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Is He Emotionally Unavailable or Just Not Into You?

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

"I'm not ready for anything serious" means no... being distant means no... cooling off on communication means no... but why is it hard to accept the concept that a person just doesn't like you anymore... or never really liked you as much as they pretended to. Yes, there are men who aren't in the right headspace to date, but I PROMISE you, no man is making excuses for a Game Changer, only Placeholders. On today's podcast, I'm going to break down how to avoid this and turn an emotionally unavailable man into your groupie. But before you listen to this episode, let me just lay out some facts about us men.

Ladies, understand one thing about men: when we want a woman, we pursue her with full force. We're not trying to text; we're trying to see you. We're not trying to wait a week to see you again; we want to know what you're doing tonight. Even after we've had sex, there is no "I'm busy," there is no "Something came up," and there is absolutely no "I forgot to call." The energy increases, never decreases with an interested man.

The guys you deal with love-bomb you, then pull away. Give you all the attention in the world, then gaslight you about why that attention has dried up. Instead of accepting that 1+1=2, you make excuses based on their own excuses. He's really stressed with work... His uncle died... He lost his phone... You know he's lying, but your ego doesn't want to admit the truth, so you slip into the role of an understanding woman.

"G.L., should I buy him a book on meditation? He's been so stressed that we haven't been able to see each other for the past few weeks." Ma'am! He's not stressed, he's over you, and is currently looking for the next new pussy because you're not what he actually wants now that he's gotten to know you. The only mental health issue at play is DELUSION! You're stuck on a man whose rejection makes you try harder to gain his love. Are you slow or just basic?

Ladies, stop this dumb ass "let me fix you" mindset and recognize one thing. Any man that suddenly gets too busy, too occupied, or reaches for a mental health excuse is politely telling you, "I don't fuck with you like that anymore."

Your Lie: He has childhood trauma, girls have done him dirty in the past, his family never showed him how to love, he has ADHD or other undiagnosed disorders. He doesn't know how to be happy...

His Truth: I don't have the capacity to continue having conversations with you about various bullshit, nor does it benefit me to go out in public with you, listen to your boring life stories, or pretend that this is going to last and that I see a future with you outside of the bedroom.

Why don't men just say it plainly so you can stop chasing behind them? Because the majority of guys aren't in the business of hurting a woman's feelings, nor do they want to leave things on a bad note, because in six months, he may be bored and want to put his dick in you again.

We as men would rather have a roster of women we don't like who we can fuck in a drought, than a dry phone. Don't be flattered by a guy sparing your feelings with a sob story about "it's hard for me to trust... blah blah blah." Don't feel that his lies or excuses are a cover for "not wanting to open up" or pushing you away because you're a good woman who can help with his trauma. It's not that deep!

These men aren't dark, tragic love interests from a trashy romance novel; they're manipulators. This isn't Bridgerton or some make-believe love story where you have to overcome the odds. Real love isn't a struggle. Men who really want you will never make you jump through hoops or play hard to get!

Lie to you. Fuck you. Toy with your emotions. Fuck you. Fall back on you. Come back and fuck you. Is that man you're stuck on special, or are you just a hopeless romantic who has tied your value and self-worth to male validation?

Male lies only work if you're delusional enough to believe them. The high of someone liking you, even loving you, is so strong that even when faced with the clues that his feelings were fake, you don't want to believe it. You opened yourself up, were vulnerable, saw this person as a potential soul mate, and it hurts like hell to be rejected without fully undrestanding why you weren't good enough.

Anxiety Whispers: What's wrong with me? What did I do? I'm so dumb. I'm so ugly. I'm too clingy. I'm too boring. I have attitude problems. I have trust issues. Am I acting too much like his ex-girlfriend? Maybe I should apologize. Maybe I should read a book about what men want. I'm going to die alone. How do I fix this? How do I make him want me again? What's wrong with me?

Spartans don't spiral into mental chaos. My books. My philosophy. Everything I instill in women is about how to be so fucking strong, so charismatic, and position yourself mentally so that it's a man who's crashing out over you, a man who's having anxiety over you, and a man's asking, "How can I get her to want me?"

On today's show we're going to dive deep on the male mind and how to overcome some of the biggest relationship problems. Plus I answer reader questions about the messiest situations of the past month.

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Stop Lying To Yourself, Basica! How To Repair Your Damage & Win.

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

The only thing that doesn’t lie are numbers. So what have the numbers told us in today’s world? Men are having more sex without commitment now than they ever have in history.

"I'm about to be celebate... Men today want to be the woman... I don't trust anything a guy says..." yet there you go, the next week texting, smiling, and fucking some dude who cut through all the "I'm over love" bullshit because at the end of the day, regardless of what you dislike about men, you still want LOVE.

Women have become more hardened in terms of trusting men. I can't deny that a lot more women understand the game. However, if women are being more dismissive of ain’t shit men, then why are things such as situationships and be ghosted after sex increasing instead of decreasing? Even when you know what to do why don't you do it?

Because the guy has potential. Because the guy speaks your language. Because the first 4-8 weeks of meeting someone new melts the ice, and warms your heart, and in that moment you don't want to be Date Like A Spartan, you dont' want to use Ho Tactics, you just want to be stop thinking about strategy and remembering what I write, and just relax and live in the moment.

Living in the moment will get you fucked over, beloved.

I talked to a girl who had this high school sweetheart who she wanted to be with in terms of taking it to the next level. She told him her rules for moving forward, he nodded along, she had sex with him that weekend. …she never got what she wanted.

I once coached a girl who met an R&B dude whose picture was once on her wall as a teenager. I gave her all kinds of strategy so she wouldn't come off like a groupie... she ignored all of that because he was famous and had sex with him the next time he came to her town. …she never got what she wanted.

I’ve known a girl for years who finally got in a stable relationship, assumed that she got what she wanted, had months of sex, then found out he didn’t consider what they were doing official, citing that “exclusivity” was never mentioned by either side. They stopped talking and you know the rest …she never got what she wanted.

The hard truth is that the standards that many girls swear they have are total fabrications when put face to face with men who they don’t want to lose out on.

Men lie to acquire, Women lie to protect.

What do guys want from women—Pussy. Women know this, even when they try to make a man they like out to be different. What do women want—to not get used solely for pussy and to be seen as more than just an object of lust. So the most common lie becomes that men will lie to acquire sex, sometimes money, or other favors from women by acting as if she isn’t just an objectification to him. Most women don’t know if a man is using her so they have created their own set of lies. I’m not looking for anything out of this… Whatever happens, happens… I’m not tripping over any man… It’s whatever… I’m unbothered. Those lies protect a woman from opening herself up to heartbreak by a man who is most likely in it for a nut.

If you pretend or even convince yourself that you don’t expect anything, then when that man uses you for sex and dips a month later, your feelings won’t be hurt because YOU didn’t care about love or any of that stuff-- it was whatever.

Maybe these women are being truthful, there are liberated women who just want sex or to chill and aren’t about romance, perhaps more and more girls are following that mindset. Nope! The proof I’ve seen comes in the form of the reaction. After these men leave or fall back, frustration and bitterness follows, proving for a fact that it was never whatever and that your attempt to play tough failed. You can lie to keep from getting your feelings caught up, but in the end, just like the three examples above, women still give in to dick pressure, which causes them to emotionally invest even when they didn’t want to, thus still ending up hurt.

Ma'am you can make 9 out of 10 men eat your pussy by just offering. You can make at least 1 out of those 10 men fight the rest of those guys just because he wants to be first in line. The point is, you are highly desired even if you don't know it, show it, or exercise your sexual power.

To be a woman in a man's world comes with the pressure to be one of two things: Be smart enough to learn how men think and beat them at their own game... or be pretty enough that you can make even the brightest men dumb enough to give you everything you've ever wanted.

Are you playing the game or is the game playing you? Are you making men chase you or are you chasing them? If the last two guys you dated didn't get you shit, improve your lifestyle, teach you more than you knew before you met him, or anything that raised your stock then you're getting fucked by the patriarchy.

You're not Wonder Woman, you're "I wonder what the fuck you're doing, woman". And yes, I'm hoping to trigger you because you need to be upset about your lack of success in dating with power.

"I don't care, G.L. I'm not thinking about these men. I'm focused on building my own empire," you don't even believe that. Listen up Tina Typical, you can say all the "I'm choosing me," bullshit cliches you hear online, doesn't change the fact that you're not living up to your potential. But go ahead, be defensive. The popular slogan is “Unbothered,” as in you aren’t stressing anything, no fucks given, and no more drama. You're not unbothered, you're just tired of not getting what you want, so you're crossing your arms and giving up like a child who loses at dodgeball. Brats don't fucking win. Spartans do!

You know who’s really unbothered? People who don’t need to tell the internet how unbothered they are. Once again, we see basic bitches finding yet another false layer of confidence to grab onto to make themselves feel better about life. You check your phone every two minutes because “He” hasn’t texted back—bitch you’re bothered. You stalk social media to see if the girl you don’t like has subbed you—bitch you’re bothered. You rush to call your bff about what someone had the nerve to say to you at work—bitch you’re bothered! Offline and online, your life is full of people irking your soul, but instead of breaking it down mentally and truly figuring out why you let people get under your skin so you can stop being affected in the future, you avoid the work and front as if none of that stuff is on your mind. You don’t solve your problems by pretending you don’t have them. Not checking your bank account doesn’t change the fact that you’re broke. Ignoring red flags doesn't turn them green. Refusing to admit your frustration doesn’t end the frustration.

Repression is a hell of a drug. Repression gets you high on avoidance, but it also creates slow building stress that will eventually erupt. How many of you have played this “I don’t care” game only to find yourself crying at night because you’re depressed? Exploded on people you love because you can’t talk about the real issues going on beneath the surface. Pushed away people that actually cared because you didn’t want to seem weak. Men lie way more than women do, but women lie much deeper. It’s time to stop lying to yourself about how you feel because you aren’t protecting your heart from men; you’re actually doing more damage to yourself than a man could ever do.

Lie: I Like Being Single

Truth: I’m Sad As Fuck

You put up with male lies because you don’t want to rock the boat.

You play dumb because you don’t have enough receipts to win an argument. You are falling for a man who is a known liar, you have to put on a false smile to keep the peace, and at the end of the day you’re sucking on a dick of a guy who thinks you’re dumb… Beloved he isn’t insulting your intelligence, you’re doing it for him. “I got something for his ass,” cries the basica as she fucks this piece of shit man every weekend. Rewarding bad behavior by giving him everything he wants does what, genius???

You know that man doesn’t really like you and your GUT is telling you that he's playing in your face and this situation needs to be ended immediately… yet you keep going because of your need for external validation: If I can keep showing him how great of a woman I am, the lies won’t matter because he will change and be the man who I need him to be.

The thirst to be loved above your own emotional and mental health is nasty business.

You've never felt like you've been good enough... but the way you fix this insecurity isn't to keep pouring your heart into people who are incapable of loving you. There is no such thing as magic, there is no white knight coming to save you, and happy endings aren't guaranteed because you're a "nice girl". You're still a mess mentally, and you will keep attracting negative experiences until you finally destroy your inner weak bitch and start walking in the kind of power I'm about to lay out.

