Pri L’s Reviews > The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness > Status Update

Discarding other people’s tasks is for example a kid has issues w. A situation the parents shouldn’t intervene. The most critical thing is have the child feels like he can depend on his parents when dealing with dilemma and having a trust relationship. A key thing here is that if a child has shut himself in, no parent should try to intervene and refrain from focusing on it. Then u send a message saying your here to assist whenever their in need. So the child would have to decide on what to do and make a decision on his task, in which he would prob ask for assistance and prob work on his own on others. It’s a common thing that parents believe “my child is my life” though they have this mentality that they intervene in the child’s task so it’s “easier” for the child. Though that convinces the child to rebel and do quite the opposite of parents wishes. Acc to book “ naturally the parents will worry about them, and probably want to intervene at times. But, other people are not living to satisfy your expectations. Thought the child is one’s own, he or she is not living to satisfy once expectations as a parent. Being in a family has less distance so it is more necessary to consciously separate the tasks.” and when it comes to love the act of trust and believe is also the separation of task for example your task is to believe in your partner. Now the other peoples tasks is how that person would act in regard to your expectations and trust when it’s been pushed without having drawn the line meaning intervention, it’s when it becomes a stalker like intervention in which usually don’t last. The.Philo says that when you enter in other people‘s task and take other peoples burden, turns one’s life heavy full of hardship, which makes it difficult for you to live your own because that lead you to worry and suffering, which also stems from interpersonal relationships. The fellow says to learn the boundary of “from here on, that is not my task.” and discard it, which helps towards lighting the load and making the life simpler.