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How To Speed Up The Dating Process And Get Into A Relationship

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

On today's episode we're live and loaded with some of the best topics of the week! The world of dating has gone crazy: A women too classy to eat at Cheesecake Factory, Ratchets ordering 40 Oysters and being stuck with the bill, and of course the viral "Should a woman order 4 drinks on a date when a man only has $150 to his name." We're going to discuss dating etiquette in a big way! Plus we answer your question on a variety of topics, including the big one of: How To Get A Man To Commit Instead of Ghost You!

And we also break down the most asked question: How To Speed up the Dating Process to get into a relationship sooner than later!

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Chasing You Doesn’t Mean He Wants You: How To Guard Against Users

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

A guy chased you for years trying to get a date, and you finally gave in only for him to lose interest a month later…

A guy spent weeks blowing up your phone, taking you out, and tricking gifts only to randomly become too busy to text back…

A guy who had a WHOLE girlfriend left her just to get a shot with you, only to ghost you without reason…

Catch and Release it’s what we males do at some point during our lives if not for life. Every woman reading this has had a man on her heels; thirsting, spending, begging, being vulnerable all in an attempt to get your full attention. THEN the moment you start to like this guy more than usual, he switches up. You hate to admit it, but a guy Sliming you out either has happen or will happen! Sometimes it comes after sex, sometimes you don’t even have sex. Regardless if you sleep with him or not, the real damage comes in the form of the confused rejection. You're out here entertaining men who you assume are falling for you, but in reality they just want a turn with you. "I'm the wifey type, I can help a man grow," he doesn't give a fuck, beloved. His aim is to fuck you until he gets annoyed with you, then toss you to the street in favor of a new woman who he sees as his real Game Changer. Your job isn't to get mad and hate men, it's to get smarter by understanding why these guys target you to begin with.

Let’s be honest ladies, sometimes these false alarm men are everything you’re looking for physically and personality-wise... but 8 out of 10 times they’re not your type physically, you gave them a chance because of what-- say it with me -- you were lonely and bored! You adjusted your checklist because of how he pursued you. Coming correct with real effort, is a turn on that quickly turns Mr. So-So into Mr. Sexy AF. Your mistake isn't giving someone "different from your normal type" a chance, it's assuming that these men are so below you that they won't play the same game as the pretty boys.

“Make sure a man is more into you than you are into him” is solid advice until you realize that men are experts at turning the table and making you fall hard and fast. The first month he was on you, but by the second month, you’re the one open due to the attention and treatment. That’s the Catch phase. Then, out of nowhere, that same eager man stops calling as much, stops trying to see you, gets busy, and eventually you stop speaking altogether. That’s the Release phase. Why did he do that? What was the point? Keep reading...

I’ve heard all the stories from, “Everything changed after we had sex,” to “I didn’t even fuck him, he still started acting funny” and most recently, “He doesn’t make an effort to see me anymore but still watches all my IG stories…” Rejection is a bitch, especially when you felt like the dominant force in the driver’s seat. He was on your clit, yet he still had the power to take away his attention and hurt your feelings. You say you don’t care, but you do. You claim he didn’t ghost you, but he did. Yeah, he’ll text back some dry bullshit if you hit him first—doesn’t mean he likes your ass. Yeah, he watches your social media stories—but he’s looking at every cute girl’s story, that shit isn’t special. You may even pretend you cut him off, but the reality is if he reached out and wanted to see you, you would be like— “If you want…” You still want to repair things, not because you see him as special, but because rejection invalidates your ego.

To feel better, you need to be recognized by the same person who pulled you in and pushed you away. Vent about him, curse his name, go date someone else, it won’t take away the pain, beloved. The very thought of him triggers you because once again a man made you look stupid. He’s off living his best life, and you’re stuck in your feelings, wondering what you said, did, or didn’t do that drove him away. In the end, it’s all a game, and it’s time for you to stop losing.

