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Chicken Soup for the Soul: True Love: 101 Heartwarming and Humorous Stories about Dating, Romance, Love, and Marriage (Chicken Soup for the Soul (Quality Paper))

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Everyone loves a good love story. And we all love stories about how the love started and blossomed. This fun new book about dating, romance, love, and marriage, will make you laugh and make you cry, and is guaranteed to inspire you to renew that search for your soul mate or open your heart a little more to the one you already have. Read about how couples met, when "they knew", good and bad dates, proposals, maintaining the relationship, second chances, and all the other ups and downs of love, romance and marriage.

Swirling: How to Date, Mate, and Relate Mixing Race, Culture, and Creed

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The first handbook on navigating the exciting, tricky, and potentially disastrous terrain of interracial relationships, with testimony and expert tips on how to make the bumpy ride a bit smoother.

Infidelity

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An illicit affair… so forbidden… it shatters several lives.

A bitter wife… so hell-bent on revenge… she can’t even think straight.

Their drama-packed story… finally exposed!

A chance encounter reunites former college sweethearts Clarke Hudson and Persha Townsend after a ten year separation. In the past, their relationship was a turbulent mix of passion and raw lust. To Persha's dismay, Clarke is now married, but that doesn't stop the two from beginning a torrid affair. Soon, Persha is so caught up in everything Clarke that she becomes obsessed with luring him away from his unsuspecting wife. When an unforeseeable disaster forces Persha out of her condo, Clarke cooks up a deliberate scheme to move Persha into his house… the very house he shares with his wife Kelsa.

Their sinful betrayal erupts into an unimaginable series of events.

What would you do to the person responsible for invading your happy home?

When Kelsa Hudson faces this emotional dilemma she fights back in a unique way.

THE ACCIDENTAL COUGAR: Top Ten Reasons Your Man Has an Older Woman on the Side, by Susan Anderson, M.Ed.

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Susan Anderson walks you through the principal reasons why your husband or boyfriend probably has an older woman on the side. Think not? Think again. There are sound reasons why an older woman is sometimes preferable to a younger one. When you finish reading this book, you will wonder how you could have been so naive.

How to Cope with a Cheating Spouse

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How to cope with a Cheating Spouse addresses the questions the questions that arise when you find out your spouse is cheating. When you are tired or staying in pain and confused with your spouse's cheating, you need help and direction. This volume provides direction for those who are struggling to cope with their spouse's affair.

When to consider divorce, what about Parent Alienation Syndrome, when to forgive your spouse for cheating, how to quit hurting after an affair, what to talk about with a cheating spouse, how to fight with your spouse, how to trust a cheating wife, how to trust a cheating husband and how to build intimacy with your spouse are some of the issues addressed in this volume.



By taking the reader sequentially through a series of helps, you know how to deal with the confusing chaos which often occurs with affairs. An affair does not mean the relationship is over. It does mean that some changes are needed. Rather than wander lost and confused, you can have direction, hope and know what to avoid. You can learn from the lessons of other couples and not make the same mistakes.

Ask Lisa! My Ex is a Lying Hack

Dear Lisa,

My ex partner and I worked together for several years.  When I say worked together, I mean that in the kindest sense I can muster  — I did the overwhelming majority of the work, and he took all the credit. And then lied repeatedly to our mutual colleagues — many of whom reported back to me — claiming he had actually done all the work himself and I had done no work/poor work. We work in a fairly small creative industry.  Should I expose him?  Should I sue?  I have a very good reputation in my industry, and a long career ahead of me.  He, on the other hand, is an older gentleman, and probably doesn’t have much time left before retirement. Should I defend myself and take him down, or let him self-destruct on his own?

Hacked

Dear Hacked,

Let him self-destruct on his own.  There are few things sadder or more pitiful than a man who is creatively impotent. He’s long past his prime, and has realized that not only is his best work behind him, but that his best wasn’t really that good in the first place.  So he’s clawing and scratching and lying and manipulating and trying to claim your work as his own, but all the while he has to live with the heartbreaking knowledge that he’s just not good enough to be great — and he never will be.

