Tina Brescanu's Blog, page 2
April 9, 2015
Were You Sent(enced) to School?
When Tina was 7 she ran home the first day of school as she was told to start competing against her classmates, for life.
When Swedish, Irish based author Tina Brescanu was 7 she ran home the first day of school as she was told to start competing against her classmates, for life. No nurturing of the human spirit just plain competition.
So the question to ask ourselves may be, 'Is school an anti-child institution, a control centre where forced teaching and competition is part of keeping students docile, passive and non-questioning?'
For many sensitive children like Tina this was the beginning of a very long roller coaster ride.
She used laughter as a life-saving mechanism and always investigated what she had been told was a fact.
Two teachers ventured further than the education plan; her Swedish teacher and her English teacher.
They nurtured her passion for storytelling, for words, for language and despite leaving school early, going on to learn more from life, she still gives thanks to these two extraordinary teachers.
Succumbing to the deep sleep of adulthood, she was awoken many years later by her two children. They reminded her of her love of writing. This was her first story; it’s a story for unconventional children and young people with deep hearts.
When Swedish, Irish based author Tina Brescanu was 7 she ran home the first day of school as she was told to start competing against her classmates, for life. No nurturing of the human spirit just plain competition.
So the question to ask ourselves may be, 'Is school an anti-child institution, a control centre where forced teaching and competition is part of keeping students docile, passive and non-questioning?'
For many sensitive children like Tina this was the beginning of a very long roller coaster ride.
She used laughter as a life-saving mechanism and always investigated what she had been told was a fact.
Two teachers ventured further than the education plan; her Swedish teacher and her English teacher.
They nurtured her passion for storytelling, for words, for language and despite leaving school early, going on to learn more from life, she still gives thanks to these two extraordinary teachers.
Succumbing to the deep sleep of adulthood, she was awoken many years later by her two children. They reminded her of her love of writing. This was her first story; it’s a story for unconventional children and young people with deep hearts.
March 8, 2015
Yes, you can have sex for fun
You can have sex for fun, sex for comfort, sex for a special occasion, unexpected sex, random one night stand, sex with an ex, sexting with a stranger, appointment sex and spirit is still involved, love is still involved, this nonsense that we have sex for fun because we hate ourselves is cultural bs, but I agree that to have sex you usually need a connection, it doesn't always have to be lovemaking, sometimes fucking is just the thing. If I want to eat sugary, fatty food but deny myself the pleasure of fulfilling my hunger because it's not the best choice for me I'm not loving.
Sex and sexual love are forces for good, sex enhance life, sex open spiritual awareness, yes even change the world. The erotic pathway is not everyone’s pathway but it’s a spiritual way nevertheless, if chosen not if forced, some have more to share than others. It’s wrong to teach that only sex in a committed relationship is good, all sex if desired and chosen is good, our programming is wrong. I’m married, bisexual and poly, it took me a lifetime to come out.
Sex and sexual love are forces for good, sex enhance life, sex open spiritual awareness, yes even change the world. The erotic pathway is not everyone’s pathway but it’s a spiritual way nevertheless, if chosen not if forced, some have more to share than others. It’s wrong to teach that only sex in a committed relationship is good, all sex if desired and chosen is good, our programming is wrong. I’m married, bisexual and poly, it took me a lifetime to come out.
March 5, 2015
Favourite Fictional Character
I love Astrid Lindgren, and especially Pippi. When I did a reading in my children’s school they thought Pippi was a boy because of her boldness. Growing up with Pippi saved my life. Thank you, Astrid Lindgren for always championing children, for creating non-typical children heroes and for spreading the recipe of a happy childhood around the world: love, love and more love.
Pippi's sense of humour is one of her strengths:
(Excerpt: "Are you the girl who's moved into Villekulla Cottage?" asked one of the policemen.
"Not me!" said Pippi. I'm her very small aunt who lives on the third floor at the other end of the town." She only said this because she wanted to have a bit of fun with the policemen. But they didn't think it was the least bit funny. They told her not to try to be so clever. And then they explained that kind people in the town had arranged for her to be placed in a Children's Home.
"I'm already in a Children's Home," said Pippi.
"What's that? Is it already arranged?" asked the policemen. "Which Children's Home is that?"
"This one," said Pippi proudly. "I'm a child, and this is my home. There aren't any grown-ups living here, so I think that makes it a Children's Home.")
I also love Lisbet Salander, such a wonderfully weird character, just like my sister.
Pippi's sense of humour is one of her strengths:
(Excerpt: "Are you the girl who's moved into Villekulla Cottage?" asked one of the policemen.
"Not me!" said Pippi. I'm her very small aunt who lives on the third floor at the other end of the town." She only said this because she wanted to have a bit of fun with the policemen. But they didn't think it was the least bit funny. They told her not to try to be so clever. And then they explained that kind people in the town had arranged for her to be placed in a Children's Home.
"I'm already in a Children's Home," said Pippi.
"What's that? Is it already arranged?" asked the policemen. "Which Children's Home is that?"
"This one," said Pippi proudly. "I'm a child, and this is my home. There aren't any grown-ups living here, so I think that makes it a Children's Home.")
I also love Lisbet Salander, such a wonderfully weird character, just like my sister.
February 21, 2015
Stories are a Necessity of Life
Your life lived is a story. Stories help us understand ourselves and others. Stories help us face our fear, understand differences, and help give answers to the great questions of life
People who have died all live on in the stories that we tell, the stories that we share, they don’t really die until the last person remembering them dies. Stories are one way of demonstrating that life is ever continuous.
Storytelling is a universal across culture and history. Stories helps us understand what’s happening in our communities and can also act as a training ground, how to interact, different customs and rules of society, empathy, reactions to the story told by others teaches us empathy and compassion and an ever changing code of moral, the imaginary world we go to while hearing a story is vital for our health, act as practice for real life.
The great tales and legends give not only relief from everyday darkness, but also pleasure and enchantment, the power to bring a hush to a room, a catch to the breath, a leap to the curious heart, with the simple words “Once upon a no time”.
People who have died all live on in the stories that we tell, the stories that we share, they don’t really die until the last person remembering them dies. Stories are one way of demonstrating that life is ever continuous.
Storytelling is a universal across culture and history. Stories helps us understand what’s happening in our communities and can also act as a training ground, how to interact, different customs and rules of society, empathy, reactions to the story told by others teaches us empathy and compassion and an ever changing code of moral, the imaginary world we go to while hearing a story is vital for our health, act as practice for real life.
The great tales and legends give not only relief from everyday darkness, but also pleasure and enchantment, the power to bring a hush to a room, a catch to the breath, a leap to the curious heart, with the simple words “Once upon a no time”.
February 19, 2015
Are you flattered by words?
I've always understood flattery to be an insincere lavishing of praise, trying to please someone for a reason. Perhaps I'm not taken in by flattery because my first language is not English, Swedish or Finnish, it's Deep Heart. I enjoy the truth more than compliments if the compliments are just flattery.
January 16, 2015
What is love?
I grew up thinking love was something manipulative, something that could be controlled, but just like other cultural teachings it was wrong. What were you taught about love that you later found out to be wrong?
I learnt very early that love is a force you can’t force, I have even fallen in love with people I didn’t like. Love is completely unselfish, you want to just give, give and give when love hits you like lightning. Love is free, love can’t be turned on as a reward or off as a punishment. Love is unlimited and also limitless, you can love as many as you love and more. Love is impersonal. Love is never more or less, love is love. Love is both a choice and a surrender. Love doesn’t follow man-made codes or societal customs. You don’t deserve love, you are love. Love doesn’t die, love changes form.
I learnt very early that love is a force you can’t force, I have even fallen in love with people I didn’t like. Love is completely unselfish, you want to just give, give and give when love hits you like lightning. Love is free, love can’t be turned on as a reward or off as a punishment. Love is unlimited and also limitless, you can love as many as you love and more. Love is impersonal. Love is never more or less, love is love. Love is both a choice and a surrender. Love doesn’t follow man-made codes or societal customs. You don’t deserve love, you are love. Love doesn’t die, love changes form.
January 7, 2015
Is the story enough?
When you admire someone’s work, do you want to know everything about the author or is reading the story enough?
November 24, 2014
We have an obligation to change language, not to preserve it
We have an obligation to change language, not to preserve it. Stop force teaching dying languages. Language is for communication, for making ourselves understood. Speaking more than one language might make us smarter but learning a dying language has little to do with communication and more to do with preservation and dying peacefully is a right.
November 14, 2014
Walking and plotting
I’m an avid walker or obsessive walker. I walk every day and everywhere. I feel lucky, different and strong when walking. I walk myself endorphinous. Walking and creativity are closely linked; I do most of my work when walking, when I’m in my stride. Apart from the obvious benefits, breathing, circulation, toning of muscles, building bones, coordination, balance, burning calories, walking also nourishes the soul and clears the mind. Walking is a body, mind, soul exercise. When I put one foot in front of the other, planning and plotting is easier, walking connects me with the Earth and the Universe through my feet, walking is a whole body experience.
November 12, 2014
Turning negatives into positives
It took awhile to learn, but I think I have turned most of what I had been taught was negatives in my life to positives. I'm an unschooler at heart, an ungraduate, a two-spirited freethinker, polyamorous and pansexual, introvert but also extrovert, radically honest, an empath, an untraditional parent, and a weird friend whose best friend is finally myself.
