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April 8, 2013
The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing
View on Amazon "Engel doesn't just describe-she shows us the way out."
-Susan Forward, author of Emotional Blackmail Praise for the emotionally abusive relationship
"In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to stop emotional abuse. . . helping both victims and abusers to identify the patterns of this painful and traumatic type of abuse. This book is a guide both for individuals and for couples stuck in the tragic patterns of emotional abuse."
-Marti Loring, Ph.D., author of Emotional Abuse
and coeditor of The Journal of Emotional Abuse
"This groundbreaking book succeeds in helping people stop emotional abuse by focusing on both the abuser and the abused and showing each party what emotional abuse is, how it affects the relationship, and how to stop it. Its unique focus on the dynamic relationship makes it more likely that each person will grasp the tools for change and really use them."
-Randi Kreger, author of The Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook
and owner of BPDCentral.com
The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world's leading experts on the subject, shows us what it is and what to do about it.
Whether you suspect you are being emotionally abused, fear that you might be emotionally abusing your partner, or think that both you and your partner are emotionally abusing each other, this book is for you. The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how to identify emotional abuse and how to find the roots of your behavior. Combining dramatic personal stories with action steps to heal, Engel provides prescriptive strategies that will allow you and your partner to work together to stop bringing out the worst in each other and stop the abuse.
By teaching those who are being emotionally abused how to help themselves and those who are being emotionally abusive how to stop abusing, The Emotionally Abusive Relationship offers the expert guidance and support you need.
April 7, 2013
Mad Men Season 6 Premiere Tonight and I’m Losing My Mind
I am so, so, so excited about the Season 6 premiere of Mad Men. I know, I’m a big dork. I can live with that. In fact, I’m going to celebrate by whipping up some Old Fashioneds. If you’re a fan of Mad Men also, you might want to check out this fun piece I did last year called What Your Mad Men Obsession Says About Your Personality
Enjoy!
I’m thinking Megan might be needing this book for Season 6: Is He Cheating?
xo,
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It Ain’t You Babe, A Woman’s Guide to Surviving Infidelity and Divorce
View on Amazon “That night I did something I had never done before: I went into his email account. I felt terrible doing this behind his back, but what I found devastated me……” So begins the story of one woman’s discovery of her husband’s affair and its aftermath. Her absorbing story of emotional survival is complemented by advice direct from top legal, investigative, financial and counseling professionals on how to handle this if it happens to you. It shares how many famous (and not so famous) women dealt with infidelity and divorce. The book also deals with the big “was it me?” question asked by so many women (and men) whose marriages or relationships come to an unplanned, unexpected end due to infidelity. In this book you will learn: How to tell if you are about to be dumped How to become your own detective What you must do before you confront your spouse Why men cheat on even the most loving and beautiful women How to get a divorce even if you are broke How to act before, during and after court How to handle the emotions of divorce Helping your children go through a divorce, How to stay financially solvent How to deal with depression, heartbreak & loneliness How to find new relationships How to create your own best future “I wish I’d had this when the bottom fell out for me….any woman in this situation should give this book a read.” K D., Director, Grassroots & Media Advocacy, American Heart Association, Mid-Atlantic Affiliate
April 6, 2013
Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity
View on Amazon Co-founders of Hope and Healing Ministries and a married couple, the authors offer what the subtitle affirms-hope and healing-in this revealing autobiography of their excruciating journey through infidelity. Each author takes a turn giving brutal expression to heartache endured in facing Gary's adultery and in subsequently working through adulterous betrayal. Movingly, each partner describes the process of looking at themselves, their marriage (before and after the infidelity), and the changes they wanted to make. Though the Shrivers present a strongly Christian perspective on dealing with adultery, their message is also pertinent to those outside the Christian faith community. Readers will appreciate their courage as well as the practical steps married couples can take to move through such a devastating experience and find forgiveness on the other side. This edition revises and updates a 2005 original edition.
April 5, 2013
How to Create a Magical Relationship: The 3 Simple Ideas that Will Instantaneously Transform Your Love Life
View on Amazon A heartfelt masterpiece for making your relationship last–from the internationally renowned speakers, workshop leaders, and lifelong soul mates
An instant classic in the field of love and relationships, this deeply profound book by self-help gurus Ariel and Shya Kane teaches you and your partner how to have a successful relationship in three simple steps. By learning how to let go, let be, and fully commit to the happiness that can only be found within you and each other, you will rediscover the passion that first brought you together and the magic to keep you as a couple.
“10 stars . . . outstanding.”
–Dr. Maryel McKinley, Awareness magazine
“A masterpiece . . . unprecedented by any other relationship genre book this reviewer has ever come across.”
–Wisdom magazine
April 4, 2013
Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain, 3rd Edition
View on Amazon What Now?
Nothing your marriage has sustained in the past compares to the pain of discovering that your spouse has been unfaithful. The betrayal, rage, sadness, and jealousy is unlike anything you've experienced before. And yet it is possible to move forward, decide what to do in your marriage, and most important, heal.
For more than 10 years, Surviving Infidelity has been offering sage advice and compassionate, nonjudgmental analysis. Based on the private practices of licensed marriage and family therapist Rona B. Subotnik and clinical psychologist Gloria G. Harris, Ph.D., this third edition has been completely updated and gives you strategies to: Understand the different kinds of affairs and why they happen, including Internet and emotional affairs Cope with your emotions, from grief to rage Repair the marriage if you choose to Learn what it takes to be a survivor Surviving Infidelity, 3rd Edition brings you the new hope and the empathy you need in this difficult time.
April 3, 2013
Aspergers in Love: Couple Relationships and Family Affairs
View on Amazon Asperger Syndrome (AS) has often been considered to be incompatible with love and relationships, but as the number of diagnoses increases, it is becoming apparent that people with AS can and do have full and intimate relationships. Maxine Aston frankly examines the fundamental aspects of relationships that are often complicated by the disorder. Illustrated with real-life examples, the book tackles issues such as attraction, trust, communication, intimacy and parenting and includes a section on frequently asked questions, making it a must for all those with AS and their partners, as well as for friends, family and counselors.
April 1, 2013
What your Facebook “likes” say about your personality.
Guess what? Researchers can now predict your IQ, sexual orientation, politics and even your emotional stability based on what you happen to “like” on Facebook, thanks to a new study at Cambridge University.
According to a piece on Memburn, “The researchers developed a model that could predict if a man was homosexual 88% of the time, and 75% of the time for women; ethnic origin (95%), gender (93%), religion (82%), political affiliation (85%), if they use addictive substances (75%), and relationship status (67%).”
Do you have a high IQ? You probably “like” The Colbert Report, The Daily Show (who doesn’t?), Science, Curly Fries (again, who doesn’t), To Kill a Mockingbird, Thunderstorms, Mozart, Lord of the Rings, and wait for it…Morgan Freeman’s voice.
Low IQ? You’re more likely to “like” Tyler Perry, Sephora, Jason Aldean, Chiq, Bret Michaels, Clark Griswold, Bebe, I Love Being A Mom, Lady Antebellum, and Harley Davidson.
Extroverts like Beerpong, Dancing, Socializing, Michael Jordan, Chris Tucker, I Feel Better Tan, and Modeling.
And introverts tend to “like” RPGs, Fanfiction.Net, Programming, Anime,
Manga, Video Games, Role Playing Games, Minecraft, Voltaire, and Terry Pratchet
Calm, emotionally stable people tend to “like” Physics (because what’s more stable than that?), Engineering, 48 Laws of Power, Business Administration, Getting Money, Parkour, Track & Field, Mountain Biking, Soccer, Climbing, and oddly enough, Skydiving
This one is helpful if you’re beginning to suspect your online date might be older than he claims. Old people “like” Cup Of Joe For A Joe, Coffee Party Movement, Dr Mehmet Oz,Fixit And Forgetit, The Closer, Joyce Meyer Ministries, Proud To Be A Mom, Freedomworks, Small Business Saturday, and Fly The American Flag
Politics are pretty obvious. Republicans “like” a bunch of other prominent republicans, Democrats “like” a bunch of other democrats. It’s safe to say that if someone likes Nancy Pelosi and Anthony Weiner, they’re probably not going to identify as a republican. Not nearly as enlightening as that study that found what you watched on TV was a good predictor of your politics.
You can find the whole list of “likes” and personality traits here:
FacebookLikesPersonalityTraits
xo,
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March 31, 2013
Chris Brown and Rihanna Call it Quits Again.
Chris Brown and Rihanna Call it Quits Again by Lisa Daily
Chris Brown announced that he and Rihanna had broken up in interview with LA radio station Power 106 FM set to air Monday morning. He also expressed regret for his 2009 assault of Rihanna in an interview last week with Ryan Seacrest on KIIS-FM
Chris Brown never did any jail time for the Rihanna assault.
That makes me LIVID.
He assaulted her, she was beaten to a pulp, and she identified Chris Brown to police that night. It was the assault seen ’round the world as media outlets across the globe broadcast images of a beaten and bloody Rihanna.
But Rihanna, like many victims of domestic violence, refused to cooperate with police after the initial attack. Chris Brown pled guilty, and received no jail time. Many dating violence victims feel responsible, as though it were they, and not the abusers themselves, whose actions could put the person they love in jail. Abusers often use this type of misplaced guilt to their own advantage.
And then they got back together. Rihanna had an opportunity to be a leader to her legions of fans, assist the prosecution, and shine a light on how stand up to domestic violence — a crime that impacts so many of her fans. In fact, 43% of college women report being victims of dating violence. But she didn’t. Or maybe she just couldn’t.
The judge in the case too, had an opportunity to send a message to the planet that dating violence is not okay, that you will be punished if you beat up your girlfriend. Instead, the judge ordered a mere slap on the wrist. Five years probation, a temporary 50-foot restraining order, 6 months of community service and a 2-week domestic violence course.
Chris Brown, according to court documents, punched Rihanna repeatedly in the face, bit her, tried to throw her out of a car, and threatened to kill her. The judge, Patricia Schnegg, stated,”I want Mr Brown to be treated the same as any other defendant who would come into this court. That means something like graffiti removal and a two-week domestic violence program.”
Graffiti removal and a two-week program. Let’s hope it’s one hell of a program, because it sure wasn’t much of a punishment. Give me a break. That’s all there is for beating up someone half your size and threatening their life? Two weeks? I’ll bet it took longer than that for her bruises to heal.
Chris Brown, for his part, has lately expressed some remorse. But much of what he says on the matter is about how willing Rihanna has been to forgive him. Is this what we really want to communicate to young men and women?
Chris Brown, Rihanna, and Judge Schnegg sent a message loud and clear –dating violence is no big deal.
Except that it is. It’s a very big deal.
Rihanna should make it a priority to only date men who are respectful and kind to her, who don’t degrade, demean, or assault her. Chris Brown, should realize he got off easy, and use that second chance to wield his influence instead of his fists — and send the message loud and clear through his actions, his music, and his public appearances than hitting your partner is flat out wrong.
Finally, if you are assaulted, please call the police on the day that it happens. Take photos of any bruising, cuts, or property damage. File a restraining order that day, assist law enforcement in any way you can. And then, end the relationship. Because you are worth more than to be with someone who disrespects you, calls you names, or tries to hurt you. That’s not love. It’s abuse.
You. Deserve. Better.
xo,
Chris Brown’s assault on Rihanna allegedly began when she found a text on his phone from another woman. Dating violence, anger issues, and cheating, are all related to a lack of impulse control. If this sounds familiar, you might want to read this: Is He Cheating?
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March 30, 2013
Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man Movie Tie-in Edition: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment
That said, I also don’t think it’s a good idea, or a desirable one for men to behave like women (unless that’s their natural inclination.) Men are men, women are women, and Mother Nature designed a pretty solid system — one that works pretty well when we’re all allowed to be exactly who we are.
View on Amazon Steve Harvey can’t count the number of impressive women he’s met over the years—women who can run a business, keep a household with three kids in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. So when it comes to relationships, why can’t these women figure out what makes men tick? According to Steve, it’s because they’re asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. In his indispensable relationship guide Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, now the basis for a major motion picture, Steve lets women inside the male mindset; introduces concepts such as the ninety-day rule; and reveals the five questions women should ask a potential partner to determine how serious he is.
Sometimes funny, sometimes direct, but always truthful, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book you must read if you want to understand how men think when it comes to relationships, intimacy, and love.
