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Another Reason to Kiss

I saw the guys who created this product on Shark Tank last week. So, no I haven't had the opportunity to try the product myself, but it's intriguing enough for me to choose it as this month's pick.

Kisstixx are lip balms that are sold in pairs for about six bucks, a his and a hers. The creators wanted to make a product that not only treated your lips to safety and moisture, but one that would be condisive to kissing. So, they paired flavors that go well with one another so that kissing while wearing thier lip balm would be a pleasure and not a pain.

Some of the pairings include Strawberry and Chocolate, Peaches and Cream, and Fire and Ice (their most popular).

The "sharks" on the ABC TV show where I saw these guys, thought the flavors were keen and that the lip balm was even tingly (in a good way).

Here's what Kisstix says about the founders:
After years of mediocrity in the lady department, Kisstixx® founders Dallas Robinson and Mike Buonomo decided to make some sweet MySpace profiles—when that didn't pay dividends they transformed their dorm rooms at Utah Valley University into makeshift chemistry labs and created what they would argue is the best thing to happen to kissing since the French got a hold of it-Kisstixx®. With their newfound all-star level tonsil hockey skills, they are now much more popular with the ladies, and by popular we mean they don't have to do product testing on their hands anymore.

So, if you live in a climate where winter is attacking your lips and you want to work on fighting back as a couple, give Kisstixx a shot, and let me know what you think.

Good Vibrations

According to Newsweek Magazine, the United States is second only to Taiwan in vibrator ownership. If we try just a little harder, I know we can make number one! But, really, what does that mean and what are the implications? First it means we buy a lot of vibrators. Good or bad? Well, for the women who are buying them, it's good, obviously, or we wouldn't be in the top two. But, what about for these women's men? Is this a good thing for their relationships, or is it an obstacle?

Women already know the answer; it's we fellas who sometimes get confused. If your partner uses a vibrator during sex with you or alone when you are not around, that is not inherently a bad thing. It's just like a tell women that if men masturbate when alone or watch pornography to arouse them, it doesn't necessarily take the place of his partner. Men can love their partners unconditionally, but still be aroused by pornography, and that doesn't lessen feelings they have for their partners.

Vibrators for women, like pornography for men, can help a woman achieve a level of sexual satisfaction that may be difficult to reach with only her man who moves at human speeds. Guys, embrace whatever it is that turns her on, especially if she's sharing it with you. She's not using it instead of you. She wants the physical intimacy of you, but she also wants the 500 rotations or gyrations or movements or whatever they are called that a vibrator can offer. If your partner is comfortable enough to share this with you, embrace it. Show her that it's not a threat to you (because, really, it shouldn't be…it's plastic with batteries inside).

So, what's my point? All of that vibrator consumption can be a good thing for relationships in America if man understand that it's like a garnish on the plate of romance, and not a brand new meal. Vibrators are parsley, and you are still the beef stroganoff (metaphorically speaking, of course). Allow her to share with you with feels good, and she'll be more apt to accept what you have to offer. So, let's get out there, buy a couple more joysticks and put a little distance between us and Taiwan!

About to Give Up on 7 Years……….

Featured Author

Just learned that I am the featured author at my publishing house this week (http://www.cedarfortbooks.com/events/...).

Silence Is Golden

[image error]The last silent film to win an Oscar for Best Picture was Wings in 1929…that is until earlier this week when The Artist won the covetted statuette. How is it that in a world of extreme and overt communication with Twitter, FaceBook, cell phones, and Skye, a film that has virtually no talking can make us fall in love with it? Can we really be so drawn to something that we have to work so hard at to understand? I mean we have to read subtitles, pay attention to facial expressions and body movements, as well as key in on music and sounds.

Will it work with our relationships? I challenge you to create your own day of silence in your relationship. Can you go a day with your partner without actually speaking? Sure, you can text, email, and even scrawl to one another. But, can you still make your connection interesting? What sounds will you use, what music to bring you closer? How will you dress? What facial expressions will you use? What about body movements?

If the Academy can fall in love with a silent film, your challenge is to make your partner fall deeper in love with you using silence and creativity. Sit down together. Choose a day. And, turn off the volume. And as in The Artist, at the end of this experiment, feel free to say your first words to each other for the day, but don't be surprised if that takes away from the mystique you've created the rest of the day.

If you take this challenge, please share your experience with us. Now, hush!

 

Lost and Confused

"Untie the Knot" Parties

In article in Newsweek this week talks about the sudden popularity of divorce parties. Celebrities like  model Karen Elson and rocker Jack White have celebrity the end of their nuptials by throwing a "good-Bye" Party of sorts…good-bye to "us". There's now even an industry for this type of celebration. You've got wedding planners. Why not divorce planners? I mean, we already have the actual planners of divorces; they're called lawyers. but, I'm talking about the "reception." Sites like DivorcePartyPlanner.com are getting more clients and more coverage in the media.

So, what's the deal? Why are we able to celebrate this once stigmatized event? What's happening is that couples are excited to move on and get out of the relationship that they feel is slowing them down. both parties agree that it's a good move, so before they get to the point of hatred, they celebrate their choice together, a choice that holds hope and promise in the future, a choice they make together. Sounds a bit like marriage, eh?

See, it used to be that getting divorced was an embarrassment. So, couples that didn't want to stay together, often stayed just to avoid having to go through a divorce. but, those that finally chose to end the marriage, were usually at their wits' end and had already gotten to the point of hating their spouse. So, there was no celebration in their souls.

Today, divorce is as common as ordering a burger with the pickles on the side, although not nearly as easy or as affordable. So, couples are getting out before they can no longer stand their partners. Therefore, they feel good celebrating the end of this chapter in their lives.

I am all for divorced couples ending amicably and if they can remain friends, all the better. The problem I have is that divorce parties are on the rise, because divorce is so common. We're getting out of marriages the way teens break up in high school. No big deal. I think this is a problem, because the idea of marriage is an idea of finality. What if you don't want to be with someone forever? I have no problem with that, but then remove marriage from the equation. We need to either take closer looks at our relationships and have longer engagements before we tie the knot, or we need to work harder once we are in the relationship to make it last.

Yes, I know. Not all marriages will last, but we need to do our homework before we say "I do" to be sure we really do, as well as invest in the marriage while we are in it, so we can avoid having to throw a divorce party. But, if we do all we can and divorce is inevitable, I think the divorce soiree is a great way to end the marriage on a positive note.

Can My Relationship Be Saved?

Can My Relatiosnhip Be Saved?

Kissing for the Record

University of California seniors, Alina Evans and Paul Fremeau, may have just kissed themselves into the record books. And, I was there to see it for myself. The couple were a part of a Valentine's Day event I organized for a charity called Kidz for a Cure, which culminated on February 14th with a kiss off. The couple competed against another duo to see which could land the most kisses in one minute and set the Guinness World Record.

The young couple landed 254 smooches in 60 seconds, surpassing their competition by an outstanding 40 kisses. I was a judge; so I was right in there making sure every kiss was separate from the next, while trying to keep count of the jackhammer smooches. Most people found this event romantic, but being right there in the trenches, I saw it was work, lots of work. Fremeau held his partner's head in his hands as he pecked her forehead over and over. You could see the strain on his neck and the stumble in his rhythm at times. When it was over, he said he had felt the rush of adrenaline, that his heart was racing and that his neck was sore.

I found this a metaphor for relationships. What may look romantic to some really does take work. And there is sacrifice to make a relationship work. Sometimes one person needs to take up the slack for the other to be sure all the pieces fall into place. And, maybe, if you kiss a month's worth in just a minute, you might want to take a break from the action for a bit… I'm just sayin'.

By the way, both couples in the finals were awarded a signed copy of my latest book, The Finance of Romance, and the winning couple also won a romantic Valentine stay at The Canary Hotel's 1,300 sq ft Presidential Suite in Santa Barbara, California, valued at over $3,000. I guess that's worth kissing for.