The Pursuit

Do the romantic actions of men during those first few weeks or months mean they want you? That depends on how you define “want.” 90% of straight men would fuck you, yes even you over there who just sucked your teeth…your low self-esteem having ass could get dick tomorrow if you tried because guys are easy. Sex or the fetish attraction driven by lust is not the “want” I’m referring to when discussing pursuit. When I say “want” I’m talking about a passion to get to know who you are beneath the surface, not beneath your clothes. I’m pointing to a need to experience the whole of you and ultimately to tether himself as your man because he can’t imagine another having you. Every male has romantic passion inside of him. There is no such thing as a man who doesn’t want or need love. “So why didn’t he want me after I did XYZ” Ah-ha! That’s the carrot that’s dangling. Just because a man is capable of giving you his love doesn’t mean he will. In my book Men Don’t Love Women Like You I outline Game Changer’s versus Placeholders, so I won’t go into that psychology. Instead I want you to understand what negative pursuit looks like so you can save yourself the frustration of falling for someone who will eventually run hot then go cold.

When was the last time you’ve been truly wanted on a deeper level than the physical? Do you even know how to tell the difference between someone truly interested and someone who is chasing you for sport? Each of you has dated or has seen enough of your friends' date to recognize that pursuit doesn’t equate to genuine interests. Even still, you “give chances” aka “allow yourself to be played” because you have yet to master the ability to poke holes in a person’s character. You want to believe in the bullshit philosophy that if a person is treating you good in the beginning that their intentions are pure. A few dates, daily texts, long phone calls, going on a trip, are nothing but a smokescreen, but you swear it means that a person really likes you because when it comes to romance, ego drowns out wisdom!

A man’s willingness to chase what’s between your legs isn’t the same as craving you on a deeper emotional level. Some men chase to get over exes. Some men chase to boost their own low self-esteem. Some men chase out of power. Some men chase women in relationships because it feels good to beat out another man. Some men chase women who see them as platonic, just because they want to prove they can get out of that friend box. Some guys get your number just text you, never even asking you on a date, because you're just conversation, not worth taking out. Some men talk to you just to get closer to your friend, that's who he really wants to hit. And yes, men chase women for pussy more times than not because that’s what we’re hard-wired to want, a nut. I know you’re thinking, “I hate boys, I quit.” Again, I’m not talking about ALL MEN. I’m just preparing you to toughen up, so you see past the ones I’m currently describing. By the time you finish reading this complete article you'll understand the game on a new level, and that's my job, to help you sidestep these men who chase you but don't really want you, in order to meet and hook the men who are ready to love on a mature level.

Why Male Bullshit Works

Woman Logic: But there are so many other women he could go after that would be easier… why spend all that time talking on the phone… why spend money on dates… why tell me all these deep things… why chase me if it was just a hallow act of boredom, lust, or competition?

Men don’t need a cosmic reason to go after you other than an impulse. The game goes CHASE, CATCH, RELEASE until we run into a Game Changer that makes us want to hold onto the catch stage longer than normal or even forever. Some men like the idea of a woman, but once they get hold of her, that reality can fail to create that same spark as that imagined fantasy, so they fall back, get busy, or simply pop up with something new so you get the hint. I know… it’s a cold fucked up world. Even making it this simple, you’re probably still confused: If a guy just wants to have sex, why doesn’t he say it? If he still wants to shop around why treat you like a girlfriend? Men will lie for one simple reason, and that is...

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The Ratchet Baby Mama

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

I hope you all had fun reading the different perspectives of my guest writers, and for the final guest post, we have Will Anthony aka Bmore Banner. He’s the founder of  I’m Getting Divorced which gives a running commentary on his divorce from his soon to be ex-wife and why they failed. I don’t have a ratchet baby mother, I have a classy wife, so he’s the perfect person to write about this topic. Enjoy. I’ll be back next week. Get ready for my new book free for all members! – G.L. Lambert

The Ratchet Baby Mama

Written By W.Anthony

When you look at urban definition of a baby mother, it is what it is, “The mother of one’s child.” In a time of celebrity divorces and child support, let’s not forget alimony, I thought this would be a good time to talk about the differences between “the mother of one’s child” from the Spartan & Ratchet point of view. This may not be my exactly my brother NC-17’s definitions on Spartan or Ratchet, but I’ve read this blog since the first day and I’ve read Solving Single front to back, so I think it’s safe to say that I know the difference between a strong ass Spartan chick that has confidence, class, and isn’t afraid to put a nigga like me on blast when I do wrong— from an eye rolling, know it all, passive aggressive Ratchet chick who settles beef like a teenager.

