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“While self-flagellation seems motivating—especially to Americans, whose mental models of motivation often begin with howling, red-faced, vein-popping football coaches—it often produces helplessness. Self-compassion, by contrast, prompts people to confront their difficulties head-on and take responsibility for them, researchers have found.”
― Daniel H. Pink, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward

“Can I count on you, depend on you? Are you there for me? Will you respond to me when I need, when I call? Do I matter to you? Am I valued and accepted by you? Do you need me, rely on me?”
― Sue Johnson, Created for Connection: The "Hold Me Tight" Guide for Christian Couples

“You are living a “don’t trouble trouble ‘til trouble troubles you” life with the one who was once your best friend.”
― Paul David Tripp, Instruments in the Redeemer's Hands: People in Need of Change Helping People in Need of Change

“Self-criticism can sometimes motivate our performance when we criticize ourselves for particular actions rather than for deep-seated tendencies. But unless carefully managed and contained, self-criticism can become a form of inner-directed virtue signaling. It projects toughness and ambition, but often leads to rumination and hopelessness instead of productive action.”
― Daniel H. Pink, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward