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Manifesting Love

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On this podcast episode G.L. breaks down B. Simone’s love manifestation challenge and why it’s bullshit. A discussion on “date energy” and what makes a guy fall back after chasing you. Plus some wild reader email questions.

Also, advice for making a relationship last and what you can learn from Kim Kardashian‘s divorce. Press Play!

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On this episode G.L. breaks down B.Simone’s love challenge and much more… Listen to the full episode @ https://farfrombasyc.com/glpodcast

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Why Men Don’t Approach You – How To Attract More Options

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"A woman should never reach out to a man, that's masculine and it turns a man off or sets up a relationship where a man won't work for anything,"  says the Instagram Relationship Guru whose not married and has a history of toxic relationships. There are two kinds of people in this world, those who live in fear and create excuses to justify that fear and those that go against the status quo to create success. Which one would you rather be?

The real reason women don't want to shoot their shot has nothing to do with masculine versus feminine philosophy and everything to do with rejection. Tell the truth. You don't want to be told "nah" find out he has a girlfriend or get your DM ignored. You've spent too much time trying to instill confidence in yourself. To shoot your shot and miss will bring back those old thoughts of "maybe I'm not good enough." There is nothing wrong with that "wait for them to come to me" that mentality… if you're approachable… and if you live or network in an environment where quality men will approach you more than the clowns and liars.

In today's pandemic world, most of you aren't going out enough to get approached. You live on the internet, swimming in the same pool as beautiful and aggressive women. There are so many girls throwing attention that these boys have become spoiled. The average man talks to at least 3 women at a time and is trying to line up at least 1 or 2 more. Which means that the odds of your type, popular, handsome, paid, following you and sliding in your DMs out of the blue are extremely slim even if you're a 10 in the face. Therefore, if you're not a woman who reaches out first, what proactive action are you taking to make men want to get to know you? If a guy ran across you online or in the real world, what would draw him to you? "Just my vibe," yeah okay, Basica, that same vibe that's gotten you pulled by narcissists and ghosted by fuckboys. Your vibe isn't going to cut it!

How Basic Bitches Try To Pull Men

-Follow him on social media: Wow, you're so creative, sis! You think by following this man he's going to get a notification. Go to see who just followed him. See that you're pretty. Follow you back. Then message you trying to take you out... Ha! These men aren't noticing your ass! Men and Women treat social media very differently. Most women constantly check their follower count, studies who watches their stories, and are always on top of who is coming into their world. The only notifications most men have on our phones is sports scores because we could care less who is following us. The men that you want are most likely popular and busy, these aren't those thirst buckets who scan for new women and follow back every pretty face. So the odds of him noticing you just following him are slim to none unless you interact.

-Make 1.5 seconds of eye contact: You're in CVS, a guy walks into your aisle, you look up, then look back down. Normally you do that thing where you pretend to not even look, but because you actually stared long enough for him to register it, you think that's flirting... GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE. In the age of "don't harass us in public" cancel culture, do you think a man is going to see a half-glance as sexy or inviting? "Damn she looked up at me like I was trying to steal her cart, let me come back to this aisle later" A lot of you don't even know that the face you're making when thinking is the same face you make when taking a shit. You're not seducing him with your eyes, you're just looking at him as if he's bothering you! No man is going to see that weak ass eye contact, and then be so embolden that he taps you on the shoulder and asks your name. Maybe one of these older men who don't care, but guys 30 under, with that sensitive millennial ego, they are going to keep it pushing.

Enough of the dumb shit ladies. You're not being approached by the men you want because your vibration is that of a defensive, hesitant, little girl who is so afraid that a man won't like you back. This causes you to come off as awkward around attractive men 90% of the time. How are these other women building rosters when you can't get one quality man? It's not Chaos Magic, it's called confidence! While they take life by the balls, you're following rules laid out on some random ass "Women shouldn't make the first move" Facebook Group. Fuck that! You're going to be stuck settling for the same types of guys who always holler at you and complaining when it doesn't work out. Instead of waiting for Mr. Right to read your mind and come to you, it's time to take control of your destiny like a real fucking Spartan! Today I'm going to break down a few keys things every woman should do online and offline. First let's...

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Millionaire Mindset – Building Wealth The Spartan Way

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On today’s show G.L. is joined by OG Spartan and renowned wealth building expert Koereyelle DuBose (@Koereyelle) giving you insight on how to discover your purpose, build your business, shake off the doubters, and bet on yourself.

Listen as Koereyelle breaks down how her Werk University helped its clients make over 1.4 million dollars last year. It doesn’t matter how many followers you have or don’t have or who is telling you that your idea can’t work, with this mindset you can’t lose.

Plus G.L. and Koereyelle explore how to navigate love as a busy business woman and the crucial change that finally led her to Mr. Right. You don’t want to miss these gems. Press Play!

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How To Raise Your Vibration

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What is empowerment? It’s coming into power and living in that power. Where do you start? You acknowledge that what you’ve been doing is not working and admit that it’s time for real change. How many more months are you going to waste trying to make someone work who isn’t working? How many more years are you going to waste pretending that you know what you’re doing while watching the L’s pile up?

Fuck affirmations, fuck wishing, fuck waiting your turn! This passive attitude as if you’re going to luck your way into a better life by looking on the bright side and being a nicer person will never work. Spartan Up and stop being a scared of failing, Spartan Up and stop being a know it all with no results, Spartan Up and heal yourself so you can then empower yourself! I’m always asked “where do I start” so as a gift from me to you, here’s a free ebook of what has been called the foundation of Spartanhood. Don’t just enjoy it, use it…

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Worth it or Wasting Your Time – Quick Ways To Test Compatibility

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Show a man that you will stick with him through His worst behavior, and he will keep showing you his worst behavior. Struggle love doesn't lead to change. It leads to more struggle. This may seem like common sense, but when you’re a woman who is in love with a man’s potential, comfortable in his arms, and convinced that you can’t do better, it’s a hard truth to swallow. No matter if you’re in a relationship, still in the dating stage, or single looking to rebuild yourself, I want you to read this very carefully because what I’m about to drop on you isn’t about men. It’s about power.

Every relationship requires work. Making it through the dating stage requires compromise. Engagements and even marriage will reset the rules of what it takes to make love work. Yet, there’s this propaganda pushed by peasant ass men and Pick Me ass little girls that “real” love requires sacrificing and settling. Never that. You are a woman, the most powerful being ever. Life is created inside of you. Wars are fought in your name. Men trick entire paychecks trying to spread your legs. The greatest lie ever told is that a woman should settle for what she can get, that quality men are limited, and that the older she gets, the less luck will be on her side. Wipe your ass with luck because so long as you are breathing, you will be desired. As long as you are desired you can snatch the man and the lifestyle you want. So, what’s stopping you from getting the quality relationship deserve. Yes, I’m talking to you! What’s standing in your way? UNCERTAINTY.  

What’s stopping a long-term girlfriend from walking away? The thought of “what if I can’t find anyone and he goes on to get married, and I’m looking like an idiot.”

What’s stopping that girl that’s been ghosted from moving on? The thought of “what if it’s a misunderstanding and all I need to do is clear it up for him to come back and resume what we had.”

What has a wife willing to stay under the same roof as a man who no longer loves her? The thought of ‘who will want me after a divorce or want me and these children, I’ll be seen as damaged goods”.

The uncertainty of your future keeps you stuck in this basic mindset. As a result, your life centers around this idea that you need a man to be happy, financially secure, give you a purpose and provide the stability of love. Fuck that! You can go get a man that can fuck you better, who can spoil you better, and who can support you emotionally on a level you’ve never seen. How do you reach this level? It’s easy, and it starts with the compatibility test below. It’s time to Spartan up by knowing what effort is versus potential.

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Mastering Phone Sex + How To Set Boundaries When Dating

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There’s a lot to get to on this episode! Since the pandemic there’s been more facetiming and phone sex, and today we hear from a woman who is having trouble being sexual with the man she’s dating. Every woman knows what turns her on, but when it comes to sharing her fantasies or unlocking a man’s freak level, insecurity sets in. This fear of how nasty to come off or how to actually ease into it can make phone sex or even zoom sex awkward. Today we breakdown how to initiate phone sex like a savage.

Also a discussion on why Self-Help and positive thinking rarely stick while in an actual relationship, and G.L. hears from a woman who wants to know how to move forward after her boyfriend showed her signs that he doesn’t want to be with her. Plus can a Spartan be Submissive? Hear my take on these topics and more. Press Play!

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Exposing Mind Games – He’s Playing You And You Don’t Even Know It

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Here’s a portion of an email someone sent in to my podcast…

“I was with a man for 8 months, and after he didn’t get me anything for my birthday or see me my birthday weekend, I confronted him. Why did this clown text me that he had met someone new and didn’t want to ruin my week by breaking the news. I went to his house, cursed him out, but ended up having sex with him. For the past three weeks I’ve seen him twice to talk, but we ended up fucking each time. After reading your book, I now know it’s not about him or this new girlfriend. It’s about me. I’m sick to my stomach that a guy could date me for so long, not give me a title and commit to another woman under my nose. I’ve sunken so low G. My only flex is being able to fuck another girl’s so-called man, a man that told me in actions and in words that I was never good enough for him…”

Who’s to blame in that situation? A woman for allowing her time to be wasted for 8 months and then giving out slices of “please pick me” pussy…or do you blame the man that kept this woman in a placeholder position while he scouted for a better woman?

“She’s stupid for letting him do that to her” doesn’t take into account that so many women, young or old, college-educated or not, can be suckered in if a man’s game is tight. I can write all day about avoiding men like this, but 80% of you reading this won’t listen. You’ll think I’m exaggerating; you’ll think I’m not talking to a woman of your caliber, and that’s where you fuck up. This egotistical idea that no man would play mind games because you’re a trophy leaves your defenses down. Then, just like Ms. 8 Months A Basica, these guys humble the fuck out of you. Regardless, let’s turn away from women and focus on men who play these games and why.

THE MALE MIND FUCK

Let’s address male accountability. Too many of my brothers are still stuck in this loop of playing games with women’s emotions in an attempt to control, manipulate, and make them submit. Men aren’t trash, men aren’t evil, men are simply paranoid. “Get her before she gets me” is the name of the game because males are scared to death that a woman only wants to use him for attention or money, and as soon as he falls in love, she’s letting the next man slide into her mind and heart. I’ve sat in enough barbershops to hear that male advice is always, “don’t trust these bitches. They’ll always disappoint you.” The reaction to this warning is to become emotionally unavailable or to date multiple women, so you never rely on one. Thus, we have generations of men who date or enter relationships with a sneaky or selfish mindset. Male accountability is non-existent because men can always justify why they act the way they act and make themselves into the victim. There’s always something a woman did that drove him to hurt her feelings or make a mistake.  

Male Logic: I didn’t waste your time. I was testing how we vibed. You started doing some weirdo shit, so I cooled on you and found someone more on my level.

Male Logic: I wasn’t only with you for sex. I really thought we had something real until you started catching attitudes and pressuring me about titles, so I fell back.

Male Logic: Yeah, I fooled around with that other girl, but we weren’t in a good space at the time. You would be dumb to walk away from what we got going on over me fucking a bitch that doesn’t matter.

See how easy it is to deflect? Nothing a man does is 100% wrong if you look at it from his perspective. The irony is that most women get gaslit into buying into male logic. He’s speaking so passionately and with such confidence, it doesn’t sound like bullshit or game, so you internalize what he’s saying. Your insecurities expand because once again you’re being triggered by the idea that you aren’t good enough to make a man happy. If this happens multiple times, then it changes how you interact with men. Victims of gaslighting always rarely spot the hustle. As a result, boundaries don’t get set, red flags are ignored, you bite your tongue and shrink your personality because you want to be his peace. Ha! This results in being domesticated into a basic, submissive, pick me.

Basic Female Logic: Let me allow this man to move at his own pace, mansplain to me why I’m wrong, and he’s right, and hopefully if I remain submissive and nonproblematic, he’ll see me as wifey material.

Basic women secretly love when toxic men put them in their place, make them out to be crazy, fill their eyes with tears, ignore them for days, then come back to bust that pussy open like nothing ever happened. Basicas see that as a man being “masculine,” but what it highlights is a lack of self-respect and a severe need for male validation. All these ratchets online yelling about “I need a man to apply pressure,” but can’t even get a bouquet, let alone a Birkin. What these low-vibrational women say they want isn’t what they settle for, and this is why men win. The first two weeks of being nice and gassing her head is followed by dogging her out because males know that a woman who thinks she just needs to “act right” and he’ll go back to being Mr. Perfect, isn’t going to go anywhere. Feed these birds hope, and they’ll love you for life, is the motto. For those men who recognize that half the women he meets will act like this have zero incentive to change. He’s going to talk to you reckless, shop around for new women, and come back into your life whenever he feels because he understands that you’re weak. No matter what I teach you, if you can’t understand how to spot these kinds of Dick Tactics, it’s pointless.

“G.L. Ho Tactics isn’t working for me,” because you’re dealing with a man who already sees what you’re doing because you’re Ho Tactics are sloppy and see-through, Basica. “G.L. I can’t Spartan Up with this man,” because you’re dealing with a guy who recognizes that you’re only confident for a few days, and then you’re back to being a typical he can mindfuck. The point being is that certain women can’t run Ho game or Spartan Up because they aren’t emotionally strong enough to stand up against a “masculine” take charge kind of man that charms you, fucks you, and gaslights you into doing what he wants.

Think about the permanent damage done by dating a manipulator. If your ex used to put you in your place and you tell a guy you’re dating how you were in a toxic relationship, but then label the new guy as “not as exciting as my ex” then what does that say about you? What does that tell these men? He’s boring because he doesn’t grip you up, curse at you when you don’t answer the phone, or do any of the aggressive stuff you claimed not to like but secretly makes you wet. Understand that this “I need a man who can check me but respect me” mixed messaging is why so many men hide their true selves. Instead of being real they put on the mask of hard, tough, and abrasive, because that attitude is a proven turn on.

Mr. Nice Guy: I work a good job, am respectful, and know how to date a woman, but I can’t get any attention. Yet all I see online are girls that wouldn’t give me a shot crying about being used by bums. Maybe I need to do what the users are doing. At least they get play.

Contrary to popular belief, the Dickticians I’m describing aren’t the norm. The world isn’t split into Players and Simps. In the middle, there are shades of grey. What I’m seeing these days is that those men who aren’t having success don’t want to learn how to be less awkward or showcase their personalities to get the girl. They want power and revenge. Typical men look up to the players. They thrive to do what rappers rap about and have multiple bad bitches lined up, and none of them stepping out of line. So how do they go from the cornball who doesn’t get a text back to DaBaby? They emulate the men who have mastered the art of mindfucking women.

How To Play With A Woman’s Heart

A friend sent me this video called “How To Get Her To Fall In Love” which you can watch below. To sum it up, this guy is trying to help men who aren’t that good with women land a top-shelf Game Changer by using mindfuck techniques. “Who would listen to this guy? That’s disgusting and stupid,” you may ask if you’re a woman who watches the video, but those familiar with Red Pill material understand that this is where a lot of men get their game from.

Click Here to watch on YoutubeMake her respect you by showing her you don’t need her.Make her experience mixed feelings.Always be willing to walk away.

These are his top 3 for men, and all three are easy to do. For example, Wayne is dating Jen. He pursues her with all kinds of energy, but never does he make it feel like she’s the only woman on his roster. Wayne says little slick shit about other women who want him. Wayne makes comments about the kind of woman that he needs to truly win him over. All of this is done to create jealousy and fear in the mind of Jen. At the same time, Wayne keeps reeling her in with positive treatment. He’s showing her what life as his girl could look like. He keeps talking about a relationship with her as though it’s going to happen. This creates a roller coaster of emotions. Jen is thinking, “He treats me better than the rest, but he’s saying things that are red flags. He tells me how much he wants me but then goes missing with no excuse. He’ll ignore my texts, then pop up and tell me we’re going out. Am I overthinking?”

Jen is getting mindfucked. She loves Wayne’s unpredictable nature but also wants to break Wayne down, so he’s more attentive and consistent. Jen tries to play that “two can play that game” shit on Wayne. What does Wayne do? He doesn’t give a fuck. He doesn’t react in the way Jen wants and proves that he is willing to risk losing her to another man or willing to walk away if she keeps bringing drama or questioning his behavior. In the end, Wayne breaks Jen down into this submissive, weak bitch who will now get in where she fits in because Wayne has succeeded in running the Push & Pull game.

When men who don’t have game or who haven’t been schooled on psychology come across the above video or any Red Pill philosophy, it sounds empowering. No more chasing women! Get them on your dick! Put her in check! I see the outcome of this method. Right now, I have a woman in my inbox who fell for something like this, and she’s crying about “help me get him back, I think I pushed him away.” Silly, Basica, you didn’t push him away. IT WAS ORCHESTRATED TO MAKE YOU CRAZY.

Ladies, please realize that the lack of accountability, the petty arguments, the disappearing acts, and the false promises aren’t normal relationship hurdles. These struggles could be that the man you’re chasing is watching these videos on how to mindfuck you, reading Reddit for tips, or is naturally built to manipulate women because he covets power over you, not a partnership.

Fellas, Stop Playing These Games!

“G.L., tell men to stop being like this!” Respectfully, what the fuck will that accomplish? Instead of making demands let’s cut to the root of the problem for men, and I hope every lady reading this will share this with a guy they know so it can be effective…

Fellas, I recognize that it is difficult to find a woman who will judge and respect you for who you are versus what you bring to the table. If you’re paycheck to paycheck, trying to make it to that next level of whatever your ultimate goal is, you hate the fact that women are judging you for where you are in life. You hate that your type will show interest then leave you on read because you don’t match up to her City Girls fantasy. You know who you are character-wise. You know you can have great conversations, teach her things, be there to listen, and pipe the soul out of that pussy. However, you won’t get a chance to show this side because the women you meet act as if they’re too good or give mixed signals once you start dating.

On the other side, if you’re a man with money or status, it doesn’t get any easier. Women throw a lot more attention at you when they find out who you are, what you do, what you have, etc. This then creates the problem of “does she want me or see me as a come up.” As I wrote initially, when guys give each other advice, it revolves around not placing trust in women. Therefore, the moment a girl starts to ask for money or make relationship demands in an entitled way, you think, “See, this is why I don’t put my energy into these bitches. They’re all the same.” Sure, there are Pick Me chicks who will be with you just to say they have someone, but no secure man wants a bottom of the barrel woman with low self-esteem. The alternative has become play the field until one of these women earns your trust by proving not to be like the rest. Tell them what they want to hear, fallback when they get too close, and keep your emotions light. What kind of life is that, bro?

It’s time to grow up. Just because you’ve run into a handful of women that turned out to be fool’s gold doesn’t mean you give up and become this asshole that plays mind games to make them bow down and be submissive. Do you really want to be with a woman who you don’t respect? Making a woman fear you isn’t the same as having her fall in love with you? These guys on YouTube don’t mean any harm, they’re trying to teach a philosophy that got them easy pussy and kept them from being hurt…and that’s the problem.

Love requires a willingness to open yourself up to heartbreak. If you aren’t willing to risk your feelings for her, then why are you dating? Women want men who aren’t afraid to expose who they are, who love hard and communicate their fears and anxieties. By trying to hack life with Pimp Game, you are only attracting low-vibrational women, damaged little girls, and Placeholders who will never complete you. The same way women are sick and tired of Bumble and Hinge or disappointed when they start texting with a person only for it to dry up, I know men feel the same way. All these women with pretty avatars but aren’t saying anything. All these women who seem great at first then start to act flakey. I get it. The frustration for women is to give up, not date. The frustration for men is to just get pussy, no feeling attached. Neither solution works!

Instead of listening to how to lie and manipulate a woman into giving you a shot, be yourself. Not the “yourself” that doesn’t get his DMs responded to, but yourself who isn’t wearing a mask or trying too hard to stand out. Stop trying to be who you’re not. Have something funny to say when you message women. Be interesting when getting to know her and showcase your true personality. Stop trying to be cool and mysterious. Stop talking about what you got or who you know, or what you drive. Stop being overly sexual when you’re just getting to know these chicks. Calm down and be confident in your own skin; stop cosplaying like you’re 21 Savage, you don’t need a gimmick to pull women. Shoot your shot, come up with creative date offers that she can’t refuse, and most importantly, put it all on the line and drop your guard, so she knows you’re being sincere and not just looking to slide between her legs. Not every woman will want you, but we’re men; when has rejection ever stopped us from holding our head high and going after something better?

Never give up, never give in, because THE ONE is out there. I meet so many great women and men, but I’m not a matchmaker. I can’t put you all together. You have to do the work. There are so many eligible women who aren’t shallow or deceitful; the key to attracting them into your universe is to be real, not an asshole. “But they don’t want real, they want blah blah blah,” kill that noise! Let go of that negativity about who wants what and focus on putting the best version of yourself out there!

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How To Gain Power Over Men – Taking Control Of Your Romantic Life

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The podcast episode you’ve been waiting for! You want a man to see you as special but why do you come off as typical? You give these guys everything, you’re too nice, too easy, and you let them toy with you over and over again. Men, even the decent ones, will never play fair they will always test you during the dating stage, so what are you showcasing? Are you proving who you are as a Queen or exposing that you’re still broken, confused, and weak?

You want to hit reset and go back to before you gave away your power. Make these men beg, make these men appreciate you, make them value you instead of play games. I get it, but that step begins with destroying your basic bitch nature! What’s the point of gaining power if you’re just going to give it back to the next man who charms you? It’s time to Spartan Up.

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