As a man with multiple children, 5 to be exact, I realized that there are significant differences in the companies I’ve kept in my past. With 5 children by four mothers it may seem as though I’m the ratchet, and who knows, I’m pretty sure I may have been, but as I got older and more mature I noticed the differences in the mothers and I didn’t have to concentrate on myself anymore, just my actions. There are three types of baby mothers I want to dig into; The Suspect Baby Mother, The Bitter Baby Mother, and the last being The Spartan Mother of your child. I’ve been blessed to say I have had 2 of those in my lifetime, one I’m married to. The other, God rest her soul, passed away in 2010 with my oldest daughter, I miss them so much, sometimes subjects pertaining to them are hard to finish, but today I felt more compelled and composed enough to do so.

The Spartan Mother of your child is the woman that when in a relationship with you is all about you and the future you can build; it’s the relationship you don’t expect to end. Once your child is born it almost seemed destined that you two will stay together forever, however that is not always the case. If or when separation happens, both parties are hurt and the Spartan Mother must decide her next step, “should I say fuck him and be ignorant?” or “should I just prepare and stay calm and handle my business as a parent outside of the romance that’s now over?” The Spartan mom thinks of this during separation and even after separation, and as a man you hope for your child’s sake that she doesn’t slip into that black hole of jealousy and bitterness. Maybe she takes the guy downtown to get child support or maybe she works out something privately without the courts, most of the time she would rather go for those side deals where she doesn’t drag him into some court where most likely a bias judge will try to rape his pockets. Now, I’m not saying that the Spartan Mother doesn’t deserve child support, all men should support their children, and if she feels that the man isn’t going to hold up his side of the deal, then she has that right to make it more legal to keep his deadbeat ass honest.

Money and visitation aside, the special thing about a Spartan Mother is that she doesn’t talk bad about you to other people or beat you down as if you are a bad father. You guys may have disagreements but after a week she’ll calm down and everything is back to normal. The Spartan Mother of your child is the relationship that could have worked, but for some reason did not, and it may have had nothing to do with cheating or fighting. Maybe it was an age difference or just some growing apart issues you went through that made you less compatible, but that doesn’t stop the respect and love you have for one another.

What makes her a Spartan Mother and not just the baby moms? This type of woman chooses her happiness over her baby father. Anyone with a child wants to raise them in a two-parent home, but it takes a strong woman to realize that you can’t force that issue just because people say you should nor is she going to sacrifice her piece of mind trying to keep all the bodies under the same roof when she no longer loves that man. Before she passed, my Spartan Baby Mother and I Co-parented our beautiful little girl, and while we didn’t live under the same roof, we were still raising our daughter as if nothing changed. Because the stress of our romantic relationship was done with, we were able to be friends again, fall in love with other people, and be happy for real instead of faking it on birthdays and visits. Our daughter had to see the change in the relationship, which is why she was such a happy child over those years. There needs to be more real men who step up as fathers, but there ALSO needs to be more Spartan Mothers who can co-parent without hostility. It would put less stress on these children out there and give them the real opportunity to spend time with their fathers without attitude and constant bickering.

All the fellas who have experienced the ugly side of the Ratchet Mother knows about that passive aggressive bullshit and that stereotypical but real life attitude those ratchets hit you with. Ratchet moms gets so worked up about their own bullshit to the point where they are cussing you out about your son/daughter’s shoe not being tied when they get home. That shoe drama or losing something out of the diaper bag argument turns into a 2 day beef about something totally pointless, because she’s not happy with her life, and needs someone to take it out on. I’ve lived it, I know. So when you see a mother that’s not letting her personal bullshit affect your relationship with your child, you have to appreciate that and that’s why I give all the love and respect in the world to the Spartan Mother.

Let’s be honest, I have multiple kids because I got caught in up in the moment, a WHOLE LOT of moments and made immature decisions. After the baby comes there isn’t an instant maturity, so you make a few more immature decisions. I’ve learned to be a better father through experience, not by being yelled at or being taken to the courthouse for child support. Most of these fathers will become better too I hope. The opportunity for redemption is always available, that is what these dumb ass chicks with kids don’t understand. Let me say, for every lame ass baby daddy out there, there is a baby mama that is the same or worse.

Let me tell y’all a story about the two other types of baby moms. I will say this, coming up, from about 18-24, I thought I was not necessarily a player, but I did play my cards right to the point that I could say I’d been with black, white, mixed, Spanish, Chinese and Indian women. It was just preference at the time and with the profession I was in, it was the norm. I had even introduced my mom to this Chinese girl that I was really considering settling down with and making my woman, BUT, my ghetto side called me, and the same way a lot of y’all ladies out there want a brother, I still wanted a sister, but notice I said, “ghetto side”, so instead of keeping my eyes open for class, like most dudes that age, I was looking for ASS.

I had been introduced to this young lady, a year older than myself. She was at that time, beautiful mixed with black and white, short, with one of the best bodies I’d ever seen. She already had a kid, but my mindset was “do you”. We ended up having this 6-month relationship and she got pregnant, meanwhile I had totally killed all communication with my Chinese girl, it wasn’t because I didn’t want her anymore, it was the convenience I had with this beautiful girl that lived so close to me. This girl I’m about to describe is what I call the Immature Baby Mother also known as the “Suspect”. This is the type of woman that talks a good game about how she is going to make co-parenting work, how she’s going to accept the fact that it’s over and not hold it against you, but then switches up and gives you a million excuses later as to how you brought out the ratchet in her. The Suspect Baby Mother goes out and lives her new life, finds her a new man, and she does keep her side of the deal. BUT when the chips are down in her current situation she talks that “you’re not a real father, just a baby daddy” shit to you.

Fellas out here, you know that when your baby moms finds a new dude, she’s super happy, and she doesn’t have any reason to be hostile. You may not like a new dude trying to play pops, but for the time being, him laying that pipe in her lonely ass keeps the focus off of you and your new relationships. Ladies out here who have Ratchet baby mother friends, you know that the moment drama between her and her man goes down, she takes it out on everybody, her mother, sister, cousin, best friend, but nobody takes collateral damage more than the baby daddy. When things are going good with the “boo thing” she wants to turn him into the NEW daddy, but as soon as that dude starts showing his true colors, she has to take it out on the good baby daddy. If these girls would “Spartan up” on the new dude and call him out on his shit then that new dude would most likely leave her to that single mother life that a lot of women are afraid of. She can’t yell at him or check him about money, love, and attention so she looks to her baby daddy and says, “I need more money from you. I need you to come see him more” because she needs a scapegoat. You try to work it out and do the right thing, but as soon as their relationship is fixed, you’re not allowed to see your child the same way you could see him when they were beefing.

Ladies, think about your ratchet friends and you all have ratchet ass friends don’t lie. She meets a new man, he’s a bum, but she loves him. For a man like me, I now have to pay for ANOTHER MAN to live with my Baby Moms. You’re not allowed to readjust the child support, even though she has a dude living rent free in her crib eating off the money that is supposed to be going to the baby.

How can you fix this problem? Spartan Up and tell that dude to be a real man and stop being afraid to lose him and start dating all over again. Or you keep it 100 with yourself and grow the fuck up and understand that no man is worth keeping around who makes you angry at the world. Your child shouldn’t be 13 years old before you realize “damn, my son’s father really cared and my mother really has a clown living in our house making me call him ‘pop'”. Recognize a good man when he’s trying to do good, and recognize a lame who just wants to play off your insecurity of being a single mother and use that as his way into a rent free house where he can play step pops when he feels like it.

You’re a single mother– not a desperate ass mother. Know the difference, shorty! Stop being easy targets for these men who just want that baby making coochie. He bringing dick to the table and you buying him Jordans with my child support money. Nah.

