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Love SOS: What To Do When Things Cool Down

You’ve recently met someone special. You ‘clicked’ from the very first moment you met and there seemed to be a terrific soul connection between you. Since then you’ve been spending almost every spare moment together. Perhaps they’ve already told you they love you and have even mentioned plans for the future on a couple of occasions. Everything seemed to be unfolding beautifully but now, six to eight weeks along something’s changed. Perhaps they’re not returning your texts or calls like they used to – or you’re just not spending as much time together and they seem a little distant when you do. Or maybe they’ve told you they feel you need to ‘cool’ it for a bit even though they care about you. What’s going on and what should you do?

First of all, let go of the idea you’ve done something wrong. Psychologists now know that the six to eight week mark in a new relationship is a crucial period for the relationship’s evolution. It’s the time when serious soul ties are made – the relationship now has to evolve to a deeper level – or not. The other aspect to consider is that if you’ve just been dating for a couple of months and things have moved very fast there is a tendency to ‘future project’. After all, if you’ve been spending every spare moment in each other’s company during the past few weeks where will you be in another six weeks’ time? Living together? Married with a mortgage? Sometimes one or both partners can panic and pull back because things just seem to be moving too fast.

If this all sounds familiar what can you do?

Don’t - panic. And above all, if your new partner is acting a little distant don’t bombard them with emails, texts or phone calls asking if they are okay or worse, gifts to ‘win’ back their interest. You’ll come over as needy or desperate – not a good look.

Do – get busy. And if you partner suggests you see each other a little less, agree. Tell them  that you love being with them but that your family and friends must think you’ve been kidnapped! If your partner sees that you acknowledge the situation this takes the pressure off both of you. Now call your friends and get back to your interests. Relationships need variety and balance in which to thrive ad chances are when your partner realises they have space within your relationship they will get closer again.

Don’t – agree to being just ‘friends’ or ‘friends with benefits’ if you’re looking for a long-term relationship.

Do – explain calmly that just ‘friends’ did not appear to be what you were and that as you are looking for something more serious and long-term, it appears you both want different things. This is a hard one especially if you’ve developed serious feelings for someone. But you have to understand that if they are suggesting you radically change the deal that appears to be on the table, they will not change their minds later. They could be emotionally unavailable on some level. By stating what you want and being firm on this you stand a better chance of getting what you need – and you emerge with your self-respect intact. If your partner doesn’t agree then chances are they would never be able to give you what you needed in the long term anyway – so better to find out sooner rather than later.

So what is the soul-growth opportunity here? When we enter into a relationship with another we are not only getting to know them but discovering a new facet of ourselves. We are changed as we discover this. If your new love wants some space, see this as an opportunity to integrate what you’ve learned about how you are in relationships – and that includes the ones you may have been neglecting! It also serves to remind you how you are in the one relationship that lasts a lifetime – the one you have with yourself. The people we fall in love with are just reflections of the love we have inside ourselves all the time. So be the lover you want to be in love with and chances are, your outer love will reflect just that back at you.

The Brain Trust – Do You and Your Partner Share a Consciousness?

The Extended Mind is an idea that has recently emerged in both cognitive science and also quantum physics. An extension of you like of Jung’s collective unconscious -except this is more like an inter-personal consciousness – a shared brain or memory centre that we build with partners or people close to us that both parties can tap into and access. Your ‘other half’ may also be another half of a brain both of you can share! This is known as transactive memory.

Studies conducted by Dr Daniel Wegner of the University of Virginia, Ralph Erber of DePaul University and Paula Raymond of New York University uncovered the ability of couples or those in close relationships to access a collective storage of memories and retrieve them. Think of this as an intimate version of Google! In their study the team used romantic couples and also strangers assigned as couples to memorise lists of words either freely (i.e., the couples memorized words as they wished) or systematically (i.e., each person was assigned a specific categories of words to memorize). What they found has interesting as when memorising the words systematically, the random strangers recalled more words than romantic couples. However, when memorizing words freely, romantic couples recalled more words than the strangers.

What separated the couples of romantic partners from the couples of strangers was the closeness, or ‘self-other overlap’, which they shared. This closeness allowed romantic partners to form a transactive memory system, or a “shared brain.” Each partner has implicit access to the “shared brain,” and contributes his or her expertise to the entire system. Still, this may not be an excuse to bring your other half into your next exam or presentation with you!

Of course, this all leads back to the question of where our consciousness may be located which we’ve discussed in previous articles. It may well be that this ‘shared brain’ that evolves between two people in a close relationship is located within the quantum ‘unified’ field as described by Michael Talbot in The Holographic Universe. Because two people who are in a close relationship share a very similar energy vibration, both are therefore able to access it. So, when it comes to someone close to you, your hearts may beat in sync and you may also think alike simply because you share access to one ‘consciousness’ that the two of you have created.

Get Happy! The Good News on Getting Older

Feeling older? Dismayed by the wrinkles in the mirror? Here’s the good news on aging – new studies reveal that as we get older we actually get happier!

A new study conducted by Professor Derek Isaacowitz of Northeastern University reveals that the older we get the more likely we are to display positive emotions and to escape from negative emotional states faster than when we are younger. This seems to fly against everything we thought about aging – given that our bodies may not be in the same shape as they were in our 20’s! Shouldn’t we be worrying about those wrinkles, health concerns, that spreading waistline, the fact you can’t remember where you put your keys? What Professor Isaacowitz found was that the older we get the better we get at regulating our emotions. We ‘choose’ to focus away from the negative or toward positive material. Added to this of course is pure life experience. Something that has the power to faze you in your 20’s or 30’s may not upset you so much in your 40’s or 50’s due to the fact you have by then dealt with similar situations and you have more confidence in your problem-solving skills.

Another study also conducted by Prof. Isaacowitz and late fellow-researcher Fredda Blanchard-Fields of the Georgia Institute of Technology also found that as we get older we tend to focus more on positive events and dwell less on negative ones – thus ‘re-framing’ key periods in our lives. When older participants in the study were shown photographs they recalled happier events and times rather than negative ones and also showed a greater aptitude for letting go of loss and unachieved goals which in turn lead to a greater sense of wellbeing.

We know that spiritually our thoughts create our experience. While we can’t always avoid negative people and experiences in our life we can always choose how we react to them. And as for goals we fail to achieve – as we grow some goals may lose their meaning for us and new ones will take their place. Letting go of these and setting new ones for ourselves serve our spiritual and personal growth.

So, don’t think of yourself as getting older – think of yourself as gaining in experience that allows you to shift your perceptions. We’re all enjoying increasing life expectancy. Isn’t it good to know that as we do we’ll live happier as well? Happiness may be a choice we can all make after all.

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In this weeks Astrology Mercury goes direct and we are shown how to celebrate life in the moment!

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What’s Your Calling? Finding Your Soul Path

For many of us finding our ‘calling’ – the job we truly love, is a big part of not just leading a vibrant and abundant life but also holds the key to discovering who we are and what we are capable of being. Discovering our true path can bring joy and meaning to our lives. Plus there is also the undeniable fact that we spend a huge part of our lives working so we may as well be doing something that we love. But for many people, their ‘calling’ remains elusive. Perhaps they try several career options without success. Others may feel that due to lack of opportunities they are stuck in a dead-end job and with today’s economic challenges many find themselves facing long-term unemployment. So what can you do to find your way onto your soul path? Here’s some soul-searching tips for discovering the calling within you.

First of all – let go of the myth that we only have one ‘calling’. This is right up there with we only have one soul mate! The message here is ‘miss out and you’re destined for unhappiness’. There are very few people out there who have one true calling that they spend decades of their life pursuing – Mother Theresa being a notable exception. We can stress ourselves out searching for this ultimate ‘calling’. Instead embrace the idea that you will receive many soul paths to explore during the course of your life and that you will explore the one that is right for you now. All you are looking for is a spark inside that ignites something in you that says: ‘Yes! This work is mine to do.’

Second, instead of asking the question: ‘What is my soul path?’ instead re-frame it. Say ‘What soul path am I being invited to explore right now?’. Remember, the path doesn’t necessarily have to be related to your work. It could be about volunteering for a charity, starting a creative project or picking up a hobby or pastime you’ve let lapse. What is ‘calling’ to you right now?

Third, follow your energy. When you think about following a particular path does it fill you with passion and excitement? Do you feel more energised doing it? Remember, you don’t have to be out saving the world. This is your unique soul path, not someone else’s. Don’t dismiss something as ‘trivial’ because it’s not rocket science. If you feel your energy levels come up when you’re doing it you’re on the right track. If it drains you however, you’re off-course. To find your calling, always go where the energy flows.

Take some time to write in your journal ‘What soul paths am I being invited to explore right now?’ over the next week or so. Experiment. Do some research into areas that interest you if necessary. Chances are you’re already on the path towards your calling without even having realised it.

Tarot Manifestation – Use the Cards to Manifest Your Dreams

Many people don’t realise that Tarot cards are not just for predicting the future. Tarot cards are rich in symbolic meaning and form a gateway between your subconscious and the creative force of the universe. So, you can use the Tarot to help manifest your goals by linking yourself to universal abundance.

We often have a Tarot reading when we’re contemplating big changes in our lives. In fact, we can say Tarot has evolved with change in mind. So, if you’re looking to create change in any area of your life – work, career, love, or if you want to lose weight for example, Tarot can be a powerful tool for transformation.

Ready to start manifesting? First, decide on your goal. Let’s say you want to draw more money to you. First of all, write down 10 things in your Tarot journal that you believe having more money will bring you in terms of abundance as opposed to actual things you would own. In other words, don’t list the house/car/designer clothes you would buy but things like ‘security’, ‘peace of mind’, ‘more time to be with the people I love/be creative’. Think of the experiences the money will bring you – not the material things. This allows the energy to flow.

Now, spread out your Tarot cards in front of you face down. Run your hands over them and following your gut feelings, choose six cards at random. Lay them out in a row and turn them over.

1st Card: Represents where you are now in terms of manifesting your goal

2nd Card: What thoughts or mindset you think you need to let go of to get to your goal

3rd Card: What you are really leaving behind when you get to your goal

4th, 5th and 6th Cards: The Three Paths ahead of you.

The ‘Choices’ is the most important part as it shows you the way to your goal is made up of different pathways. Is there one card whose image you really like or truly signifies what your goal is? If so, meditating on it will pull your goal towards you so look at it often.

Don’t forget to write down the six cards in your Tarot journal and also your interpretation of their positions.

You can vary this exercise according to what you want to manifest. For example, if you want to manifest more love in your life, write down 10 most important qualities you are seeking in a partner and then pick the six cards. If a court card turns up pay special attention.

At the very least, this exercise will bring in some synchronicities that will point you in the right direction to manifesting your goal. At the most, the results can be extraordinary helping to draw your desires to you in ways that you never thought possible. The Tarot is a powerful tool of transformation that goes beyond merely predicting the future – allowing us to create one as well.

 

Tarot in Action! Simple Exercises for Accurate Answers

If you’re just starting out to learn the Tarot or feel a little daunted at the prospect of memorising the meaning behind all 78 cards, don’t worry. There are many ways to achieve incredible insights into a question or situation that don’t require you to know all the meanings off by heart but will expand your knowledge of the Tarot as you do them.

The first method borrows from a form of divination known as ‘bibliomancy’ – where you ask a question and open a book at random to find your answer. In this instance, you can lay your cards out face down and take a card at random. If your question relates to a major life issue you might want to separate out the Major Arcana cards and again with them lying face down, choose one from them. Write down what you intuit to be the answers to your question from this card and then if you like, cross-reference this with the traditional interpretations of the card you can find on-line and in books on interpreting the Tarot. Do they contain answers to your problem and how do they measure up against your own interpretation of the card? One of the benefits of this exercise is that it encourages us to be objective.

Another really simple way to obtain an answer using this method is to literally use the bibliomancy technique with a book on Tarot reading. You can use the book that came with your Tarot deck. Think of your question and open the book at any page. The card you see will usually provide the precise advice you need at that moment.

For those who are interested in finding out what events or lessons they may be facing in a particular year using the Major Arcana cards, you can discover this simply by adding together the day and month of your birth to the year you want to know about. For example, say your birthday is the 14th August. We would have 14, plus 8 (August) plus 2012.

1+4+8+2+0+1+2 = 18.

Always reduce the number until you have one that is 22 or below. In this case card 18 in the Tarot is The Moon. You can then read about this card for insights into what may happen in the coming year as well as adding your own impressions. You can then refer back to it as the year unfolds to see how accurate it has been.

Remember, with the Tarot practice makes perfect and even simple lessons like these can provide us with amazing insights as well as boosting our intuition and overall Tarot skills.

The Tree of Life – the Bridge Between Science and Spirituality

The concept of the Tree of Life is a universal one and spans science, religion, philosophy and mythology as well as popular culture. It is a common metaphor for the interconnectedness of all life and whether it is referred to as the Tree of Knowledge or the Tree of Life, it is always portrayed as the same tree – one thing many different belief systems manage to agree on. From ancient Egyptian mythology to China and later Christianity, the roots of the Tree of Life span almost every known belief system.

In science, the Tree of Life has been used to describe the interconnectedness of all life on Earth in an evolutionary context. Charles Darwin wrote in the Origin of Species: ‘I believe it has been with the great Tree of Life, which fills with its dead and broken branches the crust of the earth, and covers the surface with its ever-branching and beautiful ramifications.’

