Ember

“Human nature dictates that it is virtually impossible to accept advice from someone unless you feel that that person understands you.”
― John Gottman, The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work

“Danger rarely wore a monstrous face and wielded a pitchfork. No, danger came most often in the form of people like Edward, the nice people whose niceness only went so deep, who believed they were more deserving of power and respect than anyone who was a little bit different. And she would never know how many other nice, ordinary people out there were as ugly as Edward underneath.”
― Sangu Mandanna, The Very Secret Society of Irregular Witches

“Trust is built in very small moments, which I call 'sliding door' moments. In any interaction, there is a possibility of connecting with your partner or turning away from your partner. One such moment is not important, but if you're always choosing to turn away, then trust erodes in a relationship- very gradually, very slowly.”
― John Gottman

“Perfection is not the price of love. Practice is. We practice how to express our love and how to receive our partner’s love. Love is an action even more than a feeling. It requires intention and attention, a practice we call attunement.”
― John M. Gottman, Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love