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An assertive, independent, and self-expressive woman is capable of choosing her own lifestyle, free of dictates of tradition, government, husband, children, social groups, and bosses. She may elect to be a homemaker and not fear intimidation by those who work outside the home. Or she may elect to pursue a male-dominated profession and enjoy confidence in her rights and abilities.

Commitment Level 3

Commitment to Spend Your Future Together

You and your partner agree to work together, honestly communicating feelings, looking at your own blocks to intimacy, and learning to understand one another in order to create that potential lasting partnership.

You and your partner agree that your relationship is special and worth nurturing.

You and your partner agree that your relationship has the potential to be a lasting partnership.

Commitment Level 2

Commitment to Work Towards a Partnership

You and your partner agree that you are each other’s only sexual partners (‘sex’ meaning everything from kissing to intercourse—whatever level you are participating in)

You and your partner agree that this is your one and only intimate relationship, and commit to putting your time and energy into sharing with one another and no one else.

Commitment Level 1

Commitment to Be Sexually and Emotionally Monogamous

Getting married before you have created a strong, mature, loving relationship is simply irresponsible, even more so if you decide to have children right away.

IT’S NOT FALLING IN LOVE OR MAKING A COMMITMENT THAT EVENTUALLY CAUSES US SO MUCH PAIN—ITS MAKING A COMMITMENT TO THE WRONG PERSON.

YOU AND YOUR PARTNER NEED THREE INGREDIENTS TO MAKE YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORK:

1. CHEMISTRY
2. COMPATIBILITY
3. COMMITMENT

I did not choose my partner in order to be rebellious.
I did not choose my partner only as a reaction to a previous partner.
My partner is available.

I do not care more about my partner than he does about me.
My partner does not care more about me than I do about him.
I am not in love with my partner’s potential.
I am not on a Rescue Mission.
I do not have my partner on a pedestal as a role model.
I am not infatuated with my partner for external reasons.
I have more than just partial compatibility with my partner.

I’m asking enough questions.
I’m not making premature compromises.
I’m not giving in to Lust Blindness. I’m not giving in to material seduction.
I’m not putting commitment before compatibility.
I’m not ignoring warning signs of potential problems.

Healthy and mature people certainly need help sometimes too. But they go about it differently. When they ask for help, they consider the other person’s circumstances. They leave room for the other person to say no. They don’t expect you to drop everything and attend to them, and they are appreciative when you do help them.

change is best served by selfconnection over self-correction.

Many people don’t believe they have the right to be assertive.
Many people are highly anxious or fearful about being assertive.
Many people lack the skills to express themselves effectively.

... and to express our feelings and needs (affection, love, friendship, disappointment, annoyance, anger, regret, sorrow) honestly and comfortably.

Assertive self-expression is direct, firm, positive — and, when necessary, persistent — action intended to promote equality in person-to-person relationships. Assertiveness enables us to act in our own best interests, to stand up for ourselves without undue anxiety, to exercise personal rights without denying the rights of others ...

assertiveness reflects genuine concern for everybody’s rights.

Those for whom sensitivity to the feelings of others is central will need to learn to recognize signals (social cues) from others and to discover how to detect and understand the needs, feelings, and behavior of other people.

you realize that it’s not just your basic needs that are important, but your preferences as well.

اغلب اوقات دلیل رفتارهای خوب ما احساس گناه، شرم، ترس از مقابله، ترس از طرد شدن و ترس شدیدمان از تنهایی است.

Sex is really just a mirror for us—a mirror that reflects the state of our mind, our heart, and our soul. Knowing this, your sex life can transform from something mysterious and confusing to something enlightening and magical.