Todd Perelmuter's Blog, page 48
January 9, 2023
How to Stop the Negative Narration in Your Head
We all have a constant stream of thought going through our mind. A narration of our life told by us, the narrator, that never stops. How exhausting!
This voice in our head is rarely useful and is often negative. We don’t need for our brains to always label everything for us to understand what we’re seeing. There is so much to reality beyond the one-word-at-a-time narration. In fact, it makes us really miss out on the beauty and depth of our lives.
There was one time when I was sitting on a bench in a park. I was really upset at something a coworker did. My mind wasn’t just talking, it was screaming. And then I realized something that completely changed me. I realized that for the past 5 minutes, I was completely unaware of anything that was happening in front of me. My eyes were open but I wasn’t seeing. I was so in my head that I was completely unaware of what was happening just 2 feet in front of me. As soon as I noticed that I wasn’t noticing anything, my mind stopped racing and the office drama no longer bothered me. Peace instantly came over me as I got out of my head.
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How to Face Your Fears
We always have two choices in life: face or fester. You can either face your fears and overcome them, or you can let them fester underneath the surface.
I have a dear friend who was the walking embodiment of fear. She was afraid of everything: ghosts, the water, even dogs. She told me she had “zero interest in spirituality,” but she let me teach her a simple meditation. She resisted a lot at first and couldn’t sit for very long. But slowly but surely, she made it to twenty minutes. Then, she slowly but surely started doing things that were very unlike her. She started taking haunted ghost tours. She took swimming lessons. And now, she even has a beautiful puppy. Then, the strangest thing started to happen, her doctor kept lowering her dosage of medicine for her hypothyroid. She’s now on the lowest dose and I doubt for much longer.
When fear festers, healing cannot happen. It stays under the surface, subtly affecting our decisions and our mood, until periodically it is triggered and rises to the surface manifesting in a number of different ways. Sometimes it will appear as anger and outbursts. Sometimes it manifests as self-destructive behavior or addiction. Other times it can show itself as anxiety or depression.
If we face our demons, our fears and our trauma, we allow ourselves to heal. It can be scary to look at what scares us. But this is the only way to look fear in the face and tell it to F off. It’s hard work, but it makes the rest of your life so much easier. I know you can do it!
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How do You Let go
There was a Buddhist mandala that was hanging on the wall at the first Buddhist monastery I lived at. I was captivated by the details and craftsmanship. Really, the whole monastery had this level of detail and beauty. It was quite exquisite.
Mandalas are symbolic representations of the universe, designed to transform ordinary minds into enlightened ones. They can be an object of meditation for Buddhists to focus on, either helping them become connected with a deity or to develop wisdom.
During my time there, I thought a great deal about this artwork, and more significantly, the mandalas that are made out of sand that take days to finish and then are swept away often without even a photo taken of them.
There I was, a young guy quite new to spirituality, constantly obsessing about money and relationships, family drama and even the slightest discomforts in life. And yet these monks meticulously focus with such concentration for such long periods of time on these breathtaking artworks that could probably hang in most any museum, and then without any bother, as soon as it’s completed, they sweep the sand back into a jar and pour it into a body of water as an offering for the benefit of all beings on this planet.
This beautiful practice to understand the impermanence of all things is so profound and so beneficial. During my time here, I would meditate on this mandala and it greatly helped me let go of my obsessions and inability to let go of the past or expectations of the future.
But the real magic would happen a few months later when I left this monastery and flew to Thailand. My camera was stolen on my first day there in the hostel. I wasn’t so upset about the camera, but it was all the photos on the SD card that I really cared about. Until I remembered this mandala (which thankfully I had taken a photo of on my phone as well ).
If you ever find yourself obsessing over the same old thing, remember this mandala.
This doesn’t just happen for big moments either. Most of our lives we spend lost in thought, thinking about some other place or some other time.
I had a good friend who whenever we would go for a walk through the park with nowhere particular to go, she would walk a million miles an hour. She would miss the flowers and the birds, trees and the streams. She was so used to getting to the end of a task that she was never present during the task.
If we live our lives this way, we’ll get to the end having realized we were present for so little of this precious life. This is why it’s so important to bring presence into our lives whenever we can.
This can be meditating, yoga, time with our friends and family, making art or music, or even just a walk in nature.
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Why is it Important to Live in the Present Moment?
Have you ever noticed how after big moments in your life you have almost no memory of them? Like how you can give a big speech and it’s like you missed the whole thing. You gave the speech or you were at your wedding, but you forgot to be present for it.
This doesn’t just happen for big moments either. Most of our lives we spend lost in thought, thinking about some other place or some other time.
I had a good friend who whenever we would go for a walk through the park with nowhere particular to go, she would walk a million miles an hour. She would miss the flowers and the birds, trees and the streams. She was so used to getting to the end of a task that she was never present during the task.
If we live our lives this way, we’ll get to the end having realized we were present for so little of this precious life. This is why it’s so important to bring presence into our lives whenever we can.
This can be meditating, yoga, time with our friends and family, making art or music, or even just a walk in nature.
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Why Should we Take Time to Heal?
It’s so important that we take time to heal. That means not just physically, but mentally, emotionally and spiritually too. Others may think that’s selfish and we may feel guilty, but it’s actually the most thoughtful, considerate thing we can do.
This can be meditating, yoga, time with our friends and family, making art or music, or even just a walk in nature.
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How can I Stop Hating Myself?
Self-hatred is a terrible affliction born out of the false perception that you are your thoughts. It divides us into two people rather than being one whole complete person. This illusion falsely implies you hate yourself, but in reality, you can’t have a relationship with yourself.
You simply are you. Relationships with yourself can only happen if you believe you are split in two. By recognizing your true self, all self-loathing ceases to be. Don’t be hard on yourself, you’re doing your absolute best.
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Why do We Struggle in Life?
When we’re going through a difficult time, it becomes extremely hard to see any good that can come from our suffering. The nature of reality is that struggles help us reach our true potential.
There can be no success without failure and there can be no achievement without defeat. These are the stepping stones, the stumbling blocks, on our path to greatness, love, peace and joy. Sometimes our greatest difficulty is our greatest gift.
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January 3, 2023
Path to Peace How to Observe Your Thoughts
We hear the phrase, “Observe your thoughts,” but how do we do that? What does it mean? Aren't we always observing our thoughts? And what the heck are thoughts?!
Normally, we don't watch our thoughts, we think our thoughts. And we think, “I am the thinker.” In spirituality, we dig down deeper. We recognize thought patterns and we observe how the mind really works. We discover the nature of thoughts and our own mind. We practice being the silent witness of our thoughts so that negative thoughts don't disturb our peaceful witnessing presence. This can transform our entire lives and I share exactly how to do that in today's podcast
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December 27, 2022
Path to Peace How to Dissolve the Ego
Some people want to kill their ego. Others want to dissolve it. And yet others will say just make peace with it. So what is it? Violence certainly doesn't sound good. Is it even possible to dissolve it? Peace sounds good, but the ego tends to not be very peaceful.
In today's podcast, I answer all these questions in depth, as well as discuss how we can use the ego as the powerful tool that is. When we understand the nature of the ego we can identify its tricks, we can bring conscious intention to it, and we can discover the key to living with mental peace and joy.
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December 20, 2022
Path to Peace How to Deal with Repressed Emotions
Some doctors and scientists believe that repressed (and suppressed) emotions are the number one cause of chronic pain, mental health disorders and addiction. Even though we may seem very happy and joyful, on the inside we may be harboring very destructive and painful emotions that we aren't even aware of.
To deal with repressed emotions, we must first recognize the telltale signs, explore their origins, and allow ourselves to feel and heal. In today's podcast, I share how we can discover our repressed emotions and how to express them in a healthy and positive way.
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