Attached Quotes

“Were she ever to enter another relationship with someone who wasn't consistently available, she would most likely revert back to her old "obsessed" self.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Emily no longer finds herself stuck in the danger zone. Her husband is loving, caring, and most important, available.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“All these seemingly erratic thoughts and behaviors - activating strategies - had one goal: to establish closeness with David.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She kept him in her mind at all times.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She felt an almost constant threat to the relationship. She was always busy trying to minimize it by staying close to him.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Her thoughts, feelings, and behaviors were governed by the fact that David was not truly available to her.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She lived her life in the danger zone.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Many people with an anxious attachment style, like Emily, live with a chronically activated attachment system without realizing it.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Learning how the system functions is invaluable.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She looks back at the whole experience with bewilderment. She can't believe she wasted her time.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“For quite a while after the break, Emily spent her analysis talking mostly about him.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“It took over a year before she could muster the courage to sever the tie.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She'll turn into a great partner - for someone else.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“I'll end up alone.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“What are the chances I'll find another person?”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“This is your only chance for love.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“An anxious feeling that goes away only when you are in contact with them.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“They are often consumed with thoughts.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Shoot from the hip, and you're all over the place making misjudgments and hurting yourself.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“If you just wait a little longer before reacting and jumping to conclusions. you will have an uncanny ability to decipher the world around you and use it to your advantage.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“People with an anxious attachment style tend to jump to conclusions very quickly, and when they do, they tend to misinterpret people's emotional state.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“If you have an anxious attachment style, you possess a unique ability to sense when your relationship is threatened. Even a slight hint that something may be wrong will activate your attachment system, and once it's activated, you are unable to calm down until you get a clear indication from your partner that they are truly there for you and that the relationship is safe.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“In short, she became obsessed.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“It changed her behaviour until she appeared to have completely destabilized.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She met David, whom she fell for very quickly.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She appeared so put together.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“In the beginning, Emily was doing very well.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Talking about whatever came to mind.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You're only as troubled as the relationship you're in.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“By being unaware of the attachment style, they risk suffering a great deal in relationships.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached