Introvert Quotes

“There's a lot of beauty in quiet strength.”
― Debbie Tung, Quiet Girl in a Noisy World: An Introvert's Story

“The thing was not to get to know any of them, if possible. Once you know your neighbours, you are no longer free, you are all tangled up, you have to stop and speak when you are out and you never feel safe when you are in.”
― Rose Macaulay, Crewe Train

“I'm tired of living in hatred and resentment. I'm tired of living unable to love anyone. I don't have a single friend - not one. And, worst of all, I can't even love myself. Why is that? Why can't I love myself? It's because I can't love anyone else. A person learns how to love himself through the simple acts of loving and being loved by someone else. Do you understand what I am saying? A person who is incapable of loving another cannot properly love himself. No, I'm not blaming you for this. Come to think of it, you may be such a victim. You probably don't know how to love yourself.
Am I wrong about that?”
― Haruki Murakami, 1Q84

“You don't ever leave your house.'

'People don't look at me there.”
― Soman Chainani, The School for Good and Evil

“Something in him screamed for someone to notice him, someone to see him for what he was, what he needed. Someone to take him aside and remind him that he was still loved--to show him where he needed correction. To see him.”
― LaKaysha Stenersen, Strength in Measure

“Silence is the new loud, and authenticity our battle cry.”
― Sara Yahia, Quietly Sparks: Inner Power in a Loud Realm

“We know from myths and fairy tales that there are many different kinds of powers in this world. One child is given a light saber, another a wizard’s education. The trick is not to amass all the different kinds of available power, but to use well the kind you’ve been granted. Introverts are offered keys to private gardens full of riches. To possess such a key is to tumble like Alice down her rabbit hole. She didn’t choose to go to Wonderland—but she made of it an adventure that was fresh and fantastic and very much her own. Lewis Carroll was an introvert, too, by the way. Without him, there would be no Alice in Wonderland. And by now, this shouldn’t surprise us.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Any parent would be dismayed to think that this was their child’s experience of learning, of socializing, and of herself. Maya is an introvert; she is out of her element in a noisy and overstimulating classroom where lessons are taught in large groups. Her teacher told me that she’d do much better in a school with a calm atmosphere where she could work with other kids who are “equally hardworking and attentive to detail,” and where a larger portion of the day would involve independent work. Maya needs to learn to assert herself in groups, of course, but will experiences like the one I witnessed teach her this skill? The truth is that many schools are designed for extroverts. Introverts need different kinds of instruction from extroverts, write College of William and Mary education scholars Jill Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig. And too often, “very little is made available to that learner except constant advice on becoming more social and gregarious.” We tend to forget that there’s nothing sacrosanct about learning in large group classrooms, and that we organize students this way not because it’s the best way to learn but because it’s cost-efficient, and what else would we do with our children while the grown-ups are at work? If your child prefers to work autonomously and socialize one-on-one, there’s nothing wrong with her; she just happens not to fit the prevailing model. The purpose of school should be to prepare kids for the rest of their lives, but too often what kids need to be prepared for is surviving the school day itself. The school environment can be highly unnatural, especially from the perspective of an introverted child who loves to work intensely on projects he cares about, and hang out with one or two friends at a time. In the morning, the door to the bus opens and discharges its occupants in a noisy, jostling mass. Academic classes are dominated by group discussions in which a teacher prods him to speak up. He eats lunch in the cacophonous din of the cafeteria, where he has to jockey for a place at a crowded table. Worst of all, there’s little time to think or create. The structure of the day is almost guaranteed to sap his energy rather than stimulate it. Why do we accept this one-size-fits-all situation as a given when we know perfectly well that adults don’t organize themselves this way? We often marvel at how introverted, geeky kids “blossom” into secure and happy adults. We liken it to a metamorphosis. However, maybe it’s not the children who change but their environments. As adults, they get to select the careers, spouses, and social circles that suit them. They don’t have to live in whatever culture they’re plunked into. Research from a field known as “person-environment fit” shows that people flourish when, in the words of psychologist Brian Little, they’re “engaged in occupations, roles or settings that are concordant with their personalities.” The inverse is also true: kids stop learning when they feel emotionally threatened.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“It’s too much peopling and it’s draining. I need to be alone to recharge.”
― Pamela M. Kelley, Nantucket Neighbors

“Mi ritroverò accerchiato da persone che si chiedono a vicenda perché me ne stia in un angolo senza rivolgere parola a nessuno. Io mi sto divertendo ad ascoltare musica, anche se non è la stessa che sento quando sono solo; non è male stare accanto a persone nuove, è solo stancante. Ma il mio viso non si piega per dimostrarlo e le persone non mi credono quando dico la verità.”
― Nora Cenere, La costellazione del cane

“The highly sensitive tend to be philosophical or spiritual in their orientation, rather than materialistic or hedonistic. They dislike small talk. They often describe themselves as creative or intuitive (just as Aron’s husband had described her). They dream vividly, and can often recall their dreams the next day. They love music, nature, art, physical beauty. They feel exceptionally strong emotions—sometimes acute bouts of joy, but also sorrow, melancholy, and fear.
Highly sensitive people also process information about their environments—both physical and emotional—unusually deeply. They tend to notice subtleties that others miss—another person’s shift in mood, say, or a lightbulb burning a touch too brightly.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet Power & Quiet The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking By Susan Cain 2 Books Collection Set

“If she hadn’t known better, she’d have sworn Neil was a stolid, meditative introvert, keeping the bulk of his thoughts and feelings to himself. But no, Neil voiced his thoughts freely enough. There just weren’t all that many of them.”
― Cliff Jones Jr., Dreck

“As I’ve aged, I’ve come to prefer the idea to the reality of human company.”
― Sol Luckman, Musings from a Small Island: Everything under the Sun

“Two types of people don’t talk much. The ones who have nothing to say and the other ones are those who have so much to say.”
― Asif Hossain, Veronica

“People always complain if the female character isn’t outgoing, outspoken, and feisty. She has to be strong, courageous, funny, and just…out there. If the character isn’t, then the book gets blasted...Well, I’ve thought about this a lot, and it makes me think people believe there’s something wrong with being quiet, introverted, and shy. Like, those are personality flaws, and people in real life who have them aren’t good enough to have characters based on them. Or people like me aren’t good enough.”
― J.M. Brister, The Town Liar

“The shag carpet engulfs me like a warm towel. Why can't I keep this place? It's scary out there. I don't like it.”
― Kaci Lane, Queen of my Double-Wide Trailer: A Sweet Southern Romantic Comedy

“You belong and this space is for you”
― Janna Cachola

“So, two closed books living together.” He closes his hands together, a teaspoon in one, and smiles. “Voilà. A house of no words.”
― Lia Louis, Dear Emmie Blue

“As an introvert, going home and sitting on my couch often appeals to me more than going to a breakfast, or a meetup, or a day-long conference. Like I felt that day at the first hackathon, sometimes I really don't want to show up. One of the most important deals I made with myself was to make networking micro-commitments. These are the three small commitments that I make with myself before an event, and you need to make these commitments, too:

1. I will show up.

2. I will meet three people, and then I can high tail it out of there.

3. I will show up one more time.

I've honored these micro-commitments consistently.”
― Lauren Hasson, The DevelopHer Playbook: 5 Simple Steps to Get Ahead, Stand Out, Build Your Value, and Advocate for Yourself as a Woman in Tech

“I like the rain. It makes me feel less guilty for huddling inside, away from everything and everyone else. I’m sure if I said that to someone, they’d think it’s weird.”
― Elizabeth Helen, Bonded by Thorns

“Looking back on my past life I feel inclined to think that I should not have neglected sports. By doing so, I probably developed precocity and accentuated my introvert tendencies”
― Subhas Chandra Bose

