we need to be SUCCESSFUL

Teach your child to be INCLUSIVE – at school, at the playground and everywhere else.

They will always gain from it.

#inclusion #inclusivity #diversity #equity #parenting#paralympics #paralympics2024

Do not make your child OBEY YOU

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Do not make your child OBEY YOU
It will destroy your child’s THINKING BRAIN

Make your child LISTEN to you while building their brain by doing these 4 things

1. Convince your child
Explain why you are asking them to do what you are saying
Argue your point until they are convinced.
This will build COMMUNICATION SKILLS

2. Debate 
Let your child explain their point of view
Listen to their perspective as they try to convince you.
This will build CRITICAL THINKING 

3. Let them make some Decisions
When your child has to decide - they will think carefully
When you force your child to do something – they will rebel
This will build CONFIDENCE

4. If your child makes a good point - Give in – 
Don’t insist on being obeyed just because you are the parent 
Give-in gracefully
This teaches them COOPERATION

These are skills that will help your child to become a LEADER
If you teach your child obedience – your child will only become a FOLLOWER.

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Your child is not MISBEHAVING because they are BAD

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Your child is not MISBEHAVING because they are BAD

They are misbehaving because you are not practicing AGE ALIGNED PARENTING

Do you want to start with Age Aligned Parenting?
Use my NEUROSCIENCE BASED AAAA formula

FROM BIRTH TO 1 YEAR - your child needs the 1st A - ATTACHMENT
• Hold your baby skin-to-skin as much as possible
• Carry your baby in your lap as much as possible
This will minimize CRYING

FROM 1 TO 3 YEARS – your child needs the 2ND A – ATTENTION
• Make eye contact and smile whenever you can
• Follow your baby around
• Play with your baby
This will minimize TANTRUMS

From 4 to 7 Years – your child needs the 3rd A – AFFECTION
• Give your child lots of hugs and kisses
• Say “I love you”
• Be gentle, kind and loving when they don’t listen or can’t learn
This will minimize their ANGER

From 8 to 18 years – your child needs the 4th A – ACCEPTANCE
• Do not compare or criticize
• Look for your child’s strengths and appreciate them
This will minimize their MOBILE USE

Help your child to be GOOD by changing your parenting as your child grows.

Type GOOD and share this now – so that those who call your child BAD - understand and change themselves.

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Do you want to know more about how you can be FOCUSED?

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My DMs are full of parents complaining about their child being DISTRACTED 

This is the reason

Do you want to know more about how you can be FOCUSED? 

Type YES And I will send you a video that will help you understand MINDFULNESS 

#mindfulparenting #focus #distraction #mobile

​5 TRICKS to make your baby LOVE VEGETABLES

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​5 TRICKS to make your baby LOVE VEGETABLES

1. Eat lots of vegetables when BREASTFEEDING

The taste of food that you eat during breastfeeding is flavours your breastmilk
Your baby loves your breastmilk and will fall in love with food that they tasted through breastmilk

2. Start with SWEET VEGETABLES like carrots and peas

Babies are supposed to dislike foods that have a pungent or bitter taste.
Most poisonous foods taste bitter or pungent and so disliking these tastes ensures that they do not accidentally eat something poisonous.
Sweet foods are rich in calories and since babies need a lot of calories – their brain tells them to like sweet vegetables.

3. Offer small servings of vegetables every day

Allow them to get familiar with the taste 

4. Offer vegetables at snack time instead of meals

Babies are very hungry at meal times and need food that fills them up quickly and gives them lots of instant energy to play.
They get impatient with vegetables that are primarily fibre and water. Because they take too long to eat and give barely any energy. 
It is better to serve vegetables as snacks when they are not so hungry

5. Offer vegetables as finger foods

Babies love anything that they can pick up and put in their mouth 
Offer vegetables as sticks that they can chew on. This will make them love vegetables.
Be careful to avoid choking.

Does your baby love vegetables?
Let me know in comments.

If your child does not say SORRY

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If your child does not say SORRY

They are not STUBBORN

They just need you to use the neuroscience based 3R formula.

Use it and stop people from criticizing your child

The 3R formula 

1.The first R is RESPECTFUL 

Be RESPECTFUL when you explain their mistake
Do not shout and scold
If you shout – your child feels like you are attacking them
That makes you the villain
They become the victim.
Since victims don’t say sorry.
So your child does not say sorry
They just start blaming you for shouting 
Speak softly and respectfully to your child. 
When they are calm and safe – they will see their mistake and find a way to fix it

2. The 2nd R is REPAIR 

Allow REPAIR
As soon as your child says sorry - immediately forgive and forget
If your child thinks you will remember the mistake and keep poking them about it later 
Why will they say sorry?

3. The third R is RELATIONSHIP 

Build your RELATIONSHIP with your child
When you make a mistake say sorry
If you say sorry – you get back sorry.

Type 3R and do this now

Transform your child and stop people from criticizing them and calling them STUBBORN and ARROGANT.

This is parenting with neuroscience

It can change the way people talk about you and your child

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