You don’t have to look very far in popular culture to see how the Tree of Life still influences us today. From video games like the Prince of Persia where a gigantic tree in the desert keeps an evil deity locked away, to Hometree and the Tree of Souls in James Cameron’s Avatar. In Marvel Studios Thor, Thor explains how Earth is linked to his world by Yggdrasil, the Norse mythological Tree of Life, in this case an Einstein-Rosen bridge which connects the planets in the Nine Realms.

The Tree of Life also lies at the heart of the Kabbalah – the Jewish mystical teaching made popular by celebrities such as Madonna, Britney Spears and Demi Moore. In the Kabbalah, the Tree of Life is shown as comprising of ten interconnected spheres – the sephirot. This forms the framework of the cosmos upon which everything else hangs. The Kabbalah teaches that it is the pattern from which the universe was created and by which the soul itself was born and forms a structure by which all things can be understood.

In simplistic terms, the Tree of Life is a symbolic model that forms the fractal building blocks of reality and everything else – right down to our personalities. It’s probably easiest to think of it as a map which shows the route energy takes as it flows from the universe down to find expression in the physical world.

The Tree of Life has also been linked to the Tarot from its earliest beginnings influencing the Tarot’s symbolism and development. When we see that the Tree of Life is a universal symbol that can be understood by all, then it follows that any system of divination based on this can be applied to anyone as it reflects the human spiritual and mythological journey.

The Tree of Life is an ancient symbol which is as relevant to us today as it ever was and shows us that not only are we all connected by our scientific, philosophical and spiritual teachings are connected as well.

This weeks astrology videos 30 July 2012

 

Quantum Creating Snapshots – Picture What You Want And See It Manifest!

I wonder if you read a truly inspiring story which appeared this week about Michaela DePrince, the Sierra Leone war orphan who is on her way to fulfil her dream of becoming a prima ballerina? Michaela’s father was murdered by gunmen and her mother starved to death. Placed in an orphanage in a country torn by civil war, Michaela was branded a ‘devil child’ due to a rare condition which caused the skin on her face and neck to lose its pigmentation. She was told nobody would ever adopt her. Then one day she found a magazine with a picture of a ballet dancer on the cover and her world changed forever. “I’d never seen anything like it before,” says Michaela.  “It was kind of strange because she looked so beautiful and so happy, and so I ripped the cover off and I tucked it into my underwear. I kept looking at it every single night and just dreaming that if I came to America I want to look exactly like this person.”

Incredibly, Michaela’s dream has come true. She ended up being adopted by an American couple and is now set to make her professional debut in Le Corsaire in Johannesburg. http://www.guardian.co.uk/stage/2012/...

What excited me about Micheala’s inspiring story was that without knowing it she was practicing a Quantum Creating technique. We all know that vision boards work but there are countless stories out there of people who have successfully manifested their goals – and some inadvertently, simply by putting a photograph of whatever it is they want somewhere they can see it.

Take a former client, Karen*. Karen loved the photographs her aunt and uncle had brought back from their trip to Europe. She particularly liked one they had taken from a café in Bruges – somewhere she had always wanted to visit. She could almost see herself sitting in the same cafe, so she asked them for a copy of it and placed it on her fridge door. Living in Australia, a trip to Europe was a major expenditure but Karen remained focussed, fulfilling her dream just three years later. Shortly after returning from her trip, she met her husband Mark. It was only after they married that Karen took out the photo her aunt and uncle had taken five years ago in Bruges – she’d put it away as after all – she’d achieved her goal. Imagine her shock and surprise when she saw Mark in the photo seated at the next table to her relatives! By concentrating on the photo Karen had unwittingly drawn him to her as well.

When she was a little girl Rosemary* another client, used to walk past a large and beautiful house on the way to school. She would stop at the gates and look up the driveway and tell herself that one day she would live there. When her parents moved away in her teens she took a photo of it before leaving and kept it with her. As an adult she still had the photo and placed it on her kitchen windowsill, looking at it as she washed up. When she heard the house was being sold for the first time in 35 years, she and her husband decided to attend the auction even though they did not think they could afford to buy it. Incredibly, they were the only people who turned up and their one and only bid was accepted.

The important things to remember when choosing an image for a dream you want to manifest is that first you must know what it is you want. You have to be specific. Second – you have to be passionate about it – it has to be a dream that inspires you and infuses your heart and soul. There’s no point in trying to manifest something just because you think it will impress others. You have to love the vision to make it a reality.

Lastly – look at your image as often as you can. Put it somewhere you will see it all the time – like your fridge door or windowsill or like Michaela – take it out and look at it. And above all – give it time to manifest. As all these stories prove – your goal will arrive – but in its own time!

* Client names have been changed to protect confidentiality.