Debmita Dutta's Blog, page 28
April 18, 2024
Iron deficiency can affect brain development
âIron deficiency can affect brain development
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Growing children are at high risk of developing iron deficiency
Here is a list of some iron rich foods that you can give your child
Leaves of â Spinach, Amranth, Beet, Cauliflower, Keerai, Mustard, Parsley, Radish,
Turnip
Chickpeas, cowpeas, horse gram, soyabean and peas
Rice bran, wheat germ, bajra (pearl millet) and samai (little millet).
Garden cress seeds (aliv), Niger seeds, gingelly seeds and mustard seeds
Dates and pistachios.
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April 17, 2024
Do you get angry and irritated when your child argues?
Do you get angry and irritated when your child argues?
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That is a mistake
It is very convenient to have an obedient child who agrees and obeys all the time.
But that is not good for your child
.
When your child argues â they BUILD THEIR BRAIN
And develop some very important LIFE SKILLS like -
CRITICAL THINKING and CREATIVITY
Yes!!
To argue â your child needs to analyze the situation with CRITICAL THINKING
And then come up with CREATIVE SOLUTIONS to the problem
If you get angry and upset when your child argues â you OBSTRUCT the development of their brain and these skills.
Donât get angry
Donât agree
Donât ignore.
Instead â follow these 5 steps â
1. LISTEN calmly â set a good example
2. AGREE that they have the right to be upset â that will calm them down
3. APPRECIATE that they came up with a creative solution â it will encourage them to think
4. REWORD their argument so that it sounds better â to teach communication skills
5. NEGOTIATE to reach a middle ground â to teach conflict resolution
Every conflict is an opportunity to â
1. Understand your child
2. Build their brain
3. Strengthen your relationship.
Type BUILD and start responding to arguments instead of reacting.
Be the adult in the relationship
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April 17th, 2024
Do you get angry and irritated when your child argues?
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That is a mistake
It is very convenient to have an obedient child who agrees and obeys all the time.
But that is not good for your child
.
When your child argues â they BUILD THEIR BRAIN
And develop some very important LIFE SKILLS like -
CRITICAL THINKING and CREATIVITY
Yes!!
To argue â your child needs to analyze the situation with CRITICAL THINKING
And then come up with CREATIVE SOLUTIONS to the problem
If you get angry and upset when your child argues â you OBSTRUCT the development of their brain and these skills.
Donât get angry
Donât agree
Donât ignore.
Instead â follow these 5 steps â
1. LISTEN calmly â set a good example
2. AGREE that they have the right to be upset â that will calm them down
3. APPRECIATE that they came up with a creative solution â it will encourage them to think
4. REWORD their argument so that it sounds better â to teach communication skills
5. NEGOTIATE to reach a middle ground â to teach conflict resolution
Every conflict is an opportunity to â
1. Understand your child
2. Build their brain
3. Strengthen your relationship.
Type BUILD and start responding to arguments instead of reacting.
Be the adult in the relationship
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If you want to raise your child’s self-esteem
If you want to raise your childâs self-esteem
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Involve them in household chores
Even toddlers can do many chores
When a child does chores it helps them to feel
CAPABLE
CONFIDENT
IMPORTANT
This makes them feel happy and become responsible
But
When we give children reward points for doing chores it takes all this away.
As soon as Rewards are introduced, your child starts doing the chores for Rewards.
The happiness they should feel Because they are contributing to the family is replaced by the anxiety of losing the reward.
The responsibility they would otherwise have developed is replaced by greed.
And to add to it they feel shame Because the chart is publicly displayed
A whole range of negative emotions replaces the positive emotions that chores are supposed to generate.
And this leads to low self-esteem
Do you use reward charts?
Type YES or NO.
Stop using then now.
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April 13, 2024
There are 3 PARENTING MISTAKES that can affect your BABY’S BRAIN DEVELOPMENT
There are 3 PARENTING MISTAKES that can affect your BABYâS BRAIN DEVELOPMENT
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Neuroscience says that babies need 3Ts for their brains to grow.
But many times, because we are gripped by parenting peer pressure.
We try to do all kinds of other things to grow our babyâs brain.
And miss out on these 3 important Ts.
The first T is TALK
New parents, especially new moms are exhausted.
They are also judged a lot and loaded with lots of expectations.
They are criticized if their house is messy, they are criticized if their baby cries, they are criticized if they donât look good, they are criticized if they donât show their baby brain development flash cards.
They do everything they can to avoid criticism.
And this leaves them with no time and energy to talk to their baby.
But NEUROSCIENCE says brains are built by talking to babies.
Ignore all the criticism and start talking to your baby.
The second T is TUMMY TIME
Most new parents are afraid of infections and injuries â so they keep their babies far away from the floor.
But time on the floor is most important for brain development.
Tummy time builds neck control, facilitates exploration and also builds immunity.
Keep the floor clean. Watch your baby carefully during tummy time.
Then allow and encourage lots of tummy time.
The third T is Thumb Sucking
New parents, especially new moms are advised by every person they know, to prevent their baby from sucking their thumb.
If they listen to their instincts and allow thumb sucking â they are criticized and scolded.
Because of this they do not allow thumb sucking
But thumb sucking is important to build emotional regulation, motor skills and hand to eye coordination.
Remove the mittens and allow thumb sucking.
STOP LISTENING to OTHERS and damaging your babyâs brain.
They will later criticize you anyway when your baby cries and lot or walks or talks late
Type 3T and become part of the BRAIN DEVELOPMENT REVOLUTION by following the 3Ts no matter what anyone says.
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April 11, 2024
Are you worried about your child’s poor performance in school?
Are you worried about your childâs poor performance in school?
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Do you want to turn your childâs FAILURE Into SUCCESS
Then
Replace FEAR with FUN
When you teach.
When children FAIL at something they are filled with FEAR.
Scolding them and increasing their FEAR makes things worse
FEAR makes their brain shut down
And they donât learn what they can do to change their FAILURE Into SUCCESS
Every FAILURE can be a Stepping Stone to SUCCESS
Replace FEAR with FUN
When you teach your child what to do to be SUCCESSFUL next time
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April 6, 2024
Does your child keep falling sick?
Does your child keep falling sick?
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Have you done everything you can to improve your childâs immunity?
But despite everything, does your child still fall sick?
If your answer is yes â then you need to ask yourself this â
âIs my child STRESSED?â
Yes. STRESS can lower immunity and cause repeated illness.
But childhood is supposed to be stress free.
Can a child really be stressed?
The answer is yes.
Here are some things that lead to stress.
1. Shouting / Hitting / Punishing your child.
You may be doing it to teach your child the right thing.
But these methods of discipline cause stress.
And stress causes illness
2. Force feeding.
You may be force feeding your child to ensure that they get all the nutrients that they need to stay healthy and grow.
But your forcing is causing stress.
And stress causes illness â no matter what your child eats.
3. Device use
Do you give your child a device to keep them calm and make them happy?
But devices cause stress.
And stress causes illness
So many parents do all the above things because they love their children very much and want to do the best for them.
Their intentions are good â but they end up causing stress and illness.
Donât just do what other parents are doing.
It is doing more harm than good.
Start PARENTING with NEUROSCIENCE.
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April 4, 2024
Are you upset that your child does not listen to you?
Are you upset that your child does not listen to you?
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Then you need this NEUROSCIENCE based 5S formula â
The 1st S is â SMILE.
If you smile a lot, your child will like you.
Since all of us listen to people whom we like, this will ensure that your child listens to you.
If you go close to your child, look into their eyes, smile, and say something, they will definitely listen to you.
The 2nd S is SYNC
If your child is busy doing something â first join them in doing that.
Once you are in sync with your child because of the activity you are doing together, tell your child what you want them to do. They will listen.
The 3rd S is SINGLE
Give only one instruction at a time if you want your child to listen to you.
Children have short memories and are easily distracted.
If you give too many instructions at once they canât listen to you
The 4th S is SING
When you want to get your childâs attention, sing out their name instead of shouting.
Children pay more attention to high frequency sounds.
The 5th S is STORY
Every day tell your child a story.
This will get them into the habit of listening to you.
The 5S formula turns HEARING into LISTENING.
Are you ready to see its magic?
Type SAY and start speaking with the 5S formula today.
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Many parents are scared of HOLIDAYS
Many parents are scared of HOLIDAYS
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Because of the tantrums they bring along.
Are you one of them?
When your child is at home all day - do they keep throwing tantrums?
Of course that is extremely exhausting.
So what can you do?
Follow the 5H formula for HAPPY HOLIDAYS
Save it now!!
The 1st H is HABIT
Don't make the mistake of letting go of routines completely
Let your child stick to their usual hygiene and sleep habits
The 2nd H is HUGS
Make sure the Holidays are about love more than anything else.
Give lots of hugs to show your love
The 3rd H is HURRY
Make sure you don't plan too many Activities such that you are constantly rushing and hurrying
Remember Holidays are for rest
The 4th H is HOP
Allow and encourage jumping and hopping
If you prevent jumping you will soon find yourself in the middle of a tantrum
The 5th H is HEALTHY
The Holidays seem like a time for junk food, but junk food causes tantrums so stick to healthy food.
Make crunchy and chewy snacks with healthy ingredients.
This will reduce tantrums
Type 5H and Save the 5H formula NOW for enjoyable Holidays.
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March 31, 2024
Does your child LOVE junk food?
Does your child LOVE junk food?
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Does your child keep asking for junk food?
Does your child refuse to eat healthy food?
Do you worry that your childâs love for junk food is starting to look like JUNK FOOD ADDICTION?
Then this is what you need to do to reduce your childâs love for junk food
1. Donât give junk food as a REWARD.
Never tell your child â
âI will give you a chocolate if you doâ¦â¦.â
âI will take you for pizza if you get â¦..marksâ
Junk food is addicting because it triggers off the reward pathway of the brain and makes your child feel good. This feeling makes your child eat more and more junk food.
When you give junk food as a reward â you make this worse.
Your child now begins to equate junk food with (a) Rewards (b) Your love (c) Your approval
This increases their addiction.
2. Donât give junk food to END A TANTRUM.
When your child throws a tantrum â they need your love to calm down. When you give them a chocolate during the tantrum â they begin to think that junk food is love.
This makes them love junk food.
3. Donât give junk food when your child REFUSES TO EAT HEALTHY FOOD
When children refuse to eat â they often do it to feel powerful.
In a world where they are so small that they have no power and no right to make any decision â they show their power by refusing to eat.
When we give them junk food at this point so that they eat âsomethingâ they begin to associate junk food with power and victory.
This makes them love junk food.
Donât make these mistakes.
Type FOOD and make these changes now.
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