Wayne

“In fact, if you get into a relationship with somebody who’s not treating you poorly, you may find yourself feeling increasingly uncomfortable. And then, unconsciously, your mind might seek a “predictable” response. You may try to provoke a bit of response. Maybe I’ll do X and it’ll piss him off. If this elicits the behavior you’re most familiar with—he gets angry and treats you poorly—it can actually be validating. The worldview has been confirmed. Even though the result is chaos and conflict, it’s comforting in the sense that it’s familiar.”
― Bruce D. Perry, What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

“Nonetheless, no other primate kills over ideology, theology, or aesthetics.”
― Robert M. Sapolsky, Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst

“How will he know you loved him," she asks, "unless you try to destroy yourself?”
― Sloane Crosley, Grief Is for People

“This book has a goal—to get people to think differently about moral responsibility, blame and praise, and the notion of our being free agents. And to feel differently about those issues as well. And most of all, to change fundamental aspects of how we behave.”
― Robert M. Sapolsky, Determined: A Science of Life without Free Will