Avoidance Quotes

Quotes tagged as "avoidance" (showing 1-30 of 152)
Saul Bellow
“A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.”
Saul Bellow, To Jerusalem and Back

Bill Watterson
“A day can really slip by when you're deliberately avoiding what you're supposed to do.”
Bill Watterson, There's Treasure Everywhere

Simone Elkeles
“Problem is, the bathroom pass can't help you escape life. It's still there when you come out. Problems and crap don't go away hiding in the can.”
Simone Elkeles, Perfect Chemistry

Bessel A. van der Kolk
“Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.” (p.97)”
Bessel A. van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Criss Jami
“You get hit the hardest when trying to run or hide from a problem. Like the defense on a football field, putting all focus on evading only one defender is asking to be blindsided.”
Criss Jami, Killosophy

Stefan Molyneux
“Mental anguish always results from the avoidance of legitimate suffering.”
Stefan Molyneux

Shana Abe
“All that effort,” he mused, “merely to avoid me. How gratifying.”
Shana Abé, The Smoke Thief

Tim Lott
“Depression is about anger, it is about anxiety, it is about character and heredity. But it is also about something that is in its way quite unique. It is the illness of identity, it is the illness of those who do not know where they fit, who lose faith in the myths they have so painstakenly created for themselves. [...] It is a plague - especially if you add in its various forms of expression, like alcoholism, anorexia, bulimia, drug addiction, compulsive behaviour of one kind or another. They're all the same things: attempts to avoid disappearance, or nothingness, or chaos.”
Tim Lott, Scent Of Dried Roses

Paulo Coelho
“Avoid those who seek friends in order to maintain a certain social status or to open doors they would not otherwise be able to approach.”
Paulo Coelho, Manuscript Found in Accra

Jeanette Winterson
“Living with life is very hard. Mostly we do our best to stifle life - to be tame or to be wanton. to be tranquillised or raging. Extremes have the same effect; they insulate us from the intensity of life.

And extremes - whether of dullness or fury - successfully prevent feeling. I know our feelings can be so unbearable that we employ ingenious strategies - unconscious strategies- to keep those feelings away. We do a feelings-swap, where we avoid feeling sad or lonely or afraid or inadequate, and feel angry instead. It can work the other way, too - sometimes you do need to feel angry, not inadequate; sometimes you do need to feel love and acceptance, and not the tragic drama of your life.

It takes courage to feel the feeling - and not trade it on the feelings-exchange, or even transfer it altogether to another person. You know how in couples one person is always doing all the weeping or the raging while the other one seems so calm and reasonable?

I understood that feelings were difficult for me although I was overwhelmed by them.”
Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal?

Maggie Stiefvater
“Avoidance is a wonderful therapy”
Maggie Stiefvater, Linger

Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is
“Pain in this life is not avoidable, but the pain we create avoiding pain is avoidable.”
R.D. Laing

Aeschylus
“There is no avoidance in delay.”
Aeschylus, Agamemnon

B.F. Skinner
“A person who has been punished is not thereby simply less inclined to behave in a given way; at best, he learns how to avoid punishment.”
B.F Skinner, Beyond Freedom and Dignity

Hermann Hesse
“What is meditation?... It is fleeing from the self, it is a short escape of the agony of being a self, it is a short numbing of the senses against the pain and the pointlessness of life. The same escape, the same short numbing is what the driver of an ox-cart finds in the inn, drinking a few bowls of rice wine or fermented coconut-milk.”
Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha

Vironika Tugaleva
“Emotional pain cannot kill you, but running from it can. Allow. Embrace. Let yourself feel. Let yourself heal.”
Vironika Tugaleva

Peggy Haymes
“We numb our minds and heart so one need not be broken and the other need not be bothered.”
Peggy Haymes

Mara Purnhagen
“I didn't avoid my problems. I just didn't feel as though I had to focus on them every minute of every day. And telling people about certain aspects of my life would only create trouble. If I was guilty of anything, it was of trying not to bring new problems into my life. That wasn't avoidance. That was logical thinking.”
Mara Purnhagen, One Hundred Candles

Stefan Molyneux
“The manic relief that comes from the fantasy that we can with one savage slash cut the chains of the past and rise like a phoenix, free of all history, is generally a tipping point into insanity, akin to believing that we can escape the endless constraints of gravity, and fly off a tall building. “I’m freeeee… SPLAT!”.”
Stefan Molyneux

Toba Beta
“Fight for change? Thirst for difference?
Start talking what men avoid talking about.”
Toba Beta, Master of Stupidity

“She's terrified that all these sensations and images are coming out of her — but I think she's even more terrified to find out why." Carla's description was typical of survivors of chronic childhood abuse. Almost always, they deny or minimize the abusive memories. They have to: it's too painful to believe that their parents would do such a thing.”
David L. Calof

Criss Jami
“People will seek the ends of the galaxy to avoid that which they need most.”
Criss Jami, Healology

António R. Damásio
“We use our minds not to discover facts but to hide them. One of things the screen hides most effectively is the body, our own body, by which I mean, the ins and outs of it, its interiors. Like a veil thrown over the skin to secure its modesty, the screen partially removes from the mind the inner states of the body, those that constitute the flow of life as it wanders in the journey of each day. (p.28)”
Antonio R. Damasio, The Feeling of What Happens: Body and Emotion in the Making of Consciousness

“All work is the avoidance of harder work.”
James Richardson, Vectors: Aphorisms & Ten-Second Essays

Craig D. Lounsbrough
“The choice to avoid risk is the choice to avoid living, and to avoid living is one of the greatest risk of all.”
Craig D. Lounsbrough

Charles Dickens
“My sister having so much to do, was going to church vicariously, that is to say, Joe and I were going.”
Charles Dickens, Great Expectations

Laura   Davis
“Many survivors struggle to believe the abuse happened. They don’t want to believe it. It’s too painful to think about. They don’t want to accuse family members or face the terrible loss involved in realizing “a loved one” hurt them; they don’t want to rock the boat.”
Laura Davis, Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Is a Survivor of Child Sexual Abuse

Craig D. Lounsbrough
“Have we ever thought that being lost is our destination?”
Craig D. Lounsbrough

Nicole Krauss
“He learned to live with the truth. Not to accept it, but to live with it. It was like living with an elephant. His room was tiny, and every morning he had to squeeze around the truth just to get to the bathroom. To reach the armoire to get a pair of underpants he had to crawl under the truth, playing it wouldn't choose the moment to sit on his face. At night, when he closed his eyes, he felt it looming above him.”
Nicole Krauss

“With respect to the acceptance of dissociative disorders, as with most issues in life, it is counterproductive to spend time trying to convince people of things they don't want to know.”
Warwick Middleton

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