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Quantum Creating – Get Entangled With Your Goals

We’ve all heard the phrase that the secret to getting something is to already have some? In other words, to attract more money, love, abundance and feelings of wellbeing into your life you already have to have money, love, abundance and wellbeing. That’s fine, I hear you say, but right now I’m overdrawn, single, living on beans on toast and feel drained so how am I supposed to attract what I need when I clearly don’t have it in the first place? If this sounds like you don’t despair! Quantum physics provides us with the key to transform our situation by using a technique based on quantum entanglement.

Put simply, quantum entanglement occurs when two particles at a distance are influenced by one another. Einstein referred to this as ‘spooky action at a distance’. We have all heard how the mere act of observing a particle alters it. When quantum entanglement occurs we can have one particle changing as it is observed on one side of the universe while on the other side of the universe the particle with which it is ‘entangled’ instantaneously takes on the change even though they are clearly separated by billions of light years.

So, how does this help us manifest our goals? First it’s important to start to think of reality as a field of energy or consciousness. Therefore like the example used above, a change to one particle affects another. Now, we’ve also said the trick to getting what you want is to already have it – which is hard to believe when you are struggling to pay your bills or lonely because all your friends are coupled up and you’ve not had a date in two years. If you are focussing on what you don’t have you are creating a quantum entanglement that creates more of this. Now, nobody can think positive thoughts all the time – it’s impossible. What we can do however it to ‘entangle’ a positive one with our goal to bring in the change. It works like this:

First, pick a time you won’t be disturbed. Turn off your phone and get comfy. You can sit or lie down if you wish. Close your eyes. Relax. Decide what it is you want to ‘entangle’. Let’s say for example you want to attract a new relationship. Now, think back to a time when you were in a relationship and things were going well. Don’t focus on the person, focus on the way you were feeling. You may recall feelings of excitement, anticipation and feeling loved. Breathe these feelings in and let them infuse your whole being. Now, holding these wonderful feelings in your body allow yourself to visualise having these feelings again with someone new and at the same time expand your vision to include the person telling you they want to spend the rest of their lives with you. Imagine how you would feel setting up home together, getting engaged or married. Stay with the feeling and now merge all your feelings together – the feelings you had from a previous relationship with the feelings you will have in your new, committed relationship. Congratulations – you’ve just ‘entangled’!

By reliving emotionally a time when we had a version of what we want we overcome the barriers we create by concentrating on what we don’t have. The quantum entanglement meditation works because a bit like cosmic ordering we can now walk away and know the energy field that is the universe will respond. Also, have accessed these feelings from our past, whenever we find ourselves focussing on whatever it is we don’t have we can now go back and access our emotional state from the past which again alters our mindset reinforcing our entanglement process. Obviously to do this with money focus on a time when you could pay a bill immediately or make an expensive purchase without breaking the bank and ‘entangle’ this will a future vision of you enjoying financial security.

So, the trick to getting what you want is just in finding the time when you had a version of it and entangling it with a better vision for the future.

The Soul Drain. How Emotional Blockages Hold Us Back

It’s easy to de-clutter our closets but what about our internal wardrobe? Very often they are stuffed with old emotional clutter – feelings of guilt, inadequacy, rejection and old beliefs that keep us stuck and rooted in a past which no longer represents who we are or what we are capable of.  If you can’t find what you’re looking for in your wardrobe because it’s stuffed full of things you no longer need or even suit you – think of emotional clutter in the same way. It prevents you from seeing what is possible for you and to realise your potential.

Over the years, I’ve learned there are a few signs to look for that tell us we need an emotional de-clutter and what to do.

Relationships aren’t living up to your expectations. Do you wish your friend would take the initiative sometimes and suggest things for you to do together or that your partner should take out the rubbish without you having to nag them?  The problem with this one is that no matter how close we are to someone they are not mind readers. If you’re not verbalising what you need the other person has no idea they are messing up. Also, you are becoming so focussed on what they are not doing you are missing all the lovely things they do do for you! If there are no positives then perhaps it is time to let go with love and reclaim your life. We are all different and each of us has different expectation in love. If you are stuck in a pattern (same love making, watching TV every night at 8pm, same venue Friday night) do something different and this could shift the whole dynamic of your relationship and release the block!

What you ‘should’ do makes you miserable or resentful. Just as expecting that people close to you ‘should’ behave in a certain way if they love you, ‘should’ isn’t a good motivator for you either. Rather than bowing to ‘I should’, next time you feel you HAVE to do something but don’t want to – stop. Take a few moments to think about what you really want to do – and why. Then follow your own instincts when going forward.

You feel guilt or heartache every time you see that name in your contact list. Broken romances, relationships that ended on a sour note whether personal or professional, are sadly part of everyone’s life. The only thing that heals the pain of a severed soul connection is time and distance. So, do yourself a favour. Delete them from your contact list. Un-friend. Un-link. Un-follow. If the universe wants that person to return to be part of your soul path, they will. In the interim, you don’t need to know what they are up to if it reminds you of a past hurt.

Lastly – the big one.

You have uncompleted projects or steps you’ve not taken towards your goals.

Our goals are essential to living an authentic life. We have our dreams for a reason – they are clues to our soul purpose. Very often we start to take steps to realise those goals but fall by the wayside. When we fail to complete something that was a major step towards our goals we are left with nagging emotional guilt as well as possibly physical reminders of what we’ve failed to achieve – that half-finished manuscript, course materials for that extra qualification, the camera you’ve not picked up in months after deciding you were going to be a National Geographic photographer. If this sounds familiar then today – yes, TODAY, take some time out to make a list of your unfinished projects and goals. Then review these. Have any of your goals changed? Because often they do over time. If this is the case and this goal no longer has meaning for you, don’t be afraid to discard it. Be at peace with this decision. You’ve de-cluttered something major that was just hanging around draining your energy. Now set yourself a new goal that’s appropriate to who you’ve now become. If however, the project still infuses you with excitement and passion, it’s now time to work out ways to schedule it in – even if it’s just 10 minutes a day to start with. Small steps lead to big achievements.

Emotional clutter literally ‘clutters’ our way forward, blocking our path, draining our energy and preventing us from seeing the way to our goals. By following some simple steps to rid ourselves of emotional clutter we allow the abundant energy of the universe to flow freely again and clear the way towards living a more authentic, expressive life that reflects who we truly are.

 

Soul Purpose SOS: Why is Being Myself so Difficult?

If you’re a regular visitor to MK you’ll know that a key theme to many of our articles on wellbeing and discovering your soul purpose lies in authenticity. Expressing our own unique personality and gifts in our own individual way is the surest path to living an abundant and fulfilled life. But why then is doing this sometimes so difficult? Why is it that the moment we start to express who we truly feel we are, we are met with criticism and opposition from the very people we thought would support us?

When we’re young our survival depends on fitting in and conforming to the expectations of our family. We have a basic need to be loved and accepted. By the time we enter our teens we’ve been exposed to many different people and ideas and have begun to not only emerge as individuals but also to try on new ideas for ourselves and compare them against those we have been brought up with. Paradoxically though, at the time when we are probably at our most rebellious, we are doing our utmost to conform – this time often to the expectations of friends, teachers or a peer group as we strive to ‘fit in’. If we express different opinions we may find ourselves as social outcasts. So, we can say a lot of the time we’re actively discouraged from being ourselves.

As we become more confident and autonomous in our lives, we may find it easier to express our true nature and opinions or to connect with like-minded people. And as we become more in tune with our higher selves and soul development work, we begin to unfold previously hidden aspects of our personalities – like a flower starting to bloom. However, we can still be conforming to how family, partners or our employer expects us to act for obvious reasons.

The problem can occur when we reach a point on our soul journey where we realise not being true to ourselves is affecting not only our own wellbeing, but every other aspect of our lives. Perhaps you embarked on a particular career path because your parents expected it of you but after years of financial success but feeling unfulfilled, you now know you have to follow your true calling? Or while you may be fulfilled in a relationship you now yearn for a career. As you start to take steps towards this you are suddenly met with criticism or opposition. Should you give up and return to the ‘status quo’ when expressing who you really are is clearly so difficult?

