Attached Quotes

“You associate a calm attachment system with boredom and indifference. Because of this fallacy you might let the perfect partner pass you by.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Do you realize you’ve stumbled upon a gold mine?”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Some question marks still remain.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Still water runs deep.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“True love, in the evolutionary sense, means peace of mind.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“An activated attachment system is not passionate love.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Having a perpetually activated attachment system is the opposite of what nature had in mind for us.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Having a perpetually activated attachment system is the opposite of what nature had in mind.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“If you've been at it for a while, you become programmed to get attracted to those very individuals who are least likely to make you happy.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You start to equate the anxiety, the preoccupation, the obsession, and those ever-so-short bursts of joy with love.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The positive messages become mixed once again with ambiguous ones and again you find yourself plunging down the roller coaster.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You are left guessing. Every time you get mixed messages, your attachment system is activated and you become preoccupied with the relationship.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“David's subtle indicators of uncertainty and unavailability made her feel insecure.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Each style is drawn to reenact a familiar script over and over again.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“How can you find happiness and avoid unnecessary heartache?”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Avoidants - intensify her worries and feelings of inadequacy.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Uncertainty and emotional unavailability get her activated and preoccupied, or in a word, miserable.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She thrives on intimate, supportive relationships that are stable and long-lasting.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Going secure might be tricker than you think.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Finding a secure partner in the first place is the best option.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Understanding the attachment system is crucial for people with anxious attachment style. Therein lies their chance for a happy, fulfilling relationship.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Once your attachment system is activated, you will find it much harder to "turn it off".”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The brains of people with an anxious attachment style react more strongly to thoughts of loss.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You will continue to think about the other person and will be unable to push them out of your mind.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Even if your rational mind knows you shouldn't be with this person, your attachment system doesn't always comply. The process of attachment follows its own course and its own schedule.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“This is part of what heartache is all about - the longing for someone who is no longer available to us.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The more attuned you are to your partner's needs at the early stages - and they to yours - the less energy you will need to expend attending to them later.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“If you feel unsettled in a relationship situation, all that is required is a minimal reassurance from your partner.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Unlike Emily, Ryan did not find himself in the relationship danger zone, because his anxieties were met by reassurance.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Fortunately for Ryan, Shauna has a secure attachment style.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached