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March 19, 2015

Soul Alchemy with Gemma – Spring Equinox Special

Soul Alchemy Part ii ~ Be one with The Equinox, Find your Balance again!


Today, The 20th March 2015 we arrive at The Spring Equinox. This annual crossing of our Sun across The Equator is a historically celebrated day for the miracle of New Life and creation! We’ll go deeper than light and dark, archetypal masculine and feminine, the space we are in at any given time of the day and on the path of our life, we can see it is a sacred expression of wholeness, breath, living in love.


All aspects of balance, wholeness, and acceptance are soul renewal. Nature will communicate, speaking always through such occurrences as signposts in our evolution.  Always shifting with us, waxing and waning, blossoming and hibernating. Taking a moment today to tune in and listen to innermost feelings as the cosmos ultimately assists us in shaping our own destiny. If we take an energetic snapshot of the moment and really get involved with the elements, it can be manifested upon for days, weeks, lifetimes and even generations from this era.


The Alchemical significance of the Glorious Sun and Magical Moon combine and we’ll all witness the Solar Eclipse uniquely, there is an abundance of transformative energy emerging at this time that I believe will transmit far and wide a brand new consciousness for the whole of who we all are here and now, we’ll all be able to access a united mass mentality that we are not bound by or bound to our past, mistakes, losses, perceived failures or anything else that would seek to condition and block the path to balance, which as we know, is the pure journey to loving within the passage of the heart chakra.


A new wave of being is opening up, inviting us to take a further leap towards existing as fulfilled, almost bringing the self back into the ‘womb’ of creation, a centring space of rebirth.


How do I find Balance? In balance we are OPEN! That’s the shift, it’s the journey I’m going to share with you now as we trust and tune in deeply to allow alchemical healing to take place. Every one of us has a different level of balance, we just know by looking at our experiences if we are in sync with our desires and truth or perhaps coming from fear and wading through obstacles on the way!


I’ve written the most of this to you today with spirit in a beautiful place called The Chalice Well Gardens in Glastonbury, UK. There is a wonderful balancing spring here containing water charged with minerals. The symbol of the wellhead is The Vesica Piscis. The Pisces Eclipse.


As we ponder balance it feels like Centeredness, wholeness and equal parts. Happiness! Honouring of senses, Existing in harmony. We come from wholeness we’re happy and content without the need for approval which ultimately seek to block our flow. When we feel full and whole on some level we are operating from a place of abundance and that is how to expect greatness on every level. No longer will you start the day on empty or have a sense of longing and striving, you’ll feel accomplished before you start anything whether it’s a conversation with a friend or a task at work. Practicing balance within is so important for a healthy and successful life and you’ll love you and everything you do, every tone you encounter so much more. Balance also offers this wonderful thing we talk about so frequently called awareness which not only gives you access to the full spectrum of feelings and puts you more in touch with truth but allows you to experience connections and situations on a deeper level so in a sense, being in balance will help you get more out of everything and be able to give more too!


‘Through pride we are ever deceiving ourselves. But deep down below the surface of the average conscience, a still, small voice says to us something is out of tune’ ~ Carl Jung


Ready!


Firstly, Surrender to the whole of you, deeper than the face you show the world, go within to your nature and accept yourself. As you build up this relationship to your true self again your energy levels will instantly peak, it actually blocks you to project a false energy, and that counts for if you’re pretending to be someone you’re not to suit others too! The one within who knows no experience other than love is your soul. One of the greatest blocks to being ourselves is that unfortunately we have to face our experiences and a data bank of ‘good’ ‘bad’ build up which of course shapes us. We can clear the most of our experiences by removing them from our frequencies. To do this, balance the chakra on a daily basis by tuning into each energy centre as if it were a branch of the self and connecting in a loving way to the root of anything that sits unprocessed. Every experience traumatic has a storage file and to remove them, to get to our authentic core we must accept that we are allowed to let go of things that no longer apply to us. As this build up begins to clear, it may shift gradually it may shift rapidly, notice how you act and react totally differently as if you have re wired your self, put yourself back into your purest format for a deep rebirth.

Accept and work through addictions, shadow patterns and blockages as suppression will play out as extremism and so the pattern continues and roots itself deeper. There is so much honour and power in just stopping. Purely and simply, standing still and letting go.