I once received an email where a woman started off talking about how she works this type of job, makes this much a year, doesn’t need a man, but wanted some pointers on first date convo. I wrote her back and said, “Start back over, this time be honest and tell me what you really want.” I’ve had enough experience with this that I know when a woman is lying. Talking about your job, your money, and how you are above needing a man is a deflection. She was trying to make herself seem big with her career and seem in control by lying about “first date pointers” being her only problem, when the real problem was later revealed to be, “I can’t keep the attention of the men I like for more than a few weeks.”

She wasn’t happy being single; she was sad and felt as if she was failing at life. So why would this college educated, successful career woman, need to lie about her relationship goals? Because we live in a world where women are judged by what’s on their ring finger… Oh, wait, what year is it? That’s right, most of those women judging have dry ring fingers too, thus other women are now being judged on if they have a man, not a husband, just a man. You got a Benz but where is your boyfriend? You got a PHD but where’s BAE? You got that new condo, but what good is Egyptian cotton on a king bed without a king? It’s not that these women are trying to be deceitful; they’re trying to protect their self-worth in a world where not having a man is like being a pariah. It infuriates me to see some little ratchet bitch whose only ambition in life is to take selfies while smoking hookah, shame another woman because she doesn’t have a boyfriend.

It’s not about men at all; it’s about comparing yourself to the next woman in terms of relationship status. No matter what it says on your business card, what number is in your bank account, if you can’t get and keep a relationship, then you are not equal to other women. This competitive and vicious foundation causes so many women to formulate lies about loving the single life.

I talk about Spartanhood, pussy power, mental toughness, being worshipped, but in the real world how many of you live that life? How many of you can stand up to a man you desperately want to PICK YOU? Love is hard because you're still weak. The only way to truly break free is to recognize that it’s okay to be alone, single isn’t a death sentence, it’s where you can heal, learn, and put everything I write into practice!

If you're reading this, then you can get a boyfriend before the end of the year. Come January 2026, you can be in a loving and deep relationship with a great man (and yes great men exist) but there's one thing holding you back and this is going to blow your mind: Step one is...

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Feminine Power Dynamics

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

You fucked up. You met a guy and were too nice, too compromising, too understanding, and didn’t set boundaries. Now he’s in the position of power, no longer chasing you like the trophy you are. When women get soft, men get comfortable and either take advantage or take her for granted.

The power dynamic in a relationship should never be one where the woman is confused and trying to make a man “act right.” If you’re stressing over a man you aren’t dating like a Spartan, you’re dating like a Basica, and need to hit reset ASAP!

I write a lot about the dating stage, pre-dates, first dates, sex dates, etc… my books are meant to take you step by step through most problems. Date Like A Spartan shows you the proper way to date. Ho Tactics shows you how to get your value. Solving Single talks about the relationship stage power…

However, there are some of you who didn’t read my books or read them but didn’t use them in real life, and now you’re STUCK in relationships where you didn’t set your value, or are currently in the dating stage with someone who is outsmarting you. Stop the fucking madness. When you allow these men to bully, brag, and bitch check you into thinking that they are the table and you should be happy to have a seat, you lose.

Power isn’t about being masculine; it’s about intelligence. A wise woman understands that men are controlled by lust and are obedient to sex. Look at history, at all these powerful men who were taken down or bankrupted because they couldn’t keep their dick in their pants. Men chase money to attain things that make them more attractive to women. Intelligent women know these things; they use this intel to mentally whip men before they even give up any pussy. These Basicas chase dick because they think it’s rare, in reality, these dudes are as common as a sale at Sephora.

You think he’s special? Why? Because he’s halfway cute and gives you attention? What’s so damaged inside of you that you don’t want more for yourself? Today I’m going to show you how to hit reset, and show these men that you aren’t the basic bitch who rolled over and allowed him to do what he wanted. It’s a new day, and he’s going to learn to respect you, worship you, and bend the fucking knee.

What’s Your Worth?

Psychologically speaking, why do men chase and apply pressure when they’re first getting to know you? “They want to fuck,” is the simple answer, but that’s not the complete answer. Why does a man want to fuck you? Because of how you look—no, because of what you represent.

Being a “snack” isn’t enough. When a man first meets you, he rates your beauty, experiences your personality, then listens to your story. Think of this like money.

Your beauty earns you 100-350k

Your personality earns you 100-550k

Your life story earns you 100-250k

A drop-dead gorgeous woman (350k) who is very fuckable but has a dry personality (100k) and nothing going on in her life (100k) is going to land at a value of 550k.

A cute girl (250k) with an amazing personality(550k) and who has great things going in her life(250k) is going to hit a value of 1 million.

What do you think your value is out in this world? And Be Honest!

“G.L., my personality is bomb, and I still can’t find a man,” is a repeated line in nearly all the emails I get. Then I find out that while her personality is lit around her friends when it comes to men, these women aren’t charismatic, funny, or engaging. They’re goofy, awkward, and anxious because that so-called “bomb personality” disappears when a man comes into the picture. Your value should be 1 million, but it usually hovers around 400k because you don’t date confidently.

Some of you used to be the cutest girls in high school, but that doesn’t do anything for you now because men experience pretty all the time. Sexy is common. Big asses and perky tits only go so far after his dick goes soft. Those surface-level “must-have” women end up being vapid, crazy, or boring, which is why some of the prettiest women are still on the market. Their value is average, especially in a world where beauty can be bought and enhanced. Your face, your ass, your boobs, no matter if you’re all natural or enhanced, men today know that they can find someone just as pretty online. So what’s going to get a man to truly chase and give you the world is they all think “Ruby Rose types can be found on every corner of the DMV“

The late, not-so-great Kevin Samuels used to constantly rate women as 6’s in below, which triggered a lot of women because that’s a woman’s worst fear, to come off as average looking. What look ranking doesn’t take into account is that if a man enjoys your personality, you become sexier over time. Flat butt, bad skin, and big teeth are married, while Coke Bottle Betty is still on TikTok trying to dance her way into getting a baller to message her. Why? Because it’s all about connection, men value a woman who can laugh with him, teach him new things, and has things going on in her life other than gossip and partying.

The irony is that when a man first gets to know you, he’s grading you on a curve. His lust to fuck you is inflating your value a bit. Once he finally gets the pussy, he can reexamine your value in terms of what he’s looking for in a woman. With his dick now soft, how do you look, is your personality still intoxicating? Does he continue to want to listen to your life story and future plans?

Most of you have seen how quickly a man falls back and stops getting to know you after sex. This is because he doesn’t see your value as the same as it was during the dating stage. You can’t make a man value you. It’s not your job to showcase yourself to men to be respected. However, to protect your heart and emotions from being toyed with, you have to set boundaries and ensure that a man who wants to continue to date you, fuck you or have an exclusive relationship knows your worth.

Part 1: Resetting The Foundation

How do you go from weak to powerful overnight? Simple, you recognize your basic traits and move differently.

The People Pleaser: This is the woman who never wants conflict and wants to get along with her male friend. She’s so afraid to lose out on him that she’s always compromising. This kind of basic bitch often gets mind fucked and gaslit into thinking any relationship issue is her fault. Because she has a thirst to be liked and seen as a good woman, she jumps at the chance to make things right, even when it wasn’t her fault in the first place. This kind of woman has no power and is the easiest to manipulate. Men usually keep at least one of these women on their rosters. Bum ass broke men use the people pleaser as an ego stroke main chick who supports and finances them or as a safety net baby mamma. Players use the People Pleaser as the type of woman he can always drop and pick back up when the other women he wants get sick of his bullshit.

The Ring Chaser: This is the woman who is getting older and feels desperate. She believes that a woman without a man can’t be happy, so she centers her life around the pursuit of male love and validation. The Ring Chaser is the ultimate Pick Me as she studies men on a superficial level, trying to understand what she should do or say to become “the wifey type.” This type of woman is notorious for being a long-term girlfriend who never rocks the boat. She will put up with anything a man does to her, cheat, give her an STD, verbally or physically abuse her, and she forgives because without belonging to a man, her life has no meaning.

The Defensive Dummy: This is the woman who claims she doesn’t want to be married and that men are all shit, yet falls fast and hard every single year. The Defensive Dummy has been hurt. She has her guard up and claims to be a savage who no “thinks like a man.” In reality, she’s just in her feelings. She’s still soft, romantic, and believes in Soulmates. When a bitter person doesn’t heal or come to grips with their past trauma, they remain in a state of arrested development. Her mouth says, “Fuck these boys. I don’t need them,” but her actions say, “Please love me and don’t leave me like the last one.” These women catch attitudes fast and don’t mind breaking up but are quick to come back and submit after makeup sex or a few gifts. She runs away but is easy to catch and manipulate all over again. Why do men like the Defensive Bitch? Because it’s a game which males always win, “Watch me get this dumb bitch back on my dick” never gets old, and these women are experts at pretending to be savage She-Hulks when they’re really Jen Walters soft.

What weak bitch trait do you have inside of you that makes you less valuable to men? It could be one of those three, a combination or one of those I mentioned in She Ain’t It (Listen to the list here). No matter what your weak bitch trait is, your job is to recognize what you’re projecting, understand that men are already hip to it, and then destroy that trait so he can no longer exploit it.

Part 2: Introducing The New You

 Change is complicated and simple. It’s simple because all it takes is to do the exact opposite of what you are used to doing. It’s complicated because people are creatures of habit. I want you to follow this motto when reinventing yourself: Make Myself Uncomfortable By Going Against My Nature.

Put that in the note section of your phone, write it in your daily planner, stick it on your mirror. I don’t care how you memorize it, but it must become a part of you from this day forward if you’re ever to take power of your dating life or relationship.

Make Myself Uncomfortable By Going Against My Nature

Example: Your boyfriend or “friend” doesn’t take you out to do the things you want to do anymore because he’s grown lazy. Let’s say your basic bitch reaction is to either get passive and catch an attitude that leads to you both arguing, or you’re holding it in and then exploding on him out of the blue. You don’t get your way by yelling at a man. Even if he gives in once, his heart isn’t into it, so he won’t learn how to treat you, just how to shut you up. What kind of relationship is that where you have to constantly fuss to get a crumb?

Go back to the motto of change. Instead of giving in to your passive-aggressive reaction, go the opposite direction. What’s the opposite of passive and angry? Active and calm. Actively telling your partner what you want to do calmly when they’re used to you not coming at them like that will confuse them. They can’t normally react because you didn’t go at them in a way they rehearsed. Being calm as a woman is simply dropping the hostility, amping up the seduction, and asking for what you want, like a sweetheart, not a woman on fire with an ultimatum.

Men don’t want to be told what to do. They want to feel like they’re the ones dictating the pace. To go him with a specific want, but ask like you’re his sweet little girl, not this mean bitch will take you from being seen as a nag to being seen as submissive. Faking like you’re submissive to get a man to ultimately do what you want is a power technique that most of you don’t know how to do because you’re too prideful to ask as you’re afraid to seem weak or be told “no.” Fuck that pride, fuck your little girl ego, and repeat it: Make Myself Uncomfortable By Going Against My Nature.

Name a scenario where you want your man to improve, dating you better, buying you things, spending less time with his friends and more time with you, and apply what I just wrote. It works across the board because you’re showing him a different side.

Reinventing yourself doesn’t just happen when you want or need something. You should constantly be in the habit of building and testing the “new you.”  

Let’s say your friend is growing distant from you or not calling as often. Your value is sinking, so you have to show this man that you’re new pussy just like you were when he first started dating you. Women can get lazy too. Some of you meet a man and stop doing your hair, stop dressing up, and become so casual that he stops seeing you as a sex symbol and just sees you as a piece of furniture.

You’re not even married, and you go over to his place just to hang out, watch T.V., fuck, and lounge in your dirty-ass sweatpants. Of course, he’s on Insta looking at new bitches because you’re no longer sparking his lust. His dick sees you as a convenient release, but the rest of him sees you as tired and played. Physical updates and personality enhancers will make any man see old as new again.

Your hair, wardrobe, and signature colors are the easiest things to change. Think about it like this, when you were fully single and looking, you made sure that when you went somewhere, you were at your best because you never knew who was looking. Do you still bring that to the table in your relationship? Probably not. Your friend has most likely seen you in every outfit you own, without makeup most of the time, and your hair is probably covered up during sex. You’re living like an old married couple; sometimes, it’s only a few months into a relationship.

Men want excitement. Men crave the chase. Men loved to be teased. Men have a dying thirst for NEW PUSSY, so how can you create this excitement if he’s already fucked you in every way possible? Show him other sides to your personality and other flavors of your rainbow! Other women aren’t prettier than you, they’re just NEWER. Be new again…

Change your hair, throw some color in it, invest in a quality wig, and watch how it affects his libido. If you usually wear blacks and blues, switch to whites and yellows. You don’t have to dose your face in makeup but switch to a complimenting lip gloss or maybe utilize eyeshadows even when it’s a stay-in movie night. I repeat, he’s looking at these women with full-on glam makeup online, all their imperfections covered and then going to see you who’s devolved into Plain Jane status. Up your game!

A woman once complained to me that her boyfriend doesn’t take her out, so she doesn’t get to dress up as she once did. It doesn’t have to be a date night to show him what you’re working with! Don’t wait until you break up to start dressing sexy, hoping it’ll get him to come back. That’s half-ass and backward. Utilize those three small things I just mentioned before it gets to that point of breaking up.

Personality-wise, you have to once again push away from the bad habits. If he’s not calling you as often or he would rather be with his friends or playing a video game than talk to you, it’s because he finds you boring, annoying, or both. From that first date until now, you somehow lost his interest in the topics you both talk about.

Do you know why a woman falling off in terms of personality is so common? Because the honeymoon stage is all flirting with little substance. Look at the kinds of texting you and your friend did during the first month. It’s sexual innuendo and teasing. He wasn’t getting to know you. He was softening you up to take that dick! You talk a big game like you’re so confident, yet get open off of male attention because your self esteem is trash!

“Oh, he likes me. He’s always texting me,” No, Basica, he keeps the conversation 90% sexual, never asks you anything deeper than how your day was and is always plotting on when to see you because your only value is a nut. He doesn’t like you; he lusts you, and the quicker you can tell the difference, the better off you’ll be!

Your friend needs to be reminded that you’re more than someone who was conquered and now needs to be discarded. You may think you’re well-rounded, but ask yourself, “What the hell do I actually talk about with him?” Bring up new things to discuss, ask questions about his life and see what dominates his thoughts. Tell stories or shine some light into your past, so you’re not just keeping your relationship on a surface level. If you see that he isn’t trying to share more, or he doesn’t want to listen to what you’ve gone through, then that’s a clear sign that it was only ever lust, and that he never found your personality captivating in the first place. Either way, it’s important to attack conversations from a different angle with men you’ve known for a while, as most people date but don’t actually talk.

Part 3: Turning The Tables

The ultimate power dynamic is to retool away from the relationship and come back into the picture. Hitting reset in the ways I wrote about before can be difficult because let’s be honest. Many of you won’t dress differently, won’t ask for things differently, and won’t reframe your personality to show this man that you’re still full of surprises. Yes, you can pretend to hit reset for a few days, but by next week you will slip into old habits and be back with the same problem. If you feel you’re the type of woman who will relapse, you need to fall back.

The art of the fallback is the most powerful weapon in a woman’s arsenal because it hits a man from two angles. First, you hurt his ego by cutting him out of his life. Next, you ignite his need to chase by dangling the new you back in his face. Finally, you put fear in his heart by reminding him with actions, not words, that you don’t need him, but he needs you.

Does the man you currently want or have need you in his life in a real way? Answer that right now. If you’re in a relationship and you’re paying most of the bills, or he needs you for your car or the roof you put over his head, then yeah, he needs you, but you’re also a silly bitch because why are you supporting a grown-ass man. The answer for women who aren’t being used should be, “He needs me because I provide love and emotional support that he can’t find in another woman.” That’s the ultimate goal, to show any man that you are a fucking unicorn that he must hold onto.

The reality is that the guy you are with or are trying to date on a deeper level doesn’t need you. Men are cocky. They walk around knowing that if one woman walks out of their life, there will be two more to replace her, which is why they can dictate the rules and remind you that you’re the one that’s going to be sad. You’re back on the dating apps or pretending to be happy single while you secretly check his social media, hoping he hasn’t replaced you too fast. The point is that men think women grow on trees and are very replaceable. Therefore, you have to show him that you are the exception to that rule by falling all the way back.

Step 1: Walk away from the situation. This is the hardest step because you may not be willing to risk the dick. In the business world of negotiations, some companies walk away from the table, leaving the money that was offered because the terms aren’t up to snuff. If you’re thirsty, you would never leave money on the table, but if you’re aware of your value, you would because it’s a tactic. Ladies, you must know your worth and be willing to walk away from that man. “It’s so hard,” yeah, because he has the power over YOU! Fuck that. Tell him it’s not working, and you need time to yourself. If he begs or keeps calling, block him.

Step 2: Revamp yourself. The things I wrote about above should be done at a deeper level. Your style, your conversation, and the way you react to situations should change! What is working on yourself? It’s taking inventory and becoming a better version of yourself. You actually need to do this before you go back to any man. Read new books, find new hobbies, and take on a new style that matches your new alter ego.

Step 3: Dangle Your Carrot. Once you’re secure with who you now are, put yourself back on that man’s radar. Start following him on social, and message him something slick. Go somewhere you know he will be and pretend to bump into him. Hell, even text him asking about someone you both know just to get back to communicating. The idea is to allow him to lay fresh eyes on you after you push him away. Men are competitive. He’s going to want to conquer you again, show you that you fucked up. Good, because he doesn’t know that you’re now in control.

Step 4: Let him Chase and Catch. There’s no need to play hard to get. Women who say shit like “prove to me you changed” are idiotic, as a man will do the bare minimum to get her back in check. You want to showcase that you talk differently and think differently and that only happens by allowing him to date you again. Let him sample your personality, not your pussy.

Step 5: Set The New Rules. A fresh start begins with NEW BOUNDARIES. You have to be a Spartan who stands on business and isn’t afraid to have a talk where you break down everything you want, and then test him to make sure he understands that you’re no longer the “old weak basic bitch” he used to deal with.

If you’re ready to upgrade your mindset and become a Spartan who can pull off these steps, and also read word by word dating scripts, and get one on one advice from me. Take the five-week course on dating.

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Real Men Don’t Split Bills – Hypergamy Dating Guide

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

5 Week Dating Course Includes:

E-Book With Step-by-Step Examples.Hours of Video Lectures Breaking Down The GameplanOne on One Personal Advice IncludedDating & Relationship Scripts. Provider Checklist. Long-Term Commitment Strategy.Guaranteed Results: You can’t Lose With This Course Because I Will Be There At The End To Help You!ENROLL IN THE COURSE BELOW

In my book, Ho Tactics, I wrote about how easily your life could change once you recognize your value, understand your power over men, and have the courage to mindfuck these men into chasing what you have based on that value. This time around, I’m going to show you how to have it all…

Finding a trick is easy, but what about true love from a provider? Can you find a loyal husband who will sponsor your life in all the ways you really want? Can a nice girl who isn’t a Ho really get that kind of happy ending? YES. It’s time to stop feeling guilty, stop trying to freestyle your dating life on your own, stop asking questions about “where do you find those kinds of men,” and get guaranteed results.

Over five weeks, this course will go beyond my books to create an entirely new way of dating that will show you step by step how to attract and hook a provider with words, not sex. Most of these things I’ve only shared in private. How to break down a man mentally, how to push a man’s buttons to keep him chasing, sexting triggers, and most importantly, how to test him so you know that he’s the type to give gifts and provide before you waste your time or open your legs.

This course is not about lying, deceiving, or prostitution; it’s about the power of self-confidence. I’m going to hold your hand and take you step by step, so you can see how easy it is to go from dating mediocre men to high-value providers. You’ve been brainwashed for far too long to think you can’t have both love and money or that women who achieve these things have a certain look, live in a certain city, or have an advantage you don’t. False. There is nothing stopping you from living this lifestyle.

The Four Pillars of Abundance:If a man has it to spend, he has it to provide.You are not limited to your city, the world is your playground.Sex isn’t needed to make a man fall in love, but intelligence is.A man’s wallet follows his heart—never date at a discount.

Why would you entertain, let alone sleep with any man who says, “I love you,” but never offers to help you out? Any man who’s serious about you will make sure you’re all the way good!

Love includes provision. There is no such thing as a man who loves you but won’t provide for you. The level of providing depends on what that man has to his name. But the fact remains that his love will include wanting to give you the world as best he can, without wanting anything in return or throwing it back in your face. Real Men want their women to be happy and see their ultimate job as providing that happiness. Period.

“But… but… but…” echoes the Pick-Me and Bum Ass Men who want to keep you locked in a world where you have to budget and pay for your own birthday parties. Fuck that. This is a Spartan revolution where I’ll take you step by step to show you how actual women have been courted by High-Value Men. The script, the questions, the places you need to go, and more.

This is NOT a world where you keep your mouth shut, act shy, and try to “nice girl” your way into marrying up. You need to take matters into your own hands and learn this strategy that I have seen work for years with my top students.

My job with this course is to get you to the finish line in terms of a husband who provides for you and leads to generational wealth, not to date a guy who buys a Chanel bag, fucks you for half a year, and then it’s all over. We’re beyond shallow luxury gifts; it’s time to get your name on property by knowing how to push the right buttons in the male mind.

The days of dating Broke Brandon with potential but nothing to show for it are over. You’re getting too old to be having sex, falling in love, or committing years to men who can’t provide anything other than conversation. You don’t need to be around men with money, you need to be around men who spend that money—on you!

The name of the game is to fall in love with someone who not only respects you but who has the financial health to ensure that you are always taken care of, no matter what. That’s what you call a husband, that’s who your future kids should want to call “daddy”, and that’s the person you pour your love into.

