Soul Care Quotes

“An external change cannot alleviate an internal torment. A change of circumstances will not overcome the power of a lie. You must renew your mind and reconstruct the foundation of your soul upon the truth of who you are in Christ, or you will not experience deep change. If you grew up feeling insecure, only the security of Christ’s eternal love revealed by the Spirit can set you free.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“I have decided to bless everyone who curses me. I have determined to hold no grudges, nurse no wounds, nurture no disappointments, and hang on to no resentments. I will process my anger and pain at all costs, and I will forgive my enemies.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“I will die with no enemies. There are people who don’t like me, but the feeling is not mutual”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Christians filled with the Spirit are dangerous to hell. If you’re not dangerous to hell, then you’re dangerous to the church.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Maturity is a choice we have to make and a price we have to pay, and all the talent in the world can’t compensate for immaturity. It is the development of our character and the depth of our intimacy that impresses God. Salvation is free. Maturity comes at a cost.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“I long to see revival; I long to see the church be the church so the world will believe. I”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“I have come to realize that a lot of people are stuck in their spiritual journey, and they need freedom. Some are in a marriage crisis and want to get better, but they can’t find a path to wholeness. The church hasn’t helped enough of these people get healthy enough to have a healthy relationship. Others are stuck in a sin pattern. The church has too often told them, “Don’t do that” without giving them the help they need to get free. I’ve seen people tormented by the power of the enemy, and they didn’t know how to access the power of God to find freedom from Satan’s evil grip.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Jesus is a healer, and He has come to heal us: body, soul, and spirit. This book focuses on the healing of the soul. Jesus can lead us out of brokenness into wholeness, and these Soul Care Principles from Scripture are profound healing tools of God.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Jesus is a healer, and He has come to heal us: body, soul, and spirit.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“You are forgiven according to the riches of His grace, not according to the poverty of your life.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“When we reject the truth, we miss out on the freedom God affords. We cannot heal that which we will not admit. God cannot cleanse that which we will not confess. We are often reluctant to admit the ugly, broken, and sinful parts of our self. But to the degree that we deny these realities, we live in bondage to them.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“She said, “Now, I want to lead you through the garden of your fears. Picture a garden.1” At this point in my life, I very seldom got prophetic images. When God spoke to me, it was mostly through whispers, or I just knew something; God had revealed it to my spirit. Also, I am not very artsy. I thought, This is dumb. But, Lord, I know I need help, so I’m going to picture a garden. I’m going to go with the first thing that comes into my mind. A garden image came to mind. It was a rock garden. There were flowers in my garden. There were rocks in my garden. There was a big tree in the center of my garden. That was my garden, and I was going with it. She said, “Now, walk through the garden of your fears. Pick out the weeds. Those are your fears. Name them as you pluck them out.” I looked around in my garden, and there was not a weed in sight. There were flowers, there were rocks, and there was a big tree in the center of my garden. But there was not a weed to be found. I thought, I knew this lady was a fruit loop. This is ridiculous. Just then she said, “Some of you don’t have any weeds in your garden. You don’t have any little fears. You just have a big tree in the center of your garden. That’s because you just have one big, root fear. It is so big you can’t pull it out. You need Jesus.” As soon as she said it, Jesus walked into my garden and pulled up my tree by the roots. And I knew it was the fear of not being loved. My whole life made sense to me.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“She said that the language of the heart is symbol. Words often do not heal the heart. God gave us our imaginations, and He gives us prophetic pictures, dreams, and visions that bring healing to our damaged souls, which have been afflicted with painful memories. We have soul bruises from past events and memories, but Jesus was present at the time of our wounding, and often a revelation of His presence, a picture of His presence, accompanied by His voice, can allow the healing to flow to our souls.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Paul tells us that when a prophetic word comes, there is a manifestation of the Lord’s presence: “Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good” (1 Corinthians 12:7). Paul then lists through various revelatory gifts that fall under the umbrella of the prophetic. These gifts are revelatory in nature—they reveal something about God. When one of these revelatory gifts is demonstrated there is a manifestation of God’s presence. That is why God sometimes gives people a picture of a past memory infused with Jesus’ presence; as His presence is manifest, healing occurs.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Acts 2:17, 18 says, “In the last days, God says, I will pour out my Spirit on all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions, your old men will dream dreams. Even on my servants, both men and women, I will pour out my Spirit in those days, and they will prophesy.” This prophetic word of Joel, which Peter quotes on the day of Pentecost, indicates that in the last days, which biblically began with the resurrection of Jesus and remain until He returns, the people of God will experience God’s speaking to them through prophetic words. These prophetic words include prophetic images—dreams and visions. God gives His people prophetic images to meet them, encounter them, speak to them, and renew their minds. God sanctifies our imaginations with His prophetic pictures. This is part of the way He heals the soul with His presence and His voice. Keep your eyes on Jesus, trust the Holy Spirit, and believe what the Scripture promised in Acts 2. He can give you a prophetic picture that can heal a past memory.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“God gave us our mind and our imagination. He has told us to renew our mind. Our minds have been damaged by some of the tragic events which we have locked away in our memories, and God can renew our mind by revealing Jesus’ presence in these past events and healing our memories by involving our imaginations.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Instantly, two words came to my mind: Father abuse. I said to him, “You were abused by your father.” He nodded. Another impression immediately flowed and I said, “You have a specific memory right now of a time when you were tortured by your father.” He was crying. He told a terrible story of horrific torment. Again, the Spirit gave me direction and I said, “Jesus was there with you that day. I’m going to pray that you can see Him in that memory.” The memory was vivid, imprinted on his imagination by the terror he had suffered. He saw Jesus pick his father up with one hand and push him out of the room they were in. Then Jesus shut the door and picked up the small child that was being tormented, and He held him in His arms and rocked him back and forth and spoke words of tender love over him. The man wept for forty minutes, uncontrollably, as the loving presence of Jesus ministered to his inner wound.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“The Healing Presence One of the ways the Spirit brings healing is for the person to become aware of the presence of Jesus in a hurtful memory. Jesus is always with us, even if we can’t see Him or aren’t aware of Him. We need to become attentive to Him.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“My goal is simply to put a person with soul wounds in the presence of the Healer. I look to Jesus, and you must look to Jesus too.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Presenting problems are usually symptoms. They are not the disease. So the first thing I always do is ask them to tell me their story. If I can listen to their story, I can usually understand why they do what they do, and how they came to where they are. I can connect the dots between their story line and their present problems, their hurts, and the lies they believe. People have an intuitive sense about the important components of their story. It’s uncanny. Unless they are lying intentionally, or they have repressed memories, the vast majority of time they will tell the key events that have shaped their lives. I listen carefully to their story, and I am also listening to the Spirit of God for insights, wisdom, and revelation.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Healthy boundaries come from a healthy identity. When you know that you are deeply loved by God, you don’t allow people to run over you, but neither do you seek to control others. You treat others with dignity and respect, and you require them to treat you with dignity and respect as well.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“We need boundaries when people are attacking us. But shields are actually dangerous. The problem with shields is they are indiscriminate. They not only block out the person who is trying to hurt us, they block out God from trying to heal us. We need to lay down our defensive shields that are attempts at self-protection and establish healthy boundaries that arise from a desire to preserve the dignity of people for whom Christ died.