Lastly, this is the one that I could say upsets me and most fathers the most. The Bitter Baby Mother. The bitter baby mother could be some girl you met at the mall that caught your eye and you had no choice but to introduce yourself. This is the girl that you were fucking and you never made it official but she did… this is the girl NC would call a placeholder or pussy not wifey type. This is the girl that accidently got pregnant while testing out her new riding skills and couldn’t hop off in time. This is the girl that would tell you she was pregnant and when you ask “what do you want to do?” she spaz out. “FUCK YOU MEAN WHAT I WANNA DO, NIGGA!?!”

In my defense, imagine a Spanish girl 5 years younger than me pissed about me asking a question about her pregnancy, I forgot to mention she was from the Bronx. I thought the rant was cute though, what dude dick doesn’t get hard hearing that sexy/angry NYC accent? I didn’t know she was going to hold it against me. I didn’t know she was too immature to understand how to talk instead of yell. I didn’t know this would be the worst experience ever as a father. I NEVER got the time with my daughter I wanted, she never got to meet her older sister that passed. The first time she ever met her other siblings was after their older sister’s funeral. It is sad how they come together after tragedy. You can’t let your anger ruin another person’s right to a family! So what if you’re mad at me, it’s not about you and me, what I said to you, or any of the YOU YOU YOU stuff. It’s about me and my daughter getting to know each other, that has nothing to do with your bitterness about how our relationship ended.

You can be mad, but you should never deny a man his fatherly right if he is actually willing to be there. For the females out there reading this, I am  not trying to make you all into the bad people or generalizing, I am talking to those stubborn, dick silly, bitter ass, can’t let go of the past, crazy chicks that we all know exist. If this describes you, get your shit together. It’s nothing like having to go to court 4 times for the same shit, wasting gas and money, meanwhile you’re getting child support and you also have the opportunity to give your child time with their father. Women, all men are NOT the same.

So many men want relationships with their children, you don’t have to run to a judge to make them have one. Getting a check isn’t the same as getting a childhood where their father is teaching them about life. A lot of men turn into absentee fathers after the fact and let women do the work, not because they don’t give a shit, it’s because they are put in the position to be handcuffed by you and the legal system. You are not giving these men the chances they deserve because of how petty you can be. A man believes that when you say “leave us alone” that you mean it and some men have that “fuck it” attitude and will accept that his relationship with his child can never be because of the mother. SEPARATE your feelings for him from your child’s need for him. Deal with the fact you two are not together anymore and let that man do his job with his kids without supervision at McDonald’s or the strip mall. That’s so disrespectful.

Many of you reading this probably grew up without your pops, and all you had to go off was what your mother told you. Bitter baby mothers raise bitter daughters and the reason they are bitter is that you told them that their father was never a serious relationship for you. After the Drake songs go off, after she’s read all the FarFromBasyc.com posts, and after her therapy sessions end, she’ll understand that there is always two sides to every story, and that men aren’t good or bad like in a cartoon, but complex. Once she has that breakthrough guess who she’ll blame her issues with men on? You guessed it… Ladies, jealousy gets you nowhere, you’ll either be a bitter ratchet for the rest of your days or you’ll put your sons and daughters in that same damn mind frame and repeat the cycle all over again. Spartan mothers create Spartan daughters, and I have two in heaven and two under my roof right now that prove this fact. Thanks for reading and thanks to G.L. for letting me tell my side of the story on his website. –Will Anthony

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When is It Time To Let Go?

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

People love to spew the cliché of “everyone deserves a second chance” and forgiveness is what a good person practices. Bullshit. Not everyone deserves a second chance and not knowing when to walk away will rob you of the best years of your life. One more chance turns into two more chances followed by one last chance. How many times do you need the same person to piss in your mouth before you figure out urine doesn't taste good?

Let’s say you've had an up and down relationship with a guy, he’s lied and cheated, and finally you two split. He’s sick without you, begs like a puppy dog, and three weeks after swearing him off, you’re reconsidering taking him back. Why? Because you're in love with what he WAS. At the start of the relationship a man will hook you with love bombing, meaning he takes you out, tells you how different you are, always wants to see you and show you new things, and of course spoils you in terms of paying for high level dates or getting you gifts. This is the man you fall for, the one who knows how to treat you unlike your exes. The one that listens to you and wants something deeper, unlike the rest of these clowns on the dating apps. Most women are very suspicious and guarded when it comes to men, but smart males know that inside every woman is a princess waiting to be treated like she's the only woman on earth. That's what love bombing is-- a fast and furious way to drop your defense, open your heart, and win you over so that no matter how he switches up in the weeks or months to come you will hold onto that idea that he's the perfect man for you.

"The apology should be as loud as the disrespect" is a common term, but it's more basic bitch propaganda. He embarrassed you, so now you want him to make it up by showering you with love publicly. Posting you on social, taking you to some island vacation spot, buying you a bag or car, what the fuck does that solve? He's shutting your dumb ass up so he can get you back on his team, because every ain't shit man needs a placeholder to stroke his ego while he goes off to chase the bad bitches he actually wants. He only needs you until he can get one of them, so of course he's going to apologize, make promises to change, and take some nut ass picture holding your hand and smiling... that's still not going to keep the hos away or quiet your anxiety because deep down inside you know you fell for the wrong man.

"But, G.L. my mother said everyone deserves a second chance, aren't you being too hard on men?" If your mother really told you to run back to a man that dogged you out than she was probably basic as fuck in the 80s letting men break her heart too with no repercussions. When you’re in love anything that doesn't end with, “Go ahead and take him back”, is considered bad advice. Basicas love the idea of one more chance, not because it’s morally sound, but because it gives them permission to choose with their heart instead of their head. When you want someone so bad, you will pull weak ass celebrity examples out of your ass, biblical quotes, and even place the blame on your own attitude and behavior. Stop using some toxic celebrity couple as a reason to stay with someone who violates you and stop Gaslighting yourself into staying in an unhealthy relationship!

Yes, some situations are unique and do deserve a chance to work itself out. The fucked up thing is that every girl thinks that her situation is special, her guy is different, and she can make anything work. To get played when you thought that your love was real and that you were the greatest woman in the world is embarrassing. However, is the sickening pain you feel and need to work it out a result of true love or the humbling effect of incompatibility? Let's be honest. You don't want to go back outside. Dating sucks, getting to know people is scary, and dating like a Spartan takes work. You want a world where a handsome guy is honest, doesn't play games, and sees enough in you to want to commit and never turn his head. That's not how this universe is set up!

Your Inner Weak Bitch

Breaking up is hard, but it's not harder than losing the prime years of life to a fuckboy. "I don't know what to do, there aren't a lot of men that bring what he brings to the table," bitch you're brainwashed! If you're currently single, in a situationship, or in an up and down relationship there is one secret that you need to know about every man which is that we all judge you by how much you let us get away with. From the male POV, when we see you and are infatuated with lust, we assume that you're out of our league, have so many options, and that we may not be good enough. Doesn't matter who we are or what we have, when we lay eyes on a pretty woman like you, our thoughts go back to a little boy stage of insecurity, which is why we apply so much pressure to get you, it's all based on our male fear.

I knew a guy who was a child actor, more money than he can spend, and he nervously asked me about a date he was about to have with a woman who worked at the juice bar at his gym. Why did she rattle him? Men are intimidated by women we really like. We put them on a pedestal based on our lust. Which means that we create a high level of respect for these women who we don't even know and will do anything to get them to see us as worth their time. Translation: The most power any woman will have over a man is during that first month or two chase. You all aren't up on that secret, and you assume that you need to impress a man, which makes you dumb down your personality, act awkward, and allow your boundaries to be crossed way too early. The moment that man sees that you fear him, he relaxes, he takes his power back, and he tests you to determine how much he can get away with and of course if you're wifey or pussy.

The Male Rule Book: He's going to try and fuck you fast, then he's going to try and control your time, then he's going to see how you act when he starts to put you second.

Let's break this down: He fucks you fast, and now he knows that he has nothing to lose because the top thing he wanted he got, which was pussy. He takes control of your time which shows him that you don't have any other men better than him, and that you're willing to put him over your friends. Finally he starts to put you second, meaning that he can break plans, not show up, and see you on his terms which is all a test to train you to be at his beck and call. When you put all of these things into the mix, it equals a lack of respect and a redefining of how he views you. What started off as a woman on a pedestal during the first month, transforms into "just another bitch who I can do what I want to." That's the game and that's why so many of you who should be wifey end up as pussy.