No more roommate treatment, no more holding someone down, no more being loyal to a fault, and regretting it later. Stand in your power and get what you deserve!

If you’ve ever felt like you were giving too much and getting too little, this is your chance to transform your love life into one that feels abundant, intentional, and worthy of the woman you’ve worked hard to become. Love is not going to fall into your lap. Things will not magically ‘get better.’

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Why Are You Crying Over Dick?

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

Men play games. Why? To flex their power and gain control until it satisfies their egos. The basic rule of that game is this: Date her. Win her over by going above and beyond… at first. Understand her life story, including her trauma and her specific needs. Now that you know how to push her buttons, YANK her chain. Grow distant, grow annoyed, change up and withhold your affection, and lie about the reason why you’re cooling off, and you will mind fuck even the so-called smarter women.

At this point, she will reveal one of two things: She will do anything to get you back. Or she doesn’t need you and isn’t affected by your sneaky manipulation. 8 out of 10 women are “why is he acting that way, how can I fix this,” not “Fuck him. Next man up.” Spartans don’t cry over dick. Spartans don’t overthink a man’s actions. Spartans don’t settle, EVER.

Your actions define your success—always. Not the words you spew to your friends, not the quotes you post online, and not the thoughts in your head. When life throws people or situations at you, everything you pretend to be about goes out the window, and you make rookie mistake after rookie mistake because there is still a disconnect between what you SAY you’ll do and what you physically do in real life!

I’ll never date a man who can’t bring anything to the table…

I’ll never have sex unless I get certain treatment first…

I’m not stupid, I can always spot a liar…

I’m not easy, I’ll make a man jump through hoops…

Once I’m done, I’m done…

Lie after lie after lie… Look at the receipts of your life, you’ve done foolish and embarrassing things that you’ll take to the grave over a man.  When the right guy’s in front of you, gassing you up or dangling the right kind of carrot, you have proven time and time again that you will break your word, bend your standards, and don’t take your own boundaries seriously.

Your actions define your success. You keep going in circles when it comes to love because you give up your power, crumble under pressure, and put HE over She. You aren’t selfish, you aren’t savage, and you aren’t high maintenance— you’re still a little girl praying for love, mislabeling his lust as genuine interest, and treating men like they’re the prize.

Men respond to actions, not words, and there you are telling him what you won’t accept, what you won’t do, and who he has you confused with… only to go chasing after him when he calls your bluff. He heard you bark, bark, bark, then shatter into a love-thirsty coward the moment he took his attention away. Then you scratch your head, confused as to why your constant contradiction keeps attracting predators instead of providers.

Dating isn’t hard; you make the process difficult by lowering the bar to make certain people you deem as “special” fit. You heard that lie, you saw their true colors slip out, but you looked away and kept dealing with them because you’re tired and just want something to work out. You’re playing the love game willfully blindfolded, then have the nerve to cry, “This is hard!” Aren’t you sick of being THIS disgustingly basic?

“Dear God, just send me a man that will love me so I can love him back  and show him how amazing I am…”

YAWN. No one wants you because you’re not ready. You’re not strong. You’re not selective. You’re not honest. AND you’re not healed. A broken soul can’t manifest a soul mate; they will only succeed in manifesting endless lessons until they figure it out.

Why are you reading these words? What sign is flashing in front of you? What has led you to this exact moment? The power of your TRUE self, the God in you, has manifested me to get you over that hump. You’re not broken, but you’re bruised, and I’m going to carve that weakness out of you and turn you into a Spartan.

How can I ensure results? Make sure you get it. And then test you to see if you are being truthful about using the things I write in the outside world? A course was the only way.

Many of my fans discover my work through other dating coaches who have incorporated parts of my work into their books, courses, or videos, as well as those who have openly acknowledged my influence on their philosophy. In the past few years, as courses have become nearly as popular as books, I’ve been asked to make one.

One woman found me after her dating coach, whom she paid over $8,000 to, got tired of answering her questions and simply emailed her a copy of Men Don’t Love Women Like You. Think about that, you go through an entire course and coaching session for thousands of dollars, and when you’re done, she dismisses you with a book from another person… fuck that.

I’m happy to know that other dating coaches appreciate my work and utilize it as a tool, but I’m focused on results, not misleading people. I’m sure some of you discover TikTok or YouTube videos that go viral and think those people have all the answers, but real change can only come from going to the source, not the plug.

I decided to do a course, but it had to guarantee results, because I don’t want any of you coming back feeling like you wasted your time or money. That’s why, at the end, you’ll get to email me so nothing slips through the cracks. In addition to being of high quality, this course needed to offer something different from my books. I can’t just give you Date Like a Sparta, Unicorn Delusion, or Solving Single, reworded in course form. That doesn’t teach anything new. Instead, I decided to explore a path that many of my recent Zoom coaching calls have centered on: dating for love and money.

My top request is how to merge Ho Tactics value with Men Don’t Love Women Like You in terms of finding love. This course is the solution. A complex topic too big for a book, so here we are, with the ultimate guide to dating up for love: Real Men Don’t Split Bills – How To Date A Provider, Not A Project.

Throughout the 5 weeks, you will not only listen, read, and learn, but also be tested on everything I lay out. At the end of the five weeks, you will be required to take a test and go on a date. This is a course that will work if you’re willing to give it your all. Unlike some of these online courses that charge thousands of dollars and force you to buy package after package, everything you will ever need is included here.

I’m not doing this just to do it; I’m committed to helping everyone who signs up for this course actually get long-lasting results. I’m not going to pass this off on you and hope you do it right. By the end of these five weeks, I will guarantee success by correcting any issues you’re still experiencing. This is it, my final, in-depth exploration of dating, as my newer books will be taking other exciting directions. So, if you haven’t been able to crack the code to dating and commitment, and are ready to graduate to Spartanhood, then this is your best shot.

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Single To Spoiled – Featuring The Highly Desired Mariah Nicole

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

On today's show, we get some gems from Mariah Nicole, aka The Highly Desired Dating Coach. Mariah shares with G.L. how she first discovered Ho Tactics, her reality TV background, what molded her philosophy on men, and what led her to start teaching other women how to get princess treatment.

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Sex, Money, & Male Mind Games

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

I have a friend who hates that I give women advice. He’s the type that will randomly text me something from my books late at night and say, “These bitches aren’t this smart, but go off and keep trying to save them.”

It’s funny to me, but it’s sad at the same time because men don’t think you all are capable. I’ll admit, even when I tell women what to look for, how to move, and share proof of success… There will STILL be those who will always choose to be dumb over dick rather than play this game from a position of power. I don’t get mad, I get motivated. For every woman who lives up to the “chase a dick” stereotype, I need to see ten Spartans rise up!

Here are a few things that most of you have forgotten that will keep you honest… read, don’t skim, because I want to live in a world where men respect a woman’s intelligence, not play in your face and refer to you as “dumb bitches”.

Things Women Forget About Sex

As a woman, you will always be objectified. Men don’t “like” you, nor do they think you’re “cool”. Every compliment a man lays at your feet is meant to disarm you, drop your guard, and allow him to get closer to you. Why? So he can fuck you.

A man will try to press you fast to fuck you quick. A man may wait and pretend to be your friend so he can fuck you later. It doesn’t matter how he moves and what tactics he’s using to win you over. Understand that your ONLY VALUE is your pussy. 99% of straight men are NOT nice to women just because… they have agendas that most of you miss until it’s too late. Go ahead. Think about it and stop me when I’m telling lies.

You know this stuff; you’ve known it since you were at least 22 years old. But you forget this when a man checks your boxes of attraction: Funny. Handsome. Charismatic. Successful.

When you meet a man who is your type, you believe that he respects you, likes you, and wants you for who you are, not what’s between your legs. You lie to yourself in order to let the idea of love blossom. You become delusional in order to allow romance to take hold. Disney fantasy takes over a grown woman’s intelligence, and guess what happens?

The moment a man attacks you with romance and you forget about the nature of men, you lose your power over him and are now trying to hold on to him because he’s convinced you that he’s “rare”. He will fuck you. He will act differently. Maybe not at first, but just wait for it… and then you’re left starting back over, feeling stupid.

In the end, a man didn’t outsmart you; he just played along as if he liked you, and because you have this huge hole in you that needs validation, you allowed that man to outwit you until you were just another notch in his belt.

“I could never” became “I can’t believe I fell for his lies” because you got dick whipped and mentally manipulated into believing this man could give you the happy ending you always wanted and the love you crave. Sometimes “I love you” means I want to bust a nut in you for a few months. BUT. Eventually, that lust wears off, and he falls back. You don’t lower your head and accept that, beloved, you learn to avoid it by being smarter than he is…

Why did he have to lie if he only wanted sex? Why have all of those deep conversations? Why plan things? Why would anyone do the most just to have sex?

Because sex is domination, sex is the ego winning, sex is the chase that only turns into love if there is a foundation of respect already in place. Do you hear me? RESPECT in place. You can’t fuck him and then think he’s going to see you as wifey; it’s too late. The moment a man figures out you’re easy to have, he will double down on disrespect. They don’t want your love, they don’t want to hear your opinions, they don’t even want to see you unless you’re ready to exchange sex. They will use you as a PLACEHOLDER until they find a woman smart enough to check him.

“Why won’t he text me, doesn’t he miss me?”

“Why doesn’t he take me out anymore, doesn’t he want to spend time?”

“Why does he tell me he loves me, then act distant?”

Look at his actions, not his words! HE DOES NOT FUCK WITH YOU WHEN YOUR CLOTHES ARE ON. Everything he does is to set up sex, never about quality time with you and your brain. He texts his friends, he opens up to his friends, he moves his schedule around for his friends. You are not his friend, you’re pussy. And if you don’t recognize that and think it’s deeper, then the joke will always be on you.

Smart women don’t fuck because a man is cute.Smart women don’t fuck because a man is kind.Smart women don’t fuck because a man keeps her laughing.Smart women don’t fuck because a man has money and success.

Smart women get what they want during the chase, take a man’s power, and then make him desperate for attention. Can you do that? Most of you have done that. But it was with men you didn’t like as much, men who you saw as weak betas. You’re unhappy in your dating life, because you can’t wield that same power over Alpha men.

Here’s a secret… all men are the same.

Things Women Forget About Men

There are a few types of men I break down in my books. But let’s zero in on the three you need to understand to instantly raise your Relationship IQ.

The Popular Man: He has always gotten attention from both men and women. He’s seen as special because of what he does: an athlete, a musician, or a natural leader. Because he has inflated confidence and an unchecked ego, he moves in on women, and they rarely say “no” because they already know he’s important. Every woman wants a man whom other people look up to. So they get easy pussy without having to work hard for it.

This is the man you all want. This is the “needle in the haystack” that only shows up once a month of a dating app. This is the “god sent” man you randomly run into and think you’ve been blessed. When most women dream of a happy ending, it’s with the Popular Man.

Spoiler Alert: The Popular Man doesn’t want 99% of you, because these kinds of men have a deep desire to chase, not catch, and can never be with a woman like you who puts his dick on a pedestal and lets him get away with murder.

Still, you will try to “love him into submission” because that’s what basic women do.

The Unpopular Man: These are the “ugly-cute” guys you’re used to dealing with. They’re kinda corny, pretty boring, don’t have much, their opinions are usually formed by the ideas of stronger men whom they follow.

These are the guys who didn’t get any play in school, and had to “nice” their way to pussy. As adults, they’re the ones following random Red Pill misogynistic YouTubers and Reddit Bros because they’re angry that the girls they want all want the popular guys.

This is the man you don’t want, but it’s the man with whom most of you have been in relationships. The popular guys fuck you, traumatize you, and send you back to the streets. These unpopular lames are the ones who stick with you, always pop back up, and whom you settle for when lonely.

Spoiler Alert: You don’t want a man who follows after other men, who isn’t exciting, and who is low-key not that smart. But if you keep playing it safe, this is the kind of man you will marry and have kids with, and then wake up one day crying because you are the lame chick who fell for the lame ass man no one else wanted.

The Recently Popular Man: What happens when an Unpopular Man comes into money, fame, or success? He becomes more desirable… but he’s still lame. Why are certain women on OnlyFans generating millions? Because they know how to talk to this brand of clown. These are the “new money” low self-esteem, yet cocky, assholes who will pull you in, push you away, only to pull you back, all because women hurt them in the past.

Men who never received attention when they were younger, then get clout later in life, will spend years trying to get revenge on women. They will love bomb you with money, then verbally abuse you. They will try to manipulate you into doing all kinds of sexual things, just so they can hold it over your head and call you a slut. Psychology, these men always wanted the pretty cheerleader; now they’re going to do everything they can to dirty her up for never reciprocating. They literally hate women.

Me (Sees attractive girl at an event): Damn, she’s pretty.Actor Who I Won’t Name: She ain’t shit, bro. I shot ropes on this bitch’s face who looked just like her.

Why do men take satisfaction in disrespecting women and dwindling down to the lowest sexual domination, in this case, cumming on her face? Because of jealousy and resentment! Men want the power that you ladies possess naturally. These types of men smile in your face, text you sweet shit, then secretly plot a way to dehumanize you. …the signs are always there, but you don’t want to open your eyes to the fact that “new bae” is secretly a predator.

Spoiler Alert: These are the men that most of you get played and ghosted by as you get older. They’re the truck drivers with money, the new business owners, the corporate nerds who dangle their success and money in your face, and you dance right along because you think they’re your last shot at finding someone who isn’t paycheck to paycheck.

Things Women Forget About Power

Popular Men want your pussy, but not giving it to them until they jump through hoop after hoop and bend the knee will humble their ego and form respect. Only through that respect, and fear that you may leave them, will they be a dog that can now be properly put on your leash.

Unpopular men want your pussy, but not giving it to them and instead forming a friendship where they do favors and things for you, makes them a useful follower. He’ll be the “male bestie” who would die to eat your pussy, but you keep him around because he’s useful when you need something fixed, need to be treated on your birthday, and he can always introduce you to men who are better than he is.

Recently Popular men want your pussy, but not giving it to them, and pretending to stroke their egos will satisfy their thirst to be loved. They want to win you because, unlike the Basicas, you aren’t impressed with their newfound money or status. You tease like you may give in, then show him he’s still not good enough, which doesn’t push him away; it makes him want you that much more. This man will become your bitch, your bank account, even a husband who signs over his net worth to you if that’s what your end goal is.

Women are smarter than men. Women are powerful. So why isn’t womenkind women? Why are you all out here looking dumb over dick on the interenet? “Don’t blame me I’m the victim, G.L.” Know you’re the sucker!

The problem with modern dating is that most of you know, accept, and embrace what I just wrote… only to forget it all the next day because you overthink the process… get tired… and just want love at any cost.

“I’ll just keep being genuine and sweet because I don’t want to miss out on this guy who really likes me,” moans Tina Typical.“It’s hard to find a good man in my city,” laments BBL Brenda.“The right man will find me one day, if that’s God’s plan,” preaches Sister Sarah.

Fuck all of that noise.

99% of men will need to be trained to respect you and see you as more than an object. Why? Because men aren’t raised right. They’re raised by other mysoginistic men or by basic mothers who were never “girl’s girls”. Do you understand the world you live in?

You can’t pray for change. Get a new butt. Or suck his dick until he falls in love! There is no amount of religion, no amount of being submissive, nor amount of body enhancements that will do that work for you. Power comes from not being afraid to challenge men in all the ways I’ve been writing about for years. Stand up these men, and show them that you are built differently from the rest of these dummies!

Make Them Simp For You

You should be the one making him send paragraphs because he misses you and can’t see you on his terms.

You should be the one smutting him out in the bedroom, making him do things that he would never admit to his boys.

You should be the Goddess whom he stops seeing as an OBJECT and starts seeing as a PARTNER.

Love exists, but it’s earned, ladies. Know how they see you. Know how to make them chase. Know how to vet them. Know how to keep them thirsty without giving a crumb of coochie.

Only then will they be obsessed with your brain, in love with your aura, and see you as a Game Changer they can’t live without. Quality men love powerful women, but the key is to mask that power so they don’t know until it’s too late that they just ran into a Spartan.

Come back and read this anytime you need a reminder…

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Weak Bitch Thoughts: How To Stop Self-Sabotage & Negative Overthinking

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

Hey, G.L. I hope this email finds you well. I am a plus sized woman, have been since my mid-20s. I recently reconnected online with a guy from high school and felt really insecure because I’m not the size that he remembers. Despite this, I pushed forward with the date. We’ve been inseparable since and we are currently in a relationship. The issue is I’m in my own head every damn day. He wants to go out, I would rather stay in. He likes to hang with old classmates, I don’t speak to any of those people for fear of being judged. Last week we had “the talk” where he told me that he feels it isn’t working out and we both need to change things. This destroyed me.

I know I can create positive manifestations in life, but also negative ones based on my feelings. I’ve done a lot of work to be able to have such a loving and handsome boyfriend, but I feel my inner Basica dragging me down, G.L. My anxiety has pushed him away, and we’re basically on a break while I get therapy. My therapists talks in circles, so I need something more practical. You’ve helped my best friend in the past, so maybe you can help me? Any tips to right this ship not just for the sake of my relationship but for the sake of finally living in power and not being hung up on my insecurities and what others think?

Too many of you are smart but fragile, confident in one breath, then weak as fuck the next moment. You can’t control your emotions, you can’t silence your fears, and you never learned to check your anxiety, so here you are, living life one trigger moment away from shattering. You’re a weak bitch. Just another typical girl who will find love and then lose it the moment a man realizes how broken you are… but it doesn’t have to stay that way. There is nothing inside of you that can’t be corrected, the problem is do you want to remain weak or are you going to actually do the fucking work I list below?

The biggest lie you’ve been told is, “It all works out in the end,” HA! Look at the news; look at your own family tree—no, the fuck it doesn’t! There are people who get what they want out of life and then there are people that die with regret. Pick the fucking pill you want to take and stop going back and forth, unsure of which way is right.

Do you want to become that old woman who fumbled her chance to be happy because of her own weak ass thoughts, or do you want to become the kind of woman that didn’t break, didn’t settle, and met her goals in terms of love, career, and life? Look at that email above. It’s from a woman at her breaking point because she’s looked for validation in a realtionship, got it, then realized that her problems weren’t the lack of man it was her own self-hate.

Stressful situations that pop up aren’t coincidences, karma, or bad luck. It’s all YOU. Once your mind drifts into thoughts of “Maybe I’m not enough,” your world shifts into a mirror reflecting that negativity. If you want to attract happiness, STAY out of your own way. Setbacks are temporary. Heartbreak heals. The ability to bounce back better is power. Master it!

The good news is that no matter if you’re in a relationship like the woman above who wrote to me or someone who’s single, it only takes ONE fucking day to change the direction of your thoughts and set yourself up to attract and manifest the things you feel you aren’t worthy of having. Today, I’m going to break down the weak bitch thoughts, the toxic self-critiques, and the invasive imposter syndrome thoughts that are keeping you stuck, depressed, and sabotaging your wins and how to stop being so damn basic!

Curating Your World View

You are what you think, but what is it that you think? Let’s cut through the bullshit and look at the world you inhabit. You are a goddess having a human experience. You possess a curious mind that’s constantly racing and craving new things. Your brain is a sponge that wants a creative outlet and needs to be fed daily or you’re going to spiral into boredom.

…so, what is it that you feed your mind each day?

-You wake up and think about bullshit from the day before.-You worry about problems that haven’t even happened,-You fixate on what other people think about you.-You are consumed with your future and rarely live in the NOW.

Why is your phone in your hand all the time? Because you’re only happy when you’re distracted. Laughing at silly shit online, sucking up gossip, nodding along to plagirized affirmation videos, and of course, shopping for shit you don’t even need. When you do actually get away from the screen and go somewhere, you search for your phone so you can let everyone know that you’re out somewhere.

Your mind is stuck in this loop of always needing something to do, yet you don’t actually do shit.. You’ve lost the ability to be alone with your thoughts because facing yourself is scary. You were put here to rule, instead you’ve made yourself into a peasant! The high vibrational thoughts that come when you’re focused prove that you’re special, but you let those slip away and go back to drifting into anxiety and frustration. Let’s look at the “why”.

Impatience + Regret = Self Sabotage.

You want to win right now and you’re sick of waiting, so how do you solve it, not with enlightenment, but with ignorance. You look at others with this “Why Can’t That Be Me…” envy. At the same time, you look at your past, attempting to shrug accountability by placing blame with a “What If I Would Have Done XYZ Differently.” You want to be more than what you’ve shown, but you’re also afraid to fail. You build yourself up with positive talk, then tear yourself back down with negative thoughts only to end up right back in bed at the end of the day, the same basic, unevolved human who isn’t living life but wasting it.

This is not who you are. Your True self isn’t this basic ass creature chained by fear. You’ve allowed this to happen because you’ve brainwashed yourself with a world filled with low vibrational influences.

It’s time to throw out the distractions and stop hiding behind your phone. Other people have more influence on your life than you do. That’s why they’re called influencers. Filtered pictures of other women on social media make you envious, thus making you seek out the beauty products that they use or the clothes that they wear. You want to take the same style of photos, use the same filters, and work that same angle so you can join along and feel pretty. Why?

Because you crave attention from the very world that you should have control over. You’re not running the matrix the matrix is running you! “Look at me, make me feel like I’m wanted,” is how a low vibrational person moves. Wasting money and time to gain validation from people who wouldn’t care if you died tomorrow.

If it’s not social media, it’s mainstream media that lowers your vibration. Too many of you binge so-called reality TV shows about women who fight each other over gossip or men, shows about getting married in the 90 days, or how love is blind… but not really. You gobble up media that doesn’t expand your mind but stunts it like a kid drinking coffee.

You can’t grow if your world is filled with basic bitch propaganda.

What are you going to talk about on a date? TV show plot lines? Celebrity news?  How are you going to talk on a date? Using too much profanity and calling everyone “bro” like you’re 17?  How are you going to keep a new relationship from dying out after the honeymoon lust stage is over? After he gets your pussy by telling your basic ass what you want to hear, he’s gone because no man wants a woman whose only value is laughing at his jokes and sharing Spotify Playlists…

“I’m goofy and funny who wouldn’t want to be with me,” well let’s add them up because a lot of people have passed on you. Wonder why men ghost you or fall back into the arms of another woman after too much time with you? Because you’re giving dry, repressed, and vapid. You’re a parody of what you see online because you don’t know how to be yourself, only how to be what you think other people want to see from you, and that’s tragic!

Look at what you consume and how it consumes you. Going around thinking you’re a catch and someone fumbled you is easy. Actually looking in the mirror at how your personality turns people off is hard. Self-awareness will change your life overnight, but you’re not ready to go that deep.

Your worldview is the starting point of everything you will ever dare to manifest, negative and positive. Why the fuck do you think every great person that’s ever lived has preached the importance of meditation and isolation? You can’t stay plugged into the world of peasants and stay royalty. If you lay in the mud with the low people, you become one of them. It doesn’t matter how high your IQ is, what your job is, or what you‘re capable of. Brainwashing yourself to be low vibrational ends with the same results, you give away your power and become just another typical mediocre woman who talks about the same vapid shit, posts the same shallow captions, and spends way too much time in front of a screen seeking validation.

Inner work: This week, I want you to unplug from everything that isn’t mandatory. Meaning that if it’s not going to work or answering a message that’s work related, don’t engage. Once unplugged, meditate on who the fuck you are. Not what you want, not where you want to go, not the relationship you’re in, nor the relationship you want to be in. Just be. When the noise of the distractions goes silent, the overthinking will cease. The anxiety will slow to a crawl. There is no worry to be had when you’re in the now of just—breath in and breath out. Get to that place this week. That’s the first step.

Controlling Invasive Thoughts

Everyone has invasive thoughts. Those things your inner voice pops up with, that don’t mesh at all with who you are. This can be racist thoughts, sexist thoughts, suicidal thoughts, homicidal thoughts, and taboo shit that you would never say to even your best friends. This “dark place” is where your mind goes multiple times throughout the day. Unlike your normal running commentary about what to eat or why your mother hasn’t called you yet, these thoughts aren’t your normal internal dialogue, they’re random and scary. They’re so frightening that you even wonder, “Is this the real me? Is this who I am, some crazy stalker woman who wants to drown puppies?”

Shadow Self. Inner demon. Dark side. These are negative terms that make you feel guilty. Most of you are religious or grew up in the church and still have those “sin traumas” inside of you that hold you back from exploring the unplesant parts of your mind. The truth is, it’s not the devil inside you, nor is there some shadowy subconscious. These terms are just a fancy way of saying “unfiltered emotional thoughts”. Your logical self is a mask that you put on daily. It’s the avatar that you hold together as you play your part as a human living life. Your emotional side, the true subconscious, is pushed down and buried all day long while you pretend to be this “character”. The thoughts from your metaphorical dark side, or shadow self, is what happens when you don’t go inside and explore who you are.

Fuck that job. Fuck your family members. Everything is stupid. And I’m stupid too, for caring so much about a bunch of dumb shit. This is where your mind wants to go because all day long, you play this fake game of “I’m happy and having fun living this boring life!” Embrace that shit; you can’t control your subconscious, but when it bubbles to the surface, let it out. Don’t turn the thoughts off. Let that faucet of shit talking, hate, frustration, and violence run its course. Never tell yourself “Don’t think that,” or “That’s not nice,” or try to pray away what your mind is telling you. If it doesn’t get out, it builds to the point where that little voice inside your head gets taken over by that chaos. Sprialing happens when you can no longer seperate the intrusive from the rational thoughts.

Stop driving yourself crazy trying to break down and control wild thoughts, and recognize that your mind is a factory that produces too much fucking product, and some of that product is absolutely insane, but it’s still apart of you, so it has to find its way out before it clogs up the machine. The reason I bring this up is that when your normal mental thoughts begin to intersect with your invasive thoughts, that spiral can cause permanent truama, including a chain reaction that will trap you inside a dark place of depression, anxiety, or even self-harm.

TRIGGER EVENTS: When your invasive thoughts, aka your emotional shadow side, breakthrough, it’s because you experienced a triggering event. A guy rejected you. Friends didn’t include you. Someone at work passed you over. These things crack that mask you walk around with, and because you never let these thoughts out, they rush through and overwhelm you with negative things that can break you mentally:

“He didn’t call me back because I don’t look like my dating app picture. I’m fat and ugly, and worthless, and he’s disgusted by the thought of me, so I should just die and stop trying.” That’s an example of your inner voice being corrupted by the worst thing that pops into your mind. Because your thought is tied to a real-life incident, in this example, being ghosted or someone not responding to you romantically the way you wanted, you can’t simply brush those thoughts off; you give into them and begin to drown. The key is to strengthen your mind so that nothing in the future can trigger you at this level.

Inner work: Exercising gets tension out, and scream therapy can let anger out, but what lets invasive thoughts out? Honesty. The second step I want you to take this week is to have a conversation with yourself about everything and anything that pops into your head and be honest.

If your 3rd grade teacher randomly pops up, and your feelings are harsh, let it out because that’s your subconscious telling you that you have raw feelings towards them that you never got out, and even though they aren’t a part of your current life, it’s hurting you. If you randomly think about Beyonce, and consciously you’re like, “I love her,” but your thoughts are like, “fuck her, she’s not all that,” go with that contradiction.

There are thoughts about your family members, exes, even traumatizing events that you blacked out but need to face. “I just get in my moood, don’t know what’s bothering me…” Everything! You keep piling pain on top of pain and wonder why you push positive situations away and self sabotage happiness. A mind filled with chaos can’t rest. A mind harboring guilt or hatred can’t find peace. You’re not bipolar; you’re complex, and you need to let all sides out, not just the nice parts. Go inside, play word association, and let the thoughts, no matter how invasive, go to war. This is the first step in doing true Shadow Work.

Managing Your Manifestations

I don’t care if you believe in manifesting your reality or if you think it’s bullshit. The way your world works isn’t the point, creating a better world is. The fact that you can literally see cause and effect every single day is what I need you to focus on. You do something and something good happens, you do something and something bad happens. That’s not what’s going on beneath the surface. You’re either walking around miserable, repressed, and frustrated or you’re walking around confident and free. Bad situations or good situations still happen regardless of the mindset you have, but only one of those mindsets can see past the trees.

A person gets fired from their job, gets their engagement called off, and loses their Grandfather all in the same year. Is that a punishment for negative thoughts? That’s not how this game works. When your mind is properly attuned, you don’t give into the misery, you go inside and quiet your mind, you talk to yourself good and bad, and you get back out there with the mindset that you’re going to find a better job, fiancé, and make your Grandfather’s memory proud. Those who break, stop. Those who rise above, go beyond.

The Universe isn’t out to hurt you, it’s advancing you. It’s your mind that decides to trust in that or run from that. In your daily life, no matter what’s thrown at you, the only thing stopping you from manifesting a better experience is an overactive mind that panics. Panic leads to anxiety, anxiety leads to fear. Fear cripples you. Calm the fuck down. This statement needs to become your best friend.

There will always be thoughts that you can’t fully control, situations that upset you, and emotions that cause you to have a hissy fit. Why is this happening, fuck this, I hate life… You done? Calm the fuck down. Stop being a bratty little Basica and fully embrace the truth that I’m about to lay out.

You are divine. You are God herself. You are the embodiment of power. Why don’t you feel that? That’s a trick question, you do feel that when you actually quiet the noise and breathe in and out. You do feel that when something goes your way or when someone recognizes you. The real question is, why is there a disconnect?  You are living a human experience. Every day, you wake up in a world that is messy and chaotic but also funny and exciting, and you get caught up in the details of being human. You’re playing a game that feels real, but there is no Apple Pro headset to take off and stop it, so you confuse the game character with the controlling character.

You hate that your character is fat and can’t lose weight, so you go get surgery or hire a professional to help you. Okay. Nothing’s changed. You’re now picking on other stuff about your body. Why? Because changing the fucking character, AKA making Sonic the Hedgehog green and not blue, doesn’t change the fucking game! The surface doesn’t matter!

In order to stop the negative thoughts which, create the negative manifestations that reinforce more negative thoughts, you have to—Calm the fuck down.

Whenever you’re going through something and feel the human character overpowering your Goddess side, remind yourself that you are not this avatar, you are not that situation, and that the things that are happening, while uncomfortable and unwanted, are not defining. Meaning, that as a master manifestor, with the power to shape her world, all you need to do is pump the breaks, calm down, and be at peace with what the game is giving you in that moment, then make the conscious choice to no longer give into the fear, hate, or frustration.

Inner work: Instead of being mad, being afraid, and creating this world of “I’m fat, my boyfriend is going to one day leave me,” like that woman who wrote that email above. Calm the fuck down and play the game on God Mode. You are who you are for a reason, and positive things happen when you stop hating the game and start playing it the way you want to. Hiding out at home because you don’t want people to see you, being too shy to shoot your shot because you don’t want to be rejected, holding on to people who hurt you because you don’t think anyone else would want you… weak little women do that because they have convinced themselves that they’re low when, in reality, they are the most high.

Three steps… Calm The Fuck Down. Unplug the things that influence your thoughts and cause you to drift into a peasant state of low vibrations. While unplugged, let in those invasive thoughts until they no longer have power over you. Remind yourself that this is an experience. This is a world built for you to learn, grow, have fun, and thrive. Hold on to that knowledge of self, of power, and put it into practice by playing the game you called life with one last invasive thought always being chanted in your head: I Am A Fucking Spartan, and these people are my subjects. I fear nothing.

Setting the bar with the men who you allow in your world….

Stop pretending that you’re okay with doing everything on your own.

There’s no cookie for struggling in the name of being independent! There’s no red carpet for women who pour everything into a man and get nothing in return.

Shying away from your power because you hate to ask men for things, because you want to seem STRONG and put together, because you think a closed mouth will get you picked– is a JOKE.

There are women who get the world handed to them… and then there are women who Window Shop like, “Wow, how did she get him to do that?” Which one are you going to be?

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Relationship Mistakes

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

“Hey, G. Hopefully you can answer this on your podcast or write me back directly, either way is fine, but I desperately need guidance. About three months into our relationship, I paid $800 to make my boyfriend take a polygraph test. He had no problem with it and said, whatever it took because he wanted to make me feel safe. He passed the test. All was good.

A month later, he sent me a series of texts saying I’m jealous, paranoid, and that I have bipolar tendencies. Leaving out the things he’s done that have made me feel jealous and insecure.

My mother took up for him and said that I’m too old to still be running around treating people like they’re going to hurt me before they even hurt me. She literally told me I made this bed and that’s why I’m going to die alone. She’s a horrible person. G, I’m 32 years old, and my mother knew that shit would hurt my feelings, as my sister is 26 and married.

Can you please help out, because I feel that, yes, I have trust issues. Yes, I can get jealous but only when provoked, but I feel that a man who sees my value will work with me to heal these things, not attack me. Am I wrong?”

The person meant for you, can be missed. You can fuck up, and blow it by acting crazy, being too afraid to open up, or even by second-guessing their intentions to the point where you push them into the arms of someone else. I’m not going to sugarcoat the way the world works. If you’re mentally not ready for a relationship, no matter how compatible that other person is, it’s not going to work.

If I know my value as a man, and I meet a woman who is great during that initial lust stage, then we start to bring out the worst in each other for the next three months, it’s a dub. Why would I waste my time knowing that there are other women out there who are more compatible?

Life is about options. When you know what you bring to the table, then you know that ANYONE is replaceable; therefore, you don’t deal with crazy, you don’t deal with sneaky, and you don’t deal with stress. There isn’t ONE person, ONE soul mate, ONE destined love. This is your world, and you can manifest the love of your life at 20, manifest another one at 35, be a widow at 73, and meet yet another true love.

Your “person” is the one you end up buried next to, not the regret you had during your 20s.

Two people can be in love and not belong together. If you’ve lived and loved, you’ve learned this harsh truth. If you still buy into the Hollywood movie version of love where it conquers all, then brace yourself because you’re in for a rude awakening sooner or later. You can’t control how compatible a person remains or if they change over time, but you can ensure that you aren’t the catalyst that pushes someone away by taking self-inventory of the things you may be doing wrong.

Are you good at dating? Are you good at communicating? Are you truly a good girlfriend, or is it just hype and ego? “I know I have issues, but I’m loyal” doesn’t cut it. “I need to work on my attitude, but…” sounds like an excuse to point fingers. “Love me, flaws and all” is hypocritical. You can’t rage against toxic behavior in one breath, then turn around and demand that a person embraces all the insecurities you refuse to work on just because it sounds romantic.

This guy once told me how a girl texted him over sixty times while he was out playing basketball. He thought she was dying. When he finally called her back, she wanted to know why she heard a FEMALE’S VOICE in the background of an Instagram story. This woman was literally upset over hearing a child’s voice at a playground. She called her friends and wanted to go look for him. It proved to him that no matter how much fun she was at first, she had deeper issues that he couldn’t fix.

Men can’t fix you. Men can’t dignose you. Men can only react. That reaction is either to keep putting up with your shit, or call you out on it. Either way, the longer you go without seeking to heal your own hurt, the more likely it is that you will never find lasting love.

If all of your relationships keep falling apart, it’s not bad luck; it’s time to explore if you’re as amazing as you say or guilty of ignoring your own massive faults. You want to be loved, but when was the last time you asked yourself, “Do I make it hard for people to love me?”

You will meet quality men and you will meet men who don’t measure up. We focus so much on what to do in order to protect against trash ass men, but rarely talk about how to let down your guard and open up to the good men you come across. You say you know how to date, you want to be in a loving relationship, but you end up treating the good men worst than you treat the manipulators because you’re so used to being in a shell.

This is honesty hour, if you blindly date, ignorant to your problems or unwilling to fix them, you will fuck up a good thing. You will chase away guys who you’ve prayed for. You will dismiss someone who really likes you. You will act so basic or so jealous due to your past trauma that you push Mr. Right into the arms of another woman. I write a lot about the bullshit that a lot of males do. Today I’m going to address the other side.

Are You Crash Out Crazy?

There are far too many women who constantly ruin their chance at happiness because they date with a chip on their shoulder, rush into relationships with fresh wounds, and overthink everything a man does for fear he’s out to hurt her. Not every man has a toxic agenda, not every male action you don’t understand is meant to be scrutinized to the point of paranoia, and sometimes a misunderstanding is just that, not proof that you should fall back. You want to be in control so bad because you’re scared of being played or abandoned. That fear doesn’t protect you from users, the irony is that your closed off persona scares off decent men and pulls in the ones you’re running from.

Manipulative men love to chase defensive and damaged women because they see through the front as a want to be loved. The quality men you want aren’t going to put up with your energy because they can tell from the moment you start talking you have trust issues, you make assumptions, and you haven’t dealt with your baggage. They run the other way, not because they aren’t “man enough” but because you come off with the emotional maturity of a 19-year-old. A trait of being a mature minded male is knowing how to avoid those women who aren’t on the same page. It’s time to stop pointing the finger and open your mind to the possibility that you’re still alone or struggling in your relationship because you don’t know yourself enough to fix what’s broken.

Stop Overthinking Him

You’re not crazy, you’re not dramatic, you have a “gut feeling,” and you know something about this new guy doesn’t feel right, so the first moment he does something you don’t like, you fall back. Earth to Basica—your gut instincts are so poorly calibrated from years of hyper-paranoia that you’re ruining a good thing!

He doesn’t text you back as fast as he did before your last date—I’m going to block him! He’s having a busy week and doesn’t know if he can still see you as planned—This is why I don’t open my heart to boys! He liked a girl’s picture on IG, and you think she’s prettier than you are—See, all I attract are fuckboys! Calm your ass down and stop being so extra. All this big talk women do about working on self and having a positive mindset, yet the moment they start dating, all that work goes out the window, and they are back to having anxiety and anger issues.

Why are you so weak mentally? Why are you so ready to scream fire before you even smell smoke?

A man who is up to no good will show you, via real actions, that he’s up to no good. This website is filled with examples of how to figure out the real from the fake. What you’re doing isn’t vetting, it’s taking something small like a missed call, a weird text response, or something he did on social media and using it as an excuse to raise your guard back up and move on to the next man… only to do the same exact thing. You’re a coward who wants to swim in the ocean but sees something floating and runs back to the safety of the shore. You must stop living your life in neutral.

Everything in this world is a mental projection; your thoughts manifest your experiences, both positive and negative. The more you tell yourself, “he’s going to hurt me, men are all the same, why bother,” the more you attract situations that mirror those negative thoughts!

I have a friend who cut a guy off because he canceled their date so he could attend his friend’s birthday party. His story was that he forgot about the party when planning their date. Her reaction was “well fuck you then.” I know the real reason behind it was because she didn’t really want to be dating, she was still into another guy who didn’t want a relationship. This is the work you must do. Understand where this “quick to cut him off” attitude is really coming from. Is it because you aren’t into him anyway, is it that you’re too into him, or is it some other trauma you aren’t dealing with? To keep pushing men away because they don’t react the way you want is idiotic. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt at least once.

If you tell him you want to see a movie and he texts back, “It’s whatever,” don’t take that to mean he doesn’t care and shut down, have a conversation about where he’s coming from. If he says something came up, don’t take that to mean he’s off seeing another girl or would rather spend time with friends. If he’s not posting you or talking about you on social media, don’t take it to mean he’s hiding something. Get to know how a person moves before you rush to judgment.

You’re punishing a man based on a paragraph, not the entire page. If he flakes on you more than once, that’s proof that he’s full of shit. If he acts like going on dates is annoying to him more than once, that’s proof that he’s lazy. If he’s consistently doing anything that raises your yellow or red flag, then that’s proof that you should cut him off. When you act passive, block him, or start an argument based off ONE thing or come at his neck over something immature or basic like social media or who should text who first, you tell that man you’re far from the Game Changer he needs; you’re just a hurt little girl who still needs to work on her insecurities.

Trying To Turn A Boy Into A King

Women date down more than men. The average guy will put his dick in just about anything because their standards aren’t as high as they pretend when barbershop bragging. Women start with high standards in their heads from the time they’re in middle school. Height, money, overall looks, education, humor… a full sheet of qualifications. Reality hits, and more often than not, what she pictured herself with when she was a senior in high school isn’t what she ends up with by the time she’s 30.

My friend in Atlanta once told me, “I’m fucking so many chicks who would have never gave me ass in school.” His story is normal for many of you who are now in what I call “The Settling Stage.” What’s the most important thing to look for when choosing a life partner—ambition, success, finances. During the settling stage, some of you enter relationships with men who aren’t your type, then try to circle back and fix them into the kind of man you can brag about. You can’t make a 5 “9 man into 6 “3 but you can try to take a 40k a year man into a 100k a year man, or so you think…

Let’s say you dated a guy who didn’t make much money but had ambition and a potential to do more because you had those deep talks in his car before he tried to finger you. Fast forward a year he’s your boyfriend, and you live together. He still makes the same money, he still talks about the same ideas, but he hasn’t really made a move. You’re not a gold digger, you’re not shallow, you’re not looking to take from him, you just want a partner who can boss up and succeed. From there you set out to make him over like you’re Cher from Clueless. You push him to take a job you think he should have or go to his boss with an ultimatum like you would if in his position.

You get on him about sleeping in too late and not working on his side hustle or business plan. You comment on the things he buys, the number of times he eats out, or the money he splurges on his hobbies. You’re coming from a good place. You’re trying to be the Michelle to his Barack… but you forget one thing—this motherfucker ain’t Obama, he’s not even Ted Cruz. Your boyfriend has no hustle, no real ambition, and no matter what big shit he talks, he’s content with his mediocre existence. Argument after argument you get on him, and he comes after you, and then you make up, only to do this dance again the next time you realize you’re with a below average man.

Women invest in the potential of a man to a fault. This willingness to support him until he gets on his feet is a weakness most of you don’t deal with because you don’t see anything wrong with it until you find yourself feeling used and unappreciated. You agree to be the girlfriend of a man who has big dreams and even bigger debt. You make the excuse that your dating pool is filled with Struggle Dick and declare what’s yours is his because that’s what love is. His lack of ambition weighs on you over time, and in the end you realize that there was nothing you can do to fix his life, that there is no such things as King Building.

“I just want a good man who loves me,” okay, Basica, but you can’t BUY LOVE or mother a man into becoming a winner. Stop being so guilt-ridden that you take on these fix-a-dick projects. If you want a man who makes a certain amount, get that. If you want a man who has his life goals in order, get that. Believe in your ability to attract bigger and better.

Neglect

Good relationships don’t just happen, they take time and patience. No matter how much they want to be with you, and you want to be with them, there comes a time when you get used to a person and take them for granted. Love isn’t daily butterflies, once you’re deep into a relationship love becomes that silent engine that needs constant tune-ups. No one says this, there isn’t a check engine light for relationships, and over time effort and attention begins to fade. There’s no greater realization that it’s no longer working or worth working on than that lonely feeling of being neglected.

A lot of you are in the deep dating stage or are in relationships where you make the crucial mistake of neglecting your men. Men court women, many pamper, spoil, and shower attention especially in the early stage. As women, you can lose track that love, and affection is a two-way street. You tell him “I love you” and give him pussy when he goes for it, so you think he’s satisfied, but let’s not forget that men are still little boys at heart, they CRAVE love and attention. You’re on your phone and he’s on your phone more often then you’re in each other’s face have discussions. You’re binge watching TV, he’s playing video games. Why are you even together if you don’t actually spend time together?

You tell your timeline things quicker than you tell your man because you want social media attention. You tell your girlfriends your problem quicker than you tell your man because you know he’s going to see the situation differently than those who kiss your ass. No one teaches you how to be a good girlfriend during the “boring” times you have to learn on the job. Put the phone down, shut the laptop, take a day off work, and show him some attention, and stop thinking romance is a one way street.

How often are you having sex? Sex in relationships is a huge source of frustration that no one talks about. You go from all the lust and marathon sessions of the honeymoon stage to barely having sex or having the same kind of sex every time out. EVERY male that emails me brings up the lack of sex with his girlfriend or wife as a reason that he’s having doubts. One of my good friends told me how, for the first time in his life, he has a girlfriend who complements his sex game, who goes for sex without him trying, and who texts him freaky things first. Juxtapose that with his last girlfriend, who he had to initiate sex with, who called him “nasty” anytime he tried to sext, and who was as quiet as a mouse pissing on cotton in the bedroom.

He loved her, but the sex, even though it was consistent, didn’t make him feel appreciated. My advice to men is to light a fire, be more romantic, try something different in the bedroom, and I shit you not—most of them write back saying they have, but it doesn’t make the women switch it up going forward. She just goes back to being boring.

Maybe it’s your boyfriend, he’s not as attractive as he once was, maybe you have kids now, or maybe other relationship issues make you not want to give him the kind of nasty sex you used to have. Regardless, this is something you must be on top of and communicate sooner than later because a man who isn’t satisfied isn’t waiting for your reasoning, he’s going to be waiting for someone who can scratch his itch in ways you don’t.

The other form of neglect is spending time. You’re both boring, you both work, you get out when you can and eat in front of each other—wooo so fun. I push for men to be creative on dates, but the same applies to women. He’s your man, you can plan a bomb date, you can buy tickets to something fun, you can get off your phone and just talk, you can come up with a couple’s hobby.

To sit around and let your relationship crumble because you feel that a man should do all the work is a quick way to find yourself single, cheated on, or in an unhealthy relationship where you both secretly hate each other but pretend it’s all good. If your boyfriend or husband is acting differently it isn’t always because he’s out there looking for new pussy or trying to do something sneaky, it could be the realization that he’s in a thankless relationship. Men don’t stay in uncomfortable situations long, he will find a way out before he even talks about what’s bothering him. Stop ignoring and ask yourself how much energy you’re putting into your relationship.

Limited Value

You’re in the dating stage and you’re treating him like a boyfriend. You’re in the early parts of a relationship and you’re assuming everything he does is in response to you. Where’s your chill? Women have a nasty habit of moving too fast emotionally before anything’s been established. He’s telling you good morning every night. He’s fucking you like he’s trying to make his dick touch your spine. He’s inviting over to his place, telling friendsabout you, and the list goes on.

“GL, he’s treating me like I’m a Game Changer that means I am one.” Nah, he’s treating you like a man treats any woman he’s infatuated with during that first 1-3 months honeymoon phase. You’re not stupid, you’re just delusional.

Your place in a man’s life is as “girlfriend potential” or “just pussy” but you assume you’re “wifey” because you are overselling the role you play in his life. Pump your breaks. Take it slow. Stop dishing out pussy so fast. Stop assuming that you’re on his mind 24-7. Stop worrying about what happens next. Get to know him, earn a place in his world as he should earn one in yours, and grow into that role organically.

There are so many strong women who lay back and make men prove themselves through actions, and here you are crying and overthinking every thing he does because you’re desperate for love. Stop making the rest of the culture look bad by trying to force yourself on a guy who sees you as “just okay”.

One of One

Things Dick Whipped Women Don’t Want To Hear: Just let him go, you’ll find someone better. You know he’s just going to mess up again. He’s not even worth all of this stress.

Many of you are currently trying to hit reset with someone who keeps fucking you over. This is is the result of feeling that there is no other man that can compare to him. He looks good, has an amazing dick game, has things going for himself career wise, and in your city that’s hard to come by. He’s a One of One, so regardless of what’s causing the rift or drama in your relationship you hold on because the dating pool outside of him is trash. Guess what? He’s trash too! I’ve gotten so many “how do I win him back emails” where the man’s faults are so blatant, yet because that woman is convinced no other man in the city compares she plays herself time and time again. I don’t give a fuck what city you live in, how much money he has, or if his dick is dipped in Infinity Gems, the moment you show a man that’s he’s irreplaceable he will treat you like a groupie.

I know a famous athlete who ran through so many of these IG girls people gush over. None of those women were ever more than good time girls. Then he ended up settling with a school teacher who he randomly met. He told me, “I’ve never met a woman who made me chase her like she made me chase her.” The difference between being a Spartan and being a Typical ass Basica is that Spartans always challenge men like they’re replaceable, they aren’t trying to hold on or grading him on a curve.

You all don’t stand up to these men, because you need them way more then you think they need you. Sure, you curse him out when he hurts you or get in your feelings when he ignores you, but that’s teenager shit. How do you challenge him on a daily basis? What are you showing him that separates you from the pack? The moment you meet a man, no matter who he is, treat him like he’s as normal as the rest of them. Talk to him like he’s a guy at work, make him fit into your schedule, and if he does try to play games or becomes inconsistent check him like a grown ass woman. Men love powerful females. So stop worrying about “but what if I lose him” and Spartan the fuck up!

You Don’t Think You Deserve To Win

What happens when they find out about your past, your family, your relationships, the down years, the anxiety, the depression, and all the messy parts that you try hard to cover up during those first few months of dating? Will they run, will they play along just to be nice, will they treat you the way you’ve always been treatedl? The ultimate dating mistake is underselling who you are and what you can attract. The ultimate relationship mistake is believing that despite being showed love, you hold on to this idea that it’s too good to be true and self-sabotage.

Do you know what a healthy relationship feels like? No, but you know the struggle to the point where you enjoy it. People argue people disappoint, people leave, and you try to hold it together as they pop in and out of your life. That’s not the life you deserve nor is it the way things have to be. I get it, you don’t want to try, you don’t want to put yourself out there. You take what comes your way and try to be the best “friend” you can be to a man hoping he wants more.  Sometimes he just fucks you and ghosts, other times he hangs around and toys with your emotions. Neither is ideal, but at it’s better than feeling lonely and unwanted.

Every so often you may meet a man who is everything you hoped for, genuine, transparent, and a positive force. The problem with those men is that they don’t need you like the users needed you. They don’t ask for favors, they don’t run hot and cold, they’re chill as fuck, and that makes you even more nervous because you can’t figure out their agenda. You won’t admit this, but you like the arguments, you like breaking up to make up, you like the stalking, you like coming to their rescue, and you love forgiving men for treating you like shit because that’s what you know love to be—a series of lows and highs.

A man with no drama is too soft, too boring, too happy… and you’ve learned that happiness doesn’t last when it comes to you. Push him away, show him how crazy you are, how broken you’ve become, and save him from wasting his time so you don’t get swept up in some fairy tale that will only break your heart. You keep choosing the same types because they’re comfort food for your ratchet soul. You want the drama and the tears, you need the struggle and inconsistency, you’re numb to healthy emotions, and addicted to the painful chase of male validation.

Happiness begins with you. If you can’t love yourself enough to want the best out of life, then how can anyone else hope to fill that void? Maybe you don’t know where to start. Your mother let your father get away with murder, or maybe she’s still chasing after men to this day, and that’s the only blueprint you have in terms of a female role model. Your mom didn’t teach you there was more to life than male attention, but I’m telling you right now, you are more than an object! Look beyond the frustration, push past the negative thoughts and get to know who you Truly are. You have a Spartan Force inside you that will always guide you back to where you need to be if you dare to embrace it. Men aren’t the prize, you don’t have to strive to be likable, or put up with what’s given to you.

When you constantly put others first, all you teach them is that you come last. This is your world! The bar doesn’t exist until you set it. The past only weighs you down if you allow it. The fear that holds you back is make-believe. Be selfish, be greedy, be free, and know that all it takes to change your results is to change your mindset.

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Hinge Tactics – How To Get Better Results On Dating Apps

Far From BasYc by G.L. Lambert

Last month, I did two Zoom sessions with a girl whose Hinge profile was in shambles and whose social media was being used to stalk Kiara Sky deals instead of making a connection with quality men. She spent twenty minutes making excuses until I finally told her she was lying to me and lying to herself about why she was still single. Either your phone’s dry or it’s filled with bums, which means you don’t know how to get chosen, and you don’t know how to choose.

There was no sugarcoating with me. I’m not your therapist here to hold space and protect your feelings.  Don’t cry about “there’s no one out here” when you’re not making it easy for people to meet you. A fear of rejection manifests MORE rejection. "My city's boring, men are cheap, everyone knows everyone..." Are you done, Basica? It's time to stop complaining and start conquering!

Girl X: Good morning, G.L. Here’s the top four men on my roster, which include (insert athlete, musician, and two business owners)

Girl Z: Men today don’t date. They just keep it on the app or just want to text you to death.

Girl X isn’t magical; she moved with confidence and strategy while Girl Z was mentally defeated!

When I see positive results with my own eyes, I can’t have sympathy for single women who think simply having a dating profile or posting a selfie on IG should be enough to get taken to Nobu. Men are easy to seduce and simple to hypnotize, but how can you use anything I wrote in Ho Tactics or Date Like a Spartan if you’re not going hard and shying away from your power?

A lot of you are on these apps and don’t know how to come across as interesting. You don’t know how to lead with the right pictures. And even when you do message these men, you don’t know how to engage in a way that will make guys thirsty enough to set up a creative date.

The name of the game is to build a roster, not have a pen pal.

If someone can text you all day, then they can use those same fingers to put in a dinner reservation. Attention through a screen is lazy and cheap, so why are they still giving responses instead of blocking them? You’re a fucking Queen, not the homie! The energy should be “spoil me,” not “meme me.”  

Are you so bored and unwanted that you don’t recognize the “keep her on the phone” hustle? A man will bond with you using low-effort attention, and then finally ask to see you when he feels he’s done enough work that you’ll be an easy fuck. Beloved, you’ve been “talking” for two months, and the first date you go on will be over to his house to fuck him. That’s not a coincidence; that’s the tactics that modern men use.

Your “friend” knows you don’t have any options. You don’t go anywhere you can run into new men, you’re too shy to shoot your shot at the guys you like, and your dating profile is mediocre at best, which is why you only match with weirdos. This tells your friend that he doesn’t have to work hard to make you fall for him; he just has to stick around long enough for you to catch feelings.  A man doesn’t play with a trophy, but he plays with you because he’s labeled you as low-hanging fruit.

Waiting for someone to fall in your lap is childish and proves that you’re a passive character in your own story. You should know how to turn heads when you go outside, even if it’s only to CVS, and you should know how to come off as a fucking trophy, no matter if it’s messages on the screen or words in person!

It's time to stop coming off as awkward, weird, and flaky, and understand what men are looking for and how to showcase traits that instantly win them over! You should know how to use dating apps to get real dates, not spend weeks chatting back and forth about a bunch of bullshit.  If you don’t know how to do these things, then this is a must-listen show.

On today’s episode, I’m going to break down the top things I did last month to transform that girl’s pathic Hinge app into a winner and how she went from having zero dates to having multiple dates in just a few weeks.

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