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Being desired it doesn’t make you free. Flo says that maybe it’s easier to live in a way to satisfy peoples expectations. Thou u won’t live. that’s why he find it. Important to learn how to separate tasks. He says that living in a way to satisfy other people & interesting ones on life to others is a way of living with your lying to yourself & you continue to lie, including the people around u.
— Sep 01, 2025 10:56PM
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Pri L
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The first chapter is about how to feel you have value. So adding from last chapter, 1st is separation of tasks, 2nd accepting differences/building equal horizontal relationships, 3rd is Encouragement. From past chapter one shouldn’t rebuke or praise instead we should say the words of gratitude like saying a straightforward delight a “I’m glad” or “ that was a big help” instead of using the word thank you.
— Sep 16, 2025 10:18PM
Pri L
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This chapter talks about the do not rebuke or praise. So he asks is carrying out the separation task connect with relations? How does it connect with building the kind of relations in which we cooperate and act in harmony with each other? Which brings us to the concept of “horizontal relationships. “
— Sep 12, 2025 10:32PM
Pri L
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U are not the center of the attention.That’s how the book starts,not being the center of the world. What the Philo says about this chapter is that every single person has a feel of refuge within the community having a sense of belonging since its based of human desires. he talks about a person who thinks of only I,would be consider selfish because to such people they think“people who will do something“for them
— Sep 10, 2025 10:11PM
Pri L
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Goal of interpersonal relationship is a feeling of community so the community feeling is also referred as “social interest“ which is basically the interest in society society smallest unit is “you and I”
— Sep 05, 2025 08:53PM
Pri L
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This chapter is interesting that it through the mind in the body or separate things and reason with emotion or different both the conscious mind, and the unconscious mind exist. The when one choose shout wouldn’t think the emotions that exist independently is having produced shouting voice.
— Sep 04, 2025 09:27PM
Pri L
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This is about holding the cards to interpersonal relationships. Philo was talking about having a bad relationship with his father he talks about the fruity and it’s logical way of thinking which is “he hit me that time, and that is why our relationship with bad“ which is showing the memory of being hit because it’s insinuating that he didn’t want the relationship to get better.
— Sep 02, 2025 10:52PM
Pri L
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So this chapter is a lot.Adler believes that children who have not been taught to come from challenges. Try to avoid all challenges,which is true.This chapter is about the course not doing things easier for one is actually making mistake because you’re actually hurting them rather helping them to challenge their Situation.The separation of task is not the objective for depression. Relationships is the gateway.
— Aug 31, 2025 10:03PM
Pri L
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So. To get rid of interpersonal relationship problems the fellow says it shouldn’t matter the emotion of others once you make a decision it’s not your task on how the other person reacts.
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— Aug 29, 2025 08:19PM
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Pri L
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Wow.So we shouldn’t butt in into people’s tasks but be ready to assist them if needed.To know who’s tasks,the result of choice is coming from the person assig. by that task.A kid won’t study is a kid who finds interfer.&noncare while doing that specific task.Not interfere & not being inter.doesn’t help child.Instead knowing what child is doing, it’s protection & support.Saying it’s his tasks is critical
— Aug 28, 2025 12:04AM
Pri L
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Wow so reading the special chapter on recognition, & I have to say.. it’s true what the philo says and COINCIDENTALLY added God to the mix even though the child doesn’t want to talk about him. There is a thing called reward & punishment ed., means is one takes appropriate action when receives praise, if one takes inapp. action, one receives punishment we shouldn’t be living to satisfy people‘s expectations.
— Aug 24, 2025 12:16AM
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Separating one’s task is not an egocentric thing intervening in another person’s task is essentially an egocentric way thinking. The next chapter is what real freedom is so Belo says that to human beings it’s a natural desire and an impulse, not wanting to be disliked as howKant says inclination he says real freedom is an attitude to pushing up one’s tumbling self from below. The conclusion is that freedom is being disliked by other people because it’s proof that you’re exercising your freedom and living you are living in accordance with your own principles. It’s difficult to try though use ChatGPT to find exercises to learn how to develop freedom. When one person doesn’t think well of you it’s not your task thinking things or overthinking like he shouldn’t like me or I’ve done all this for him or why doesn’t it show that he likes me is considered a reward oriented way of thinking of having intervene in another person‘s task which does not help
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According to Philo “thinking of freedom as released from organizations, that’s breaking away from your home or school, your company or your nation is freedom. However, if you were to break away from an organization, for instance, you would not be able to gain real freedom. Unless one is concerned by the other people‘s judgments, has no fear of being dislike by other people, and pace the cost that one might never be recognized, when will never be able to follow through with way of living. That is to say one will not be able to be free which means don’t be afraid of being disliked.
