Akosua Dardaine Edwards's Blog, page 75
February 27, 2020
Who are you keeping in the front row?
Sometimes, people have to be removed from your life, so you can see your own: beauty, strength, purpose, and power—more clearer
.Lalah Delia
I look around my life now and I see so many changes in the people that are now around me. Some by choice and some by force. In some instances I was holding on to people being in my life due to history, due to fear, due to ignorance, due to ego.
What I have learned is that as we change, as we evolve, as we rise, there will be others around us who will not move in the same direction nor the same pace. And that is A-OK. I now know that people are in our lives for a lifetime, a reason and a season. Once I can discern the difference, it makes the journey so much more pleasant. Gone is the need to hold on to relationships which have run its course, to force friendships, to feel ashamed if a relationship has ended, to pretend and to dishonour myself just in order to keep people around
Friendships and relationships are now based on honour of self, flow, knowing who I am and reciprocity. It takes a level of practice and discipline to get to this space - and maybe some tears.
But its all worth it!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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I look around my life now and I see so many changes in the people that are now around me. Some by choice and some by force. In some instances I was holding on to people being in my life due to history, due to fear, due to ignorance, due to ego.
What I have learned is that as we change, as we evolve, as we rise, there will be others around us who will not move in the same direction nor the same pace. And that is A-OK. I now know that people are in our lives for a lifetime, a reason and a season. Once I can discern the difference, it makes the journey so much more pleasant. Gone is the need to hold on to relationships which have run its course, to force friendships, to feel ashamed if a relationship has ended, to pretend and to dishonour myself just in order to keep people around
Friendships and relationships are now based on honour of self, flow, knowing who I am and reciprocity. It takes a level of practice and discipline to get to this space - and maybe some tears.
But its all worth it!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 27, 2020 11:20
February 26, 2020
Affirm what is good
Affirm what is good!
You have no idea what is possible from where you are!
MOVE! Take a step. If you can clearly see how to fulfill your dream, dream a bigger dream.
If that is the case that you can see it all and know it all, dream bigger, there is no room, there is no reason for the unexpected, for the miracles, for the people you haven’t met yet, for the faith, for the resources you don’t even know about or dream about, You will not know all this from where you are.
We get a sense that we are being called to do something that is bigger than we are and we cannot most times imagine how we are going to do it. That causes angst and hesitation but that is what happens when you are called to do something and you follow the calling.
Where you are going is not a place, not a specific location, not a geographical location, not a job. You are moving towards a state of awareness, a state of being which only gets revealed on the journey. The “what” you are to become is revealed on the journey.
Don’t get stuck on the “thing”, the relationship, the job, it’s what it represents. It’s the love, the abundance. Do you want more joy, more peace, do you want happiness?
What makes what you do great is not the big ole grand things before you, but the little things that you do with passion and commitment and mindfulness and the successive way that you show up every day. A lot of times we get afraid because we are pushed into something we don’t want. We resist it because we feel that we don’t want it. But one of two things can happen.
1. When you get there you realize it is a portal to something else2. It has your name all over it, something inside you says “yeah, this is where I'm supposed to be”
This is the journey
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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You have no idea what is possible from where you are!
MOVE! Take a step. If you can clearly see how to fulfill your dream, dream a bigger dream.
If that is the case that you can see it all and know it all, dream bigger, there is no room, there is no reason for the unexpected, for the miracles, for the people you haven’t met yet, for the faith, for the resources you don’t even know about or dream about, You will not know all this from where you are.
We get a sense that we are being called to do something that is bigger than we are and we cannot most times imagine how we are going to do it. That causes angst and hesitation but that is what happens when you are called to do something and you follow the calling.
Where you are going is not a place, not a specific location, not a geographical location, not a job. You are moving towards a state of awareness, a state of being which only gets revealed on the journey. The “what” you are to become is revealed on the journey.
Don’t get stuck on the “thing”, the relationship, the job, it’s what it represents. It’s the love, the abundance. Do you want more joy, more peace, do you want happiness?
What makes what you do great is not the big ole grand things before you, but the little things that you do with passion and commitment and mindfulness and the successive way that you show up every day. A lot of times we get afraid because we are pushed into something we don’t want. We resist it because we feel that we don’t want it. But one of two things can happen.
1. When you get there you realize it is a portal to something else2. It has your name all over it, something inside you says “yeah, this is where I'm supposed to be”
This is the journey
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 26, 2020 05:13
February 25, 2020
Is Self Doubt a Real Thing?
