Attached Quotes

“Just because you can get along with anyone doesn’t mean you have to.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“How can you tell if things have gone too far?”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“As long as they have reason to believe their partner is in some sort of trouble, they'll continue to back them.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“He still finds it hard to explain what kept him there for so long.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Shelly threatened to leave many times - almost as if she was testing Nathan's patience and tolerance.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Secure mothers were a special breed.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“There are many (yes, many!) potential partners who could make you happy.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The guys I show interest in don't play games - that is very important to me.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“If they stick around, there's a treasure to be revealed.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“I'm someone who's worth getting to know.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You naturally gravitate toward those with the capacity to make you happy.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“It's not me; it's you.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Allow them to do their own thing without taking over the situation.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Help in a way that leaves them with the initiative.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Check in with them from time to time, and provide comfort when things go wrong.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Allow them to be dependent on you when they feel the need.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“One of the most important roles we play in our partners' lives is providing a secure base.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You have a lot to lose by becoming less secure.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“We are genetically predisposed towards a certain attachment style.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Attachment styles are a function of life experience.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Are you born with this exceptional capacity or it something you learn along the way?”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“We often fail to realize what a bonus these attributes are unless they're missing.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The secure party engulfs their partner in an emotionally protective shield that makes facing the outside world an easier task.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Many people who live with insecure partners cannot even begin to imagine how fundamentally different life with a secure person can be.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“They seek closeness and aren't afraid.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“They want closeness and believe others want the same, so why play games?”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“They are not threatened by criticism. They're willing to reconsider their ways.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“What may come as hard work for someone - to keep an emotional keel in the face of threat - comes effortlessly for someone secure. They simply aren't as sensitive to the negative cues of the world.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“I have to remember how good it feels to be on the receiving end of that and offer some in return someday.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Stan's ability to handle the situation in the way he did required a real emotional gift.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached