Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 81

Lessons from St Kitts and Nevis

If small things have the power to disturb you, then who you think you are is exactly that: small. That will be your unconscious belief. Echart Tolle

This week I am in St Kitts and Nevis, a very pretty and laid back island that captured my heart. the assignment is different to St Lucia. Facilitating a workshop for a rural organisation. I love the variety and meeting new people.

Today while minding my business walking to the supermarket, I stopped to ask questions. The guy gave me directions and asked if I was heading to the beach after. Not likely I said, out of his bag hopped 2 monkeys, yes monkeys- real ones. They jumped on me, I wanted to scream so loudly. Of course he saw my discomfort and asked me to relax, and spoke to the monkeys as well.
They wanted to kiss me, I was not having it!
They crawled over me, had their fun whether I was tense or not, but as soon as I relaxed, they also relaxed, they just sat on my shoulder as if they were not even there.
The power of relaxation is immense!
Relax and see what flows!
I will be here for the rest of the week, not asking for directions and staying away from the monkeys!
Peace

Day 4 - Lessons from St Lucia

Anything is possible Ebonee Davis


Drove about an hour out to Vieux Fort to visit the Eco South Tours - a local community group aiming to bring about sustainable livelihoods using the natural resources within the area. So far they use th sea to produce sea moss, to provide kayaking tours. They have an apiary making high grade honey, they also have a camping site available.
The set up is pretty simple -pay a fee and get an authentic experiences from the rural community of St Lucia.
Standing there I am reminded of a few things:
1. Simplicity is not always the easiest option
2. All needs are met - we get exactly what we need when we need it, what happens is the wanting of more and being attached to a particular outcome
3. Use what you have - it is provided to you for a reason
4. Make friends and diverse ones - a support network is always useful
5. Keep plugging away!

Best of luck to the Eco South Tours on their commitment to improve their lives and their community and thank you for the opportunity to be a part of this movement
Peace

Day 3 - Lessons from St Lucia

You must know who you are first though. Otherwise you will be told how to move, think, .... and you’ll perform solely for outside praise. Dr Crystal Jones

The Conference was filled with people in business attire, dark suits, pump heels, jackets and A Line skirts. I turn up in a bright purple and yellow suit, lots of colour. A new thing for me - Confessions on the Journey.
One lady said - you are- pause - colourful. I go into default feeling self conscious for about a minute, then I talked to myself about it
Self - how do you feel?
I love this outfit
I feel wonderful
Carry on smartly then.

I listen to the other presenters and place myself in the moment, to remember that everyone has a space at this event.

Just do you. Go there and be you, do the best in the moment and have fun.

The room was packed, the audience kept saying that they were looking forward to what I had to say, I felt the pressure of it all. I asked for this so that meant that I have all the tools required.
When we are given a dream ,a purpose, a gift, The Universe provides everything that we need to make it a reality, to use it, to share it.
This I have learnt.

Knowing who I am helps me navigate the nerves, it supports me in making the decisions that provide for the gifts
Knowing who I am grounds me.
I had fun sharing my story with the bunch of suits
At the end the applause was loud, the room felt warm - the fuzzy type of warm and I was reminded again to know who I was when sharing these lessons
Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Follow Akosua onTwitter

Instagram
Facebook

Day 2 - Lessons from St Lucia

I feel a major reset coming - Ebonee Davis


I drove from the airport to the resort with Ian, the taxi driver. He seemed pleasant from jump, he was so proud of his island and talked about it with that same love and pride that made me smile. What a wonderful way to show up at one's job!

The traffic surprised me, I asked him about it, even that he was positive about as he mentioned that growth caused it but its all good
Seeing the daily lives of the people on the road, the hustle, the children walking from school, the after work traffic, I didn't even feel rushed,their bustle felt relaxed.We came off the main road and drove into the well manicured compound with large trees, cleaner sidewalks, newly paved roads, people in uniforms smiling and waving.
The compound is beautiful, an all inclusive resort is never one of my favourite places, it seems so sterile but that is my view, many people love the seclusion and ease of it all. So I am learning to be neutral about how I feel when I am in a situation that is not to my fancy.Neutral meaning to accept that it is different to what I like, what I would choose yet find the joy and happiness in the moment, be grateful for the opportunity to see a different perspective.
I speak today at 3pm, looking forward to sharing the lessons to such a diverse audienceGive thanksPeace
Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Luciahttps://www.crcaconference.com/
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Follow Akosua onTwitter

Instagram
Facebook

What is the Difference Between Value and Service?

You know a skill that’s underrated but super valuable? Storytelling . Ari



I'm en route to a speak at a Conference in St Lucia. I was asked today if I am being paid to speak at the Conference, I said no. That question was almost like a mirror to me reflecting what has been going through my mind over the past few days. Value and Service.
What is the difference between valuing oneself and providing a service to my community.
I would love to hear from you, let's share lessons and compare notes!

Peace

What Are You Saying?

In form, you are and will always be inferior to some, superior to others. In essence, you are neither inferior nor superior to anyone. True self-esteem and true humility arise out of that realization.




You will never experience the success, do the things you really want to do as long as you worry about it.
Chances are you are thinking in terms of what you do not have and cannot do. 
Your good cannot get to you if your mind is filled with lack.
You have no room for blessings if your words are laced with limitations.
You will not notice or be open to new experiences if you are stuck in old ones.
What you want may be totally new to you.
It may be beyond your highest expectation.
How can it get to you if you keep getting in the way?
It's time for you to move, realising the thing that you are seeking is also seeking you.
Peace

Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Luciahttps://www.crcaconference.com/
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Follow Akosua onTwitter

Instagram
Facebook

The small voice within is a guide

" Go out into the countryside and teach the Gospel", they said to him, "What will we say?" And his response to them was, "I'll tell you when you get there. " Book of ThomasThe small voice within is a guide, it tells us what to do and where to go, and it works particularly well when we ask, it works even better when we get still, when we pause. It's usually a small voice, sometimes a whisper, you will miss it if you are too "busy" if you are moving around too much, if you are drowning it out with excessive "noise". "Noise" can be judgement, drinking too much alcohol. working too much, toxic relationships, judgement and not taking responsibility for your actions, too much TV and Internet to keep you occupied. Noise can also be not being present and minding other people's business.To teach is to demonstrate, or the combination of demonstrating what you have paid attention to when the small voice speaks to you works miracles, it never leads you astray and many many times it seems illogical,but then, so is being too busy to handle your life and living your best life!Peace!!
Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Luciahttps://www.crcaconference.com/
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Follow Akosua onTwitter
Instagram
Facebook

Spend more time learning who you are

My advice: Spend more time learning who you are and what you want out of your intimate partnerships before jumping in and out of unfulfilling predicaments where your actions can hurt more people than you ever intended. Embrace honesty and be outspoken about what you need and what you refuse to settle for. If a monogamous relationship is what you seek, someone out there is willing and able to give you the things you want. Be patient. Don’t settle. And be true to yourself and honest with others. Feminista Jones



Friday night girls party, a few drinks, some comfort food and lots of talks and laughs, always a fun time. Until it gets serious, with these particular women. The serious bit usually leans towards why am I still single after getting divorced over 5 years ago. I usually smile and say right now the situation I am in is working for me
And if I am truly honest I really believe that it does. Its even so much more comfortable to just remain where I am at the present moment - single.
There are times when doubt sets in - am I doing something wrong, am I shutting myself off, am I setting the bar too high. These feelings and questions last for a few hours maybe a day or two and then they go.
Having being socially conditioned to the notion that women are complete only when either there are children or a partner, it becomes quite a challenge for those women who fall in neither of those categories.
What about happiness?
What about contentment?
Can we feel those feelings without following the norms of society of children and a partner?
I do believe so, I believe that everything is not for everybody, some have other paths to follow
As to answer the question - I am willing to be open to changes and spending more time learning who I am.
Peace

Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Luciahttps://www.crcaconference.com/
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Follow Akosua onTwitter
Instagram
Facebook

Dear November

Onward and upward. Growing and expanding . Deion Page



Dear NovemberWe meet again, I thank you now for coming around again for me to experience another one in this form. I thank you in advance for:
-safe journeys– courage – letting go of what is not serving my growth – fun – reminding me that mistakes make masters & they are part of the journey – to not beat up myself about them. For reminding me that these dreams that have been downloaded from Source are there to bring to fruition.
I'm ready!Let's do thisPeace

What Mask (s) Do I Wear?

What Mask(s) Do I wear? 
At home. . .  
At work. . .
In family relationships. . .
In intimate relationships. . .
In the world. . .
Iyanla Vanzant 
I was listening to one of my favourite truth tellers Iyanla Vanzant, she was talking about masks. What masks do we wear and why. I thought it was in interesting question.Wearing a mask says that I don't want my real face to be seen. My true self to be seen, I want to show the world something else.The question is whyWhy would I not want to show people who I amto protect myself?If I want to protect myself it must feel that I am not protected.Why else do I feel to wear a mask, to put up a walla wall that will not penetrate to hurt meAvoidance!There is in our minds benefits of wearing a mask. We feel it helps us.Having listened to Iyanla, self reflection says to me that looking at the masks I wear and why is important in the life that I am living.What am I scared of?What am I hiding?What are the benefits?All valid questionsShare your lessons if you willPeace 
Look out for me at the CRCA Conference in St Luciahttps://www.crcaconference.com/
Have you read any of Akosua's work?What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Follow Akosua onTwitter
Instagram
Facebook