Debmita Dutta's Blog, page 25

June 19th, 2024

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Sugar is bad for your child. 

And Yes!! 

Almost all your child’s favorite foods ae loaded with sugar 

You may think things like 

Tomato sauce
Bread
Juice
Fruit yogurt 

Are healthy. 

But they are not 

They are all full of sugar 

Many times foods have sugar but it is called by a different name to confuse you and make you believe that the food has no sugar and is therefore good for your child. 

Save the list below on your phone and if you see any of the names below on the label of a food that you are buying for your child - DO NOT BUY IT. 

Share this so that others who may buy your child foods that they love realize that If they REALLY want to show their love - they must not give your child any food that has sugar or any of the things in the list below. 

Agave nectar
Barbados sugar
Barley malt
Barley malt syrup
Beet sugar
Brown sugar
Buttered syrup
Cane juice
Cane juice crystals
Cane sugar
Caramel
Carob syrup
Castor sugar
Coconut palm sugar
Coconut sugar
Confectioner's sugar
Corn sweetener
Corn syrup
Corn syrup solids
Date sugar
Dehydrated cane juice
Demerara sugar
Dextrin
Dextrose
Evaporated cane juice
Free-flowing brown sugars
Fructose
Fruit juice
Fruit juice concentrate
Glucose
Glucose solids
Golden sugar
Golden syrup
Grape sugar
HFCS (High-Fructose Corn Syrup)
Honey
Icing sugar
Invert sugar
Malt syrup
Maltodextrin
Maltol
Maltose
Mannose
Maple syrup
Molasses
Muscovado
Palm sugar
Panocha
Powdered sugar
Raw sugar
Refiner's syrup
Rice syrup
Saccharose
Sorghum Syrup
Sucrose
Sugar (granulated)
Sweet Sorghum
Syrup
Treacle
Turbinado sugar

​You love your child very much

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​You love your child very much 

But your child may think NO ONE LOVES ME 

Because you constantly scold, criticise and compare them 

Of course you do it for their own good 

But do you know?. 

If you don't show your love your child cannot do their best. 

How can you show your love? 

1. Smile whenever you look at them 

2. Hug them whenever you are near them 

3. Kiss them whenever you can. Definitely kiss them as soon as they wake up in the morning and before they go to sleep at night. 

4. Say - I love you at least 10 times a day 

5. Play with them every day 

LOVE is the FUEL that POWERS your child and BUILDS the BRAIN 

If you want to do the best for your child SHOW YOUR LOVE 

Type YES And start showing your love now. 

Share this so that those who say they CRITICISE and SCOLD and COMPARE your child and say that they doing it out of love - know that they are wrong. 
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Let your child cry

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Let your child cry

Tears are emotions coming out drop by drop

When we don't allow emotions to come out as tears

They pile up inside your child

And come out as an explosion

That explosion is called Anger.

Anger is more difficult to manage than sadness

So let your child cry

Type OK and change your approach to crying today

Share this on your stories so that those who tell your child not to cry understand that they are wrong and stop criticising your child

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“What makes junk food so attractive to children?”

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“What makes junk food so attractive to children?”

This is a question I am often asked at my workshops on #nutrition

The answer is multi-layered.

There is of course the chemical impact that the ingredients in junk food have on the brain and make it crave more of it.

But without a doubt – the physical characteristics of junk food matter as well.

Of course, we are not going to add the chemicals that make junk food attractive – when we make healthy food for our children.

But can we replicate the physical attributes of junk food when we make healthy food?

The answer is YES.

Watch my reel to know what you can do.

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Before you call your child STUBBORN for NOT LISTENING to you

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Before you call your child STUBBORN for NOT LISTENING to you

Understand why your child is not listening.

It could be because of any of these 5 reasons – 

1. They are used to waiting for you to SHOUT

Have you fallen into the pattern of repeatedly asking your child to do something
And then ultimately shouting at them
Your child may have got used to this pattern and decided to do what you are saying only when you shout.

What to do – Stop shouting. Go close to your child and whisper. That will get their attention and make them listen

2. You are always saying NO DON'T DO THAT

If you are always stopping your child and telling them not to do what they want to do then you can be sure your child is not listening to you because they know you will stop them from doing what they want to do.

What to do – Aim to say only one or two NO s in a day. Reserve it for when your child is doing something dangerous

3. You THREATEN them

When you threaten your child you get them into the fighting mode.
They get into the mood to push you and see if you actually carry out your threat. That is why they don’t listen to you. 

What to do – Never THREATEN your child. Involve them in the decision making process so that they themselves do what you are saying because they want to do it.

4. You give ORDERS

No one likes to be ordered around. If you keep telling your child – do this – do that – they will surely ignore you

What to do – Explain what your child has to do and then allow them to do it their way. Do not micromanage

5. You don’t LISTEN TO THEM

Your child will listen to you if you listen to them.

What to do - Do the small things that they ask you to do. That will strengthen your relationship. What you say will then be easier for your child to understand and follow.

Don’t blame your child for being STUBBORN

Type OK and change yourself now

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MOBILE ADDICTION is dangerous

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MOBILE ADDICTION is dangerous.
Save your baby’s brain with my 3B formula
The first B is BEHAVIOUR
Do not give your child a mobile phone to prevent bad behaviour or tantrums.
Your child behaves badly or throws tantrums when they have negative emotions.
You can drown your child’s negative emotions with a mobile phone and end the tantrum
But drowning negative emotions with a mobile phone does not help your child in the long run
Your child needs to learn how to manage and overcome negative emotions by themselves
Otherwise, your child will become dependent on the mobile and ultimately get addicted.
Every time your child has a negative emotion – they will need a device.
This can be terrible when they find learning in school difficult.
Instead of managing their negative emotions and studying hard to overcome their negative emotions – they will pick up the mobile phone to feel good.
When they don’t work hard at studying – they will get poor grades – they will have more negative emotions and need the mobile phone even more.
They will be addicted to the mobile.
The second B is for BOOST
Do not give your child the mobile phone to feed them what they don’t want to eat.
Being distracted by the mobile will result in your child’s brain not being comfortable with the taste and texture of food.
Whenever they try to eat without the mobile – their brain will reject the taste and texture and therefore the food itself.
This will mean that they will always need a mobile to eat.
They will be addicted to the mobile.
The 3rd B is BOREDOM
Never give your child the mobile to overcome boredom.
Boredom is stressful.
But this stress is essential for the brain to think creatively.
Creative thinking is the secret to success.
When you relieve your child’s stress due to boredom – your child will not think creatively – will not succeed and will always need the mobile to drown out the negative emotion of not being good enough.
Your child will be addicted to the mobile.
So now that you know how and why children get addicted to the mobile – type 3B and make sure your child never becomes a mobile addict.
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Are you struggling with your toddler’s separation anxiety?

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Are you struggling with your toddler’s separation anxiety?

Then remember this – 

IT IS NORMAL FOR YOUR CHILD TO HAVE SEPARATION ANXIETY 

1. Your child is programmed to feel anxious when you are not around so that they don’t go far away from you

2. Your child is programmed to cry loudly when they don’t see you so that you hear them and feel guilty and come back to take care of them.

But you must act to reduce their anxiety.

Because separation anxiety can come in the way of learning

Here are 3 things you need to do – 

1. Reduce your own anxiety

Your child’s brain has mirror neurons. 
These mirror neurons pick up your emotions.
If you are anxious your child gets even more anxious.
This results in your child clinging to you and crying.
If you are struggling with anxiety reach out for help

2. Explain and empathize

Don’t keep telling your child that school will be lots of fun
At first school may not be fun.
Your child may feel lonely and scared in school without you.
They may feel like crying.
Explain this to your child so that they are prepared for the negative emotions. Also tell them that it is completely normal to feel like crying.
If your child only expects positive emotions, they will get scared when they experience negative emotions in school and cry even more

3. Do not be overprotective

When your child is crying you may feel like protecting them from the world by keeping them at home, or carrying them in your lap or talking to the teacher for a long time about your child or waiting outside the school even after the gates have closed.
All these will make your child feel even more scared.
Your over protection will convince your child that there is some real danger.
Walk in purposefully – say a cheerful goodbye and leave promptly.

Type NO MORE TEARS and end separation anxiety now

Share this with a parent who is making the above mistakes so that they realize and change.

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​Stop calling your child “BAD” when they throw things

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​Stop calling your child “BAD” when they throw things

Your child is not throwing things to misbehave or to annoy you

Throwing is a developmental milestone

Your child must start throwing by the age of 12 months. Otherwise they will not be able to develop many skills.

What are the skills that are developed by throwing?

1. Fine motor skills – throwing teaches your child how to hold an object and then release it. This is essential for learning how to write

2. Gross motor skills – throwing helps your child develop balance, coordination and arm strength.

3. Visual skills – when your child throws an object and tracks its movement throw the air, it helps them develop eye control and the ability to follow with the eyes. This is important for learning how to read.

4. Hand-to-eye coordination – when your child picks up an object and throws it at a target it develops hand to eye coordination. This is required for writing.

5. Cognitive skills – throwing teaches your child about cause and effect, speed, force and gravity. This helps in school learning.

6. Language skills – your child learns new words when the adults around them react and say something about the throwing. This helps them to understand what they read and hear.

Don’t punish your child when they throw.

Your child needs to THROW to GROW

Plan activities and games that will help your child practice throwing without hurting anyone / damaging anything / making a mess

Do you want a list of such activities?

Type THROW and I will send you a list of activities on DM

Share this now so that all those who call your child “BAD” see this and understand that this is NORMAL behaviour

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Are you a SUCCESSFUL WOMAN but a STRUGGLING MOM?

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Are you a SUCCESSFUL WOMAN but a STRUGGLING MOM?

If you are keep reading.

This is a frequent problem and many such struggling moms consult with me.

Why can’t I be as good at parenting as I am at work?

They ask me.

You CAN be – is my answer.

Just use my 3P formula

When you are parenting - 

1. Replace PRODUCTIVITY WITH PRESENCE

At work you need to be productive. You need to get as much work as possible done and have something to show at the end of each day.
Bringing the productive mindset to parenting can be disastrous.
Because parenting is a relationship – not a task.
You need to feel and be felt.
And you cannot accomplish that when you are focused on productivity
Practice MINDFULNESS

2. Replace PERFORMANCE WITH PARTICIPATION

At work you need to reach a goal. 
It is your goal and you have to do whatever it takes to get to your goal as soon as possible or within a deadline.
In parenting – you need to allow things to happen and participate in the process as and when required.
It is hard to stand back and watch but it is essential.
Pushing your child towards a goal set by you within a deadline decided by you – does not work and can make you feel unsuccessful and frustrated.
Parenting is not a race. RELAX 

3. Replace PERFECTION WITH PATIENCE

At work you are constantly trying to improve and become perfect.
Perfection is possible and essential when it comes to work.
But it can be huge roadblock to success when it comes to parenting.
Focusing on perfection can impact your relationship with your child because it tells your child that you think they are not perfect.
Believe that your child is perfect and they will do everything that they can to get better.
Don’t compare. ENJOY every moment of the journey.

SUCCESS is a FEELING in parenting

If you try to SEE success the way you see it at work through meeting deadlines, reaching goals and receiving awards and rewards – you will always feel unsuccessful.

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Do you know?LOVE can DESTROY your child’s life

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Do you know?

LOVE can DESTROY your child’s life

If you express your love in these 3 ways – 

1. By DOING EVERYTHING for your child
When you do everything for your child – they don’t learn how to do things themselves
And this results in them having LOW SELF-ESTEEM
High self-esteem which makes your child believe “I CAN” is essential for success.
So if you show your love by doing everything for your child you are destroying your child’s life.

2. By GIVING your child EVERYTHING
When you give your child everything – they have nothing else that they want.
When they don’t want anything, they don’t have any reason to do anything.
They are DEMOTIVATED.
Motivation makes your child think “I WANT TO” which is essential for success
So if you show your love by giving your child everything you are destroying your child’s life.

3. By OVER-PROTECTING your child
When you overprotect your child – they begin to believe that they are in danger when they are alone
This destroys their COURAGE
Courage makes your child believe “I WILL “which is essential for success
So if you show your love by overprotecting your child you are destroying your child’s life

Type NO and stop showing your love in these ways so that your child can lead an amazing life

Share this so that those who think this is the way love should be shown understand and change themselves. Don’t allow anyone to destroy your child’s life.

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