Today I'm going to break down how to let go of these men, but first let's start with how to prevent this in the first place. For a man to see you as the wifey type and not the pussy type you must

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Weak For Dick! – How Men Use Sex to Manipulate You

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

A man will tell you everything you want to hear, talk about a future with you, and fuck you like it's a permanent soul tie... only to distance himself.

What are you doing that's making these men see you as a placeholder instead of a trophy? Sex! Women should be the ones pussy whipping and setting the rules, but instead they are the ones who get clingy and attached off of dick and promises.

These men love bomb you in the name of lust, and you never stop to ask, “Is this real, do I really like him?” Because you believe in the hype he’s whispering in your ear. Your ego is as big as it is fragile, and you buy into people who don’t actually want you because you’re chasing after proof that you’re good enough to get a commitment. It's time to evolve! On today's episode, we go through four events that will help you get your mind right and learn some discipline.

Also on this episode, we break down the starting over process. How do you move on from heartbreak or career failures that has led to depression or even suicidal thoughts? We also hear from a man who talks about the one thing his girlfriend does that is making it hard for him to continue to love her.

And in the second half of the episode we answer the biggest emails of the week including one about a woman who feels sex is making her choose the wrong men, preview her question below:

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Weak For Dick! – How Men Use Sex to Manipulate You

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

A man will tell you everything you want to hear, talk about a future with you, and fuck you like it's a permanent soul tie... only to distance himself.

What are you doing that's making these men see you as a placeholder instead of a trophy? Sex! Women should be the ones pussy whipping and setting the rules, but instead they are the ones who get clingy and attached off of dick and promises. On today's episode, we go through four events that will help you get your mind right and learn some discipline.

Also on this episode, we break down the starting over process. How do you move on from heartbreak or career failures that has led to depression or even suicidal thoughts? We also hear from a man who talks about the one thing his girlfriend does that is making it hard for him to continue to love her.

And in the second half of the episode we answer the biggest emails of the week including one about a woman who feels sex is making her choose the wrong men, preview her question below:

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Don’t Shit Where You Eat! Rules For Dating At Work, Gym, & Other Random Places

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

Work dick is better than Tinder dick.

Ancient Ratchet Proverb

I get it. You're in the middle of a drought. There's no one on the apps, your DMs are dry as fuck, and the only person banging down your door is maybe a dusty ex... Without any viable options you start to look for connections in familiar places and with people that have been off limits up until now.

That guy at work who was just "okay" is looking kinda fine all of a sudden and he just broke up with his girl... That new guy at the gym who always uses the machine next to you has been making little comments and suddenly looking like a snack... Maybe it's someone at school who you never looked at "that way" until now, or even someone in your friend group whose personality has grown on you over these past few months. Don't lie. Every time you see that person now, you start to tingle. At night your mind starts to obsess with "should I" and while that logical side of you is unsure, that sexual and hormonal side is ready to RISK IT ALL... Mama is ovulating and ANY of these fools can get their souls snatched!

No matter who is suddenly on your radar, the main question becomes: Should you cross those boundaries... and how do you cross those boundaries in a way that won't make things awkward?

There's a saying, "Don't shit where you eat," in the world of dating, it's often seen as off-limits to date someone you have to see often. What happens if everyone at work finds out? What happens if you were friends before or in a some kind of social group and you have a falling out? What happens if this was your personal trainer, and you just fucked up months of fitness gains for a dick you no longer want? At the same time there are examples of people who got married to that work husband or gym guy. But think about your life, not others... Is it ever worth upsetting the balance of your life by blending two worlds-- the romantic with the professional or personal?

Let's be real, 90% of you reading this do not care about the "what if" because when it comes to lust and a lack of options it's worth the risk. So, I'm going to give you some insight on how to navigate this world to get what you want and how to hit reset if it doesn't work out... the last part will be the most important.

First off, let's start with a little break down of how easy it is to get these types of men who you already know or see all the time to approach you (respectfully) and fall deep in lust to the point where he wants to devour your pussy face first (disrespectfully). My mission is to make sure YOU have the upper hand going in to this kind of situation, and aren't doing this in a shy or weak way that will get you played or used. Understand that men who you see often have ALREADY been paying attention to you on the low and his brain has been playing the "what if" game that we do with any woman that's not blood related-- would I fuck her... would I be with her... and most importantly should I go after that. The object is to do little things that dog whistle towards these thoughts until a man lands on Yes. Yes. Fuck Yes!

Who To Target & How

“I don’t think he likes me like that,” whines the Basica, who has no idea of how to pussy whip a man without giving up the pussy. I’m going to show you how easy it is to stand out and...

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Don’t Shit Where You Eat! Rules For Dating At Work, Gym, & Other Random Places

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

I get it. You're in the middle of a drought. There's no one on the apps, your DMs are dry as fuck, and the only person banging down your door is maybe a dusty ex... Without any viable options you start to look for connections in familiar places. That guy at work who was just "okay" is looking kinda fine all of a sudden and he just broke up with his girl... That new guy at the gym who always uses the machine next to you has been making little comments and suddenly looking like a snack... Maybe it's someone at school who you never looked at "that way" until now, or even someone in your friend group whose personality has grown on you over these past few months. Mama is ovulating and all of these fools can get their soul snatched! No matter who is suddenly on your radar, the main question becomes: Should you cross those boundaries... and how do you cross those boundaries in a way that won't make things awkward?

There's a saying, "Don't shit where you eat," in the world of dating, it's often seen as off-limits to date someone you have to visit often. What happens if everyone at work finds out? What happens if you were friends before or in a group and all have a falling out? What happens if this was your personal trainer and you just fucked up months of gains for a dick you no longer want? Is it ever worth upsetting the balance of your life by blending two worlds-- the romantic with the professional or personal?

Let's be real, 90% of you reading this do not care about the "what if" because when it comes to lust and a lack of options it's worth the risk. So I'm going to give you some insight on how to navigate this world to get what you want and how to hit reset if it doesn't work out... the last part will be the most important. First off let's start with a little break down of how easy it is to get these types of men who you already know or see all the time to approach you (respectfully) and fall deep in lust to the point where you have the upper hand going in to this kind of situation. Understand that men who you see often have already been paying attention to you on the low and his brain has

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The Right Way To Flirt – Soul Snatching 101

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

On this episode we hear from a listener who thought being sassy was the same as being sexy and found out the hard way that men don't react to little girl games. Seduction isn't about saying lines or coming off as unbothered, this isn't an episode of Insecure. In the real world there are certain things that get a man's attention and keeps it, and no it's not sex, it's energy.

Why can some girls keep a man glued while other women who fuck, suck, and submit can't? The mind of a man isn't complex but it's different from yours and too many of you are busting it open when you should be BAITING a man, challenging him to chase, and tattooing his mind before he even gets a chance to taste it!

No matter if you're introverted or struggle with confidence I'm going to break down how to transmute sexual energy into flirting without having to say a word.

Also, in this episode, we dive into how to date with mental health issues, why celibacy can leave you trapped, and so much more! Don't miss out! Click below to listen in.

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The Right Way To Flirt – Soul Snatching 101

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

On this episode we hear from a listener who thought being sassy was the same as being sexy and found out the hard way that men don't react to little girl games. Seduction isn't about saying lines or coming off as unbothered, this isn't an episode of Insecure. In the real world there are certain things that get a man's attention and keeps it, and no it's not sex, it's energy.

Why can some girls keep a man glued while other women who fuck, suck, and submit can't? The mind of a man isn't complex but it's different from yours and too many of you are busting it open when you should be BAITING a man, challenging him to chase, and tattooing his mind before he even gets a chance to taste it!

No matter if you're introverted or struggle with confidence I'm going to break down how to transmute sexual energy into flirting without having to say a word.

Also, in this episode, we dive into how to date with mental health issues, why celibacy can leave you trapped, and so much more! Don't miss out! Click below to listen in.

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