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Resisting change is a waste of a heartbreak

Not every relationship is meant to be a forever kind of thing... and if you ever want to find happiness you have to learn to be okay with that - Rob Hill Sr.

Letting go is part of the Journey. Everyone will not be at the the finish line with you.
This is a serious lesson that I have learnt over the past year.
Some people come in at the right time and then when the lesson is learnt and the assignment is over, there is no amount of holding on that will keep that person in your life.
Wanting to hold on usually does more harm to us in the long run, we cannot sometimes understand why the relationship has changed, shifted or ended.
More times than not, the lesson has been learnt and the Journey with that person is now over
Yes, it is a hard pill to swallow
But when we accept and make room for the new thing, life gets so much more simple.
Be willing
Be open
Be faithful
that you will be guided
Resisting change is a waste of a heartbreak
Peace


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What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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Lessons on Abundance

My fears can't go where I'm headed - Ebonee Davis

The most powerful lesson learnt whilst travelling through Africa this year has been about abundance. In my mind previously, abundance is reflected by the amount of money, wealth, material possessions and powerful position one has. Travelling around the Continent shifted this perspective to believing with all my heart, that abundance shows up in so many other ways and is always around us.
The sunrise, the plants, the soil, the community all provide what we need. Nature has it all and is the most abundant system that I have ever experienced, it can sustain us if we allow it. I believe that we have it all at our disposal yet we feel we are lacking. 
We are always looking for something outside of nature, for more in a system rooted in exploitation, especially of nature. The system continues to bamboozle us into believing that we are lacking if we don't have certain material possessions.
Not enoughness will mash us up!
Peace

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What if we choose possibilities?

I've learned that letting go is not a rude thing or a personal thing—it's a spiritual and purposeful thing. It's about knowing and honoring that you're here to be the good caretaker of the garden within you, and of all the fruit you're here to bear. Lalah Delia

Letting go is hard for me. Letting go in this instance refers to moving on from things that are in my life that are done serving any good purpose. Letting go in this case means surrendering to the process, to that higher power which is all knowing and all seeing and sometimes illogical to us based on our experience.

Letting go is difficult because it is unknown territory. We cannot control it, there is no reference but past ones, which may be references that are based on fear, hurt and vulnerability. 
We default to the past, rather than leaving room for possibilities. We default to the negative.

What if we choose possibilities? 
What if we choose faith over fear?
What if we trust?

Catch that
Peace
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Ulterior motives are never a higher call to action

it's not your assignment or relationship when your motivation is coming from a self-centered, egoic state of mind. Ulterior motives are never a higher call to action . Lalah Delia

How do we know what is for us? jobs, relationships, people, situations
The simple answer is that we just know - when we decide that it is, we feel a  type of peace and in times of challenges we recognise that the challenges are really just part of the Journey, they are lessons, not a reason to give up and throw in the towel.
When we know who we are, we know know what is for us.
We listen to our intuition for guidance and pay attention to the signs as there may be other people showing up in our space with the relevant and required guidance that is essential as we navigate through the Journey
Both of this takes - doing the work.
Doing the work involves
1. Being still
2. Resting
3. Taking the time to find clarity
4. Listening to the still inner voice
5. Stopping the people pleasing.
6. Paying attention to the signs

Sounds simple, but we all know simple sometimes is not always easy.
There is really no escaping doing the work
Peace
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See Yourself!

today i hope you see what i see in you and more . Diamond Dorris


At this time of the year I usually reflect and review, I pull out old books and put questions together to gauge where I am in being my best self =, I wanted to share some of them with you and would love to hear some of yours

Questions to myself as I reflect: What lessons did the last year have to teach me? What kind of relationships nuture me? What makes me feel most alive? What do I believe about myself? How do I demonstrate that belief?

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Peace
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What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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My Letting Go List as I step into the new decade of 2020

the goodness in your life does not come to you from someone else. When you see this, you will be free. Neale Donald Walsh

My Letting Go List as I step into the new decade of 20201. The need to control the uncontrollable - focusing on my response
2. People who drain my energy - if I feel drained after being in your presence I am loving you from afar
3. Guilt for resting - I am no longer basing my worth on the amount of items in my calendar
4. Over use of social media - giving up checking my phone the moment that I wake up.
5. Poor eating habits - trust me, I an eat chocolate for breakfast, lunch and dinner  and justify that it is a fruit!
6. Codependency - depending on others for validation and happiness. I sometimes fall into the trap of waiting for others to make me feel good.
7. Taking what others do and say personally - sometimes people are doing their best based on what they know. Remember that.
8. Other people's business - simply put - minding my own business, staying in my lane.
9. Overspending - nuff said!
10. Lack and Limited Thinking - Abundance is everywhere, and it starts with thinking and believing so.
11. Passive Aggressive Communication and Behaviour - I do it to avoid conflict and tough communication
12. Freebies for work - sometimes I just have to charge a fee for stuff!
13. Fear of being disliked and looking stupid. 
14. Chastising my body, calling myself too fat, too thick, too much...

Feel free to share yoursPeace
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What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
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You are most powerful, most effective, when you are completely yourself.

You are most powerful, most effective, when you are completely yourself. Eckhart Tolle

Having to facilitate sessions with groups and organisations always pushes me out of my comfort zone, especially when the subject matter is either new to me or the participants are experts in the area.
For the past week I have had 4 sessions, blown out of my comfort zone.
Even with the tools and preparation, some self doubt set in. Would I make sense? How would they respond? Will they come back on the following days?
As I sat there contemplating and ruminating, I remembered the lesson of showing up, doing my best and being myself. This would be my strategy for the week.
Turns out, it worked for me.
What I did not know I said I did not, we worked it out
I felt more relaxed and I was able to be more at ease to do what I set out to do.
How many times do we want to impress at the expense of being themselves.
How many times do we follow someone else?
How many times do we silence ourselves due to fear?
How about just showing up?
As Yourself?
Peace


Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Stay in Your Lane

the breakthrough is on the other side of the resistance you’re experiencing. Serene


Having spent a week listening to everyone either complain how everyone else should listen to them should be doing something different, should communicate better, should be committed and should be doing everything else that  they are not doing, I conclude that we humans spend too much time focusing on what others are doing. We spend a lot of time focusing on what others are doing and if its not what we think then we get upset or offended. Then we moan about how they - other people are not doing or doing.
I learnt to mind my own business and focus on not taking things personally
Am I focusing on other people?
Am I snatching away my power?
Am I giving away my power?
Am I really in my business, or in someone else's business?

When we focus on ourselves we get the opportunity to regroup, re assess and refine
If we focus on others, chances are we give away the time and energy we require to learn the relevant lessons.
As they say, stay in your lane!
Today is my last day out in the islands, it's been a blast!
Give thanks
Peace

What Takes You To Your Space?

The Universe is living and in constant orbit, orchestrating miracles. We must be willing to soften and receive. Glow Maven

I had to catch the first ferry to Nevis. My plan was to run up the hill, watch the sun rise, come back down to walk on the beach and then get ready to head to town to catch the ferry. Needless to say, I woke up and it was really dark outside, I did not want to chance going on the hill alone in the dark, I waited around for some light, by the time the light came all was left to do was walk on the beach- which was magnificent even if cut short. I got to the ferry with 10 minutes to spare, bought the ticket and then could not find it, they told me I had to purchase another one! I sat there thinking, make a decision soon. I looked one more time , emptied my bags and there is was tucked away in a pocket.
I was the last one on the ferry.
As I got to Nevis, they picked me up, asked me where I was staying, when I told them, the look on their faces was priceless
I was afraid to ask
That place is.....and a list of reasons came out as to why I ought not to be staying there
I was getting annoyed - mainly because I felt totally out of control
We arrived at the guest house, yes it was really not up to par, I was even more annoyed as the bill was paid all up front with zero refunds

I quickly had to drop off my things and head to the workshops and meetings
I felt hot and bothered, I started getting a headache, something I hardly ever get
Then we started our drive to the sea moss plot and my mood shifted, the flowers on route, the blue waters, the waves crashing just brought me back to now, where it was a wonderful scene.
So yes, the place was bummy but I can choose to remember its 2 nights, make the most of it and learn the lessons
Nature just takes me back to the Now
What takes you to your Now Space?
Day 2 on Nevis Island - back to the nature!
Peace

Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Be respectful - we all have different opinions

Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on Eckhart Tolle

Last night I was facilitating a focus group. The aim being to learn the lessons from a project to introduce sea moss farming as a sustainable livelihood. At the end of the evening the main issue tabled was "Communication" I asked them what does "An Issue with Communication" mean.

It seemed like a tough question at the moment.

Communication - what is healthy communication?

healthycommunication means having the courage to say what you feel, and knowing how to take care of yourself around that feeling, regardless of how your the other person responds. This is much easier said than done, and it takes a lot of practice!
There was not a situation that people in the organisation were side talking, but not talking to each other as a team.There was also a situation where the way people communicated was either out of anger and frustration or in the way they wanted to and others were not versed in it- for example - using technology rather than face to face.
What I learnt from the interaction is:
1.  A safe space for communication and sharing of views help in supporting how views are exchanged
2. People want to be seen and heard and feel valued.
3. Everyone will not agree with you and that is okay
4. Knowing your why - your why motivates you
5. Be respectful - we all have different opinions
6. Focus forward
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?

What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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