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Empowerment Series: Dominican Comedian-Actress from Fuse’s Like, Share, Dimelo, “De Lo Mio” and “Righteous Thieves,” Sasha Merci Shares Roots with AW

Sasha Merci’s credits include the film De Lo Mio, a Fuse series called Share, Like, Dimelo, and El Teteo in Los Angeles, as well as, collaborations with Bumble, AT&T, Heineken, and many other brands.

She began her career in music and then transitioned to an art form that would offer more freedom of expression and creative autonomy. Comedy. Did she imagine the amazing things that have unraveled in her career? The Dominican beauty, says that “A dream manifested when she was cast as Nadia for the Lionsgate film, “Righteous Thieves.”

AW had the opportunity to speak with Sasha. We discussed family, identity, and the use of the word Latino vs. Hispanic. The conversation took a personal turn when we talked about internal validation and personal loss. I was able to see myself in her story, and we connected on a human level.

The Bronx native is making an impact on and off the screen. She is using personal experience as a 2nd generation Dominican to help our community open dialogue on topics that have long been taboo. As the daughter of Dominican immigrants myself, and raised in New York, I related to a lot of what she shared with me.

Before we begin, I have to ask, did you buy that house, yet? Not yet but working on it. As I’ve said in previous interviews, my parents will not understand the success or what I am doing until I buy a home for them. The question is usually “What are you doing because you aren’t doing it for me.” My dad has always been a humble man. His talks usually start with “God willing,” words that have been crucial to me during my upbringing. I stay true to my authenticity, the Universe will do the rest.

In a past interview, you mentioned how complex we are, as human beings. I have Dominican roots and understand how difficult it is to be open and honest about experiences with family, love, sexuality, colorism, and the generational trauma we carry. How hard has it been to be so vocal and honest with your comedy? Have you received any pushback from family or the community? I’ve reserved myself a lot in the last couple of years. I’m not posting as much and finding a lot of growth over time. Instead of being on the defensive side of things, and trying to be the voice for everyone; I’ve had to ask myself, am I being authentic and true to people that are like me?

Sometimes, we respond out of outrage. But through growth, I realized, if I’m going to respond, as a Comedian, I want to be funny but also, real. I feel like things can change with humor and one can address the elephant in the room with laughter.

Your candidness is refreshing and empowering. We need more Sasha and Aida Rodriguez to help crack open all the taboos around these topics. In conversation with Karina from Hot 93.3, you discussed using the words Hispanic, Latina, Latino, and Latinx. I will throw in Latine´! I can’t deny that I get confused with so many different terms but I’m okay with Latina. When asked, how do you express your Latinidad? Why do you think these labels keep evolving? How important is it to you that we get it right? I think education, having everyone on the same page and learning about its meaning is important. Hispanic and Latino can be triggering to some people and not others. It’s about our different experiences, our relationship with the terminology, how someone grows up, and what it was like during their time. I understand the need to create a new word but we should want the term to represent all of us.

I recently learned, if you are Hispanic, you are Spanish-speaking from a country colonized by Spain.  When you are Latino, you are from a Latin country that was colonized by Latin European countries, such as France, Portugal, and Spain. It is not an easy conversation, people may listen to or read this interview, and not everyone will be on the same page.

I consider myself Latina and can refer to myself as Latinx or Latine´. I am not offended by any of it. Words are ever-changing, as we are continuously evolving. The only way to have real change is by expressing compassion and understanding for one another.

I love seeing Latinas rise. It is critical to see ourselves in the success of those forging a path to greatness. You are creating content that is relatable, authentic, and entertaining. Now, you are taking on the role of “Nadia” in the film, “Righteous Thieves.” Can you share a little about the role and what it means to you, as a child of Dominican immigrants, growing up in the Bronx, to be part of this production? This was always a dream! My reality starts with being 3 months old, taken to the Dominican Republic to live with my grandparents. I resided with all the comforts of a big home and hired help until the age of six. When I returned to the States, I had to adjust to living in a one-bedroom with my dad and six other people. I did not know the language and was bullied in school, like many others. But no matter how small my life felt, I knew I wanted more and better for myself.

I remember receiving the movie’s trailer before release and sending it to my brothers. They said, “I can’t believe it, you manifested this moment!” I want to thank Jolene for the opportunity, she truly made this happen. I look forward to seeing people invest in her to see how much more amazing things can be!

Nadia is a badass! I tapped into my high school girl, tough exterior. She is a locksmith by day and a safecracker by night. The woman is talented at what she does. She is consumed by the skill and uses it as a form of expression and freedom. When building my world for this character, I saw her as someone who loves a challenge. Nadia gets an exhilarating feeling from breaking into your secrets. There is power in knowing, “Whatever you’re trying to hide, I am going to find it!” Playing this character pushed me to find out what I’m into and figure out what makes me come alive, something I loved about this character.

What is next for Sasha? Hopefully, more movies, TV shows, and stand-up. El Teteo is still happening and is special to me. I have grown from it while seeing it come to fruition. I love to see people have a good time and put their “stuff” aside to enjoy the moment. Seeing the event evolve so much in Los Angeles is marvelous and telling, Dominicans are everywhere! We show up in rain, snow, and storms, as a true testament to our spirit and resilience. There are many layers that we need to grow from but if I didn’t come from a Dominican household or had a dad that went through what he did, I wouldn’t be where I am today. Although, I don’t agree with many of the cultural norms. I can only live the way, I want to present in the world and be an example for the newer generation.

AW likes to end interviews with a piece of advice, mantra, or quote to inspire. You are creating your dream while staying true to yourself. What advice can you share with anyone who may feel like they have to bargain their authenticity to realize a goal or dream? It is a tricky question but I will say, “Nothing is more important than our internal validation.” It’s difficult because everyone wants to be liked, and loved, and when you are in the world of entertainment, you want to be the center of attention.

You have to focus on internal validation because regardless of how much you do, everybody is a critic. You will try your best but people will make you feel like your best is not enough. Show up authentically. Live in your actual spirit because humans can feel your energy and know when you are being real, this is how you become relatable. When you fall in love with yourself, people will gravitate toward you.

AW extends its deepest appreciation to the dynamic Sasha Merci for sharing so much of herself with us. It was truly a gift to engage in honest and candid conversation on matters that can sometimes be difficult to discuss. When I began the AW journey, I never thought I’d have such a learning curve. Every interview, I have done has a different impact but more than that, I am inspired by each one.

Growing up, I did not understand the importance of embracing my roots. Dominican food, music, culture, and traditions are all part of who I am. My parents are immigrants from the Dominican Republic, who left everything familiar to them and came to the US in search of a better life. Were it not for their dreams, I wouldn’t be where I am today and for that, I will be eternally grateful.

Let’s continue to support Sasha and our Latinos by watching Righteous Thieves. Check your local listings On Digital and On Demand for viewing.

To learn more about Sasha, visit Instagram or Twitter @Sashamerci.

Listen to the AW Confidential Podcast on all streaming services and watch AW Confidential YouTube in its entirety on our YouTube channel to enjoy all the side chats during the interview.

*This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.

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When a Woman Leaves Emotionally, Is It Just a Matter of Time?

Women are generally, more in touch with their feelings. We are usually the ones looking for connection in our relationships. Seeking mental or emotional bonding, whereas men tend to get what they need physically. They may be totally content with the status quo. The disparity in some couples is enough to drive a wedge between two people. Whether or not the admission comes, plenty of women make an early departure from the relationship. Sadly, there are countless men oblivious to the withdrawal.

Women regardless of being wives, fiances, and girlfriends can feel unappreciated. You are not asked how you feel, or what your dreams or needs are in life or the relationship. You take a back seat to others, sometimes neglecting personal desires. The level of selflessness taken on goes far beyond what is acceptable. The superwoman eventually becomes human. Resentment, bottled-up anger, or self-pity can creep in when you feel you are not being taken care of. Detaching yourself emotionally is often the only way to deal with negative emotions. A mental checkout is the escape route used out of loneliness or misery. This period can last as long as needed to cope.

A mental exit from a relationship may feel similar to driving on autopilot. The system manages the vehicle while quietly monitoring and repairing issues that arise. When we leave a relationship in our minds we go through the motions. Operating without demonstrating true feelings instead hiding the bad ones deep down for no one to find. The problem with boxing up these emotions? You end up with a void that cannot be filled. The longer you delude yourself into thinking it is the best solution, the deeper in denial you end up. Emotional damage experienced is serious, it can end up being the cause for a complete deterioration of your relationship. An inevitable breaking point if you don’t purge.

Women can pull away from their partners in a subtle manner. There are different ways to acquire distance silently. The stealth move may barely be noticed by an unobservant eye. The situation can last indefinitely, in some cases, so long that it’s too late to fix by the time he senses a problem.

The check-out may begin with a loss of interest in sharing. We don’t care to continue providing details of our day-to-day. Feeling it’s a waste of energy. Our loved one might unknowingly display what’s perceived as disinterest that shatters the heart. We fear aloof behavior, easily confusing it with rejection. At the end of the day, everyone just wants to feel loved and wanted. I’m not sure if it is pride or hurt but it does change the dynamics of a relationship over time.

A woman has the ability to create an excuse for each day of the week. Her intent to save herself from physically engaging with her mate is a major red flag. It is another step towards an imminent implosion of the couple’s foundation. Once the connection is lost between lovers it can be difficult to reinstate it. Of course, it is possible but the vessel continues to drift away from her lover’s shoreline if not given a line. It is a skate on thin ice leaving some women quite vulnerable to infidelity, loneliness, and ultimately, loss of love.

Relationships have ups and downs that are not easy to navigate. Lover’s wants and needs vary. It takes a certain level of effort to get the right balance. There will be necessary adjustments along the way but paying attention to mutual desires is extremely helpful to make it a successful partnership. If you don’t ask, you don’t get it. You must be willing to state what you want out of your partner. Men do not read minds, although, we would love to think so. Guidance can save a relationship from sinking. 

Walking out on your partner may be averted in certain situations by opening a line of honest and direct communication. Not only is it in the best interest of the relationship to speak up but yours, too. It is not fair to deprive yourself of physical or emotional needs. Let’s express instead of suppress, Ladies!

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5 Warning Signs of Gaslighting

I didn’t know any better the first time it happened to me. The term had not been invented for the abusive behavior my boyfriend was exposing me to at the time.

Occasionally, I stayed late at the office. He was always home but not this night. I walked into my quiet apartment, hoping for a moment of peace. I dropped my things in the bedroom and headed for the shower. Honestly, I was unprepared for what I found in my bathtub. There it was, a chandelier earring and strands of really long hair. Why the shock? Well, during this period, I only wore stud earrings and my hair was in a pixie cut!

I waited until he got home. It was late at night, and I was tired so kept the conversation short and to the point. I asked the obvious question. “Who was in my house?” What did he do? Deny, deny, deny and called me “Crazy!” It is never a good start when you call a woman by that name.

Unbelievably skillful, this master manipulator made me question myself despite the evidence found in the bathroom. He accused me of being wrong, making it all up, and having trust issues. The overwhelming self-doubt and confusion were next level. I felt badly, depressed, and unwilling to share with anyone the things that were happening in my relationship. Deep down, I knew the truth but caved into his bullcrap because love can be dumb, blind, and incredibly stupid, sometimes.

Did I overlook the incident? Yes. I did. Sadly, that was not the last time he betrayed me. It took a year of being gaslighted for me to open my eyes to the toxicity. It took something really bad to happen for me to understand that I had to leave the relationship for my own good.

Where does the phrase Gaslighting come from? The term derives from a 1940s movie called “Gas Light.” The premise involves a husband who distorts his wife’s reality to make her feel crazy. Current day, the phrase is being used to describe psychological manipulation.

It is important to understand, this behavior is damaging, it can trigger mental health issues like anxiety and depression. Also, you can be gaslighted not only by a romantic partner but a family member, friend, or boss.

Have you ever been gaslighted? Would you know what it looks like if it happened to you?

Hopefully, some of these red flags can help decipher it, if you’re running into this type of tactic.

The person can make you feel like you are being irrational or paranoid. Remember, that what you think and feel is important. You should be able to express yourself without being made to feel mad or like you’re being too sensitive.Guilt is common in these situations. You may find yourself walking on eggshells or fearful to speak out. Confusion will often follow,  fueling your insecurities. If you are apologizing constantly to this person, it’s time to check yourself.Second-guessing yourself or frequent self-doubt leads to decision-making paralysis.Isolation can happen too, you will make excuses for this person in front of your loved ones. You may get depressed, hopeless, think you aren’t good enough, and be scared that you can’t do anything right.Does something seem off? Listen to your gut. If deep down things don’t sit well with you, there’s a reason. Lean into your intuition, it is a superpower. Pay attention to red flags!

Gaslighting is an effective scheme because it goes undetected by its victims. The abuser uses sneaky methods to get what he/she needs from you. They will use lies, avoidance, reframing, denial, diminish your feelings, and tear down your confidence without you even noticing their conniving ways.

The best defense against falling into the despicable trap?

The first thing is to set boundaries. People will do to you what you allow them to, so, stand up for yourself. Make others accountable for their actions. Tell them when they have crossed your limits. You don’t have to ever accept less than you deserve.

Second, stay grounded in yourself. Emotional situations are tricky but taking time out to reflect is helpful. If you are teetering between equilibrium and going over the edge, it can be easier for others to control you. Remove yourself from a space where anyone can take advantage.

Lastly, lean on your tribe. Friends, family, therapist, or any support during this time will be beneficial. Their love and encouragement can contribute to the strength you need to move past a toxic relationship.

Gaslighting happens frequently because goes under the radar. There is no shame in speaking up about it. Once you recognize and accept it is happening, take the necessary steps to get your power back. Tap into the warrior in you then no one can hold you back!

Listen to EP50 of the AW Confidential Podcast for the full story.

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Empowerment Series: CW’s “Jane the Virgin” and ABC’s “A Million Little Things,” Actress, Andrea Navedo Shares her Book, “Our Otherness is Our Strength: Wisdom from the Boogie Down Bronx”

I grew up in Upper Manhattan. The 1980s in New York City were some of the toughest times that residents had ever seen in its history. While Wall Street was having a boom, the rest of the city was in shambles. Reportedly, over 1800 homicides were committed, and the introduction to crack cocaine unleashed a tidal wave of violence and addiction. It was the time NYC nearly went bankrupt. If you were a city kid living in the midst of all this chaos, imagining anything different was impossible on most days.

Actress, Andrea Navedo dreamed more for herself and says that “Our otherness is not an obstacle to overcome. Our otherness is a strength.”

The Latina from the Bronx, New York has a long list of acting credits including CBS’s “The Good Fight” (opposite, Christine Baranski) and Amazon’s “Leverage.” For five seasons, she played the beloved Xiomara Villanueva on the Golden Globe-nominated television series “Jane the Virgin.”

Most recently, she stole our hearts as Valerie Sandoval in the ABC hit drama “A Million Little Things.” You can also see her in Netflix’s BRIGHT opposite Will Smith, Hulu’s MIGUEL WANTS TO FIGHT, and HBO Max’s B-Loved.

The newest role is of an Author. Her book “Our Otherness is Our Strength: Wisdom from the Boogie Down Bronx” was released in July and we are here for it!

I read Andrea’s book. I had all kinds of feelings after reading it. As someone raised during the same era in an underrepresented, immigrant community, this story was relatable and made me nostalgic. She was vulnerable and honest, as she shared her story. I’m sure that millions of readers will connect with her, as well.

In 2022, AW sat down with the Latina actress to discuss her journey to self-love. This time around the conversation was just as easy and genuine, making this interview feel like catching up with an old friend.

“Our Otherness is Our Strength: Wisdom from the Boogie Down Bronx“ is more personal than I thought it would be. Why did you want to write this book? I know how difficult it is to go back and write from a place of pain. Being of service was the ultimate goal. I realized while on “Jane the Virgin” that acting was not just for me. It was much bigger than me, I understood that I had a platform. I wanted to demystify celebrities, who actors are, and who I am then use my life experience to help others, if I could. At the very least, share my experiences. Hopefully, someone else might see themselves in me and be inspired in their own life.

I uncovered some generational traumas while writing my book. You wrote a lot about your mom’s journey. I noticed some of her patterns began to manifest in your own life, as a young woman. Generational curses are a real thing but your actions broke the cycle. During the writing process, did you have any a-ha moments? Honestly, I already knew about it and wanted to show some of that since I learned of it through therapy and my own healing.

This book was inspired by a speech I gave at my alma mater, Dewitt Clinton High School. Thirty years after graduating, I was invited back to speak at their commencement ceremony. I had to talk to a room full of kids but did not know what to say to them. They were going to see me at this podium, as a “successful” person but not be able to connect with me. I tried to remember what it was like to be one of the brown kids sitting in that audience. Think back to my life experiences and what they could relate to, and paint a picture to show, what they thought were strikes against them, “their otherness” is really a strength which is where the title comes from.

I always felt like I was the “other.” Not something mainstream media thought was valuable. As I realized later on, the things I thought were strikes against me, being Latina raised in the Bronx, growing up with substance abuse and welfare, and experiencing physical trauma made me bad and not worthy. However, all the challenges I went gone through growing up in the Bronx were actually good things because they strengthened me. They gave me the power to go the long haul in a very difficult career such as acting.

There were many stories that resonated with me in the book. One of the events that took place stood out much more than the others. I imagine it was a wake-up call for you. I definitely experienced a few of them in my time. It was the story with Zara. Your boyfriend at the time, Marco, had two pit bulls and trained one of them to fight. You had a death-defying encounter with Zara while alone in his apartment. You described feeling a “flutter” in your stomach. Would you say that moment was a wake-up call? Truthfully, I think the wake-up call happened after the dog moment. In that instance, I was in survival mode. It was after that I realized, I could have died and no one would be there to save me – that was the wake-up call. As far as the flutter is concerned, I feel that we all have instincts.  Having the experience with Zara, the pitbull, she had never been vicious towards me but I did not trust her. Here I was in this apartment alone with her, going against my instincts which are important to highlight. It is dangerous when you go against your gut.

I believe wisdom and intuition are a powerful combination.  Do you feel these have been helpful tools in your life? I think it is one of the tools the Bronx gave me, growing up with all the difficult challenges. The flutter is having an awareness of what is going on around me. Being raised in the inner city, you need to have your antennas up. Be on the lookout for the temperature of the atmosphere (and I’m not referring to weather!). We need to pay attention to our surroundings and people. The flutter was definitely one of those superpowers!

You are a mom, yourself. What is a piece of advice you shared with your daughter that can help any one of us? I talk to my kids about my things, and I’ve shared many of my stories with them. Stories are a good way to teach but you also lead by example. My parents led by example. They made mistakes and did plenty of good things. My mom left a toxic abusive marriage. My father showed me about college by attending. I show my kids how I take care of myself, go to therapy, book an acting job, write a book, and share the good and bad. I lead by example.

In the book’s title and throughout you refer to “our otherness” and how it can be a superpower. I loved it! Can you talk a bit about what it means and how leaning into it can be a strength? What is that superpower for you, the one that makes you fire and feel like a superwoman? I have really learned how to tap into my anger. For example, as I mentioned in the bullying story. You get mistreated then you hit that bottom. I tapped into my anger. I believe in justice, doing what is right, and treating people fairly. I wasn’t being treated right and reached a point where I couldn’t take it, anymore. I stood up for myself for the first time, the anger gave me the strength to protect myself and not allow someone to mistreat me. The anger has come in handy at certain times of my life.

AW likes to end interviews with a piece of advice, quote, or mantra. Your return to your old high school, Dewitt-Clinton High School, and giving the commencement speech must have been a full-circle moment. What is something you hoped students left with on that day after hearing your address? Embrace who they are and where they come from, accept themselves, and believe they could do whatever they want to do.

We need a certain level of vulnerability to share our story and Andrea has done a beautiful job of telling hers to the world. Her story reminds us of what is possible when we make the choice to own our story. Celebrate the things that make you, unique, and don’t be afraid to use your experiences to help others.

Our inner critic is deceitful. It is the voice of dislike, disappointment, and judgment and will coax anyone into thinking that being different is a weakness. The good news is that you have all the power. You can start using it by changing the story you tell yourself.

Learn more about the Bronx native by visiting www.andreanavedo.com or find her on Instagram and Twitter @andreanavedo. “Our Otherness is Our Strength: Wisdom from the Boogie Down Bronx” can be ordered through barnesandnoble.com and amazon.com

Listen to this episode of the AW Confidential Podcast on all streaming services and watch it on our YouTube channel to enjoy all the side chats during the interview.

*This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.

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Empowerment Series: Netflix Star of “Designing Miami,” Founder and Creative Director of Sire Design, Eilyn Jimenez Shares her Dream with AW

The road to our dreams is never easy. We are discouraged by rejection, delays, naysayers, and the challenges presented along the way to success. Eilyn Jimenez says that “With tenacity, dedication, and hard work, anything is possible.”

About 5 years ago, Eilyn dreamed about where she is today and the experiences she is living. Her career, as Founder and Creative Director of Sire Design, is on fire. The Netflix series, “Designing Miami” in which she stars with her husband, Ray Jimenez has become a hit! He is the Founder and Creative Director of Raymond Nicolas Design House. How is that for competition? The Cuban and Dominican dynamic duo are a winning combination on screen and in real life.

