Wayne

“How will he know you loved him," she asks, "unless you try to destroy yourself?”
― Sloane Crosley, Grief Is for People

“Very often, “what happened” takes years to reveal itself. It takes courage to confront our actions, peel back the layers of trauma in our lives, and expose the raw truth of our past. But this is where healing begins.”
― Bruce D. Perry, What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

“It comes back to dysregulation. There’s always a pull to regulate, to seek comfort, to fill that reward bucket. But it turns out that the most powerful form of reward is relational. Positive interactions with people are rewarding and regulating. Without connection to people who care for you, spend time with you, and support you, it is almost impossible to step away from any form of unhealthy reward and regulation. This includes alcohol overuse, drug overuse, eating too much sweet and salty food, porn, cutting, or spending hours and hours on video games. Connectedness counters the pull of addictive behaviors. It is the key.”
― Bruce D. Perry, What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing

“This book has a goal—to get people to think differently about moral responsibility, blame and praise, and the notion of our being free agents. And to feel differently about those issues as well. And most of all, to change fundamental aspects of how we behave.”
― Robert M. Sapolsky, Determined: A Science of Life without Free Will