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April 23, 2013
Is Marriage On Its Way Out? Cohabitation is on the rise – This week on Daytime
IS MARRIAGE ON ITS WAY OUT? This week on Daytime I’m talking about a brand new report from the National Center for Health Statistics found that not only are unmarried couples living together more common, they’re having children and staying together even longer than before. Our relationships coach Lisa Daily is here to talk about the future of marriage and why living together is fast becoming the new normal.
What’s the percentage of women who live with a male partner as a “first union”
A whopping 48%, according to the report. Shacking up is officially mainstream.
How many couples who live together first eventually get married versus breaking up?
Within three years of living together, 40% of women later married their partner, 32% continued to live together, and 27% had broken up. Here’s one big reason to make sure you’re extra careful in the contraception department: 19% of women got pregnant and/or gave birth in the first year of living with someone. Yep.
Why are couples less likely to get married if they live together first? This is actually a false assumption. After all, if you live with someone before you marry them, and you find out the person is a raging lunatic, or an alcoholic, or is just not a good fit — is a more successful outcome that you live together and break-up? Or that you get married and then get divorced. Marriage is not the only available happy ending, and it’s far better to make a small relationship mistake than a big one.
Are certain demographic groups more likely to choose living together over marriage?
Only 23% of first unions were marriages, a decrease from 30% in 2002 and 39% in 1995. For all races and ethnic groups (except Asian women), the number of ladies who cohabited as a “first union” increased. Hispanic women led the live-in charge, up 57%. White women were up 43%. African-American women up 39%.
What effect does this have on couples and children in the long haul?
Financially speaking, there is still an advantage to being married. (Which is yet another reason why it should be available to all.) Over the course of a lifetime, all those 1100 tax breaks add up. The most important thing for kids is a sense of security in their families, which a marriage license (or lack of one) does not guarantee.
xo,
Do you need this book or not? One of the biggest reasons for breakups in serious relationship is cheating — and there’s a significantly higher risk for those who are living together, which is why every woman needs to know the signs. Forewarned is forearmed, ladies: Is He Cheating?
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April 22, 2013
How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful
View on Amazon Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons "wake up" and want to save their marriages. Yet, they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners' trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair.
How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance. It would take weeks of therapy to learn what Successful Rebuilders know:
How to avoid the potholes that doom marriages after affairs Critical guidelines for the first hours after discovery 15 essential steps for repair after betrayal Skills to cope with your partner's obsessions and "triggers" Ways to undo the damage from your lies The keys to avoid prolonging your spouse's agony (and yours) The difference between helpful and harmful apologies How to rebuild your broken life, relationships, and integrity
“Best Dating Advice I Ever Got”: 3000 Women Pick Their Favorite Love Tips
View on Amazon [NOTE: This is a BOOKLET of about 30 pages. It's meant to be a 20min read or so.]
Are you interested in having more love in your life? Are you interested in being happy?
Well, here's a question for you then: what do studies show over and over again to be the primary determinant of people’s long-term happiness? It’s *the strength of their intimate relationships*. So ladies – this dating and love business isn’t just an afterthought to be taken care of after everything else that’s supposedly more important, like walking the dog, getting into grad school, finishing your dissertation or getting the next promotion. This is the main show – there *isn’t* anything that’s more important. This ebook is meant to get you started on that path.
“The Best Dating Advice I Ever Got” is a booklet of highlights selected by 3000 readers from 'The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible', the best-reviewed dating book on Amazon.com (4.9/5.0 stars as of December 2011). It’s intended for smart, educated women who want to enjoy as much success and fulfillment in their love lives as they do in the rest of their lives.
The ebook comes with over $100-worth of downloadable bonuses, including instructional videos, meditation MP3s, a supplemental 60min lecture, and additional surprise bonuses that will make you richer, taller and sexier. In the meantime, here are two of the tips to get you started (to see the full list of 20 tips in the Table of Contents, click on 'Click to LOOK INSIDE' in the upper left corner of the page):
TIP #4 of 20: ALWAYS LEAVE HIM WANTING MORE
Dating is like a story. It has a beginning, middle and end. It’s got characters, cliffhangers and climaxes (if you’re lucky). So, like Sheherezade in the legend of 1001 Arabian Nights, you want to stop the story at a point that the King wants to know what happens next so badly that he comes back for more the next day.
This is called the art of always leaving him wanting more. It’s kissing him on the cheek so he’ll wonder what it’s like to make out with you. It’s wearing a provocative dress (and keeping it on) so he can’t stop wondering about what’s underneath. It means saying you find him interesting without necessarily revealing the true depth of your affection.
It’s called keeping him guessing a little bit. It just makes things more interesting.
Granted, it’s your party, too, so eventually you will want to taste some cake yourself. But at least in the initial stages of courtship, you should refrain from giving away the whole store. If you sleep with him immediately and tell him you’re crazy for him, what’s left for him to look forward to? That’s no fun. So keep your power by tantalizing him, but not to the point of making either of you miserable from deprivation. The result of too much delayed gratification is often just delay.
TIP #13 OF 20: GO FOR VICTOR, NOT LANCE OR BIFF.
There are two main characteristics you’re looking for in a guy. One is spine – his strength, decisiveness, masculine essence. The other is heart – his compassion, consideration and caring.
A guy with a lot of spine and no heart is a macho brute – Biff, as I like to call him. Most bad boys fall in this category, and although they may be a fun ride to start, they will cause you unlimited grief. A guy with a lot of heart but no spine is a sensitive new-age guy, or Lance. Most yuppie guys are Lances, stuck somewhere between trying to be chivalrous and acting tough. They will annoy you in the long run. And the guy who has both spine and heart is Victor. He is strong. He is compassionate. He’s a stud.