AW sat with the talented designer to talk about her dreams, her influences growing up, woman empowerment, the popular series, and what is next for the power couple.

This interview is dedicated to the dreamers and families that come to the United States with not much more than a dream in their pocket.

Millions of dreamers don’t get to see their vision come true. I have no doubt that you had to overcome your own barriers to get here. You said that you dreamed about where you are today. Can you share with us when and how you came to this point? As individuals, we all have dreams, goals, and aspirations. Some of those are tangible, where you feel “Yes, for sure I got this.” While others are like “Wow, this is a dream come true.” These are the ones we feel, may never happen. I had a vision of what I wanted to do and accomplish but I never knew exactly what the path was to get there. There was one thing that was always consistent which is hard work and a good heart. I know putting my best foot forward and doing the work with tenacity can accomplish almost anything.

When we found out that Netflix picked up our show, it was an a-ha moment. I thought “Oh My God! This is what I’ve been working for all my life!” Getting the recognition and doing things I’ve been wanting to do is amazing. Being able to do this in the first round, getting the first season, and doing the show on such a huge platform was something we did not expect. We wanted to contribute something authentic and doing it this way was really beautiful. I do not have hair, glam, and make-up every day, my house is not picked up all the time, and everything is not always peaches and peonies in the office, but that is real life!

On the other side of the coin, you have beautiful experiences like creating these spaces with the clients and working with so many Latinos. We wanted to show all this coming together, and seeing the realization of that was a very serendipitous moment for me.

It takes passion and commitment to bring our dreams to fruition. As the daughter of immigrants, I believe that our dreams have become part of our fabric. My parents came to The United States from the Dominican Republic dreaming of a better life. I feel a lot of that was passed on to me. Now, I get to give the baton to my daughter, as she goes out to pursue her own success. How have your parents influenced your life? What has been the most valuable advice you received from them, as you go after the life of your dreams? That is a great question! I am making this up, don’t know if there is such terminology but I think there is such a thing as “immigrant syndrome.” When you come to this country as an immigrant, you know there are dreams you can accomplish and others that are untouchable. It isn’t uncommon, the perception that certain dreams are not meant for you, not for Latinos. Oftentimes, you are urged to “choose a normal life.” Do the thing, get married, have kids, work a 9 to 5p but dreams are not really spoken about as a real option.

I refer to it as “immigrant syndrome,” believing you have reached the motherland, we have gotten here, and this is as far as we can get. But I think as children of immigrants, we now see things differently. We are feeling grateful, saying “Thank you for your sacrifices but we’re now going to take it up a notch, take this a bit further. Vamos agregarle un poquito de sazon!”

I believe this ideology was something taught to me. I see my father, an immigrant, and who he is as a person. I see him as an adult and how he limits himself out of fear. Working from this mindset of wanting to be more but feeling like “Ok, this is enough.” I have wanted to break this cycle. I was born here and can do whatever the hell I want! I could do anything, as long as I set my mind to it and do the work.

As immigrants and Latinos, one of our greatest strengths is the refusal to give up. It is generational, it’s in our blood and DNA. Quitting is not an option, determination that comes from our family. Our parents sacrifice so much to come to this country looking for possibilities. Now, we take that baton and pass it on to future generations.

One of the things, I love about Sire Design is the team you have built! The women are all about female empowerment and supporting one another. You mentor and give them an opportunity to prove themselves, allowing space for growth. Did you have the same opportunities coming up the ranks? Were there women who helped you with your dream? Unfortunately, can’t say the environment I have today is a model taken from my experience. Never, was I in a scenario surrounded by women that empowered me and pushed my dreams. On the contrary, as a woman and Latina in an industry that is primarily led by men, you are often belittled. Plus, if you have some nice hair, a pretty face and you are kind or nice, you’re taken as someone who may be ignorant but attractive, again, dismissed to a certain point. Although deep down I have a soft heart, it all helped me develop a thick skin.

I knew I wanted to work in a place where I loved going to and where people enjoyed working. We only have one life. In America, we are taught that life revolves around our work then we go home. I did not want that for myself or anyone that worked with me. The team works hard but we laugh, have fun, and support each other. It is an environment where you are working but cultivating creativity, too. I want to see everyone be their best selves and grow with the firm.

You have a thriving business with an incredible team then comes along this Netflix series, “Designing Miami.” Was the show part of your dream? How did it come about and do we get a second season? Possibly, you have to wait and see! There is a lot in the works, conversations going on and we are making moves.

“Designing Miami” somewhat fell into our laps. Having done previous work with television, led to this opportunity. Cameras don’t bother me, probably because I am just being myself. The thought of doing television was there but I never imagined having my own show on Netflix. This is a unique experience, it’s rare to have two people that do the same thing, are married, and are also competitors. The idea was interesting to the producers, it is based on real life, and nothing is made up. A pilot was filmed and we had 3 offers but ultimately, we went with Netflix.

I will never forget the day we received the phone call. Growing up as a child of immigrants, even though, I’m a first-generation American, you think things like this don’t happen to you. This kind of world and life is only for certain types of people. Don’t get me wrong, you still get some pushback. We are Latinas in a Latino-driven show, we know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. We did not imagine it was even possible, so when it happened, it was surreal.

I believe it is important to check in with ourselves regularly as we build our dream life. There is a lot of pressure that comes with this life, prioritizing, pivoting, and replacing some dreams with new ones. You are a busy lady! Paying attention to our mental well-being has become critical. Great question! One tip I can offer is my dreams and goals, I write them down and don’t revisit them until the following year. When I open that book, I get to see all the things I’ve accomplished. Some I may have even forgotten about! I think by not looking at them, you are still manifesting but not putting pressure on yourself.

Also, it is important to understand that everyone’s timing is right. Long as you are consistently working towards your goals, whether you make mistakes, or get lazy. I can’t tell you how many days I have felt like I don’t want to do anything. It is okay, you are human. We live in a world of social media, which has a way of making us feel like we are always catching up. We have to go at our own pace and do things in a manner that feels right to us. If a dream is causing anxiety or worry, it has the wrong approach. Enjoy the process, even though sometimes it hurts because it’s not all flowing the way you want it to. If you are not enjoying the process and growing from it then you need to redirect your vision. We’ll always have our dreams, keep working on them, and it will all fall into place.

How does Eilyn take care of herself? I get my hair done once a week, and my nails done every two weeks, monthly massage and facial, champagne Wednesday, and Truffle Fries with my girlfriends. Life is meant to enjoy, and taking moments to do all those things, keeps me sane. All of those things reflect love, being a friend, and taking care of myself.

I like to end AW interviews with a mantra, quote, or advice for our listeners. What would you like to share with readers and listeners that are still working on their dreams and feel discouraged or like giving up? We all have those types of days. Life is sometimes like a boomerang and it won’t always be great. If it is amazing, quick and all peaches there is no growth or learning. The hard parts and discouragement are what build character. It is like a slingshot, you have to pull back with force to get further, this is the same thing.

Whenever you go through something difficult, process it. You know that down the line, it will make sense. It is intended to get you to where you need to be. If things don’t work out, it’s happening for a reason. Continue to do things with a good heart, and be genuine. See what the world gives you back when you do that.

AW is filled with gratitude to Eilyn for sharing her dream with us. She is authentic, relatable and so graceful when discussing her journey. Our interview came on a day when I felt my own confidence lacking from a week of disappointments. Dreamers encounter endless roadblocks on the way to realizing a vision. We thrive during times when the wins are rolling in one after the other and forget that behind them come challenges. We cannot fear or be hindered by the barriers ahead. If the dream is worth it then the grind will be too.

Share this story with anyone who may need inspiration. It is a great reminder that we can all make our dreams a reality if we continue doing the work.

For more about Eilyn Jimenez, visit Instagram@eilynjimenez_ @siredesign or http://www.siredesign.com. Designing Miami is streaming on Netflix.

Watch the interview in its entirety on the AW Confidential YouTube channel and listen on Apple, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Anchor Podcasts.

*This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.

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Gray Hair No Longer Means Old, So What Does it Mean?

Jennifer Aniston, Salma Hayek, Andie McDowell, Jamie Lee Curtis, Ricki Lake, and other celebrities are leading the way to embracing our grays.

Most women remember their first encounter. An intruder that may not be visible to the naked eye but haunting, soon as it rears its ugly head. It isn’t uncommon to fear those grays, being it signifies the beginning of aging. Science doesn’t lie, right? The older we get, the less melanin we produce, leading to the loss of pigmentation that gives us our hair color. It is inevitable and part of the natural process of growing old.

We cannot stop nature, you have two choices, dye or go natural. There isn’t a universal answer that fits all. Personal preference is a major factor in how people deal with change.

During the pandemic when the world shut down including beauty salons. Women had to resort to different means of covering their roots. While millions decided to let it all hang out and be less shy about their newfound distinguished looks, the rest of us looked for alternatives. As stylists were banned from working, people went back to dying their locks at home. Thankful for the option, many opted for the do-it-yourself method after years of visiting expensive hair care establishments.

Home dyes have been around for decades, it’s become a big part of our beauty routines. If you are reading this, you probably grew up watching your mother use color home kits. So, who do we thank for such an invention? French chemist and Founder of L’Oreal, Eugene Schueller created the first synthetic dye around 1909.  We didn’t begin the real war against grays until the early 1950s when Clairol gifted women with their first home color kit. Since then, we’ve had a love-hate relationship with the chemicals. The tug-of-war between pocketbooks and vanity has been dominating many of us for years.

I discovered my first gray around the age of 40. It was the best and worst of times, I was assimilating into a new chapter of life. A divorced, single woman with a little one in grammar school. Returning to the dating scene was intimidating enough, adding the stress of beginning to go gray was not comforting for me. Certainly, not the end of the world but it did fuel insecurities. 

While millions of women continue to cover up. Nature continues its steady course while women continue to rebel against unwanted grays. The post-pandemic era changed things. Something different was unfolding, millions came out of the lockdown sporting new styles. Lots of ladies started to own their individuality and try out silver looks! Could it be that gray no longer meant old? It depends on who you ask.

The standards of beauty set by society are hard on women. Perception plays a big role in our day-to-day lives. While gray-haired men are perceived as wise or mature, we are judged and seen as washed up. Unfortunately, in Corporate America, similar to the Fashion & Beauty industries, gray can instigate discrimination among peers. 

The great news is that trends are evolving. We’re seeing positive movement, as silver foxes are empowering themselves by showing up in their favorite gray. The styles encourage women to go bold with colors like natural, platinum, ombre, gunmetal, purple-toned, witch, blue-gray, salt &pepper, and bright white among them. Glamour published a piece on the newest craze that breaks it all down. The article describes how to grow, and transition, as well as, explains the differences between gray and silver. So, if you have been considering letting your grays hang, this can be a great time to check it out.

I have met twenty and thirty-somethings with salt & pepper hair. If you are going by how many grays on a person’s head then anyone can appear old, no matter the age. Whatever decision you come to about your own looks, remember that it is your choice. The fact remains, everyone is getting older. We have various levels of comfort.  Getting hung up on what anyone thinks is a waste of time and energy. Unlikely to change how people feel about the look but you can load yourself up with confidence about who you are and the beauty that shines through each time you walk into a room, regardless of hair color. 

Don’t allow anyone to steal your joy or cause you insecurity. Instead, maintain a youthful spirit, kind heart, and do what makes you happy. If that means dying your hair, you do that! The choice is yours.

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Empowerment Series: ABC’s Station 19, FOX’s Rosewood, and Hollywood-thriller, “Righteous Thieves,” Actress, Jaina Lee Ortiz Shares her Fire with AW

Jaina Lee Ortiz is best known for her roles on ABC’s Station 19 and Grey’s Anatomy, FOX’s Rosewood, USA’s Shooter, and the film Girls Trip. Now, audiences can see her in “Righteous Thieves,” as, Lucille. More than a tech-savvy badass, she brings explosive energy to the screen. The movie stars a cast of dynamic actors including Lisa Vidal, Sasha Merci, Cam Gigandet (“Twilight”), Danube Hermosillo, and Carlos Miranda.

Every interview is unique in its own way. The individual connection we make with someone sets a tone and dictates the dialogue that can take place between two people. AW had the immense pleasure of sitting down with this Latina powerhouse. She is vibrant, filled with warmth and charisma. Her friendly smile made it easy to engage in conversation.

Jaina is an only child raised in the Bronx, NY by parents who instilled the importance of discipline, respect, honesty, and compassion. It is evident, the actress takes her values wherever she goes, treating others with the same kindness learned while growing up.

I believe whether you are reading, watching, or listening to our interview, you too will sense her genuine disposition.

You’ve had some great roles, Annelisse and Andi are dynamos. Fearless with strong convictions, confident but also flawed, both relatable characters. Would you use some of these words to describe yourself? How are you different from these characters? Yes, there is a part of me in every character but in real life, I would have done some things differently, and not necessarily made the same decisions as these women.  In Station 19, Andy is a rulebreaker and impulsive. She goes out and does whatever she wants! I am very cautious, and afraid to break any kind of rule. This may have to do with my dad being a homicide detective.

Growing up, I don’t remember seeing anyone I could relate to on screen. Latinos mostly played maids, sultry mistresses, or drug dealers. Thankfully, we are moving away from this and seeing ourselves on the big and small screens. As a Latina actress, do you ever feel pressure to play characters that are seen in a positive light by our community? I don’t feel that pressure because that is all I’ve done. All of my characters have been intelligent, and fierce. Women of strength, power, and courage, each of them was essentially a role model. As a member of the audience, I want to see more of those types of characters who are portrayed in a positive light. But as a performer or actor, I want to be challenged, secretly hoping to play that stereotype. First, it takes me completely out of my world, giving me the experience of a life that I know nothing about. Also, those people really exist and the fact they exist is important.

I am not saying that every role has to be a stripper, maid, or mistress. I don’t want that but if there is an interesting story being told then yes, I would play it. It is significant for our community to see ourselves in these movies because I didn’t see anyone like us on screen, growing up. For example, I remember seeing Oscar Issac, a great actor but I never knew he was Latino. Having a seat at the table is beautiful.

You bring fire to every role you play. Such amazing energy and an undeniable passion can be felt in every one of your characters. A lot of us struggle with allowing ourselves to be who we are; it seems to come naturally for you. Has there ever been a time in your personal or career journey that you’ve been asked to dial the intensity back? If so, can you share a little about the experience and how you dealt with it? Actually, I have never been encouraged to dial it back. On the contrary, I’ve been asked to bring more of it to the table. There are roles that it may work for, and others that do not. Living in that space and feeling confident in my strengths is wonderful. If you can’t be yourself then you end up fitting in whatever box you try to put yourself into.

As Latinos, we all have different experiences in our upbringing. I think you should use what you have and what you know. It is unique, sets you apart, making you individually beautiful. Go out there and be unapologetically you is my mantra.

I am excited to share that you are now bringing your fire to a new character in the new film “Righteous Thieves.” Can you tell us about it? Yes! “Righteous Thieves” is produced by Jolene Rodriguez, a good friend of mine, so talented! Directed by Anthony Nardollilo. I work with a great cast of friends including Lisa Vidal, who plays a badass, smart, fierce woman, the head of a secret organization. She gathers a team to help steal back artwork stolen by the Nazis during the Holocaust. It is a classic heist film with action and suspense. It is great because the movie also showcases what Latinos can do behind and in front of the cameras.

I play Lucille, a computer hacker who is not your typical geek. She knows some martial arts, likes to play with fire, and enjoys a little danger. It was fun to do my own stunts, invigorating! Although, after the tenth take, I see why people hire stunt doubles!

One of the things we have discussed is the importance of our community’s support for these films. Representation is essential. If we don’t show up, we risk losing the progress we have made, so far. In your opinion, how can we improve support? What are 1-2 things we can start doing to help encourage Hollywood to bring more Latinos in on the blockbuster films? Aside from showing up, as you said, “We are bigger in numbers.” The Latino community is massive, and while it may not be reflected in certain projects, if we want to truly push the envelope and expand as a community, we must collectively as a unit, agree not to tell those stories or create those characters. We are relentless when we get together and get things done.

We like to end AW interviews with a message, mantra or quote to inspire, empower, or encourage listeners. You work in an industry known for its “make-believe” magic. We live in a world of Instagram. You have managed to maintain yourself grounded and true to yourself. For anyone struggling or fearful to let themselves be who they are, what advice can you share to empower them? There is so much pressure in the times we are living in. With advanced technology and social media, we feel the need to live or create this ideal picture. At the same time, all these platforms give us the opportunity to stay connected.

Challenges and hard times will come. Stay present and while on this journey, don’t forget about the quality moments you share with the people you love.  Constantly, surround yourself with those that encourage and motivate you. Whatever you want to achieve, as long as you remain authentic, you will thrive and succeed. Enjoy the ride, continue to grow, and evolve. Goodness will follow.

Oftentimes, priorities shift as we age, and the fire we used to have is replaced with the exhaustion of responsibility. It becomes difficult to find the passion to pursue our deepest desires or enjoy a moment.  Jaina is an actor and professionally trained dancer, who carves time to do things that make her heart happy, including dance.

I learn from every interview, and this conversation offered a timely lesson. Don’t underestimate the meaning of doing things that set your soul on fire and never be diminished by the voices that hinder you from living a life you love.

We are incredibly grateful to Jaina and everyone who helped bring this interview to fruition. She is a force to be reckoned with and one of the loveliest human beings on earth!

Righteous Thieves is streaming now. You can also catch Jaina, as Andy Herrera on ABC’s Station 19, on Thursdays at 8 PM EST/7 PM CST. Check local listings for more information.

For more on Jaina Lee Ortiz, visit Instagram, Twitter, or TikTok @jainaleeortiz.

You can listen to the AW Confidential Podcast on all streaming services and watch it on AW Confidential YouTube in its entirety to enjoy all the side chats during the interview.

*This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.

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When They Cheat – We Boss Up! Big Pay Day for Vanderpump Rules’ Reality Star, Ariana Madix

Bravo’s Vanderpump Rules has been monopolizing our cell phone and television screens for months, now. If you haven’t heard about the latest and greatest reality drama then you must be living under a rock. The “Scandoval” story spread like wildfire and we were here for it! Millions of fans and spectators are still trying to dissect the zig-zags of the shocking revelation that took place in the 10th season. The scandal even caught the attention of some of the most well-known news networks like NBC, CNN, and ABC News.

People can’t seem to get enough of Ariana Madix after news broke in March that her partner of nine years, Tom Sandoval was having an affair with her bestie, Raquel Leviss. Since then, the reality star has taken body revenge to new heights. She leveled up and is projected to generate serious money from dozens of opportunities resulting from the very public incident.

How is that for payback, baby? No, but seriously, she is laughing all the way to the bank.

If you’ve ever dealt with a cheater, you know what the stinger can do. Sometimes, it takes years to heal from the mental and emotional anguish caused by betrayal. It is disheartening to find out that the person you trusted most with your heart has stomped it to pieces. The lies, disrespect, and duplicity make it hard to confide in anyone, again. This type of trauma can leave partners feeling insecure and inadequate. It has the potential to damage a person’s stability, producing anxiety and depression for the one left behind to clean up the mess.

The great news is that we can come back from the devastation. However, it is crucial to deal with the ordeal that has taken place. These 3 basic steps may help get you out from under the shambles.

1. Confront pain head-on. Numbing yourself will do more harm than good. Look for healthy outlets to cope with the toxicity. Finding a release to boost endorphins is key. Try exercise, dancing, or laughter for a better effect.

2. Seek support from friends, family, and therapists, as needed. Oftentimes, we feel shame, it’s normal. This is a good time to remind you that you should never feel responsible for someone else’s actions. Do not accept culpability for his or her behavior. It will help to talk things through with loved ones. Allow yourself to cry it out or have a venting session. It does serve you to keep it all inside. Let your people love you through the pain.

3. Do not assume that you are the problem. Cheating is rarely about sex. There are different reasons that do not involve sexual satisfaction. For example, a partner’s need to please the ego, falling out of love, loneliness due to long distances, fears of commitment,  variety, lack of emotional connection, boredom, tit-for-tat. Over and over again, we think it’s our behavior that causes the indiscretion. Know that you are enough and deserve better.

Millions of us have experienced infidelity at some point in our lives. Too often, we resort to food, alcohol, toxicity, and self-destructive ways to deal with the loss of the object of our affection. We don’t have to play the role of martyr, anymore. It is time to flip the switch!

Ariana turned a negative into a positive. It has been a few months since the cheating scandal almost broke the internet and the woman is on fire! She has a large following rallying behind her, as she makes big moves.

In addition to the salary from Vanderpump Rules, there is the Maloney-Madix merch line, several lucrative brands, and sponsorship deals that include BIC Razors, Bloomingdales, Uber One, Bellesa Boutique, SoFi, and Lay’s Chips. She is also part of a joint venture, sandwich restaurant Something About Her which is sure to be a hit with supporters. The latest news predicts even more dollars to hit her account. Ariana is rumored to be joining the next Dancing with the Stars and has been cast in a new Lifetime movie.

I would say that is revenge well served, no?

Certainly, I am not trying to belittle the heartache. I’ve been there and know what it feels like to have the person you love deceit you in such a way that it rips into your soul. It’s devastating but we have the ability to conquer this torment. If you are experiencing similar troubles, my hope is that her story inspires you to push forward.

You don’t have to take things lying down. Let this be a sign in your life. The mistake and the loss belong to the person that violated your trust. Believe that you are stronger than what happens to you. We’re born with the power to withstand suffering. Move forward with resolve and don’t allow yourself to be paralyzed by fear. Choose yourself.

AW celebrates women like Ariana. She is encouraging others to fight back and become empowered after heartbreak. The Bravo celebrity’s net worth stands to surpass the million-dollar mark post-breakup. Proving there is a bigger, bolder, better life after affliction brought on by cheating.

You got this!

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Empowerment Series: Mexican-American, Multi-Emmy Award-Winning Journalist, Peabody Board Member, Producer, Host, Author, and Founder of Con Todo Press, Naibe Reynoso Shares her Entrepreneurial Journey with AW

Mexican American, Naibe Reynoso is known by millions around the world as a 4-time Emmy award-winning Journalist, and Television Host. She has also made great strides working on the radio and as a Producer. The investigative journalist is a Board Member of the prestigious Peabody Awards since 2015, the same year she was cited with a BIBO Award for “Outstanding Work in Media.”

Naibe has been on Hola! LA, Univision Network, CNN En Español, the Biography Channel, Fox News Latino, Larry King’s ORA TV. Audiences may also recognize her from filling in as a co-host on ABC’s “The View.” However, her contributions do not end in media. The entrepreneur entered the publishing business with a vision to inspire our communities to dream big and is succeeding!

In 2018, she co-created Latinafest LLC, a cultural event that connects Latinas. It aims to empower and support females in the US through events held in the Los Angeles Area. In the same year, she founded Con Todo Press, a publishing company that highlights stories with characters of color and deals with subject matter that is culturally relevant. The co-creator of “The TRENDTalk,” a one-hour talk show that discusses Latinas and highlights trending topics is determined to break barriers and leave the door open for those seeking greatness.

AW had the honor of sitting down with Naibe to discuss her journey of entrepreneurship and the mission behind it. Her first children’s book, “Be Bold, Be Brave: 11 Latinas who made U.S. History,” was an Amazon #1 best seller. It spotlights Latinas who have stood out in the fields of medicine, science, sports, the arts, journalism, and politics.

Congratulations on everything! Have you ever been asked, “How do you do it all?” Many mothers will want to know and may wonder how you handle the demands of entrepreneurship and motherhood. Luckily, I don’t have a full-time job. It isn’t easy when you have a 9 to 5, it’s all very draining. I’ve had to do it, be out the door, commute, deal with office politics, and fulfill the responsibilities of an office job. Then come home after commuting to prepare dinner, etc. It has all been possible because I don’t have that job. I created multiple businesses that gave me the time and freedom to do what I wanted. Also, I have a supportive husband. I have to give my hat off to him. He is the little league coach, he cooks dinner often, and picks up my son almost all the time – I give him props. The fact that I have a flexible schedule is how I do it – there is no other magic formula.

What has been one of your greatest lessons, the one that stands out for you at this moment? One of the biggest lessons that I have learned in life which you can apply to both personal and business is to really listen to your gut! Our intuition, that feeling is so much wiser than we are. As humans, we tend to rationalize and think, use our calculator to figure out what the next right move is but when I have followed my heart (gut), I’m never wrong. When I have been wrong, there is always a lesson to be learned. You have to trust yourself.

I read the year you began Con Todo Press, the Cooperative Children’s Book Center (CCBC) statistics showed that only 10% of characters seen in children’s books were African American, 5% Asian, 5% Latinx, and 1% American Indian. You decided to create a business to fill a need. You showcased the voices of underrepresented communities so that our children and those of the future learn about cultural pride and heritage in an engaging way. You already have a brilliant career in journalism. What inspired you to pivot into the publishing world and start your own small business? It is not an easy feat, especially while juggling life as a mom. There were a couple of things that came together and became the perfect storm. The seed was planted to create my company way before it actually released. The political climate was not favorable to Latinos. We were being portrayed as criminals, gang members, etc. As a mom, it really made me so sad, not only to see that other communities were going to see us in that light, but our own children were going to see themselves in that light. This was the thought that planted a seed.

Secondly, I have always wanted to be an entrepreneur. I don’t know if it is a Latina thing but it’s in our DNA! When I was 5 years old, I sold toys to the neighborhood kids.

Lastly, as a mom, I wanted to nurture my son’s cultural pride. When I walked into a library to look for books for him, I couldn’t find any in his age range. There were books for babies or teens and college kids but none for the 5–6-year-olds, at the time.

All of these things collided, and I used my intuition and passion to guide me. Luckily, the barriers to entry have lowered for publishing with the help of platforms like Amazon. It allows me to self-publish my books without asking for permission. No need to knock on doors to say “Is this book, okay with you? Can you publish it?” I took advantage of the technology that is available to us today. It lets us put our work out there without anyone saying “No” or putting up any blocks.

With small business support from companies like Amazon, we can grow customer reach and gain the loyalty of a following. In your experience as a small business owner, how important has it been to have this type of partnership while pursuing entrepreneurial goals? It has been invaluable because the barriers to entry for publishing were so limited before this open marketplace. The self-publishing space that currently exists is a tremendous resource. For example, I use Amazon which sells my books on consignment. I ship them a bunch of books and they mail them out to their Prime members. If there are any returns, they handle the logistics. As a small business owner, I’ve used my resources to figure things out on my own without a Master’s, internship, or job in the publishing space. Having all the information in tutorials and self-guides to learn how to upload a book, create ads, and drive customers to my storefront is priceless. It is a platform open to anybody who wants to do what I have done.

The Small Business Administration (SBA) estimates there are over 30 million small businesses in the US. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics approximately half fail after 5 years. Con Todo Press and Latinafest have reached the 5-year mark. You are not only successful, but you are thriving! In your speech for the Mexican-American Cultural Educational Foundation, you said, “You fight words of hate with words of hope. You’ve had the bravery to put your words into action.” Inspiring! Can you share with us how you have endured the challenge of the entrepreneurial journey? Sometimes, it is frustrating because you don’t have a consistent income. You ride the wave of feast or famine, so you have to keep pushing yourself to move through those times of famine. These moments are going to happen in any business. The benefit of having a boss and a job is the consistent salary and medical coverage, but there are many downsides. The upside of having your own business is the freedom and flexibility but the challenge is the famine.

Also, if you don’t get things done, they won’t get done! You are in charge of figuring out what systems should be put in place in case you are sick or want to take a vacation. You have to oversee hiring, salaries, finances (local, state, and federal) taxes, and documentation required for your business. When you own a small business, you are not only involved in the creative part but the business, too. It is hard to be well-versed in all those areas, so there has been a learning curve to keep all that together, but we are here five years later! I don’t think we are going anywhere! We are going to keep going.

We have to take about the power of the pivot. You have done it not once but twice. What advice do you have for anyone having trouble making that move? How can we zoom into that power? For many decades, I was a journalist and resistant to opening myself up as a freelancer. I became a freelancer not by choice but because the landscape of journalism is very difficult and competitive. The media landscape changes on a daily basis. One day you have a job, another day, you do not. When I became freelance, it hurt a lot emotionally. My stability was taken away. I had many months of reflection to ask myself “What do I want out of life?”

I had this career, all I knew how to do was journalism, and reporting but it’s so unstable. I got so frustrated and tired of depending on someone else to give me a gig. It came down to listening to my intuition, asking myself “What does not feel right?” It is a very simple question. The thing that did not feel right was depending on someone else for an income or opportunity. I had to think about what else can I do to complement or supplement my income. It was when these ideas began surfacing that everything changed.

Latinafest came from a need to celebrate Latinas. We are not celebrated enough in this country. My business partner and I, Bel Hernandez created Latinafest, as a result. I wanted to contribute to counteracting the negativity out there about Latinos. As a journalist, I knew writing, being resourceful and I was not afraid to do the research. The bottom line, in order to pivot, you have to really believe in your intuition and what feels right and wrong. How do you adjust whatever feels wrong in your circumstance to make it right with yourself?

You have Latinafest, Con Todo Press, and new books coming but what else is next for you? I do not limit myself to any possibility. In essence, I have a media company. I have books with Con Todo Press. iHeartradio launched a podcast that I am hosting, produced by my media company. I have worked in studios before and pitched tv shows. These are all parts of the toolbox that I can do and offer. So, if I can think big, I’d like to develop my little Con Todo Press into a more prominent media company!

I invite everyone to think big, beyond their immediate. Look outside without limiting ourselves to the current possibilities. I want to develop more podcasts like a children’s podcast where we educate children about our Latino communities and the amazing contributions made to the world. In a nutshell that is the bigger picture.

We like to end our interviews with a quote, mantra, or piece of advice to empower our community. For anyone on the verge of giving up their dream because they are not seeing it to fruition. What encouraging words can you share? There are so many! One thing that has helped me is knowing that “Nothing is the end of the world.” We always feel like it is yes or no, black or white but nothing is going to make you or break you. Every day is a chance to start over. The other would be, a no is never a no, it’s a maybe. A no is “Not, right now but not forever.”

The busy mom of two is on fire with new careers as Mompreneur and Storyteller, and it is just beginning. We are filled with gratitude that she chose AW to share her story.

The path of entrepreneurship is filled with challenges, but we can learn from women like Naibe. During this journey, I learned that there are a few things we have to get comfortable with while we walk the road less traveled.

Don’t be afraid of the pivot.Find your community because you will need support.If you feel like giving up and you will sometimes. Rest then keep going!

Learn more about the powerhouse by following her Instagram, and Twitter or visiting her website, Naibe Reynoso. Check out her newest children’s book “I Love You, My Little Taquito” a love letter from a mother to her child that also emphasizes Latino food! You can find this and other titles on Amazon, today.

Listen to this episode of the AW Confidential Podcast on all streaming services and watch it on our YouTube channel to enjoy all the side chats during the interview.

*This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.

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Empowerment Series: Top Touring Female Street Artist and One of New York’s Best Kept Secrets – ELLE Shares Creativity with AW

The name, Jean-Michel Basquiat and Banksy may sound familiar. These graffiti artists are well known in the world of street art which has long been overpowered by men. This type of work involves great creativity but also involves risky behavior. Working conditions are less than desirable. Artists do the work at night to avoid encounters with law enforcement. The art takes men and women to dangerous territories that pose a real danger. However, women are more vulnerable to harassment or other crimes while creating in the dark but none of it has stopped these badass women from stepping into their power. 

The creator goes by the name of ELLE, an incredible street artist who is in high demand. Her artwork is radiant. Many of her pieces depict different women in brave, strong, and defiant forms. Installations can be seen in Los Angeles, New York, Mexico, London, Amsterdam, Berlin, and all over the globe. I fell in love with her empowering figures from the moment my eyes laid eyes on the Pachamama Silkscreen. The image is absolutely stunning! 

Elle is friendly and down-to-earth which helped our conversation, flow organically. It was a true pleasure interviewing this incredible talent. Art, whether it comes in the form of written, spoken, or movement has the potential to evoke emotion in us. The beauty of visual art is that it is personal. Two people can look at the same work and feel completely different about it. It was an honor to have the opportunity to speak with ELLE. She is a Brooklynite and a top touring artist in her field. If you don´t know of her, this is a great way to introduce you to her work.

Your art is empowering, my favorite piece is Pachamama. Bold colors, captivating imagery, filled with emotion. Who do you hope to inspire with your artwork? I am continuously evolving which makes my work feel different. It was not a choice to do art. I became obsessed and driven by a variety of things. My mission was to beautify the city, it was an opportunity to bring color to the world. It is a gift offering a moment to share beauty. Elle is the name I chose, it means she” in French which reflects my subjects, mostly women. I see myself as a channel for the universe, I’m doing what I was meant to be doing. Women can do it all. We have the strength within to do anything. I want to inspire women everywhere to pursue their goals, they have the power to create any life they want.

You have exploded in a male-dominated world. Graffiti art can take you to dark and lonely streets, sometimes creatives work at odd hours. Women are more vulnerable, they are exposed to danger and harassment that men don’t have to deal with. What gave you the courage to dare create these emboldened images and allow yourself to be seen? I was driven by the fact that there weren’t many women on the street art scene. I wanted to be there because there was no representation. My desire to create art in a world that barely included women was intentional, I wanted to be part of the dialogue.

You are the artist behind a 3,000 sq. foot crescent-like wall at New York’s Hudson Yards’ The Vessel, Elle X  Ralph Lauren NYC, and a mural of Ruth Bader Ginsburg in the East Village, New York City. Your work celebrates women and we love seeing it! What did it mean for you to create the RBG mural? This mural was commissioned @into-action, us. Artists get inspiration everywhere, including politics. I received a call to do a piece on Ruth Bader Ginsberg. I had just seen her documentary and understood her mission. She was a significant symbol of the women’s movement. I wanted to promote empowerment and enable others to feel they could do whatever they set out to do.

You have expressed that being a woman in the world of graffiti art is difficult. Although more women have joined the world of graffiti, it continues to be mostly a men’s club. You are one of a handful of women that have broken barriers in street art.  AW likes to end its interviews with a positive message. What advice can you share with women that may be intimidated to break into a career or business that is not conventional? I encourage them to break barriers. In 2014, I worked on a collaboration with Martha Cooper for which I was super harassed. My mother suggested that I quit due to the negative comments, I was receiving. I did not quit, instead deciding to stay with it. You have to keep pushing forward on things that you are passionate about. Don’t allow anything to stop you in your tracks if it’s something that you truly believe in. Keep your head down and keep going! 

AW is incredibly grateful to Elle for sharing her story with the AW readers. The journey of a woman is not without roadblocks. We meet resistance at every corner, limiting our progress in distinct ways. I hope her story inspires you to start your own personal revolution. Explore your deepest desires and follow them until you are with one with your true spirit.

This interview has been condensed for clarity.*

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