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April 18, 2024

​Iron deficiency can affect brain development


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​Iron deficiency can affect brain development 

Growing children are at high risk of developing iron deficiency 

Here is a list of some iron rich foods that you can give your child

Leaves of – Spinach, Amranth, Beet, Cauliflower, Keerai, Mustard, Parsley, Radish, 
Turnip 

Chickpeas, cowpeas, horse gram, soyabean and peas 

Rice bran, wheat germ, bajra (pearl millet) and samai (little millet). 

Garden cress seeds (aliv), Niger seeds, gingelly seeds and mustard seeds 

Dates and pistachios.

Type IRON and always be alert for iron deficiency 

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Published on April 18, 2024 08:07

April 17, 2024

Do you get angry and irritated when your child argues?


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Do you get angry and irritated when your child argues?

That is a mistake

It is very convenient to have an obedient child who agrees and obeys all the time.

But that is not good for your child
.
When your child argues – they BUILD THEIR BRAIN

And develop some very important LIFE SKILLS like -

CRITICAL THINKING and CREATIVITY

Yes!!

To argue – your child needs to analyze the situation with CRITICAL THINKING

And then come up with CREATIVE SOLUTIONS to the problem

If you get angry and upset when your child argues – you OBSTRUCT the development of their brain and these skills.

Don’t get angry 
Don’t agree
Don’t ignore.

Instead – follow these 5 steps – 

1. LISTEN calmly – set a good example
2. AGREE that they have the right to be upset – that will calm them down
3. APPRECIATE that they came up with a creative solution – it will encourage them to think
4. REWORD their argument so that it sounds better – to teach communication skills
5. NEGOTIATE to reach a middle ground – to teach conflict resolution

Every conflict is an opportunity to – 
1. Understand your child
2. Build their brain
3. Strengthen your relationship.

Type BUILD and start responding to arguments instead of reacting.

Be the adult in the relationship 

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Published on April 17, 2024 06:11

April 17th, 2024


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Do you get angry and irritated when your child argues?

That is a mistake

It is very convenient to have an obedient child who agrees and obeys all the time.

But that is not good for your child
.
When your child argues – they BUILD THEIR BRAIN

And develop some very important LIFE SKILLS like -

CRITICAL THINKING and CREATIVITY

Yes!!

To argue – your child needs to analyze the situation with CRITICAL THINKING

And then come up with CREATIVE SOLUTIONS to the problem

If you get angry and upset when your child argues – you OBSTRUCT the development of their brain and these skills.

Don’t get angry 
Don’t agree
Don’t ignore.

Instead – follow these 5 steps – 

1. LISTEN calmly – set a good example
2. AGREE that they have the right to be upset – that will calm them down
3. APPRECIATE that they came up with a creative solution – it will encourage them to think
4. REWORD their argument so that it sounds better – to teach communication skills
5. NEGOTIATE to reach a middle ground – to teach conflict resolution

Every conflict is an opportunity to – 
1. Understand your child
2. Build their brain
3. Strengthen your relationship.

Type BUILD and start responding to arguments instead of reacting.

Be the adult in the relationship 

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Published on April 17, 2024 06:11

If you want to raise your child’s self-esteem


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If you want to raise your child’s self-esteem 

Involve them in household chores

Even toddlers can do many chores

When a child does chores it helps them to feel 

CAPABLE 
CONFIDENT 
IMPORTANT 

This makes them feel happy and become responsible 

But 

When we give children reward points for doing chores it takes all this away.

As soon as Rewards are introduced, your child starts doing the chores for Rewards.

The happiness they should feel Because they are contributing to the family is replaced by the anxiety of losing the reward.

The responsibility they would otherwise have developed is replaced by greed.

And to add to it they feel shame Because the chart is publicly displayed 

A whole range of negative emotions replaces the positive emotions that chores are supposed to generate. 

And this leads to low self-esteem 

Do you use reward charts? 

Type YES or NO.

Stop using then now.

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Published on April 17, 2024 06:04

April 13, 2024

There are 3 PARENTING MISTAKES that can affect your BABY’S BRAIN DEVELOPMENT


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There are 3 PARENTING MISTAKES that can affect your BABY’S BRAIN DEVELOPMENT

Neuroscience says that babies need 3Ts for their brains to grow.

But many times, because we are gripped by parenting peer pressure.

We try to do all kinds of other things to grow our baby’s brain.

And miss out on these 3 important Ts.

The first T is TALK

New parents, especially new moms are exhausted.
They are also judged a lot and loaded with lots of expectations.
They are criticized if their house is messy, they are criticized if their baby cries, they are criticized if they don’t look good, they are criticized if they don’t show their baby brain development flash cards.
They do everything they can to avoid criticism.
And this leaves them with no time and energy to talk to their baby.

But NEUROSCIENCE says brains are built by talking to babies.
Ignore all the criticism and start talking to your baby.

The second T is TUMMY TIME

Most new parents are afraid of infections and injuries – so they keep their babies far away from the floor.
But time on the floor is most important for brain development.

Tummy time builds neck control, facilitates exploration and also builds immunity.

Keep the floor clean. Watch your baby carefully during tummy time.
Then allow and encourage lots of tummy time.

The third T is Thumb Sucking

New parents, especially new moms are advised by every person they know, to prevent their baby from sucking their thumb.
If they listen to their instincts and allow thumb sucking – they are criticized and scolded.
Because of this they do not allow thumb sucking

But thumb sucking is important to build emotional regulation, motor skills and hand to eye coordination.

Remove the mittens and allow thumb sucking.

STOP LISTENING to OTHERS and damaging your baby’s brain.
They will later criticize you anyway when your baby cries and lot or walks or talks late

Type 3T and become part of the BRAIN DEVELOPMENT REVOLUTION by following the 3Ts no matter what anyone says.

