Page Turner's Blog, page 48

Perfectionism Linked with Anxiety, Depression, Worry, & Rumination

I’m a recovering perfectionist. Like many other areas, I don’t think I will ever be fully recovered. It will always be a process of recovering. It’ll never be perfect, recovery. And that’s part of it, too.

Does this mean I’m a total hot mess? No, not at all. That kind of all or nothing thinking is what led me to perfectionism in the first place.  » Read more

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The Double Life of a Highly Sensitive Extrovert

I read a book about a decade ago that changed a lot of how I view myself and others. It’s very popular, and I’ve been meaning to write about it for some time. It’s called The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You, and it’s by researcher Elaine Aron.  » Read more

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If You Hear People Say Something Mean About Your Friend, Should You Tell Them?

It’s funny. People often have really strong opinions about what you’re supposed to do in social situations.

And for the most part, I find that there’s typically a lot of agreement here. But lately, I discovered an arena which is rather ambiguous.

You see, I had heard my whole life that if someone says something mean about your friend,  » Read more

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“You’re Just Jealous”: When Being Open About Your Insecurities Causes Partners to Assume You’re Concern Trolling

It’s been an awfully long time since I’ve had it said to me, but I can still remember the first time I had a partner say “you’re just jealous” in a dismissive way.

At the time, I’d been concerned about something very important. I could see my metamour wasn’t treating our partner very well.  » Read more

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Happy 4th Birthday, Poly Land!

Hey everyone! I’m happy to say that as of today, this site has been posting new content daily for four years. It’s pretty cool to be able to say that and to be writing this post.

Has it always been easy posting every day? No. But it’s been important to me to be there every day to provide emotional validation,  » Read more

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My Father, the Historical Figure

It hit me a few weeks ago when I was looking at the prayer cards from my father’s funeral.

When my father died, he stopped being a man. And he started being a historical figure.

It was a silly joke at first. Because the prayer cards had his birth and death dates on it.  » Read more

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People Who Get Goosebumps When Listening to Music Experience More Intense Emotions

Although we still have a long way to go in regards to mapping things directly to areas of the brain, I have to admit — I’m a sucker for studies that use neuroimaging to help us understand our complex emotional and cognitive inner lives a little bit better.

I particularly like the ones that look at niche facets of being human.  » Read more

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Sociopathic Personality Traits Linked with Shunning Face Masks & Other COVID-19 Mitigation Measures

In general, I don’t spend a lot of time exploring the dark side of human personality. As a psych nerd, I tend to focus more on neutral or positive functioning. And there’s a reason for this: I was in my mid 20s before I realized that psychology wasn’t just primarily concerned with illness and disease.  » Read more

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When Polyamory Doesn’t Revolve Around Men

“So what are you working on for your next book?” the man at the polyamory meetup asked me, after his friend introduced us and he realized he’d read one of my books.

“It’s a murder mystery called Psychic City,” I said. “The detectives are three women in a polyamorous triad.”  » Read more

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You Can’t Make Grief Go Away. All You Can Do Is Make It Count.

You lost someone you love. Stop looking for a reason and start thinking about the meaning you are going to assign to that event.

Steve Case, F**k Death

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When I lost my father in April, I thought I was ready for it. He had been ill for quite some time.  » Read more

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