Attached Quotes

“By being unaware of the attachment system. they risk suffering a great deal in relationships.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Choose wisely when you are getting involved with someone, because the stakes are high: Your happiness depends on it.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“All happiness or unhappiness solely depends upon the quality of the object to which we are attached by love.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Try to read between the lines.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Look beyond what is said to what is not said.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“People who are anxious often feel that there is something wrong with them.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Because she's insecure, she plays games by considering ways of indirectly getting in touch with Tim without putting herself on the line.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She turns over in her head every move she makes.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She seeks closeness, feels incomplete on her own, and is very preoccupied with the relationship.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“One wrong move and I could jeopardize the entire relationship.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“I want to make sure I do everything right. I can't afford to make any mistakes.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The odds are against me on this one.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“I hope that this will the first of many new years for us together.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Trust your gut feeling.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Look for what they are not saying or doing. What goes unsaid or undone by your partner can be just as informative as what they are doing and saying.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Don't be afraid to express your needs, thoughts, and feelings.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Assess their reaction to effective communication.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“It is the whole picture that tells the true story.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Is he worried about your future together?”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You have to look at the whole picture.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Let go of the preconceptions. There is no one type of personality that is avoidant, nor one that is either secure or anxious.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Even though it’s important for each of us to be able to stand on our own two feet, if we overrate self-reliance, we diminish the importance of getting support from other people, thus cutting ourselves off from an important lifeline.”
― Amir Levine, Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

“When you're excited about someone, your objectivity is compromised.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Your thinking will shift from "Do they like me?" to "Is this someone I should invest in emotionally? Are they capable of giving me what I need?”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Understanding attachment will change the way you perceive new people you meet.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The trick is to know what to look for, be a keen observer.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Without even knowing it, most people give away almost all the information you need to determine their attachment style.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You know yourself best - but just how you behave but also what you feel and think.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“It is very important for you to maintain your independence.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Being warm and loving in a relationship comes naturally to you.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached