Attached Quotes

“There was a tenderness about him that she'd never experienced with another man.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“If we overrate self-reliance, we diminish the importance of getting support.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“A strong belief in self-reliance can be more of a burden than an asset.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Have a great deal of confidence about not needing anyone else.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Belief in self-reliance is very closely linked with a low degree of comfort with intimacy and closeness.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“What a huge relief it was to let go of such an obsessive notion that set me apart from the rest of the world.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Of course you can - and you should - count on other people, you do it all the time anyway. We all do.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You connect with romantic partners but always maintain some mental distance and an escape route.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“They feel a deep-rooted aloneness, even while in a relationship.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She seems to have forgotten that, in actuality, she was very lonely and depressed on her own.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The compromise that satisfies no one.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Only when your mental energy is needed elsewhere and you are caught off guard, however, do these emotions and feelings emerge.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Avoidants, it appears, are quick to think negatively.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Reach beyond people's conscious motives and succeed where straightforward communication fails.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Answering these questions isn't an easy task. Avoidants are not exactly open books.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The need for physical and emotional proximity to a spouse or lover is universal.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Are Susan and others with avoidant attachment styles simply devoid of the need to meaningfully connect with a significant other?”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“She sees need as a weakness and looks down on people who become dependent on their partner.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You are always maneuvering to keep people at a distance.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“The avoidant attachment style always manifests itself.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“You can learn what does not come naturally to you.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“It doesn't have to be that way; you don't have to be a slave to evolutionary forces.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Those individuals who were able to be self-sufficient were more successful.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Understand why they act as they do.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Experiences are only meaningful when shared with others.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“They idealize a life of self-sufficiency and look down upon dependency.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“Happiness only real when shared.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“For several months, Chris makes it on his own.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“He's completely isolated from the outside world.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached

“I won't run into anything I can't deal with on my own.”
― Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, Attached