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Published on April 13, 2024 04:00

April 11, 2024

Are you worried about your child’s poor performance in school?


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Are you worried about your child’s poor performance in school? 

Do you want to turn your child’s FAILURE Into SUCCESS 

Then 

Replace FEAR with FUN

When you teach.

When children FAIL at something they are filled with FEAR.

Scolding them and increasing their FEAR makes things worse 

FEAR makes their brain shut down

And they don’t learn what they can do to change their FAILURE Into SUCCESS 

Every FAILURE can be a Stepping Stone to SUCCESS 

Replace FEAR with FUN 
When you teach your child what to do to be SUCCESSFUL next time

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Published on April 11, 2024 04:42

April 6, 2024

Does your child keep falling sick?


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Does your child keep falling sick?

Have you done everything you can to improve your child’s immunity?

But despite everything, does your child still fall sick?

If your answer is yes – then you need to ask yourself this – 

“Is my child STRESSED?”

Yes. STRESS can lower immunity and cause repeated illness.

But childhood is supposed to be stress free.

Can a child really be stressed?

The answer is yes.

Here are some things that lead to stress.

1. Shouting / Hitting / Punishing your child.

You may be doing it to teach your child the right thing.
But these methods of discipline cause stress.
And stress causes illness

2. Force feeding. 

You may be force feeding your child to ensure that they get all the nutrients that they need to stay healthy and grow.
But your forcing is causing stress.
And stress causes illness – no matter what your child eats.

3. Device use

Do you give your child a device to keep them calm and make them happy?
But devices cause stress.
And stress causes illness

So many parents do all the above things because they love their children very much and want to do the best for them.

Their intentions are good – but they end up causing stress and illness.

Don’t just do what other parents are doing.

It is doing more harm than good.

Start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE. 
To learn parenting with neuroscience – you can subscribe to my Parenting Blueprint course for the parents of 0- to 7-year-olds.

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Published on April 06, 2024 05:51

April 4, 2024

Are you upset that your child does not listen to you?


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Are you upset that your child does not listen to you?

Then you need this NEUROSCIENCE based 5S formula – 

The 1st S is – SMILE.

If you smile a lot, your child will like you.
Since all of us listen to people whom we like, this will ensure that your child listens to you.
If you go close to your child, look into their eyes, smile, and say something, they will definitely listen to you.

The 2nd S is SYNC

If your child is busy doing something – first join them in doing that. 
Once you are in sync with your child because of the activity you are doing together, tell your child what you want them to do. They will listen.

The 3rd S is SINGLE

Give only one instruction at a time if you want your child to listen to you.
Children have short memories and are easily distracted.
If you give too many instructions at once they can’t listen to you

The 4th S is SING

When you want to get your child’s attention, sing out their name instead of shouting.
Children pay more attention to high frequency sounds.

The 5th S is STORY

Every day tell your child a story.
This will get them into the habit of listening to you.

The 5S formula turns HEARING into LISTENING.

Are you ready to see its magic?

Type SAY and start speaking with the 5S formula today.

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Published on April 04, 2024 03:45

Many parents are scared of HOLIDAYS


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Many parents are scared of HOLIDAYS 

Because of the tantrums they bring along. 

Are you one of them? 

When your child is at home all day - do they keep throwing tantrums? 

Of course that is extremely exhausting. 

So what can you do? 

Follow the 5H formula for HAPPY HOLIDAYS 

Save it now!! 

The 1st H is HABIT 

Don't make the mistake of letting go of routines completely 
Let your child stick to their usual hygiene and sleep habits 

The 2nd H is HUGS 

Make sure the Holidays are about love more than anything else.
Give lots of hugs to show your love 

The 3rd H is HURRY 

Make sure you don't plan too many Activities such that you are constantly rushing and hurrying 
Remember Holidays are for rest 

The 4th H is HOP 

Allow and encourage jumping and hopping 
If you prevent jumping you will soon find yourself in the middle of a tantrum 

The 5th H is HEALTHY 

The Holidays seem like a time for junk food, but junk food causes tantrums so stick to healthy food.
Make crunchy and chewy snacks with healthy ingredients. 
This will reduce tantrums 

Type 5H and Save the 5H formula NOW for enjoyable Holidays. 

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Published on April 04, 2024 03:43

March 31, 2024

Does your child LOVE junk food?


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Does your child LOVE junk food?

Does your child keep asking for junk food?

Does your child refuse to eat healthy food?

Do you worry that your child’s love for junk food is starting to look like JUNK FOOD ADDICTION?

Then this is what you need to do to reduce your child’s love for junk food

1. Don’t give junk food as a REWARD.

Never tell your child – 
“I will give you a chocolate if you do…….”
“I will take you for pizza if you get …..marks” 
Junk food is addicting because it triggers off the reward pathway of the brain and makes your child feel good. This feeling makes your child eat more and more junk food.
When you give junk food as a reward – you make this worse.
Your child now begins to equate junk food with (a) Rewards (b) Your love (c) Your approval
This increases their addiction. 

2. Don’t give junk food to END A TANTRUM.

When your child throws a tantrum – they need your love to calm down. When you give them a chocolate during the tantrum – they begin to think that junk food is love.
This makes them love junk food.

3. Don’t give junk food when your child REFUSES TO EAT HEALTHY FOOD

When children refuse to eat – they often do it to feel powerful.
In a world where they are so small that they have no power and no right to make any decision – they show their power by refusing to eat.
When we give them junk food at this point so that they eat “something” they begin to associate junk food with power and victory.
This makes them love junk food.

Don’t make these mistakes.

Type FOOD and make these changes now.

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Published on March 31, 2024 23:27