Page Turner's Blog, page 49

When You’ve Been Attention Starved for So Long, You’re in Danger of Over-Indulging

“I want attention,” I tell him, arms outstretched.

And as he wraps me up into a hug, I can feel his laughter reverberating through both of our chests. I love that laughter. Part of why I fell in love with him in the first place is because he’s a person who laughs with wild abandon.  » Read more

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Confession: I Couldn’t Afford to Be Single

We don’t talk about it enough. But it’s hard to be single.

And not just because of the constant pressure from other people who are fond of finding subtle ways to tell you that life has no meaning without romantic love — although that pressure certainly can make being single stressful for those who would rather not have a relationship.  » Read more

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Welcome to Psychic City

I have a big announcement to make. My new book is finally out. It’s called Psychic City, and it’s a slipstream murder mystery that features an FFF triad of polyamorous detectives:

Penny, a sparkle goth medium who is hounded by hordes of undead fans
Viv,

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Women Aren’t Attracted to Men That Seem Like Easy Marks

There has been a lot of research on sexual exploitation. But I’ll admit that today’s study really grabbed my attention for a simple reason: Most of the body of scientific literature focuses on men as the ones who exploit others sexually. This study instead looked into women and how they might sexually exploit men, something that hasn’t received much objective empirical focus.  » Read more

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People Think Their Romantic Partners Are Much More Intelligent Than They Actually Are

You know… the world of research can be kind of an unsettling place sometimes. When you start turning over rocks, you never know what will slither out from underneath them. When you’re doing proper empirical unbiased research, you ask questions without knowing what sorts of answers you’re going to get.

Some of these answers aren’t what you wanted to hear or expected to hear,  » Read more

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No Two Heartbreaks Are the Same

It’s different every time, that first moment someone new disappoints you. When you learn that they’re just as human as the next person. Justin and I had known each for a few years and had been dating six months before we had our first fight. And it didn’t take us this long to have a disagreement because I was holding back,  » Read more

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It’s Easy for Other People to Judge You When You’re Making a Change They Don’t Understand

One of Picasso’s favorite assignments for a young artist was to have him or her try to draw a perfect circle. It can’t be done; everyone draws a circle with some particular distortion, and that distorted circle is “your” circle, an insight into “your” style. “Try to make the circle as best you can. And since nobody before you has made a perfect circle,  » Read more

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For Better or Worse, I Don’t Have Rah Rah Polyamory Pom Poms

“What I’ve always liked about you,” she tells me, “is that you’re not one of those people who whip out your rah rah polyamory pom poms.”

“Thanks,” I say. “I think.”

“I mean it as a compliment,” she continues. “Like… you’re definitely supportive of polyamory — and other forms of consensual non-monogamy —  » Read more

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It’s Not Easy Being Both Mapmaker and Traveler

I have found that the most difficult and most rewarding challenge of my work is how to be both a mapmaker and a traveler…Over the years I’ve learned that a surefooted and confident mapmaker does not a swift traveler make. I stumble and fall, and I constantly find myself needing to change course.

-Brene Brown,  » Read more

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The Toughest Breakups Are the Ones that Make You Doubt Yourself

I’ll start this essay by saying that it’s been a while since I’ve had a breakup. A big part of this is that it’s been a long time since I dated someone new, and while it’s possible for a long-standing relationship to end (and devastating when it does), it’s typically active dating that invites in a spat of breakups.  » Read more

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