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These people would genuinely or say, half genuinely believes that everyone exists to serve them only and we should give precedence to their feelings which they would call it, princess or prince treatment. They will take the lead from being “life‘s protagonist “to becoming “the worlds protagonist. “ So they would have a mentality of saying what would this person give me “what he says after that is when those expectations are not satisfied, they would become deeply disillusioned and will feel as they’ve been horribly insulted, and they would become resentful by thinking “that person didn’t do anything for me. That person let me down. He’s my enemy.“ People hold this type of belief always end up losing their comrades before long. Then we talked about the globe and how it’s used to represent the world that you look at the world with a different point of view with each country being in a different place no matter what Every place is central and not at the same time meaning that there is an infinite amount of centers meaning that everyone should be equal nobody is in the center. We are all a part of the community whether it’s big and small it’s a community that should be sensed with belonging And according to Algerian psychology the sense of belonging would be something that one can entertain by making active commitment by being involved in the community, not just by being there. Wouldn’t have to face one’s life tasks one takes steps forward on one zone without avoiding the tasks of the interpersonal relations of work, friendship or love One needs to think. “what can I give to this person? “Which is commitment to the community since it would give one something that they can find as their refuge.

Next chapter is listening to the voice of a larger community so expanding on the focus of community Adlers concept of community would be trying to imagine, including the universe and inanimate objects, saying that the scope of community is infinite, and having the mindset of everyone belonging to the community of earth the community of the universe. Because I the end of the day you belong to a community, either separate, larger, small, any used to get involved, but you’re still contributing with that community. Meaning that connected the comedian of Adler speaks or goes beyond things we can see like our household and societies to include those connections that we cannot see. The interviewer summary is clear by explaining “the distance in depths of the interpersonal relationships are completely different. It’s only natural when we search for a sense of belonging, we will be attracted to the smaller community.“ Now being aware of multiple or larger communities, we all can belong to multiple communities. Let’s say we don’t belong to a community in school believes but if you have a feeling of not belonging, it’s possible that you won’t have that feeling of belonging which there could be solutions but usually since it’s not allowed people who believe at school is everything But then they end up not belonging anymore you would end up feeling without a sense of longing to anything which leads them to escape to a smaller committee, which is the home and that leads to shutting out all other communities that they created. And even in influence people around you like shitting yourself in and even turning to violence against members of your family, taking you’re attempting to gain the sense of belonging again. Then he explains the solutions of removing the current sense of un belonging into adapt to a new community like changing schools, leaving a job a community that you can break relations by just simply withdrawal because once having a mentality, knowing that the big community is the world, you will see that the hard things that one goes through is a small storm. The moment you leave that storm it’ll be gone and all you feel is peace. The more you seclude yourself, the more chance you will be able to achieve anything so what Phil was saying is that we have to choose freedom at the same time of feeling a community not clinging to the small community right in front of you there will always be more “you and I “, and more “everyone “enlarge communities that exist. It’s fine to just let go living in fear of one other relationship is falling apart and it’s not free way to live just be free.