“ignored the question of leadership altogether, because he wanted to avoid simplistic answers. But when he analyzed what the highest performing companies had in common, the nature of their CEOs jumped out at him. Every single one of them was led by an unassuming man like Darwin Smith. Those who worked with these leaders tended to describe them with the following words: quiet, humble, modest, reserved, shy, gracious, mild-mannered, self-effacing, understated. The lesson, says Collins, is clear. We don’t need giant personalities to transform companies. We need leaders who build not their own egos but the institutions they run.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“But there’s a less obvious yet surprisingly powerful explanation for introverts’ creative advantage—an explanation that everyone can learn from: introverts prefer to work independently, and solitude can be a catalyst to innovation. As the influential psychologist Hans Eysenck once observed, introversion “concentrates the mind on the tasks in hand, and prevents the dissipation of energy on social and sexual matters unrelated to work.” In other words, if you’re in the backyard sitting under a tree while everyone else is clinking glasses on the patio, you’re more likely to have an apple fall on your head. (Newton was one of the world’s great introverts. William Wordsworth described him as “A mind forever / Voyaging through strange seas of Thought alone.”)”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“This teacher was kind and well-intentioned, but I wonder whether students like the young safety officer would be better off if we appreciated that not everyone aspires to be a leader in the conventional sense of the word—that some people wish to fit harmoniously into the group, and others to be independent of it. Often the most highly creative people are in the latter category. As Janet Farrall and Leonie Kronborg write in Leadership Development for the Gifted and Talented: while extroverts tend to attain leadership in public domains, introverts tend to attain leadership in theoretical and aesthetic fields. Outstanding introverted leaders, such as Charles Darwin, Marie Curie, Patrick White and Arthur Boyd, who have created either new fields of thought or rearranged existing knowledge, have spent long periods of their lives in solitude. Hence leadership does not only apply in social situations, but also occurs in more solitary situations such as developing new techniques in the arts, creating new philosophies, writing profound books and making scientific breakthroughs.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“In a now-famous experiment, he and his colleagues compared three groups of expert violinists at the elite Music Academy in West Berlin. The researchers asked the professors to divide the students into three groups: the “best violinists,” who had the potential for careers as international soloists; the “good violinists”; and a third group training to be violin teachers rather than performers. Then they interviewed the musicians and asked them to keep detailed diaries of their time. They found a striking difference among the groups. All three groups spent the same amount of time—over fifty hours a week— participating in music-related activities. All three had similar classroom requirements making demands on their time. But the two best groups spent most of their music-related time practicing in solitude: 24.3 hours a week, or 3.5 hours a day, for the best group, compared with only 9.3 hours a week, or 1.3 hours a day, for the worst group. The best violinists rated “practice alone” as the most important of all their music-related activities. Elite musicians—even those who perform in groups—describe practice sessions with their chamber group as “leisure” compared with solo practice, where the real work gets done. Ericsson and his cohorts found similar effects of solitude when they studied other kinds of expert performers. “Serious study alone” is the strongest predictor of skill for tournament-rated chess players, for example; grandmasters typically spend a whopping five thousand hours—almost five times as many hours as intermediatelevel players—studying the game by themselves during their first ten years of learning to play. College students who tend to study alone learn more over time than those who work in groups. Even elite athletes in team sports often spend unusual amounts of time in solitary practice. What’s so magical about solitude? In many fields, Ericsson told me, it’s only when you’re alone that you can engage in Deliberate Practice, which he has identified as the key to exceptional achievement. When you practice deliberately, you identify the tasks or knowledge that are just out of your reach, strive to upgrade your performance, monitor your progress, and revise accordingly. Practice sessions that fall short of this standard are not only less useful—they’re counterproductive. They reinforce existing cognitive mechanisms instead of improving them. Deliberate Practice is best conducted alone for several reasons. It takes intense concentration, and other people can be distracting. It requires deep motivation, often self-generated. But most important, it involves working on the task that’s most challenging to you personally. Only when you’re alone, Ericsson told me, can you “go directly to the part that’s challenging to you. If you want to improve what you’re doing, you have to be the one who generates the move. Imagine a group class—you’re the one generating the move only a small percentage of the time.” To see Deliberate Practice in action, we need look no further than the story of Stephen Wozniak. The Homebrew meeting was the catalyst that inspired him to build that first PC, but the knowledge base and work habits that made it possible came from another place entirely: Woz had deliberately practiced engineering ever since he was a little kid. (Ericsson says that it takes approximately ten thousand hours of Deliberate Practice to gain true expertise, so it helps to start young.)”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“But don’t risk having children make a speech to the class unless you’ve provided them with the tools to know with reasonable confidence that it will go well. Have kids practice with a partner and in small groups, and if they’re still too terrified, don’t force it. Experts believe that negative public speaking experiences in childhood can leave children with a lifelong terror of the podium.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Probably the most common—and damaging—misunderstanding about personality type is that introverts are antisocial and extroverts are pro-social. But as we’ve seen, neither formulation is correct; introverts and extroverts are differently social. Why do we accept this one-size-fits-all situation as a given when we know perfectly well that adults don’t organize themselves this way? We often marvel at how introverted, geeky kids “blossom” into secure and happy adults. We liken it to a metamorphosis. However, maybe it’s not the children who change but their environments. As adults, they get to select the careers, spouses, and social circles that suit them. They don’t have to live in whatever culture they’re plunked into. Research from a field known as “person-environment fit” shows that people flourish when, in the words of psychologist Brian Little, they’re “engaged in occupations, roles or settings that are concordant with their personalities.” The inverse is also true: kids stop learning when they feel emotionally threatened.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Mereka berkata bahwa Rosa Parks adalah seorang yang "penakut dan pemalu," tetapi memiliki "keberanian seekor singa." Pujian mereka penuh dengan kata "kerendahan hati yang radikal" dan "ketabahan yang tenang.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Introver sering bekerja dengan lebih pelan dan berhati-hati. Mereka fokus mengerjakan tugas satu demi satu dan memiliki konsentrasi tinggi. Introver biasanya tidak mudah tergoda dengan kekayaan dan kemasyhuran.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

“Banyak introver takut dengan pembicaraan basa-basi, tetapi menikmati diskusi yang mendalam.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking