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Love Poem: C. Nzingha Smith

PURE
ECSTASY | ECSTASY PURE




Small manicured hands glide over the contours and muscles in
your back

We're intertwined in a horizontal position of love

Taking everything off

Slowly

Reservations about ourselves and each other

Cares & worries

Insecurities, past pain, failed love

Drop to the floor as if they're articles of clothing

Lying naked, exposed, pure

Able to see each other clearly

Letting our hearts reveal the important things

I feel the strength of your body pressed hard up against me

The weight is heavy



Security

Serenity

Heat

The air in my lungs escapes me

My heart skips a beat

Satisfied with the simple act of your lying there next to me

On top of the sheets

Fully clothed

Making love to me mentally

Pure Ecstasy.

Decoding my language of love

communicating in silence

Unlocking my soul with your key

Ignoring all of my shortcomings

adoring the very air I breathe

a longing so thick drips from your lips

Faint laughter escapes as I catch the drips with a kiss

Exploring my insides

You're completely engulfed

Mesmerized

Dreamy

Intrigued

Taking the time to get to know, Me.

Passion rising, my loins burning

You knowing you can have me

Any way you please

Patience

Understanding

Love

Our the key ingredients in this recipe

Stimulated intellectually

You fill me with your love

Without ever entering

In your arms

I rest

Comfortable

Complete

At peace

The experience of deep intimacy

You've taken me to a height never before achieved

A connection with your

Mental

Physical

Spiritual

Being

Pure Ecstasy is

Ecstasy Pure*

-C. Nzingha Smith
C. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.

Love Poem: Stephen Dunn

The Kiss



She pressed her lips to mind. —a typo 



How many years I must have yearned for someone’s lips against mind. 

Pheromones, newly born, were floating between us. 

There was hardly any air. 

She kissed me again, reaching that place that sends messages to toes and fingertips, then all the way to something like home. 

Some music was playing on its own. 

Nothing like a woman who knows to kiss the right thing at the right time, then kisses the things she’s missed. 

How had I ever settled for less? 

I was thinking this is intelligence, this is the wisest tongue since the Oracle got into a Greek’s ear, speaking sense. 

It’s the Good, defining itself. 

I was out of my mind. She was in. We married as soon as we could. 



-Stephen Dunn, from Everything Else in the WorldC. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.

Love Poem: Maya Angelou

Touched by an Angel







We, unaccustomed to courage



exiles from delight



live coiled in shells of loneliness



until love leaves its high holy temple



and comes into our sight



to liberate us into life.













Love arrives








and in its train come ecstasies



old memories of pleasure



ancient histories of pain.



Yet if we are bold,



love strikes away the chains of fear



from our souls













We are weaned from our timidity

In the flush of love's light

we dare be brave

And suddenly we see

that love costs all we are

and will ever be.

Yet it is only love

which sets us free


C. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.

Love Poems: Pablo Neruda

April is National Poetry Month...

I'm going to celebrate the rest of the month w/ a love poem a day! 

Enjoy!



“I crave your mouth, your voice, your hair.

Silent and starving, I prowl through the streets. 

Bread does not nourish me, dawn disrupts me, all day 

I hunt for the liquid measure of your steps. 



I hunger for your sleek laugh, 

your hands the color of a savage harvest, 

hunger for the pale stones of your fingernails, 

I want to eat your skin like a whole almond. 




I want to eat the sunbeam flaring in your lovely body, 

the sovereign nose of your arrogant face, 

I want to eat the fleeting shade of your lashes, 



and I pace around hungry, sniffing the twilight, 

hunting for you, for your hot heart, 

Like a puma in the barrens of Quitratue.” 

― Pablo NerudaC. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.

Lunchtime Love Meditation: In a Manner of Speaking

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In a Manner of Speaking, Nouvelle Vague



Listen to the song and let it relax you.

If you can, close your eyes.

Take slow, deep breaths.



As you inhale:

Be present in this now moment.

Completely aware of the oxygen hydrating every cell in your body.

Feel alive, feel peace, feel joy, feel free.




"Now remain in my love...I have told you this so that my joy 

may be in you and that your joy may be complete. 

My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you." John 15: 9, 11-12



As you exhale:

See yourself as you are and as you desire to be.

Release all inhibitions and everything that has held you back.

Envision yourself living as your most authentic self.

Smile. Take comfort in knowing, the best is yet to come! You win!



Question: What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Now Go Do It!

"We don't say it enough, so we don't hear it enough. I love you!" CNS


Thanks for letting me love on you today!

~C. Nzingha Smith



C. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.

Lunchtime Love Meditation: Ready for Love

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I'm Ready for Love, India Arie



Listen to the song and let it relax you.

If you can, close your eyes.

Take slow, deep breaths.



As you inhale:

Paint a new picture of love in your life.

Use bright, warm, radiant colors.

Invite the new picture into your heart and soul.

Know anything is impossible and there is no such thing as unrealistic.




"No eye has seen, nor ear has heard, no mind has conceived 

what God has prepared for those who love him." I Corinthians 2:9 NIV



As you exhale:

Erase the old dull outlook you had on love.

Ball up all the unhealthy experiences and throw them into the trash.

Open yourself up to the new picture you've painted.

Allow your new picture to take shape in your interaction with people you care about.

Smile. Take comfort in knowing, the best is yet to come! You win!



Question: What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Now Go Do It!

"We don't say it enough, so we don't hear it enough. I love you!" CNS



Thanks for letting me love on you today!

C. Nzingha Smith



C. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.

Friendship: The Secret to Lasting Love

"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." Fredrich Nietzsche 






Look at the list (whether it's mental or written down somewhere) of the qualities you want in the person you want to marry. Did "like" or "friend" make the list? Sure you might want them to be attractive, intelligent, successful, funny, witty, able to cook, adventurous, etc. But have you ever thought about actually needing to "like" the person you're in a relationship with? Don't look at me with that tone of voice! I'm not talking about liking things about them, what they have or where they are in life. I'm talking about actually really "liking" them as a person. It's not such a weird question if you think about it a bit. The first thing we say about someone who doesn't have the qualities we're looking for, is 'I didn't like him/her'. We've ventured away from the importance of friendship being a very fundamental quality needed in our relationships. It's a pretty simple principle, but we're missing it and our relationships are suffering as a result. Putting love before friendship, is the equivalent of putting the cart before the horse, so to speak.




When we meet someone new we have a desire to get to know them, what they like, who they are and we choose to spend time with them to learn more. Minus romance, we call them friends. Friends get to know who you really are, you share things in common, they see you on good and bad days and they choose to be around on the bad days. Friends probably know how you look with no makeup and when you are not at your best. Friends confide in you and you in them. There is a certain time and energy needed to build and nurture a good friendship. Fondness, a bond and trust are formed when both parties are willing to contribute to building a lasting friendship. Friends care about you wholeheartedly and there aren't any reasons to hide things from them because you trust them with just about everything. When love comes from friendship it's a choice a person makes to love the whole person, faults and all. However, they are empowered to make an informed chose because there hasn't been a lot of false representations presented to them that have to be sifted through.



The period of courtship/friendship that usually gets jumped over between first meeting and marriage is a vital time needed for sustaining a life long relationship. Love needs to be practiced and growing a friendship gives us time to learn how our significant other needs to be loved. Being friends first means you're spending the quality time, sharing similar interests, doing activities together, talking, sharing and laughing together. These are the fundamental things that glue good relationships together. So when the cars break down, the money gets funny, the clothes get too small and gravity catches our bodies off guard, the fundamental bond of friendship will remind and keep the two friends together in love. The foundation was laid and it will be all that matters at the end of the day. Love really is friendship set on fire.



Children often say they want to marry their best friends when they grow up. We can learn a lot from our children about loving and how important friendship is to our marriages.



With Love & Gratitude,

~C. Nzingha Smith



C. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.

Lunchtime Love Meditation: Moments in Love

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Moments in Love, Art of Noise



Listen to the song and let it relax you.

If you can, close your eyes.

Take slow, deep breaths.



As you inhale:

Block out all the negative thoughts you've received so for today.

Think of one thing you are grateful for; a person, a moment, a time.

Allow this thought to trump all the other things that may be consuming your thoughts.



"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 

And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:6-7 NIV



As you exhale:

Let peace wrap it's arms around you in a tight embrace.

Breathe out the tension of any stress and anxiety you may have pinned up.

Give the corners of your mouth permission to curl up into a smile. :-)

Take comfort in knowing...the best is yet to come! You win!



Question: What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Now Go Do It!

"We don't say it enough, so we don't hear it enough. I love you!" CNS



Thanks for letting me love on you today!

C. Nzingha Smith
C. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.

Lunchtime Love Meditation: Hear My Call

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Hear My Call, Jill Scott



Listen to the song and let it relax you.

If you can close your eyes.

Take deep, slow breaths.




As you inhale:

Allow love to penetrate the hard callous walls blocking your heart.

Breath in the healing needed to destroy the multi-layers of pain present.

Let this moment refresh you with the qualities of cool water, as if washing away the residue that was clogging your heart from receiving love.





"Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; His love endures forever. 

In my anguish, I cried to the Lord, and he answered by setting me free." 

Psalms 118:1,5 NIV



As you exhale:

Let the fear that held up your healing be released.

Give yourself permission to be free from all familiar tension that constricts your body in any way.

Open yourself up to the possibilities of love.

Smile & take comfort in knowing, the best is yet to come! You win!



Question: What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Now Go Do It!

"We don't say it enough, so we don't hear it enough." I love you!



Thanks for letting me love on you today!

~C. Nzingha Smith
C. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.

Forgiveness: The Secret to Lasting Love

"Over time any deception destroys intimacy, 

without intimacy couples can't' have true lasting love." Bonnie Eaker







Have you ever stubbed your toe, or slammed your finger in the door? The pain experienced is often excruciating and it's like it vibrates throughout the body in layers. The injury happened to your toe or finger, so why are you feeling pain in other areas? Did the thought cause a deep frown, or did your body scrunch up? Did you think, 'yes I have and I don't ever want to feel that pain again'? The incident might have happened sometime ago, but the remembrance of the pain it caused, is clear enough for your body to react now, at the mere thought. Your body has a physical reaction to your emotional pain as well. We can carry stress and pain in different physical areas of the body. Our bodies have ways to protect us from feeling pain and will shut down to protect the inner organs if needed. Keep this in mind as you read further.






Now think of a time when someone close to you deceived you and violated your trust. The injury wasn't an attack to your physical body per say, but your body probably reacted to your emotional pain. When someone close to you lies, cheats or does something to deceive you, the trust once established is quickly destroyed. Trust is built over time, but can be shattered in an instance. It's difficult to be close with someone we don't trust. It's even more difficult to restore trust where it has been destroyed. Where there's no trust there's no intimacy. Think of how your body reacts to someone you don't trust. You no longer desire to be close to that person, touched by that person, etc. Your body responds indirectly to protect your inner workings from being hurt in the same way again. You can become callous or hard without even noticing.




As this process happens you no longer communicate, share space or yourself. How can you have a healthy relationship if your desire to be close to the person leaves?  It's just not possible. How do you restore the lost intimacy? Intimacy is present when trust is present. You only desire to be intimate with someone you trust. Trust has to be rebuilt. In order for this to begin, both parties have to own the pain that came as a result of the deception. That's the first step. Acting like the injury wasn't painful only allows the pain to swell and become an open sore. Every time it's touched, you are taken back to the time the pain was created. As a result the pain keeps being recreated and the wound doesn't heal properly. If you make a habit out of dealing with pain this way, it's safe to say your filled with a lot of open sores. Your body probably doesn't know which is which. The impact of the new injury and pain caused, only adds to the injury list, and layers of pain. 




Time will allow the pain to subside, but the wound doesn't begin to heal until we make a decision to forgive those who caused the pain. Forgiveness doesn't need time. Forgiveness needs deliberate action. You have to decide to forgive. Time will heal the wound. Time will allow trust to be rebuilt. However, this isn't possible until: 1.) We acknowledge it hurt and the pain we feel. 2.)We decide to forgive the person, the act, and the pain it caused. 3.) We decide to work together to rebuild the trust first. The intimacy will show up again as a result. Remember the more layers of pain present, the more time it will take to heal them all. This process can and should be done as often as necessary to keep the love and intimacy strong in our relationships.




With Love & Gratitude,

~C. Nzingha
C. Nzingha Smith, Principal at SNC2 INK & Get Off Pause Consulting. A Solutionist & Author.