Secondly, Make Love. With yourself or a partner. Making love is a deeply spiritual act, a sacred triad with spirit and a soul partner or your own soul. We merge much more than our physical bodies, we know we can touch each other on so many levels.  If It’s about deeper knowing then why not know pleasure and love in a deeper way and clear blockages to pleasure, which is after all another beautiful expression of love! The frequency is an alchemical act as we merge in our souls vibration and whether we are man or woman we have sacred sexual power. Power, is a word that comes loaded and as I focus now on the word power I want you to think about power as a form of truth and empowerment rather than power being something you exert. Having transcendental experiences on a soul level is incredibly balancing as it allows us to experience giving and receiving without self-gratification, making love and giving love in this way is a path to greater awareness and unity.


Finally, let’s look at intention. A wonderful soul who visits my energy regularly shared with me from spirit recently ‘ A lo of the human suffering is down to carrying expectation’ I thought about this and was show with images and feelings a way forward. If we enter into any situation with fear we’re instantly retracting past experience from our memory and limiting ourselves, if we ‘turn up’ on the same page we’ll likely repeat ourselves, so in accepting the self as a positive able being loved and supported there can be no expectation, as even the expectation to succeed is not the same as love which is ALWAYS the key to making anything happen.

If there are emotional gaps to fill you can’t help but wander around soullessly sad and lost. Get over the need to prevent yourself from lightening up and lightening the load and things become much clearer, it’s all love, all ceasing of suffering is love.

The most satisfying way to get back in touch with your own needs is to shift your focus from what you are getting from the outside world to what you are giving within. Feeding the centres within your own body and tuning into touch and feeling on a basic level. The nutrition of each chakra is love.


Love and affection boost? Plant your seeds and watch them grow. Make new plans, make things happen, be bold and courageous! If you’re sure of what you like and who you are you’ll receive the same back. If you’re not sure, spend some time getting into something new, building new paths, having more reasons to smile! On a journey of discovery it’s natural and also very important to keep an open mind and be healthily sure as you work towards your highest good and come out with what makes you happy and that’s the balance and key to your happiness.

Spend time with sensation. Touch taste smell etc. , this is the self-coming out. As you begin to come back into identifying and identity. Very stimulating and grounding. Once you’re aware of your power, your birth right as a part of you, once you’re aware of your voice as a direct vehicle for your thoughts feelings and once you’re aware of your choice you can blend all these together to create a deeper connection to you which should hopefully bring you in closer alignment with what you’re attracting into your life and then boom! Mr/Ms will show up ready to lavish and lap up the love WITH you. For you, just the way y’are.  Because happiness and wholeness is contagious!


Here is a long-term ritual to honour the power of this love.


Tune into your being. You may wish to utter a special invocation to Mother Mary, Archangel Ariel, Hathor, Quan Yin, and The Green Man & Woman. You may wish to work quietly or with dance and music! Place your hands upon your sacral chakra, Open up to the sun as the solar plexus, intend you are being refuelled with energy. Draw this throughout your entire body, in your minds eye imagining rushing charges of gold’s, oranges and pure bright light. Open up to the moon as the mother cycle and intend the healing of any wounds with nurturing, self-care, emotional expression without judgment or criticism, free will and acceptance of the inner child. Knowing that you are cared for now with the freedom to give as much love to yourself and others as you should choose! The vibration of love and giving is the purest form of magic for it expresses to the universe that you are in love and practicing from your heart in every way. The more genuine heartfelt unconditional love you put behind acts of giving and gratitude the more you will feel loved and in love with your life and self. The deeper the intention for compassion and love of others the more compassion you love you will be able to feel. Use the sun and moons merging eclipse today to be granted, in love and practice as much healing and love for others as you can, as that frequency sweeps out it will multiply and amass such a force of its own that your life will change to match your original intention and then some, purely by intending peace and love for all in your actions! Spread it far and wide, feel compassionately and give your love openly without question, That, is the purest from of Magic you can practice and one that will take us all towards a new awareness of what it is to be in balanced love at all times, raising our expectations with the universe as our guide, because that is our ultimate relationship here as we recognise that the universe is within and not without.  As you anchor from this experience remember to give thanks for all creation, anything you have lovingly created into this world.


With you tomorrow in the dark and the light!


~ Gemma 2188 x

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Published on March 19, 2015 16:20

March 17, 2015

Our Psychic Mary Shares Her Psychic Story

Our psychic Mary is a psychic medium and an intuitive life coach. Her Mary talks about her psychic readings.


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Published on March 17, 2015 06:44

March 16, 2015

Everyone has read this. Do not read it!

“As we let our own light shine, 


We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. 


As we’re liberated from our own fear, 


Our presence automatically liberates others”  Marianne Williamson


In a study, led by a team at the Max Planck Institute for Evolutionary Anthropology in Leipzig, Germany, and published in Psychological Science it has been discovered that the desire to conform is probably something we are born with. An experiment conducted with 2 year old toddlers as well as chimps and orangutang revealed that humans have a natural desire to conform even if it takes away their individual pleasure. In the experiments the chimps, apes and children were asked to drop a ball into a box divided into three sections, one of which always resulted in a reward (chocolate for the children, a peanut for the apes). After the kids/apes etc realised that they got a reward if they put the ball in the right box they then watched a group of their peers do the same thing, but in this case their peers did not get a reward.


When the original group were given their next turn the group who did not get a reward were watching them. This time 50% of the children appeared to deliberately put the ball in the wrong box (The apes didn’t care and carried on scoffing all the hard won peanuts!) Although it wasn’t that the children had forgotten which box gave them the yummy chocolate because when the children were not being watched they tended to switch back to putting the ball in the correct reward box.


Another profound experiment in this area shows the uncanny power of group influence. The Asch experiment (video below) was first used in the 1950’s but has been repeated many times with the same result. In this case we see a man in a group who does not know that the others are part of the experiment. Everyone is asked a simple question (simply which is the longest drawn line of 3 lines) the answer is very obvious but when the whole group give the wrong answer the unwitting loner ends up agreeing with the the group against blatant logic. Shockingly this is how ingrained our desire to conform can be!


The truth is we are hard wired to change our behaviour to fit in, this is so deep rooted we might not even be aware how often we do it. While this may be an evolutionary development to strengthen community it can also lead us to make decisions in adult life which limit our free will and freedom. How can we create our reality if we are unconsciously ruled by our need to fit in and agree with group opinion?


1/ Be vigilant – When making a decision take time out alone to weigh up all the facts and if you find yourself changing you decision because  a group (family/friends etc) disagree with you remind yourself that you are free to choose. Whenever you feel yourself agreeing with a group even if you know it is wrong DON’T! Free yourself to be truly you.


2/  Write it down – Before you announce an important decision that people may disagree with write it down. Explore it fully, know why you are doing it and how passionately  you feel about it.  Find support from friends and run it by people who will support you so you don’t feel alone. This should strengthen your resolve.


3/  Stalk your thoughts – Listen to what you say and think. Your inner voice and intuition will KNOW when you are kidding yourself or agreeing for the sake of it. Pay attention to your feelings and body and note down any discomfort. If necessary take time out or don’t commit.


4/ Join forces – To counteract others influence find a group that is on your wave length and who are maverick enough to support your freedom. Expand your circle and mix with people on the same vibration. Find a new tribe but still value your own unique beliefs.


5/ You are a unique soul – Your own journey and voice is important. To expand, to evolve and to create your reality it’s important to have a strong inner voice and to understand when others are influencing you against your souls calling.


6/ Do it for others – To speak your truth and be true to your heart you become a warrior of love. When you stand in your truth you empower others to do so.


 



 


 

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Published on March 16, 2015 12:13

Can I Change the Outcome of My Psychic Reading?

Perhaps you’ve had a reading where you don’t like the outcome that you’ve been told. Can you change it? First of all, you need to understand that readings always reflect where you are at the moment the reading was done. In other words, the reader tunes in to your energy as it is in the moment and based on this, can see the probabilities that will play out in that moment. Call it a snapshot of the future if you like. Secondly, if your question concerns another person – say you have just suffered a relationship breakdown and you wish to know if there is a chance that a reconciliation is in the offing, you do need to be aware that soul contracts between people can be changed at any time and that we cannot influence another person’s karmic path or their right to free will no matter how much we may be hurting or want to be with them.


Now, to return to the question of changing an outcome, let’s look at what Quantum Physics has to teach us about this. We know that the mere act of observing a particle changes its behaviour. This is the effect of observational energy. All matter is merely energy in a wave form at a specific frequency. If therefore we change the frequency we are ‘operating’ on when we think of a future outcome, we can shift that outcome and create a different one. But what we need to bear in mind when doing this is that it may not be the outcome per se that is different – it is we or our response to it that is different!