First it’s important to understand that we’re all here to experience soul growth. Our soul group which includes family, partners, children and friends are part of that soul growth as we are part of theirs. Sometimes we journey with people for a lifetime, other times, we journey for a distance then part ways when the soul growth with those people is complete. In the case of friends who don’t accept this new, more empowered you, very often you making changes to your life to pursue your goals only highlights their own frustrations. Perhaps your social life has revolved around a group whose main activity involves drinking and partying. Suddenly you want a fitter, healthier lifestyle or to spend time taking classes to pursue a new career and you no longer feel the resonance you once had with your friends or their activities. Know that you may still be able to keep up the contact although not as frequently and also that your new vibration will attract a new soul group if the old one does fall away.

In the case of family or partners, any opposition or criticism to you being ‘you’ is usually based on fear of losing you. They fear they will see you less or that you may leave altogether if you become slimmer/more successful/more confident. It’s important to reassure soul partners (which close family and loved ones come under) that they are your springboard and inspiration for you doing what you are doing. Give them an example of how your frustration at living inauthentically has affected your relationship with them and how the changes you are making are already having a positive effect. Once they understand their importance in your soul progress they will usually become your very own cheer squad. Supporting one another in living an authentic life is what true soul purpose is all about.

 

 

The Healing Power of Horses

Even if you are scared of horses or don’t ride, it’s hard not to be inspired by these magnificent creatures. As the Arab saying goes: ‘If God made anything more beautiful he kept it to himself’.

Horses have played a key role in human progress. When humankind first tamed the horse it opened up increased mobility – don’t forget up until then we were confined to travelling everywhere on foot! Today, horses are still playing a key role in our evolution but now on a soul level as the benefits of interacting with horses, even for non-riders, is now well documented via equine assisted therapy.

Ask any empathic horse owner and they will tell you that their horses mirror their moods or the emotional state of those around them, says Michele Knight reader and animal communicator, Helen. I know this from just being with my horse, Duchess and with my work with other horses over the years. If I am tense then Duchess will reflect that tension in her own body even if she does not know the reason for my being upset. If I am riding her she will often turn and touch my foot with her nose as if ‘checking’ I am okay and seeking reassurance. Conversely, if I am relaxed then so is she, enjoying her surroundings and relaxing her neck.

To further illustrate how horses mirror our emotional state, one day I was working with five horses who were loose in a field. These horses had a distinct ‘pecking’ order in their small herd with the alpha, Wurzel at the top. Wurzel would assert his authority over the others, often driving them away when food or treats were available. This day however, they abandoned their usual rivalries and all stood together while I performed a healing meditation with them. Incredibly all five horses stood with eyes closed in a healing trace state for over 10 minutes. I was enjoying the shared healing between us when the horses’ owner turned up. He was angry the horses were over the far side of the paddock and he had to walk across it to get to them. His entire body language reflected this even before he started shouting. It was as if a spell had been broken as instantly all five horses’ eyes snapped open and they started to run around biting and kicking one another – a clear reflection of the ‘negative’ vibe that had suddenly intruded!

So, how can a horse’s innate ability to reflect our emotional state help us? By seeing how a horse reflects our inner state, we can identify emotional problems and blockages we are facing to our soul growth, and release them. We can see clearly how we react to situations and by understanding the horse’s reaction, change our own. Furthermore, as we develop a relationship with a horse – even a therapy horse, we can overcome our fears, build trust, respect and self-confidence, develop better communication, problem solving and coping techniques and learn how to set appropriate boundaries. We can then apply these skills to any other area of our lives!

You don’t have to be able to ride to benefit from this type of interaction with horses. However, it is essential to find a qualified equine assisted therapist – it is not as simple as just going up to a horse in a field and seeing what it tells you. And if you are inexperienced with horses you should never approach a strange horse on your own. A Google search should reveal a qualified therapist in your area.

As Buck Brannaman – the man on whom the book The Horse Whisperer was based, says ‘The horse is a mirror. Sometimes you’ll like what you see – and sometimes you won’t. Horses give us the opportunity to change that reflection for the better.

If you would like a reading with Helen, please call reception to find out her availability and to book a reading.

Love SOS: Why Does ‘It’s Not You – It’s Me’ Feel Like It Really IS Me?

‘It’s not you, it’s me.’ One of the most used break-up excuses there is. Chances are you may even have used it yourself. However, if you’re the one on the receiving end it really does feel like it is you no matter what the other person is saying.

The fact is no matter how the ending is phrased, it is still a rejection and rejection hurts no matter how secure we are in ourselves or how high our self-esteem may be. We all have a core need for acceptance and belonging and any kind of rejection threatens that. In this situation it’s all too easy to fall into the trap of thinking: ‘What’s wrong with me?’ or ‘My relationships never work out’. The other factor to consider is that the usual response we all have to a break-up is not just feelings of sadness and rejection but we also can’t stop thinking about our ex which just fuels the self-defeating thoughts!

Researchers have discovered that this is also affected by how close you were to your partner. The longer the relationship and the closer you felt you were the more your identity becomes intertwined with that of your partner. There’s a blurring of identities – a merging that occurs that can really make us feel we are ‘one’ and uncertain of where we end and our partner begins as Dr. Arthur Aron of Stony Brook University, New York and Professor Boelen of the University of Utrecht have discovered in separate research studies. Which explains why when our partner says ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ it really does feel like it’s us!

In this research participants were asked people were asked to describe themselves and their partners with traits such as ‘funny’ and ‘smart. Next they were presented with these same words on a computer screen and asked to apply them just to themselves as fast as they could. The researchers discovered that people who had broken up with their partners had a hard time deciding which traits applied to themselves rather than their ex and they made a lot of mistakes. In other words – they had confused their identities with their partners even after the relationship ended. This is why ‘you’ and ‘me’ feels like the same thing – even though it isn’t. Fortunately as we move through the grieving process and gain perspective on the relationship, our perception begins to change.

‘It’s not you, it’s me’ can initially be hurtful but on a soul level can free us from a situation that may have no future or serve our growth. Over time as you re-establish your own identity outside the relationship you may realise that you and your ex were on a different soul path or wanted different things even it if wasn’t obvious at the time. ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ is often an excuse used by someone who is emotionally unavailable on some level. And while as we’ve seen it usually isn’t you at all if you’ve been on the receiving end of the ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ line on a regular basis then some soul healing may be in order. You may be attracting a certain type of unavailable partner because deep down you don’t believe you deserve to be loved.

The purpose of any relationship is always growth and learning. ‘It’s not you, it’s me’ gives us an opportunity to first realise it’s not us and secondly to be able to spot someone who may not be able to give us what we want before we get in too deep in the future.

September Astrology Video 2012 All Signs with Michele Knight

September is an incredibly powerful Astrological month. We have a chance to shift and transform our vibration. Hard work with big rewards!

LAST CHANCE Closes end of August -If you love my Video’s and website it would be fabulous and very kind of you to vote for us in the Soul and Spirit awards. We have come first two years running and last year we came second by a whisker! You also win the chance of winning a place on a psychic retreat. Kiki sends you a grateful kiss! Thank you xoxoxox

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Your Weekly Astrology 27 August 2012 With Michele Knight And Kiki

Hello Beautiful Soul, this is the last video with Kiki in for a couple of weeks as she has had two operations in the past week and is recovering. The vet has been perplexed as to what is causing her stomach problems but a kind fan of Kiki got in touch and wondered if she had eaten a frog or something and it had caused the manic stomach problems. We did have a toad outside so I figure it is possible? She is perky but still suffering but hopefully she will be on the mend soon. Her stand in for the September overview and the coming weeks horoscope video’s is Hollywood our cockatoo. We have a very intense Astrological sky coming up for the next month or so and an opportunity to break some fundamental patterns and transform our vibration. This week there is a powerful blue Moon in Pisces which is awakening us to our spirituality and stirring out emotions.

Love Answers: Yes, Men Really DO Act Dumb Around Women

No matter our gender or sexual preference, probably all of us at some point in our lives has said or done something stupid in front of someone we were trying to impress only to cringe at the memory later. However, the latest research shows that when it comes to impressing the opposite sex, men really do act dumber!

If you’re a fan of The Big Bang Theory then you’ve probably laughed at how Leonard Hofstadter’s IQ of 178 just seems to plummet when he’s in the company of Penny. However, Leonard’s ability to say the exactly the wrong thing coupled with his friend Raj’s total inability to say anything to a member of the opposite sex except when he’s drunk are closer to the mark than you might think.

Researchers at the Behavioural Science Institute in the Netherlands asked ( I assume heterosexual) participants to complete some memory tests followed by a chat with a male or female stranger (actually a researcher). Then they were asked to do the memory tests again. What emerged was that the men’s (but not the women’s) scores on the tests dropped significantly after they interacted with someone of the opposite sex! They also discovered that a woman didn’t even need to be present for men’s responses to drop. In a second series of studies half the men were told that a woman would be watching them during the second memory tests. These men’s performances actually dropped on the second part of the test when they expected to be watched by a woman!

The researchers concluded that it may be men’s evolutionary competitiveness in finding a mate that is to blame. In other words, this response is hard-wired in. In order to impress a woman, a man uses more thinking power as he looks for ways to make an impression which ends up paradoxically leaving him with less mental resources. The more attractive he finds someone, the dumber he becomes! Consider as an extreme example Tom Cruises’ ‘couch jumping’ episode on Oprah.

The good news is that the researchers discovered this is only temporary. So ladies, when you’re out on that first date with a guy and he says or does something stupid, you might want to consider giving him a second chance and a second date because it just may be that he’s coming across as dumb due to his brain working overtime coming up with ways to bedazzle you! It’s really not his fault and you might want to consider that he’s just trying to impress you – after all, you’re going to have to do the thinking for you both – at least for a while!

Radio 2 Discussion About Ebay Removal Of Psychics. Our Code Of Conduct.

I have just finished a discussion on the Jeremy Vine show on Radio 2 about Ebay’s ban on Psychic readings. I have never advertised our services on Ebay except when I auctioned myself for charity as I don’t think it is the appropriate place however I do feel it is wrong to ban it. Richard Wiseman was in favour of the ban but we both agreed that the psychic industry needs regulation. Some of the readers on Ebay clearly breach the Advertising Standards rules and give us all a bad name but some have 800+ 5 star reviews. I think Ebay is making a moral judgment and as we do not live in a fundamentalist society, a wrong one, it just needs to bring it inline with the law! However, one of the reasons I started this service is that a lot of people are getting ripped off. Michele Knight Psychics have a very strong code of conduct and here is just a small part of it. We need to stand together to make the psychic industry one we can all be proud of.

Client confidentiality is crucial.  You must not discuss who you have done readings for or the content of any readings with anyone outside of the company at any point.

Industry regulations state that we must not talk about anything related to health – this covers making diagnoses and talking about pregnancy or the gender of a child to a pregnant woman.  Other than saying it’s a good time to make savings, you should also steer clear of anything to do with financial matters.  Also, don’t talk about anything to do with court cases.  This covers expected judgements in criminal or civil law proceedings. If a person has been charged and is in pre trial judgement case it is known as Sub Judice and as such it is illegal to make comment in public.  What you say over the phone may be written down and published by the client and you as the reader could be held in contempt of court.

Please encourage callers to contact services that may better suit their needs, such as their GP for any health concerns or the Citizens Advice offices for practical advice related to legal or financial matters.  If you feel that your client just needs to talk, please remember that the Samaritans offer a free service.

You are expected to maintain appropriate boundaries with clients at all times and work to the highest professional standards.

You are there to use your psychic skills to help clients make their own decisions and choices in life – not to tell them what to do.

Don’t keeping clients hanging on the line.  Readers aren’t paid for any time in excess of an hour and a half per reading unless there is an exceptional reason as to why a call is taking that long,

If you feel that any client is showing signs of dependency on you, either by calling you too often – especially if they are asking the same questions again and again – or trying to make you responsible for the decisions they need to be making in life, then do flag clients up to reception.  If possible and relevant, we will contact them to encourage them to use more services that offer them more appropriate support.

Be very careful about using the word ‘soul mate’ in a relationship reading.  Monitoring thousands of readings has shown us that people have associations with this word that you might not intend.  It can set up a whole set of expectations that can lead the client to disappointment.  It’s such a loaded word that we advise that it’s just easier if you don’t use it and don’t let yourself get pushed into saying someone is or isn’t a soulmate!

As part of all of our commitment to continuing professional development, it’s important that you work with monitors should the need arise.  All calls are recorded and randomly monitored to ensure that the highest professional standards are being maintained.  Very occasionally, we receive complaints and every complaint is thoroughly investigated.  If we find that any reader has broken our code of ethics or conduct, they are immediately removed from the service.

If you join the team you will be asked to sign a contract which in part will state that you agree to work to industry regulations and our code of ethics or conduct.  

You might be able to listen to the show here. I appeared on 21st August 2012

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What are your views on the Ebay ban?

Love SOS: What To Do When It’s Over

It’s a scenario that sadly most of us will have to face at some point in our lives. The person you thought would always be part of your life is no longer a part of it. Someone you love telling you that they no longer feel the same way is always heartbreaking and usually comes as a shock, but even if you’re the one to initiate the break-up, you can still experience deep feelings of hurt, guilt and sadness when a relationship comes to an end. This is also often coupled with fear if you are coming out of a long-term relationship. How are you going to cope without this person next to you? Will you ever find someone else to love and trust again?

The first thing to understand is that there is no statute of limitations on how long it is going to take you to process your feelings. We’re all different and each of us processes things in a different way and in our own time. Whether you’re the one who’s been left or have done the leaving yourself, you need to be gentle on yourself and above all, don’t ‘push’ against what your own inner voice is telling you to do right now. If you feel you need some time alone nurturing yourself or just thinking, don’t feel you have to rush out and become the life and soul of the party no matter what well-meaning friends may think. However, don’t be afraid to reach out for support if you need it whether it’s to a family member, close friend or even a therapist. Remember, the end of a relationship is a death on an emotional level. Take time to mourn and seek grief counselling if you need it. We need to remember that when we enter into a soul agreement with someone, even if it doesn’t last, our energy becomes entangled with theirs. Although we are now no longer together, we are still attached to them on a spiritual and energetic level and it takes a while for these bonds to completely sever.

Often our self-esteem takes a battering when someone leaves us and we may also have feelings of rejection to deal with. When it comes to dating again and finding someone new, it pays to take your time. When a relationship ends we are in a crisis and often we are not in the best position to make good decisions when we are in crisis. Looking for someone new too quickly to shore up our self-esteem is never a good idea. Remember – self-esteem springs from loving yourself and knowing you are loveable.

When our path with another diverges it’s important to look at the soul lesson the relationship has brought us – and there always is one even if it may take a while for us to understand what it was. All relationships are sent to fuel our soul growth and when their purpose is fulfilled we go on to find a deeper level of growth with another. As you move through your grieving process ask yourself what your relationship was really all about. The answers you receive from your higher self may surprise you and lead to a better understanding of who or what you need from your next relationship. Remember – we have many soul mates, not only one. A soul mate is someone with whom we have entered into an agreement with to do our most important spiritual work – and relationships are our biggest growth opportunity. But just because someone is a soul mate does not mean that the lessons they teach us are easy or that they will remain in our lives forever.

Remember, some relationships last a finite amount of time while others last a lifetime. Each one can be with one of our soul mates and each one has something to teach us. Every time we fall in love the person we fall in love with is merely reflecting back at us the love we already carried inside us all along! When you understand this you will therefore know that love is always with you even if the person you loved is now gone. You are a being of love.