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Sometimes forgiveness feels like a process because you are in a relationship with someone who keeps hurting you and they aren’t repenting or offering an apology that is commensurate with the offense. You need to clearly establish appropriate boundaries. There is a difference between a shield and a boundary. A shield is something I pick up to protect myself. I can pick up defensiveness, anger, withdrawal, or silence as a shield, and I can use that shield to keep the offender away from me and protect myself. It neither protects my dignity nor the dignity of the other person. But a boundary is used to preserve both my dignity and the other person’s dignity. When I put up a healthy boundary, I don’t stoop to the level of someone else’s dysfunction, and I call the other person to live at a higher level too, and this preserves the dignity for both of us.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Forgiveness is a gift granted by the offended party. Trust is earned. And while forgiveness is unilateral, reconciliation is bilateral; it requires that both parties fully participate. In order for reconciliation to occur, the offended party must fully forgive to the level of the offense: if there is a five-gallon offense, there must be five gallons of forgiveness. And the offender must fully repent to the level of the offense: he or she must offer a five-gallon apology.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Forgiveness is an act of the will that we must choose. Forgiveness is a gift offered by the offended party. It is never deserved or earned. Therefore, you can forgive someone unilaterally; they don’t need to apologize. This is a gift from God—otherwise you would be bound to bitterness by someone’s unwillingness to own their part and repent. Thankfully, this is not true; you can forgive someone if they never apologize. You can forgive someone even if they have died and can never apologize.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Often people practice what I call “content listening.” Content listening is when your spouse says to you, “I need you to help more around the house.” And you respond by repeating back the content in your own words: “So, you would feel more supported if I helped more around the house.” We are simply making sure we understand each other with the content of what is being conveyed. But there is a much deeper level of listening. It is what I call “emotional listening.” Now, I am not just listening to the content of what you are communicating, I am also listening to the emotional tone and weight behind your words. I am picking up on the intent. I couldn’t offer Jen a five-gallon apology when I was only content listening because I didn’t know there was a five-gallon hurt. I needed to hear her at a deeper level. I had to understand how deeply she was hurt. I needed to hear her heart.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“When you are hurt, and struggling with unforgiveness, when you find yourself having imaginary conversations with the person who hurt you and rehearsing the offense in your mind, then it’s time to remember God’s grace. The unmerciful servant failed to take this step. He rehearsed his fellow servant’s offense, and his own losses, but he failed to remember the master’s grace to him. You can’t rehearse your hurt and remember God’s grace at the same time.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“You ought to forgive because bitterness gives Satan a foothold in your life. It gives him a topos—ground, an inhabited place (Ephesians 4:26, 27). You are turned over to the jailer to be tortured. I think the concepts that Paul and Jesus speak about are very similar. When you hold someone in your debt, the enemy gets a stronghold in your life. The stronghold of the enemy gives him access to your soul, and he torments you; he tortures you. Sometimes the bitterness that is there leads to depression. Depression is often (not always) in part a result of unprocessed anger turned inward. Sometimes the soul pain that is underneath the bitter root leads you to turn to some comfort sin pattern. You attempt to numb the pain with drinking or eating or prescription drugs or TV or pornography. Then the enemy torments you further by shaming you for your choices. It’s a vicious cycle—he tempts you to be bitter, you accept, and he torments you with the effects of bitterness. Then he tempts you to act out in some way that brings comfort to the pain in your soul that your bitterness has buried. You accept again, and he batters you with condemnation because you have sinned. You have been given over to the torturer, and he is working you over. Until you forgive, you remain in his grip. There is no other doorway that leads out of this prison—other than to forgive as you have been forgiven.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“To seal the deal on this teaching, Jesus tells another story: Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt (Matthew 18:23-25). This is a parable of what the kingdom of God is like. This is what kingdom people are like, because this is what the King is like, and if you follow the King, you behave like the King.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul

“Forgiveness is a matter of obedience, not a matter of more faith. Forgiveness is your responsibility and choice, not God’s responsibility. Forgiveness is the duty of a faithful follower made possible by the grace he or she has received. You have to choose to forgive. You have to resolve to release people from your debt. You have to determine not to get even, not to hold onto a grudge. It is a duty of the servant of a cross-bearing Savior.”
― Rob Reimer, Soul Care: 7 Transformational Principles for a Healthy Soul