Leon Scott Baxter's Blog, page 32
March 27, 2012
March 26, 2012
Avoid a Divorce Lawyer
5 Minutes of Relationship Investment
5 Minutes of Relationship Investment
March 25, 2012
March 17, 2012
March 16, 2012
More Than 15 Million Per Milliliter, Please
I was reading a magazine this week (either Newsweek or Bloomberg Businessweek; I'd stashed it aside for this very reason, but now it has mysteriously vanished) and learned that CVS Pharmacies will start to carry a new product in April called SpermCheck Fertility. The item will set you back about forty bucks, and claims that in just ten minutes can tell a fella with 98% accuracy if he's got a problem with his tadpole count or not.
In the past, checking to see if there was an issue with fertility was always on the woman's shoulders. Women have generally been the ones who have headed to their gynecolgists to see if it was them who was the cause of the infertlity.
With this new product, men and women are on a level playing filed in the world of inception and lack there of. I want to know if people think this is a good thing for a relationship. I mean now we are able to point the finger at the man and say, "It's your fault we can't have a baby."
Yes, I know that's always been the case for women. I'm not making this point because it's now directed at men. I'm making the point now because it's been brought back to my attention. Can knowing that a man or a woman is unable to crete a baby a good thing for a relationship?
I believe it can be a very good thing…for the right couple. Knowledge is power. Once we know where the "problem" lies, we can start working to fix it. That is, if the couple is on the same page. That knowledge can also be the power to ridicule and chastize a partner who is unable to give their partner a child.
The product sounds like a medical break-through, but will it help or hurt more relationships? What's your take?
March 13, 2012
"Old" Starts with "O", Too
I was just watching 20/20, and the show was about kids with Progeria. Progeria is a very rare disease that ages children at an accelerated pace. So, they spotlighted these two, cute six-year old girls with osteoporosis, arthritis, and the like. There are less than a hundred known cases of Progeria in the world at this time, and most don't live past the age of 13.
Barbara Walters was talking to the parents of one of the little girls (and they really are little: three feet high and 20 pounds a piece) and asked if having a child with progeria affected their marriage. They both agreed that it absolutely did…it brought them closer as a couple.
Wow! That's incredible. Having a child you know that you will probably outlive would be hard for any individual, but I could also seeing it being an obstacle in a marriage. Knowing your time is limited, as a parent, you may feel it okay to neglect your connection to your spouse, because their time is not as limited as your child's. Yet, these parents saw this experience as an opportunity to strengthen what they'd already built together.
And, I believe that is so crucial for the ineveitable day when they lose their child. Having created a strong connection with your spouse when tragedy strikes, instead of feeling abandoned, alone or taking out your frustration on your partner, you will have built a relationship that allows you to support one another.
We need to be reminded to accept difficult circumstances as chances to become closer as a couple, and not farther apart. Obstacles or opportunities, they both start with "O" but one can drive us apart and the other can bring us together. As I saw with these parents of the little old, young girl, it's merely a choice we make.
