Tina Brescanu's Blog, page 5

Are you on first name term with your children?

My children call me by my first name, and I don't address them, daughter or son either, it's not bad parenting, it makes us equals, it connects us. A parent is not an almighty being, we're on the same team and together is always better than parents against children. Using first name is a powerful start to equalise this traditionally unequal relationship constellation.

Give thanks

Give thanks to the people who dare to be themselves for they show us what’s possible if we start believing more in ourselves, happiness comes from within, success is decided by self, purpose is found where passion takes you, laughter is self medication, life is a choice, death is a friend and change is freedom.

What's your preferred mode of transport?

I’m an avid walker, or obsessive walker. I walk every day and everywhere. I feel lucky, different and strong when walking. I walk myself endorphinous. Walking and creativity are closely linked, I do most of my work when walking, when I’m in my stride. Apart from the obvious benefits, walking also nourishes the soul and clears the mind. Walking is a body, mind, soul experience.

Pushing buttons as a spiritual practice

Do you take the time to listen to what your child is trying to teach you when pushing your buttons? This is a spiritual practice and one of the greatest opportunities with parenthood, a practice my parents didn't appreciate I might add. You don’t need an expensive spiritual retreat to become enlightened, just spend time with your children, it's that simple.

Children's Human Rights

As part of children’s daily lives, children all over the world are spanked, slapped, hit, smacked, shaken, kicked, pinched, punched, caned, flogged, belted, beaten and battered by adults – mainly by those they trust the most.
This violence may be a deliberate act of punishment or just the impulsive reaction of an irritated parent or teacher. In every case, it is a breach of fundamental human rights. Respect for human dignity and the right to physical integrity are universal principles. Yet social and legal acceptance of the hitting and other humiliating treatment of children by adults persist in most countries across the world.
Corporal punishment of children often becomes inhuman or degrading, and it always violates their physical integrity, demonstrates disrespect for human dignity and undermines self-esteem.
There is no more telling symbol of their downgrading than adults’ assumption that they have a right, even a duty, to hit children.

How many can you love?

If you love two people at the same time, choose both, because if you can love one you can love more

Is a life unshared worth living?

Is a life unshared worth living?

Experience-taking

Experience-taking, or strongly engaging with a fictional character allow us to merge our own lives with people we might be prone to stereotype and change our views. Has this happened to you?

No book can suit everyone

I don't think a book is just either good or bad, there are lots of good books I don't connect with and bad ones that I do and the other way around. I'm intrigued by bad reviews actually, makes it more interesting and can make a good book better or worse depending on view point. I have loved, loved, loved books that no one knows about, and I wonder why it's not a best seller, and not gotten beyond the first few pages of best sellers. I think books with mixed reviews are more trustworthy than the ones with only 5 star reviews. No book can suit everyone.

Write what you want to find about

The best piece of advice I ever had on writing was, write about what you want to find out about