Self love is the foundation of everything. Without it we don't value ourselves and then we cannot truly value or love others. Self love generates self esteem, self care and self confidence all necessary to thrive in life. Alicia Rodriguez
Someone sent me a document with the caption - "this is perfect for you" It was a call for proposals on providing services for female empowement for the Government. I looked at it, I said thank you, it really did excite me reading the summary. I develed into the website for additional information and - confessions on the journey- I started to panic and doubt myself. It seemed like such a long story, so many requirements, so many things to put in place. I was ready to run as far away as possible.
I sent my friend a message that I would be bowing out.
After I press sent, I realised that the self-dount caught me. I was doubting whether I would make the grade and make the cut, doubting that I could excecute something that I have been familiar with for years.
The doubt fooled me!
How many times does doubt fool us?
How many times do we run away because we are unsure of our capabilities?
How many times we said no and justified it?
I decided right there that doubting myself is betraying myself and I am done with that
What ever happens I will learn something from the process and I will not let them doubts fool me!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Someone sent me a document with the caption - "this is perfect for you" It was a call for proposals on providing services for female empowement for the Government. I looked at it, I said thank you, it really did excite me reading the summary. I develed into the website for additional information and - confessions on the journey- I started to panic and doubt myself. It seemed like such a long story, so many requirements, so many things to put in place. I was ready to run as far away as possible.
I sent my friend a message that I would be bowing out.
After I press sent, I realised that the self-dount caught me. I was doubting whether I would make the grade and make the cut, doubting that I could excecute something that I have been familiar with for years.
The doubt fooled me!
How many times does doubt fool us?
How many times do we run away because we are unsure of our capabilities?
How many times we said no and justified it?
I decided right there that doubting myself is betraying myself and I am done with that
What ever happens I will learn something from the process and I will not let them doubts fool me!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 25, 2020 10:36
February 20, 2020
Carnival is Here
Spirits aren’t created to be controlled.
Carnival is here, our annual festival which involves copious amounts partying.and events and energy
The country comes almost to a standstill to celebrate and I am here for all of it!
I love the vibe, the energy, the innovation, the revelry that comes with our Carnival.
It is a time of very little sleep and lots of partying culminating in a large two day street parade with costumes, loud music trucks, drinkig and feting.
I will be taking it all in so you may see me on the blog in and out, I will be enjoying the festivities
It really is the only time of the year that I get to "free up" with my friends and family. The important stuff
They fly in from their various destinations to be here for it all
So
Happy Carnival to all
See you on the flip side
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Carnival is here, our annual festival which involves copious amounts partying.and events and energy
The country comes almost to a standstill to celebrate and I am here for all of it!
I love the vibe, the energy, the innovation, the revelry that comes with our Carnival.
It is a time of very little sleep and lots of partying culminating in a large two day street parade with costumes, loud music trucks, drinkig and feting.
I will be taking it all in so you may see me on the blog in and out, I will be enjoying the festivities
It really is the only time of the year that I get to "free up" with my friends and family. The important stuff
They fly in from their various destinations to be here for it all
So
Happy Carnival to all
See you on the flip side
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 20, 2020 08:57
February 18, 2020
Focus on your own wholeness
You are not for everyone. No, you're for yourself and for the people who love you. There is something much worse than being misunderstood or disliked: not understanding or liking yourself. Focus on your own wholeness—that's what "integrity" means—and let the rest go. Keep moving.
Maggie Smith
The past few days being around different people has been an eye opening. Eye opening for me is embracing diversity and accepting it. Seeing different ways of doing what I would do and what I have known and accepted growing up and being around my own tribe.
Acceptance is sometimes tough for me. Accepting that my way is not the right and only way throws up feelings of being wrong and sometimes feelings of guilt and of course others being wrong and strange. When I break it down, my response is really a choice. A choice to stay stuck in my own ways, rather than looking at new approaches.
So many of our issues stem from wanting others to do things in the way we know, wanting others to follow our rules and not opening our minds to a new way or a different way.
So much of our disagreements and judgement comes from non acceptance.
Acceptance does not always mean liking it, it means being able to see that there are other ways. And many of the times we may not agree with the way but just to keep an open mind and not feel threatened by the way that we have no clue about
Its about lessening our control, knowing that just because we don't control it, things are out of control.
When we are comfortable with ourselves, we give up the fight to be right all the time, we can accept that there are other ways. other methods, other types of approaches
Know who you are!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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The past few days being around different people has been an eye opening. Eye opening for me is embracing diversity and accepting it. Seeing different ways of doing what I would do and what I have known and accepted growing up and being around my own tribe.
Acceptance is sometimes tough for me. Accepting that my way is not the right and only way throws up feelings of being wrong and sometimes feelings of guilt and of course others being wrong and strange. When I break it down, my response is really a choice. A choice to stay stuck in my own ways, rather than looking at new approaches.
So many of our issues stem from wanting others to do things in the way we know, wanting others to follow our rules and not opening our minds to a new way or a different way.
So much of our disagreements and judgement comes from non acceptance.
Acceptance does not always mean liking it, it means being able to see that there are other ways. And many of the times we may not agree with the way but just to keep an open mind and not feel threatened by the way that we have no clue about
Its about lessening our control, knowing that just because we don't control it, things are out of control.
When we are comfortable with ourselves, we give up the fight to be right all the time, we can accept that there are other ways. other methods, other types of approaches
Know who you are!
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 18, 2020 07:54
February 15, 2020
Body Foundation
Your body is the vehicle that houses your mind, heart and spirit.The vessel that carries you through life. The body will reflect what's going on in us and our environment will reflect what is going on in the body
From the Ground Up
I love learning, I love the clarity that knowledge brings, I love it even more when I can implement the knowedge in my every day life and so I pay attention to keeping an open mind and learning from everything an everyone around me. There are times that the lessons are tough and there are times I resist the lessons due to fear, ego and judgement. These are the times when I know I must be paying more attention rather than running off.
I have been paying attention to the signs of my body and learning from it. This has been my focus over the last few days. Lessons from and of the Body.
Our bodies are amazing, the most amazing piece of machinery I have encountered, it runs with all different parts even when we don't take of it, abuse and neglect it. Our minds have the power to woth with our bodies to accomplish seemingly insurmountable tasks.
Our bodies even has the power to heal itself.
After a period of neglect, the body starts giving us clues, hints, signals and signs to pay attention, be present!
The niggling aches and pains
The headaches
The nudges
It means attend to me please, don't neglect me please
pay attention to your environment, to the people around you, your job, how home. The body stories and remembers everything and when it is not expelled in a healthy way, it is stored up in your body.
And when we don't pay attention we pay the price
Our Physical foundation has to be strong and has to be maintained to make our lives here as optimum as it can be
It takes awareness, discipline and self love to walk this path
Eating well, exercising, paying attention to our bodies, feeling all our feelings and really trusting that even when things are not 100% our bodies are still here housing us, loving us and sheilding us. What better way to say thank you than by honouring it through taking care of ourselves?
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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I love learning, I love the clarity that knowledge brings, I love it even more when I can implement the knowedge in my every day life and so I pay attention to keeping an open mind and learning from everything an everyone around me. There are times that the lessons are tough and there are times I resist the lessons due to fear, ego and judgement. These are the times when I know I must be paying more attention rather than running off.
I have been paying attention to the signs of my body and learning from it. This has been my focus over the last few days. Lessons from and of the Body.
Our bodies are amazing, the most amazing piece of machinery I have encountered, it runs with all different parts even when we don't take of it, abuse and neglect it. Our minds have the power to woth with our bodies to accomplish seemingly insurmountable tasks.
Our bodies even has the power to heal itself.
After a period of neglect, the body starts giving us clues, hints, signals and signs to pay attention, be present!
The niggling aches and pains
The headaches
The nudges
It means attend to me please, don't neglect me please
pay attention to your environment, to the people around you, your job, how home. The body stories and remembers everything and when it is not expelled in a healthy way, it is stored up in your body.
And when we don't pay attention we pay the price
Our Physical foundation has to be strong and has to be maintained to make our lives here as optimum as it can be
It takes awareness, discipline and self love to walk this path
Eating well, exercising, paying attention to our bodies, feeling all our feelings and really trusting that even when things are not 100% our bodies are still here housing us, loving us and sheilding us. What better way to say thank you than by honouring it through taking care of ourselves?
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 15, 2020 15:05
February 13, 2020
Stop and Smell the Breeze
Nature doesn’t waste anything. When you’re in tune with nature you learn how to use ALL of your experience both good & bad to make yourself stronger.
Ebonee Davis
Yesterday I had a meeting in a rural area in Trinidad and Tobago, my usual attitude is to rush, rush to the meeting, rush back, get to doing something. And so I started off with that usual habit, I rushed to the meeting, I let the Chair of the meeting know that I have exactly one hour and then I had to rush off. I started looking at the time when the hour was up.
I jumped into the car and started driving, looked out of the window and realised OMG, the ocean is on my right for the entire stretch of the drive. What am I rushing around for?
I stopped the car and walked down to the beach. On a Wednesday afternoon, the beach had quite a number of people, couples lying on the sand, families of tourists sunbathing, music blaring and men dancing.
People telling me hello, good afternoon.
Is this what I am missing when I am rushing around?
What am I rushing around doing?
Take time time sometimes to stop, to see what is around you rather than just rushing around.
The beach was fabulous, so glad that that I stopped and smelt the sea breeze.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Yesterday I had a meeting in a rural area in Trinidad and Tobago, my usual attitude is to rush, rush to the meeting, rush back, get to doing something. And so I started off with that usual habit, I rushed to the meeting, I let the Chair of the meeting know that I have exactly one hour and then I had to rush off. I started looking at the time when the hour was up.
I jumped into the car and started driving, looked out of the window and realised OMG, the ocean is on my right for the entire stretch of the drive. What am I rushing around for?
I stopped the car and walked down to the beach. On a Wednesday afternoon, the beach had quite a number of people, couples lying on the sand, families of tourists sunbathing, music blaring and men dancing.
People telling me hello, good afternoon.
Is this what I am missing when I am rushing around?
What am I rushing around doing?
Take time time sometimes to stop, to see what is around you rather than just rushing around.
The beach was fabulous, so glad that that I stopped and smelt the sea breeze.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 13, 2020 06:26
February 12, 2020
Behave Yourself
Rest assured, distractions will not work until you work through the feelings you are trying to avoid.
From the Ground Up
Why do we tolerate other people's bad behaviour?
Why do we allow others to challenge our boundaries?
Why do we find rationale and justification for other people's bad behaviour?
I found myself asking this question yesterday.
Letting others run amuk in our lives for the sake of peace, saving face, financial considerations is pure self disrespect, more so when we know they are doing it.
Many times we don't know, we think its normal behaviour especially of we grew up in it or it was taught to us by the school or the church or our families.
The usual indication of something not being right is our health
We get migranes, pains, asthma and other niggling injuries due to stress
Pain is a sure sign to pay attention
However, once we know its bad behaviour, we tolerate and let it pass, we reward it
We moan about it, we complain, we say what they should and should not be doing - yet we take no action
Sure nuff you are dishonoring yourself.
You are tolerating bad behaciour
Ask yourself why you believe that you must tolerate other people's bad behaviour?
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
Follow Akosua onTwitterInstagram
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Why do we tolerate other people's bad behaviour?
Why do we allow others to challenge our boundaries?
Why do we find rationale and justification for other people's bad behaviour?
I found myself asking this question yesterday.
Letting others run amuk in our lives for the sake of peace, saving face, financial considerations is pure self disrespect, more so when we know they are doing it.
Many times we don't know, we think its normal behaviour especially of we grew up in it or it was taught to us by the school or the church or our families.
The usual indication of something not being right is our health
We get migranes, pains, asthma and other niggling injuries due to stress
Pain is a sure sign to pay attention
However, once we know its bad behaviour, we tolerate and let it pass, we reward it
We moan about it, we complain, we say what they should and should not be doing - yet we take no action
Sure nuff you are dishonoring yourself.
You are tolerating bad behaciour
Ask yourself why you believe that you must tolerate other people's bad behaviour?
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 12, 2020 11:45
February 11, 2020
Contemplating Your Past Mistakes
Making mistakes is built into the foundation of being human because that is the way we learn. The only real mistake you can ever make is failing to learn from and correct the mistakes you have made. Whatever ugly, messy and awkward things you have done in the past should stay in the past. Life gives you and endless supply of “do-overs” and they are free! Use as many as required to move forward and self-correct in a powerful and loving manner that keep you moving in the direction you are headed.
Iyanla Vanzant
One lesson I learned on the journey is - mistakes makes masters. Part of the human experience include making choices and decisions that turn out differently than we want or anticipate. The growth is in how we respond to these detours
Do we beat up ourselves?
Do we hide behind them?
Do we find ways to justify not moving forward?
Do we withdraw?
What do we do?
Do we learn?
Do we learn?
Do we act?
Do we act?
Do we grow?
Many times we don't have the tools to respond. This is where doing the work comes in, we have to do the work. We have to get the tools.
There is no free pass!
If we miss the work, we miss the lesson, we miss the growth
The work is - feeling the feelings, accepting responsibility for the part we played in the situation and making new choices when faced with a similar situation.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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One lesson I learned on the journey is - mistakes makes masters. Part of the human experience include making choices and decisions that turn out differently than we want or anticipate. The growth is in how we respond to these detours
Do we beat up ourselves?
Do we hide behind them?
Do we find ways to justify not moving forward?
Do we withdraw?
What do we do?
Do we learn?
Do we learn?
Do we act?
Do we act?
Do we grow?
Many times we don't have the tools to respond. This is where doing the work comes in, we have to do the work. We have to get the tools.
There is no free pass!
If we miss the work, we miss the lesson, we miss the growth
The work is - feeling the feelings, accepting responsibility for the part we played in the situation and making new choices when faced with a similar situation.
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 11, 2020 08:01
February 10, 2020
Break the Cycle of Reactivity
It is often the responsibility of the more conscious person to break the cycle of reactivity. How can we see where others are on their path, related to lessons we have already been through and not go into preaching, diagnosing, advice giving, fixing, judging and moral superiority Maryam Hasnaa
This weekend I made a conscious effort to feel all of my feelings.
Confessions on the journey- Anger frightens me, I think it comes from the feeling of losing all level and manner of control. I let it all loose when I am angry, and I have seen angry people around me who made some pretty poor decisions and paying the consequences for those poor choices.
Anger I have learnt is when someone disappoints you or fails to meet your expectations, anger is the most common response. It is also the emotion that rises to the surface when you feel hurt or, when you are being held responsible for something you did not do.
Learning this, I now know that sometimes the feeling that I am feeling is not anger.It may be disappointment, disgust, helplessness or any other manner of them.
I have also learnt not to judge or feel guilty when I am angry, anger is a valid feeling, a guide to something or somewhere.
So, in feeling the feelings this weekend, when I found myself reacting, being resistant and steupsing (a common way we on this island expresses our disgust) I stopped and asked "self- what am I feeling?" I invite the feeling in rather than run from it and in that pause, I realised a couple of things
1. I did not have to react right away when the feeling surfaces.
2. In that pause, inviting the feeling in gave me time to balance myself, balance the way I feel.
3. Awareness of the feeling before labeling it, I realised that it sometimes is not what I labeled it as
4. Stop judging myself and others
More often than not we fail miserably in our attempts to move through what feels uncomfortable or difficult.we are taught to ignore, deny or avoid what we feel, particularly if our expression of the feelings makes others uncomfortable.
Balance is essential
I was so mad with someone close to me on Sunday, I was feeling to cuss. I practiced the lessons and paused, took the time and chose to not cuss, breathe and feel those feelings
Needless to say we are good to go
The stuff works!
Give it a go, let's compare notes
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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This weekend I made a conscious effort to feel all of my feelings.
Confessions on the journey- Anger frightens me, I think it comes from the feeling of losing all level and manner of control. I let it all loose when I am angry, and I have seen angry people around me who made some pretty poor decisions and paying the consequences for those poor choices.
Anger I have learnt is when someone disappoints you or fails to meet your expectations, anger is the most common response. It is also the emotion that rises to the surface when you feel hurt or, when you are being held responsible for something you did not do.
Learning this, I now know that sometimes the feeling that I am feeling is not anger.It may be disappointment, disgust, helplessness or any other manner of them.
I have also learnt not to judge or feel guilty when I am angry, anger is a valid feeling, a guide to something or somewhere.
So, in feeling the feelings this weekend, when I found myself reacting, being resistant and steupsing (a common way we on this island expresses our disgust) I stopped and asked "self- what am I feeling?" I invite the feeling in rather than run from it and in that pause, I realised a couple of things
1. I did not have to react right away when the feeling surfaces.
2. In that pause, inviting the feeling in gave me time to balance myself, balance the way I feel.
3. Awareness of the feeling before labeling it, I realised that it sometimes is not what I labeled it as
4. Stop judging myself and others
More often than not we fail miserably in our attempts to move through what feels uncomfortable or difficult.we are taught to ignore, deny or avoid what we feel, particularly if our expression of the feelings makes others uncomfortable.
Balance is essential
I was so mad with someone close to me on Sunday, I was feeling to cuss. I practiced the lessons and paused, took the time and chose to not cuss, breathe and feel those feelings
Needless to say we are good to go
The stuff works!
Give it a go, let's compare notes
Peace
Have you read any of Akosua's work?
What Did I Learn Today? Lessons on the Journey to Unconditional Self Love
Nyabo (Madam) - Why Are You Here?Daily Lessons on the Journey - A Journal
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Published on February 10, 2020 07:57