He’s a hack.  He’s over.

It’s always interesting to see what people do under duress — some rise to the occasion (what you’re going to do) and some devolve to the worst traits of humanity — stealing, lying, evil. Who knows why?  Perhaps he is mentally ill.  Maybe he’s desperately insecure.  Maybe he had an unstable home life with a mother who didn’t love him, or grew up in a prison or a mental institution. Maybe he’s finally realized that women are only sleeping with him for his money, that he has nothing else to offer.  Maybe he’s humiliated that he can’t manage to get it up anymore.  Maybe he’s just old and untalented and he has a deep hole in his soul — a pathological need for adulation or praise and he’s willing to do anything (including lying or manipulating) to get it. Like a meth addict who steals from his relatives to feed his habit.

Feel sorry for him.  He’s terrified of being irrelevant. And he should be. This does not excuse or condone his behavior at all.  But someone who is as desperate and empty and insecure as this man seems to be will self-destruct in vivid misery — and it will be sooner, rather than later.

When I worked in advertising, there was a saying that great advertising couldn’t save a bad product, it would only expose it as crap a whole lot faster. Your letter says you work in a small industry, you have a good reputation, and you have many productive years ahead of you.  Your professional reputation will be just fine, for those very reasons.  He, on the other hand, will not fare as well. There’s no need for you to shine a spotlight on his inadequacies and gaping deficits — he’ll do that all by himself, quickly exposing himself to the people in your industry as the talentless fraud that he is.

xo,

 

Insecure men, and men with erection issues (seems counter-intuitive, but it’s true), are also much more likely to cheat. More here: Is He Cheating?

 

Ask Lisa! My Ex is a Lying Hack by Lisa Daily. (c) Copyright 2001-2013 *Some letters have been edited for clarity.

Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder

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Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder is a first of its kind book—written specifically for the partner of a person with bipolar disorder. If you have a loved one with bipolar, you know how disruptive and straining this disorder can be to your relationship. You may experience feelings of fear, loss, and anxiety as well as a constant uncertainly about your loved one’s ever-changing moods.

This book is designed to help you overcome the unique challenges of loving someone with bipolar disorder. With the supportive and helpful information, strategies, and real-life examples contained here, you’ll have all the tools you need to create a loving, healthy, and close relationship.



Find out how to: Identify which coping approaches work and which do not Recognize and transform a “bipolar conversation” Use new strategies to help manage episodic crises Survive the financial turbulence manic spending may cause Deal with problematic sexual issues Increase closeness and stability in your relationship

Adultery Addiction

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After 38 years of marriage, a wife makes a shocking discovery! Her husband has been seeing another woman for a year and a half. This is the wife's story of rage and sadness. Will this painful betrayal destroy almost four decades they have shared together?

Infidelity on the Internet: Virtual Relationships and Real Betrayal

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More than 75 million users worldwide engage in some kind of online sexual activity. In graphic and fascinating detail, Infidelity on the Internet exposes modern day cyber-affairs and how these virtual relationships are often acts of betrayal of a loved one.

This book describes and assesses how the Internet has revolutionized the practice and mores of our sexual relationships. Topics include:

- Love at the Speed of Electricity: The eleven types of cyber-lovers

- Cyber-Romance: Why people seek it

- Cyber-Sex: Types of cyber-sexual activities, including chat room, MUDS, private cameras and erotic stories

Lust in Translation: Infidelity from Tokyo to Tennessee

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Compared to the citizens of just about every other nation, Americans are the least adept at having affairs, have the most trouble enjoying them, and suffer the most in their aftermath and Pamela Druckerman has the facts to prove it. The journalist's surprising findings include: Russian spouses don't count beach resort flings as infidelity South Africans consider drunkenness an adequate excuse for extramarital sex Japanese businessmen believe, "If you pay, it's not cheating."

Voyeuristic and packed with eyebrow-raising statistics and interviews, Lust in Translation is her funny and fact-filled world tour of infidelity that will give new meaning to the phrase "practicing monogamy."