The Victor is rare, but he’s out there. Now that you know he exists, you know what to look for. He’s in control without being controlling, dominant without being domineering, sweet without being a pushover. He’s got direction and he’s got balance. And he knows how to take care of business, of himself, and of you. Settle for nothing less
April 21, 2013
Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy
View on Amazon Why do half the people in marriages have affairs? What problems are they trying to solve?Using actual case studies, as well as examples from music, literature, and film, Dr. Pittman identifies four basic patterns of infidelity—the accidental encounter, habitual philandering, marital arrangements, and romance—discussed how to limit the damage that affairs do, and offers practical suggestions on how to make a marriage work.
In Love and In Danger: A Teen’s Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships
View on Amazon With one out of eleven high school students in the past year experiencing some form of physical abuse — being hit, slapped, or physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend — young adults need to know where they can turn for help. Even more teens (as high as ninety-six percent) reported emotional and psychological abuse in their relationships.
This revised and updated edition for teenagers who have questions about abusive dating relationships helps them understand the causes and consequences of their situation, learn what they can do about it, find help from parents and other adults, and discover how to build healthier relationships. In Love and in Danger is one of the only books available on dating violence and abusive relationships that addresses young adults directly in a straightforward and non-condescending manner. Included are facts about dating violence, tips for how to tell if your relationship is abusive, information on why dating abuse happens, and what you can do if you are being abused by (or are abusing) someone you love. Packed with practical advice and compelling interviews with teens, this edition features updated information and statistics, an expanded resource section, and a new afterword by the author.
Infidelity – How To Successfully Deal With It
View on Amazon When an infidelity crisis hits your couple, it's like an emotional storm flooding your life – You need a solid set of strategies to keep your balance and make the right choices – If your partner cheats, should you give them another chance? should you break up on the spot? What is the best approach? – What if you are the one having an affair and are mortified by the idea of telling them? what should you do? – Is there a way to put an end to this affair without destroying your couple? – What if you suspect your partner? Should you spy on them? Is this ok? – Many real life situations! – Many questions! – You want the absolute best strategy to deal with any of these challenges – That's what I give you in this book – This is the results of 10 years experience coaching people in these real life situations – The tactics you will start reading in just a minute are approaches I designed together with my clients – I know this books can save your relationship or give you the best mind sets to move on if that's what is needed – It will give you back a positive sense of direction if a cheating crisis is hitting your couple right now.
April 20, 2013
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You
View on Amazon Do you fall in love hard, but fear intimacy? Are you sick of being told that you are “too sensitive”? Do you struggle to respect a less-sensitive partner? Or have you given up on love, afraid of being too sensitive or shy to endure its wounds?
Statistics show that 50 percent of what determines divorce is genetic temperament. And, if you are one of the 20 percent of people who are born highly sensitive, the risk of an unhappy relationship is especially high. Your finely tuned nervous system, which picks up on subtleties and reflects deeply, would be a romantic asset if both you and your partner understood you better. But without that understanding, your sensitivity is likely to be making your close relationships painful and complicated.
Based on Elaine N. Aron’s groundbreaking research on temperament and intimacy, The Highly Sensitive Person in Love offers practical help for highly sensitive people seeking happier, healthier romantic relationships. From low-stress fighting to sensitive sexuality, the book offers a wealth of practical advice on making the most of all personality combinations. Complete with illuminating self-tests and the results of the first survey ever done on sex and temperament, The Highly Sensitive Person in Love will help you discover a better way of living and loving.
Affair Repair
View on Amazon David thought his love for his wife, Lisa, was completely separate from the actions he committed while away from her. Little did he know that his failure to honor his marriage vows by having an affair, would lead to devastating consequences for him and his family. These consequences would play out unlike any nightmare he could have ever imagined. Lisa thought she had the perfect marriage until one night David returned home from work extremely late. Worried that something tragic had befallen him, she was unprepared for the truth she would eventually learn, he had engaged in an affair. Shocked, hurt, and angry, Lisa plotted her revenge against the man she had sworn her undying love to. Unfortunately, her quest for vengeance led to Lisa facing incarceration following her arrest while enacting her retribution. What impact would this have on her family? Together, can David and Lisa find healing following their actions? Written from each of their unique perspectives separately, then jointly, Affair Repair shows one couple's tragedies and ultimate triumph in seeking to restore their marriage after nearly seeing it destroyed by their own hands.
April 18, 2013
Infidelity and Marriage – Deal Breaker or Wake-Up Call?
View on Amazon Infidelity: the end of marriage or a new beginning? Readers get powerful facts, action plans, expert interviews and marriage saving tips in this book by a national relationship columnist and a leading infidelity expert seen on Dr. Phil. The stories are true. The interviews are accurate. The message is serious. Get the facts. Reclaim your marriage with integrity. Or leave with dignity. The choice is yours.
Mars and Venus Starting Over: A Practical Guide for Finding Love Again After a Painful Breakup, Divorce, or the Loss of a Loved One
View on Amazon Is it possible to find love again after a breakup, death, or divorce?
At the end of a relationship, it can sometimes feel like the end of the world. Devastation, loneliness, and bitterness are some emotions that exist due to a breakup, divorce, or the loss of a loved one. But with the help of this compassionate guide, Dr. John Gray expresses that you will survive and tells you how to find love again.
While the process of healing is similar with both sexes, there are distinct differences between the ways men and women heal their bruised hearts. In Mars and Venus Starting Over, Dr. Gray offers gender-specific advice on how to: Deal with pain Find forgiveness Discover the strength to let go Rebuild confidence Rise to the challenge of finding fulfillment again
Filled with gentle guidance, healing practices, and compassionate wisdom, Mars and Venus Starting Over will help men and women explore the meaning of loss, find their way through the healing process, and discover the secret to moving on.