Readings are meant to empower us and are never to be seen as set in stone no matter how accurate they turn out to be at the end of the day. Also, beware of readers who tell you categorically that you are not ‘destined’ in this lifetime to have or experience something – be it success or a relationship and that your ‘lifepath is about something very different’. For one thing, this is not empowerment and for another, at the end of the day it is all about YOUR beliefs and your ability to create your future – that question of energy again! A friend of mine once consulted a very well known astrologer in Los Angeles where she lived to be told that her chart revealed the fact that she would never marry (she was in her 40’s at the time). This was not what she wanted to hear as she wanted marriage and a family. However, when she looked deep inside she realised that her soul beliefs were telling her this just wasn’t the case and at 46 married the love of her life and had twins! No matter the reputation a reader may have, it’s always important to trust what your own intuition is telling you.


Sometimes however, a reader is channelling information we do need to take on board – to stop us from going any further down a path which has to future for us or to enable us to change long term patterns that are holding us back. Also, have you had a reading that has revealed an outcome you don’t like and as a result are you either bouncing between other readers asking the same question to see what they tell you or doing the same reading for yourself over and over again with your Tarot or Oracle cards? If so, then please stop. Part of shifting the energy requires us to let go of the outcome and trust that no matter what, the universe has a plan for us and we can trust in that plan and its wisdom.


1: Shift your energy – understand that the future is not set in stone. All of us have free will. Focus your energy positively.


2: Take action. This may mean not taking action directly related to your issue. For example, if you have suffered a relationship breakdown calling, texting or emailing your ex may only result in them distancing themselves even further and/or you getting slapped with restraining order! Put your energy into other areas of your life such as friends, your career and anything that gives you joy and let the universe take care of the rest. If the person is meant for you, they will return and if not, trust the universe will send you a new love when the time is right.


3: Let go and trust. Letting go of an outcome puts us in the path of so much raw potential if we could only see it we would be overwhelmed at the possibilities that existed for us! When we let go of an outcome we can see options we may have been blind to before. Letting go means re-connecting to our wise inner voice which tells us the truth of an outcome and this is ultimately the voice we must trust. But we can only tune into it when we are in a place of openness and calm.


Can we change the future? Absolutely.

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Published on March 16, 2015 05:42

Shake up your story

Artist and father of two, Raghava KK didn’t like the children’s books that he saw.  So he created his own genius versions for iPads.  Take a look at this Ted talk and you’ll see him demonstrate the sheer magic of his work.  In a nutshell, and without giving anything away, if you don’t like the version of the story you are looking at, you shake the iPad and hey presto, you get another.


Raghava says that he believes that art is the way to teach children empathy, because art is all about perspectives.  As soon as you get that there are as many different perspectives as there are people, and you begin to peek at what someone else’s perspective might be, you have the origin of empathy.


I loved his ibook, was utterly captivated by his ideas and thought, why stop there?  How many times do we get ‘stuck’ in a perspective in our own heads without anyone else’s influence at all?  We can fall so far into the stories that we tell ourselves that we forget we are only actually dealing with one point of view and we might not have fallen into the one that is best for us.


We make sense of our lives by creating stories around the events that happen and what they mean.  Not only that, but the stories that we tell fall into patterns or themes.  And it’s those patterns or themes that create our reality – not the events themselves.


Years ago a wildfire swept through an area of California where creator of the Journey, Brandon Bays, lived.  Many houses were burned to the ground, including the one belonging to her and her family.  Nearly everything they owned was destroyed and because they were living in an area where such fires happened frequently, they hadn’t been able to insure the house and its contents.  In short, they’d lost nearly everything.


As happens at such times the area was flooded by news reporters who were pouncing on locals and asking for comments.  As Brandon and her family were picking through the smoking ruins of their life, a reporter thrust a microphone in her face and said, ‘How are you coping with the loss and devastation?’


The theme of the story that the reporter wanted to tell was clearly Disaster, Doom and Gloom.  That makes good telly, but it wasn’t Brandon’s story.  She said, ‘Oh, we are so lucky.  These are just things.  But everyone survived and we have each other.’


Maybe if we literally shook ourselves at those times when we find ourselves telling a story that disempowers us or leaves us stuck, a whole host of perspectives will tumble out of us.  Then we can go through them and pick the one we want to use.


So the next time you feel stuck and stale, or you know that the way that you are looking at something is robbing you of your creativity and juice, literally shake yourself and ask, how else could I look at this? What other stories could I tell?  Try on the stories for size, like jewels, and pick the one that lets you sparkle.


 


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Published on March 16, 2015 05:25

March 13, 2015

What is ‘Soul Loss’ – And Are You Suffering From It?

Depressed? Disconnected? Feeling that your life is futile and that nothing you do makes a difference? That you’re not ‘good’ enough? That you’ve lost your soul path or purpose or perhaps that you never knew what that was to begin with? You could be suffering from what shamans call ‘Soul loss’ – which is best defined as a loss of meaning, direction, identity, purpose, joy and genuine connection to yourself, others and the world around you. It’s become so endemic in our society we now consider it ‘normal’ or ‘one of those things’ and it sends hundreds of thousands of people into their doctor’s offices every year seeking antidepressants. Now, I’m not saying that if you feel depressed you shouldn’t go seek immediate help as sometimes we need that extra support to put ourselves back on the right track . But the root cause of feeling depressed could be a soul issue as well as a mental one.


Soul loss paralyzes us and blinds us to finding our way out of it and reconnecting to joy and our purpose for being here. Dr. Lissa Rankin a medical doctor in the US has seen this so often in her patients she has identified 20 key symptoms that indicate you may be suffering from soul loss. Check and see how many apply to you.


1: You feel you’re not as good as other people


2: You want to make a difference but have no idea what you have to offer


3: You strive for unattainable standards of perfection then beat yourself up when you don’t achieve them


4: Your fears hold you back from trying new things or escaping your depression


5: You worry that you are not good enough/talented enough/young enough/thin enough/ (fill in the blank) enough


6: You feel you are a victim of circumstances beyond your control


7: You feel your daily life is meaningless


8: You feel helpless, hopeless and pessimistic


9: You are defensive and protect yourself with steel walls around your heart


10: You feel you don’t really matter to others


11: You try to fit in but really don’t feel as if you do


12: You feel beaten down by life


13: You suffer from hard-to-diagnose-and-treat symptoms such as fatigue, chronic pain, weight gain or loss, insomnia, skin disorders or digestive problems


14: You have a problem accepting help, nurturing or love


15: You feel depressed or anxious about the future


16: You feel unappreciated


17: You judge others – a lot


18: You numb yourself with alcohol, food, sex, drugs, television, video games or excessive busyness or workaholism


19: You feel disappointed with the way your life has turned out


20: You have forgotten how to dream and feel it’s pointless anyway


If you’re identifying with many of the above symptoms then what can you do about it? As I said earlier, if you are depressed your doctor is your first port of call and please take this step. Now you know soul loss could be the basis of your depression, you can use this knowledge to augment any treatments they offer. Often our souls need time to heal just as our bodies do. This can involve you making external and internal changes to support your soul. You may need to think about changing careers. If an unhealthy relationship is causing you pain then it’s time to set boundaries, perhaps see a counsellor and if necessary, end the connection. Perhaps you need to move somewhere new where your soul feels alive and connected to the place? What I can tell you is that counteracting soul loss always begins with reaching out in some way and asking others for help. Talk about what you’re going through – even if it’s just to your doctor. Very often however, healing soul loss doesn’t involve huge and profound changes such as quitting your job or relocating. Start to reconnect to your inner voice and your intuition. Listen to what you heart is saying. Once you start to connect to the wisdom that is truly you, very often you discover what you needed was either within or right in front of you all the time – you just couldn’t see it before.


Soul loss symptoms actually offer us an opportunity to get back onto our true soul path and reconnect to joy again – if we just pay attention and treat them seriously. Be healed and love your life once again!


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Published on March 13, 2015 07:51

One Week to Psychic Mastery! Take the 7 Day Psychic Boost.

How would you like to boost your psychic skills and take them to the next level in just one week? What’s more you won’t have to vary your routine or carve out extra time in a busy schedule. Sounds good? All you need is something to jot down notes on – and this can be an old-fashioned notebook, your tablet or phone – whatever is most convenient for you and with which you can easily review what you are picking up as you go.


Ready? Let’s go! It’s this simple. As you go about your day all you have to do is make entries every day of hunches, gut feelings, insights, synchronicities, strange coincidences, dreams, feelings about people of situations you ‘pick up’ or things you feel are going to happen. You don’t have to be on high alert or seeking these out. Allow them to happen as and when they do. When they do however, make a note. The great thing about apps on our phone or a tablet is that they can make doing this a lot simpler than just pausing to pull out a notebook and pen – but it all depends on your preferences and which feels the most ‘right’ for you. Every day, review what you have written and if you need to transfer your notes onto another medium then do so. Whatever you do – don’t edit yourself or dismiss something as ‘insignificant’ as this will interfere with the process. After all – nobody is going to see what you write except for you!


At the end of seven days it’s now time to go through everything. Chances are when you read back even over a week you’ll suddenly discover that little things you jotted down turned out to have a big significance and so many hunches played out and turned out to be spot-on. If you recorded dreams, chances are you’ll suddenly see a new meaning behind them or be able to tune in to what your subconscious was actually trying to tell you.


The main purpose of this exercise is to show you that you are more psychic than you think and to develop your confidence in your own abilities. Our psychic skills – the sixth sense if you prefer, is just like all our other senses which operate without us consciously trying to influence or ‘tune in’ to them all the time. In other words, your intuition operates 24/7 and this 7 day exercise proves it. Not only that, you’ll have increased confidence in your abilities and skills as a result. Of course, if you want to, you can keep going as there’s no need to limit the process to a week but you’ll quickly see that it really does only take seven days to take your psychic abilities to the next level.

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Published on March 13, 2015 07:45

March 9, 2015

Money can’t buy you love..

Let’s talk about the other ‘M’ word – Money and how it impacts on your relationship. A researcher from KansasStateUniversity conducted a study from 4,500 couples and found that arguments over money were the top predictor of divorce! This may come as no surprise when we consider that after infidelity, arguments over money are the next most common reason why couples split up. The researchers also found that couples use harsher language and arguments over money last longer than arguments over other topics. Owch! So, what can we do on a soul level to ensure that money does not become the root cause of arguments and relationship strife?


First of all, let’s take the material aspect out of money and look at it on a soul level. Money represents an exchange of energy and also is often a reflection of our own self-worth. In astrology love and money are intrinsically linked as they are both ruled by Venus in our chart. Because of this, we first and foremost need to come from a place where we see ourselves as being in a relationship with money – and making this relationship work for us. Do we value our skills that earn us our money? It’s often not about how much money we have per se but how we treat what we have. Do we go around saying we don’t care about money – but then complain all the time we don’t have enough to pay our bills or even reward ourselves with something we would like? What we need to remember is we all have a ‘story’ around our money – and so does our partner. But we can run into trouble if our stories differ. For example, if one person believes that money is to be spent and enjoyed and has an ‘easy come, easy go’ attitude to it, but the other person believes in being more cautious with their money and saving for a ‘rainy day’ – then we can see how conflicts could arise. Some people also see money as a means of manipulation and control – and if this happens it is important to understand this is not about money – but about a deep-seated sense of insecurity in the relationship. We can sometimes see this played out when the balance of earning power suddenly shifts with one partner (usually the woman) suddenly earning more than her partner.


Another factor is that many couples avoid discussing money as they see this as ‘unromantic’. Well, divorce or relationship breakdown is about as unromantic as you can get. Because our money is linked to our sense of self-worth we also often avoid discussing it as we are afraid our partners will judge or criticise us if we admit to having a few issues around budgeting or spending. However, if we first and foremost take responsibility for working on our own relationship with our money, then being honest with our partner about financial issues starts to become that much more easier.


Value yourself as a person and your skills first and foremost – money can’t buy the unique person you are.


Start to keep track of what you spend your money on. See what proportion of your money goes on housing, utilities, food and essentials and what you do with whatever is left over. Don’t judge this at first, just observe as if you are just there to audit your own life. Once you see where the money goes over the following couple of months, are there any patterns you were unaware of or changes you might make as a result?


Talk about money with your partner and be honest. Are you a spender or a saver? If you have radically different stories around your money discuss how aspects of each of your ‘money stories’ can be used to create a joint one that can help you both. Don’t wait until an argument over money surfaces to do this – talk about it when you are both happy and relaxed.


Above all, understand you are not your money and how much (or little) you have does not reflect your value in a relationship or to your partner – but your relationship to your money can.

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Published on March 09, 2015 19:39